Mom Goes Viral With Nearly 400K Likes For Explaining Why Some Kids Don t Listen Until You Yell At Them
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Kids can definitely push the boundaries by misbehaving and just ignoring their parent as they are being told off. For some miraculous reason, their attention is impossible to get until parents eventually lose it and bring in the top gun-yelling. But this parenting coach is saying that there is no need to yell and that there is another way to get them to comply. Tia Slighthman, who goes under the name of @parentingcoach on TikTok, shared a video that exploded with views, comments, and likes. And not only does she explain why kids tend not to listen, she explains how can you change that and save your precious nerves. Bored Panda reached out to Tia to talk about her advice and methodology. More info: TikTok Instagram Tia Slightham
If not writing articles for Bored Panda readers she can be found listening to jazz in Ethiopia, sipping flat whites in Australia or trekking Guatemalan jungles. Her likes include films by Wes Anderson, pseudoscientific practices and being obsessed with everything Mexico and Central America.
Her friends mainly describe her as inquisitive, adventurous, and caring. Read more » Lukas Garnelis Follow Unfollow Lukas Garnelis Author, Community member Lukas is a photo editor at Bored Panda. 4th year in Vilnius Gediminas Technical University as a graphic designer. Can do whatever he sets his mind to. Read more » Show All Contributors Get the latest inspiring stories via our awesome iOS app! Download Bored Panda app! 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That simple. Don't say 'clean your room or you can't have timmy over this afternoon' and the still let them have timmy over this afternoon even though they didn't clean their room despite the fact that you reminded them three times. 19 19points reply Load More Replies... Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Maybe start with the assumption that doing what you’re told is a given and not put the idea of not complying into their heads by assuming they will need a punishment because they might not do as they’re told. Just imagine your boss giving you a task and telling you straight away: no extended coffee breaks if you’re not getting it done, Mabel! 3 3points reply ????? ????? Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment has been deleted. 2 2points reply I want cake I want cake Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It was just an example, I agree that the consequence needs to be related and proportional to (non-)compliance with the task and it's better to frame it positively than negatively. 1 1point reply Frank Ropen Frank Ropen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Doesn't work that simple. So he can't see Timmy, but the room is still a mess. 1 1point reply Stille20 Stille20 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It depends on the kid. but yea, some are more defiant 1 1point reply Linouchka 99 Linouchka 99 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Thank you so much for asking, I was wondering too ! Especially with my two-years old who does NOTHING that I ask him for : no "come here", no "give me that", no "show me what's in your hand", no "put that down"... It's really frustrating, feels like I'm raising a cat !! He really looks me straight in the eyes, smiles, and a little bubble appears over his head reading "Dream on, Mom!" ... :'-( 5 5points reply LuckyL LuckyL Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'm already frustrated with my one year old doing that. Especially when I'm sitting on the toilet and can't stop her pulling on the towel rack. Stares me straight in the eyes and laughs. I've put her outside the room and closed the door to wash my hands and she immediately starts crying (just the minute for washing and drying hands). But I just really don't know how to set a boundary with a one year old. 1 1point reply Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Tell her to play with something else. Take her out of the bathroom and put her in the playpen. If she starts crying, you can call out to her what you’re doing until you come back to pick her up. Be relaxed about it. You don’t need to set a boundary, you need to handle the situation in a way you can avoid her having a go at the towels. And if a relaxed mum comes back from the loo and is all ready to reassure her baby that all’s well, baby won’t cry long. 4 4points reply Hans Hans Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Parenting is love, reliability, and consistency. As easy as this. And as hard as the third point, as, in all honesty, we adults have a hard time being consistent despite mood swings, lack of sleep, external pressure, and self-doubt. 16 16points reply Rissie Rissie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago People are just human sometimes. 4 4points reply Load More Replies... Linouchka 99 Linouchka 99 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You mean "simple". Not "easy" ;-) 0 0points reply Carol Emory Carol Emory Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Also, as someone who was yelled at constantly by her mother, you tune it out after a while. If all a child hears is yelling, then they will get used to it the same as people that live near airports eventually are able to sleep even though planes fly low over the house. On the other hand, if you use yelling rarely, when you do raise a voice, your kids are more likely to snap to because they know they are in deep deep trouble. My father never spanked me but once in my life, never cussed at me but once. Both times, I knew I'd messed up big time. 14 14points reply v v Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Uh-oh. You said spanked. Now the internet is going to come crashing down on you because everyone knows spanking a child leads to said child becoming an unproductive, abusive, drain on society. -1 -1point reply Load More Replies... Carol Emory Carol Emory Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Eh..it was the 80's. they can get over it. I did. 1 1point reply Load More Comments POST Stille20 Stille20 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago So it makes sense that kids wait until you yell to do it... but I really don't understand what she is suggesting is the alternative. 19 19points reply I want cake I want cake Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Say 'no' or ask them to do something, make it clear what happens if they don't comply, and then, if they don't comply, enforce the consequence you previously announced. That simple. Don't say 'clean your room or you can't have timmy over this afternoon' and the still let them have timmy over this afternoon even though they didn't clean their room despite the fact that you reminded them three times. 19 19points reply Load More Replies... Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Maybe start with the assumption that doing what you’re told is a given and not put the idea of not complying into their heads by assuming they will need a punishment because they might not do as they’re told. Just imagine your boss giving you a task and telling you straight away: no extended coffee breaks if you’re not getting it done, Mabel! 3 3points reply ????? ????? Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment has been deleted. 2 2points reply I want cake I want cake Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It was just an example, I agree that the consequence needs to be related and proportional to (non-)compliance with the task and it's better to frame it positively than negatively. 1 1point reply Frank Ropen Frank Ropen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Doesn't work that simple. So he can't see Timmy, but the room is still a mess. 1 1point reply Stille20 Stille20 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It depends on the kid. but yea, some are more defiant 1 1point reply Linouchka 99 Linouchka 99 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Thank you so much for asking, I was wondering too ! Especially with my two-years old who does NOTHING that I ask him for : no "come here", no "give me that", no "show me what's in your hand", no "put that down"... It's really frustrating, feels like I'm raising a cat !! He really looks me straight in the eyes, smiles, and a little bubble appears over his head reading "Dream on, Mom!" ... :'-( 5 5points reply LuckyL LuckyL Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'm already frustrated with my one year old doing that. Especially when I'm sitting on the toilet and can't stop her pulling on the towel rack. Stares me straight in the eyes and laughs. I've put her outside the room and closed the door to wash my hands and she immediately starts crying (just the minute for washing and drying hands). But I just really don't know how to set a boundary with a one year old. 1 1point reply Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Tell her to play with something else. Take her out of the bathroom and put her in the playpen. If she starts crying, you can call out to her what you’re doing until you come back to pick her up. Be relaxed about it. You don’t need to set a boundary, you need to handle the situation in a way you can avoid her having a go at the towels. And if a relaxed mum comes back from the loo and is all ready to reassure her baby that all’s well, baby won’t cry long. 4 4points reply Hans Hans Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Parenting is love, reliability, and consistency. As easy as this. And as hard as the third point, as, in all honesty, we adults have a hard time being consistent despite mood swings, lack of sleep, external pressure, and self-doubt. 16 16points reply Rissie Rissie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago People are just human sometimes. 4 4points reply Load More Replies... Linouchka 99 Linouchka 99 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You mean "simple". Not "easy" ;-) 0 0points reply Carol Emory Carol Emory Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Also, as someone who was yelled at constantly by her mother, you tune it out after a while. If all a child hears is yelling, then they will get used to it the same as people that live near airports eventually are able to sleep even though planes fly low over the house. On the other hand, if you use yelling rarely, when you do raise a voice, your kids are more likely to snap to because they know they are in deep deep trouble. My father never spanked me but once in my life, never cussed at me but once. Both times, I knew I'd messed up big time. 14 14points reply v v Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Uh-oh. You said spanked. Now the internet is going to come crashing down on you because everyone knows spanking a child leads to said child becoming an unproductive, abusive, drain on society. -1 -1point reply Load More Replies... Carol Emory Carol Emory Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Eh..it was the 80's. they can get over it. I did. 1 1point reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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Mom Goes Viral With Nearly 400K Likes For Explaining Why Some Kids Don t Listen Until You Yell At Them Interview With Author
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Kids can definitely push the boundaries by misbehaving and just ignoring their parent as they are being told off. For some miraculous reason, their attention is impossible to get until parents eventually lose it and bring in the top gun-yelling. But this parenting coach is saying that there is no need to yell and that there is another way to get them to comply. Tia Slighthman, who goes under the name of @parentingcoach on TikTok, shared a video that exploded with views, comments, and likes. And not only does she explain why kids tend not to listen, she explains how can you change that and save your precious nerves. Bored Panda reached out to Tia to talk about her advice and methodology. More info: TikTok Instagram Tia Slightham
Tia a parenting coach and a mother of two asked a question that perhaps not many parents have considered before
Image credits: parentingcoach Tia, who is a parenting coach, teacher, best-selling author, and avid health food lover, decided to share why children only listen when they are being yelled at. The mother of two boys revealed that the way of getting your child to comply is learning how to set "concrete, clear, and consistent boundaries." The mom in the video that already got over five million views asked "Do you want to know why your kids don't listen until you yell and lose your sh*t?" and her answer could be shocking for some: apparently parents are the ones setting that boundary themselves. Tia is practicing what she preaches. "I've been working with kids and families for over 16 years. I've used my system and easier parenting formula in my classroom of students, with my own kids, and thousands of parents (clients) around the world."Turns out that no one else is behind setting the yelling boundary but parents themselves
Image credits: parentingcoach Her advice is to start practicing a strategy that doesn't involve yelling. Tia says that kids are born with the need to push boundaries until those boundaries are actually found. It is common for some parents to ask nicely, then give reminders, then carry on nagging, which eventually leads to losing their temper and shouting. The kids learn that there is no need to listen the first time or even when the parent asks multiple times. The point that they have learned is that the boundary is set at the point when the parent starts to yell. "They listen when a boundary is set and that boundary is set when you yell." Image credits: parentingcoachKids learn which boundary is the final line therefore the first times being asked get ignored
Image credits: parentingcoach Tia claims that the only way to break this cycle that gradually leads from saying things nicely to yelling is by learning how to set concrete, clear, and consistent boundaries that make the kids do what the parent needs without yelling. Tia has a masters in early childhood education and is certified in positive discipline. She also created a 12-week online coaching program, The Parenting With Purpose Method. "It is my methodology which guides parents to create battle-free days with their kids. No yelling, anger, punishment or guilt! Finally having kids who listen, cooperate, and act respectfully in a non-combative way!" She also noted that "The Parenting With Purpose Method will work for all parents but we can't implement just one piece of the puzzle-we must consider all the pieces to reach your goals." Image credits: parentingcoachTia advises parents to learn how to set or re-set the existing boundaries
Image credits: parentingcoach Tia emphasizes that "shifting your parenting to shift your child's behavior" is the key to change the dynamics of how kids behave. On her website, she admits that some of her parenting coaching clients feel tired and hopeless, but reminds readers that "setting boundaries is not intuitive, loving your kids is." But things are not as bad as they seemed to be, as setting boundaries is actually a learned skill, so once the parent takes the step in learning how to set clear limits, it turns out to be much easier from there. Image credits: parentingcoach "Parents who want to make changes need a clear and proven action plan, along with support and accountability. This is what The Parenting With Purpose Method and my coaching will do for you! Change happens when you're ready to make the changes!" Many of the parents overloaded the comment section, thanking Tia for sharing her advice. Some have already been using the tip of setting boundaries and have given it to others. Some users even admit to being former yellers who were saved by the limit-setting parenting advice.Here is the video that exploded with millions of views likes and comments
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Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! 71Kviews Share on Facebook Irmante Sungailaite Follow Unfollow Irmante Sungailaite Author, Community member After graduating Media and Photography in the United Kingdom, Irmante got drawn into the captivating world of travelling and spent most of the years on the road discovering cultures, learning languages and meeting the most fascinating people.If not writing articles for Bored Panda readers she can be found listening to jazz in Ethiopia, sipping flat whites in Australia or trekking Guatemalan jungles. Her likes include films by Wes Anderson, pseudoscientific practices and being obsessed with everything Mexico and Central America.
Her friends mainly describe her as inquisitive, adventurous, and caring. Read more » Lukas Garnelis Follow Unfollow Lukas Garnelis Author, Community member Lukas is a photo editor at Bored Panda. 4th year in Vilnius Gediminas Technical University as a graphic designer. Can do whatever he sets his mind to. Read more » Show All Contributors Get the latest inspiring stories via our awesome iOS app! Download Bored Panda app! 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That simple. Don't say 'clean your room or you can't have timmy over this afternoon' and the still let them have timmy over this afternoon even though they didn't clean their room despite the fact that you reminded them three times. 19 19points reply Load More Replies... Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Maybe start with the assumption that doing what you’re told is a given and not put the idea of not complying into their heads by assuming they will need a punishment because they might not do as they’re told. Just imagine your boss giving you a task and telling you straight away: no extended coffee breaks if you’re not getting it done, Mabel! 3 3points reply ????? ????? Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment has been deleted. 2 2points reply I want cake I want cake Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It was just an example, I agree that the consequence needs to be related and proportional to (non-)compliance with the task and it's better to frame it positively than negatively. 1 1point reply Frank Ropen Frank Ropen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Doesn't work that simple. So he can't see Timmy, but the room is still a mess. 1 1point reply Stille20 Stille20 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It depends on the kid. but yea, some are more defiant 1 1point reply Linouchka 99 Linouchka 99 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Thank you so much for asking, I was wondering too ! Especially with my two-years old who does NOTHING that I ask him for : no "come here", no "give me that", no "show me what's in your hand", no "put that down"... It's really frustrating, feels like I'm raising a cat !! He really looks me straight in the eyes, smiles, and a little bubble appears over his head reading "Dream on, Mom!" ... :'-( 5 5points reply LuckyL LuckyL Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'm already frustrated with my one year old doing that. Especially when I'm sitting on the toilet and can't stop her pulling on the towel rack. Stares me straight in the eyes and laughs. I've put her outside the room and closed the door to wash my hands and she immediately starts crying (just the minute for washing and drying hands). But I just really don't know how to set a boundary with a one year old. 1 1point reply Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Tell her to play with something else. Take her out of the bathroom and put her in the playpen. If she starts crying, you can call out to her what you’re doing until you come back to pick her up. Be relaxed about it. You don’t need to set a boundary, you need to handle the situation in a way you can avoid her having a go at the towels. And if a relaxed mum comes back from the loo and is all ready to reassure her baby that all’s well, baby won’t cry long. 4 4points reply Hans Hans Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Parenting is love, reliability, and consistency. As easy as this. And as hard as the third point, as, in all honesty, we adults have a hard time being consistent despite mood swings, lack of sleep, external pressure, and self-doubt. 16 16points reply Rissie Rissie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago People are just human sometimes. 4 4points reply Load More Replies... Linouchka 99 Linouchka 99 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You mean "simple". Not "easy" ;-) 0 0points reply Carol Emory Carol Emory Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Also, as someone who was yelled at constantly by her mother, you tune it out after a while. If all a child hears is yelling, then they will get used to it the same as people that live near airports eventually are able to sleep even though planes fly low over the house. On the other hand, if you use yelling rarely, when you do raise a voice, your kids are more likely to snap to because they know they are in deep deep trouble. My father never spanked me but once in my life, never cussed at me but once. Both times, I knew I'd messed up big time. 14 14points reply v v Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Uh-oh. You said spanked. Now the internet is going to come crashing down on you because everyone knows spanking a child leads to said child becoming an unproductive, abusive, drain on society. -1 -1point reply Load More Replies... Carol Emory Carol Emory Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Eh..it was the 80's. they can get over it. I did. 1 1point reply Load More Comments POST Stille20 Stille20 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago So it makes sense that kids wait until you yell to do it... but I really don't understand what she is suggesting is the alternative. 19 19points reply I want cake I want cake Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Say 'no' or ask them to do something, make it clear what happens if they don't comply, and then, if they don't comply, enforce the consequence you previously announced. That simple. Don't say 'clean your room or you can't have timmy over this afternoon' and the still let them have timmy over this afternoon even though they didn't clean their room despite the fact that you reminded them three times. 19 19points reply Load More Replies... Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Maybe start with the assumption that doing what you’re told is a given and not put the idea of not complying into their heads by assuming they will need a punishment because they might not do as they’re told. Just imagine your boss giving you a task and telling you straight away: no extended coffee breaks if you’re not getting it done, Mabel! 3 3points reply ????? ????? Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment has been deleted. 2 2points reply I want cake I want cake Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It was just an example, I agree that the consequence needs to be related and proportional to (non-)compliance with the task and it's better to frame it positively than negatively. 1 1point reply Frank Ropen Frank Ropen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Doesn't work that simple. So he can't see Timmy, but the room is still a mess. 1 1point reply Stille20 Stille20 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It depends on the kid. but yea, some are more defiant 1 1point reply Linouchka 99 Linouchka 99 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Thank you so much for asking, I was wondering too ! Especially with my two-years old who does NOTHING that I ask him for : no "come here", no "give me that", no "show me what's in your hand", no "put that down"... It's really frustrating, feels like I'm raising a cat !! He really looks me straight in the eyes, smiles, and a little bubble appears over his head reading "Dream on, Mom!" ... :'-( 5 5points reply LuckyL LuckyL Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'm already frustrated with my one year old doing that. Especially when I'm sitting on the toilet and can't stop her pulling on the towel rack. Stares me straight in the eyes and laughs. I've put her outside the room and closed the door to wash my hands and she immediately starts crying (just the minute for washing and drying hands). But I just really don't know how to set a boundary with a one year old. 1 1point reply Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Tell her to play with something else. Take her out of the bathroom and put her in the playpen. If she starts crying, you can call out to her what you’re doing until you come back to pick her up. Be relaxed about it. You don’t need to set a boundary, you need to handle the situation in a way you can avoid her having a go at the towels. And if a relaxed mum comes back from the loo and is all ready to reassure her baby that all’s well, baby won’t cry long. 4 4points reply Hans Hans Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Parenting is love, reliability, and consistency. As easy as this. And as hard as the third point, as, in all honesty, we adults have a hard time being consistent despite mood swings, lack of sleep, external pressure, and self-doubt. 16 16points reply Rissie Rissie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago People are just human sometimes. 4 4points reply Load More Replies... Linouchka 99 Linouchka 99 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You mean "simple". Not "easy" ;-) 0 0points reply Carol Emory Carol Emory Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Also, as someone who was yelled at constantly by her mother, you tune it out after a while. If all a child hears is yelling, then they will get used to it the same as people that live near airports eventually are able to sleep even though planes fly low over the house. On the other hand, if you use yelling rarely, when you do raise a voice, your kids are more likely to snap to because they know they are in deep deep trouble. My father never spanked me but once in my life, never cussed at me but once. Both times, I knew I'd messed up big time. 14 14points reply v v Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Uh-oh. You said spanked. Now the internet is going to come crashing down on you because everyone knows spanking a child leads to said child becoming an unproductive, abusive, drain on society. -1 -1point reply Load More Replies... Carol Emory Carol Emory Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Eh..it was the 80's. they can get over it. I did. 1 1point reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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