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Now He Is Refusing To Even Sleep In The Same Bed As Me Parents Get Into A Fight When Mom Secretly Installs A Door In Teenage Son s Room Despite The Dad Disagreeing

Jurgita Dominauskaitė and
Saulė Tolstych
Privacy is a fundamental human right recognized in the UN Declaration of Human Rights, the International Convenant on Civil and Political Rights and in many other international and regional treaties. But some would say that their parents, siblings or pets are constantly depriving them of that important right. For some people it's a joke, but for others it's a serious issue. Like when parents believe that their child who has a separate room doesn't need a door. A mom shared a story on Reddit about how her husband doesn't want their 14-year-old son to have a door in his room, but she thinks otherwise, so she bought him a door. But that made the dad very mad and it caused more tension in the family than it should have. More info: Reddit

A mom wants to know if she made the wrong decision to go behind her husband s back and install a door in their son s room

Image credits: Melissa Doroquez (not the actual photo) The Original Poster (OP) is a 35-year-old mom and her husband is 46 years old. They have a 14-year-old son and the dad believes that their child doesn't need privacy until he turns 18, so as long as he is under the parents' care, he shouldn't have a door. The mom, on the other hand, thinks that teenagers do need their own privacy, space and freedom. Of course, their child is 14, so she would still need to know what he's up to, but the mom doesn't think that it's necessary to remove the door from his room.

The father thinks that teenagers shouldn t have privacy as long as they are in the care of the parents

Image credits: melindthrowaway This disagreement started to create some tension between the two parents and the dad doesn't want any compromises because he was raised this way so he knows best. But the mom's heart couldn't bear seeing her son mistreated, so she thought it would be a good idea to do what she thinks is right. As her son's birthday and Christmas are near, she decided that a perfect gift would be a door. Image credits: melindthrowaway

The mom thinks that at least a door is appropriate for a teenager to have

Image credits: melindthrowaway The OP didn't say anything to her husband and secretly bought a door and had it installed in the son's room when neither he nor his dad was home. The son came home after school with a door blocking his room and the mom saw that he was delighted and probably actually relieved. However, when the dad saw the door he was not satisfied at all.

Knowing that the dad would never agree to it the mom went behind his back and got a door installed as a birthday and a Christmas gift for the 14-year-old son

Image credits: melindthrowaway He was actually really mad, and now the wife and the husband sleep in different rooms. The husband was displeased that such a decision was made without having a word with him and felt that his authority was disrespected. The OP now thinks that she acted without thinking and should have had a conversation with her husband before making a parenting decision and is asking if she deserves being treated like the jerk in this situation.

The son was happy to finally have some privacy but the OP s husband is not sleeping in the same bed with her anymore for this

Image credits: melindthrowaway People in the comments were actually concerned that the OP's husband is abusive and toxic more than who is wrong in the situation. They found it problematic how he explained that there is no need for a door so the son could grow up a man and that he feels he's the only authority in the house. What do you take from this story? Do you think teenagers are entitled to privacy? And do you feel that this family has deeper issues rather than just this one disagreement about privacy which is already quite alarming? Share your thoughts with us in the comments section!

Seems like other redditors are quite concerned and feel that this disagreement is just one of many issues in the family

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Then came "This is how I was raised". Change locks, wave him good-bye, get counseling, IMHO. That may be extreme, but it's a symbol of trust, that door is. That would be wonderful for a kid, I'd think? 104 104points reply Viviane Viviane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) The two quotes point to the father wanting his son to take after him. Two generations of abusers is two generations of abusers too many. I hope the mother cuts her losses. No father in the son's life would be a major improvement. 65 65points reply Load More Replies... Viviane Viviane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) Plus leaving gives her a chance to meet someone better. Many single parents are more selective the second time around - they get to see how potential mates relate to children. If partners can be in synch with each other, step and adoptive parents can be just as understanding and connected with non-biological children. 13 13points reply Requiem Requiem Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Kevin Hart never had a door on his bedroom because of his MOTHER, she was never abusive -13 -13points reply Vicky Zar Vicky Zar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Isn't denying children privacy abusive in itself? 14 14points reply Annabelle Annabelle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) I still find it a symbol of distrust. Gender has nothing to do with it 8 8points reply ForgotMyPWSendHelp ForgotMyPWSendHelp Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) I'm sorry, are you trying to use a random joke made by a comedian (that may or may not even be true) to argue about what qualifies as abuse? I honestly don't even get your point. 5 5points reply Cassie Cassie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago I commented this on the Reddit post, but essentially, that "this is how I was raised" line translates to "this is how I was abused growing up and now it's my turn to do the abusing", so, yea, this guy needs to go. 7 7points reply ForgotMyPWSendHelp ForgotMyPWSendHelp Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) It's not extreme. You are right on the nose. This guy is super controlling, and it's unacceptable. A 14-year-old should be allowed to have a door by default. It's not something that should be a discussion/argument between the parents or a special gift. It's a given. 4 4points reply Helen Haley Helen Haley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago The giant age gap and all the controlling behavior and what he's doing to his son? There are more red flags here than an incel convention. 81 81points reply Random Panda Random Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 10 months ago It's a small chance, but I hope this is a wake-up call for her and she takes herself and her son away from this abusive a-hole. 10 10points reply Load More Replies... King Kashue King Kashue Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) For everyone saying "it's not a giant age gap": It wouldn't be if they met *now* - but they didn't. They had a kid together when she was 21 and he was 32. Which means they got together *prior* to that, likely when she was 20 or even in her teens. A 30 year old getting with a 19 year old *ABSOLUTELY* is a creepy-ass gap on it's own - combine it with his *crazy* controlling behavior (both with the kid and her) and there's almost zero chance he wasn't a skeevy, manipulative groomer. 5 5points reply Martha Meyer Martha Meyer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago 10 or 11 years between a couple is not a "giant" age gap. 30 years would be giant. She needs to take herself and her son away from him regardless. 4 4points reply ForgotMyPWSendHelp ForgotMyPWSendHelp Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago The age gap matters less as you get older, but when a woman is 19 or 20 when she starts dating a man in his early 30s, yes it is giant. 4 4points reply Aleksandra Aleksandra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago It is a big age gap when one person is just 21! And she had her son at 21 which means that they had some relationship before that too. People like this man, entering relationships with much younger people that are just over 20 (or very often even under 20) aren't into them for their "maturity" or anything like that - they are into young people as they are easier to groom, manipulate and control. It really rarely ends up with healthy relationship. 3 3points reply Vicky Zar Vicky Zar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago I don't think an age gap in itself is a red flag. There are lots of good relationships with age gaps. My husband is 10 years my senior. We met when I was 19 and he was 39. We married around 10 years later. It is just a concerning point if the older one displays controlling/ abusive behaviour. 2 2points reply Gin. No tonic Gin. No tonic Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Sorry, but the math doesn't add up. 19+10=29, not 39 5 5points reply Vicky Zar Vicky Zar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago :D So sorry. He was 29. He turned 30 the first year we were together. I never thought of him as a 20 something year old. He was always at least 30 to me. Hmm I think he always will be. I‘m still thinking of him that way and he is turning 50 soon 0 0points reply Mica Silvia Mica Silvia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Giant age gap?? It's 11 years, I would hardly call that a "giant age gap" .. that is so not the issue here..I know very loving couples with more of an age gap.. me and my spouse are 8 years difference (I am the elder and he is the younger) .. You need to think more about what's going on here than offending others with your view of "giant age gaps" ..which would be more 20-30 years than 11. 2 2points reply LB LB Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Based on current ages, she had her baby at 21. And 11 years is a pretty giant age gap at that age. I’ve been on both sides of the age gap (dated someone 16 years older and 7 years younger) and I don’t think it’s offensive to point out there is a large age gap here. Sometimes controlling people seek out younger partners because they are easier to control. That is just a fact. 15 15points reply Martha Meyer Martha Meyer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago The word "giant" is out of proportion here though. I wouldn't even call 10 years "large". There are plenty of couples with an age gap of around 10 years that have perfectly healthy relationships. This woman's husband is clearly a controlling jerk, but I doubt he'd have acted any differently with a spouse of the same age as him. 2 2points reply ForgotMyPWSendHelp ForgotMyPWSendHelp Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) @Martha The age gap matters when she was 21 and he was 32 when they started a family together. She was quite young when she had a baby with him, which means they must have started dating when she was even younger. That shouldn't be ignored. And I doubt he would have chosen an older woman precisely because men like that find younger women easier to control. 3 3points reply K Witmer K Witmer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago He would never date or marry a woman the same age as him that's why he chose her to begin with. He was late 20s early 30s when they first got together which means she was still a teenager. A woman his age wouldn't put up w his crap that's why he chose someone he could groom for his abuse. 2 2points reply Sean P Sean P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Honestly, I've been in two hetero relationships with 9-10 year age gaps to my female partners. Younger women are NOT easier to control. They can be incredibly difficult and extremely distrusting and it takes a long time and a lot of effort to make relationships work with them. Naive 19 year old women are just as naive as naive 39 year old women and I've known a fair bit of both. And I don't have relationships with them, either. It's almost like human being are individuals and after the first couple of decades, the 'age gap' starts to become meaningless. She was not a child when she had her child. Everyone is assuming she dated/was in a relationship for years, when they could've banged literally one time when she was 19 and the kid is now the whole reason they're even married to begin with. There's all kinds of situations nobody here knows about. So stop assigning them to this couple and only address the content of the post. The guy is a controlling and abusive idiot regardless. 2 2points reply Bacony Cakes Bacony Cakes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago It's the Turkish Embassy up in here. 2 2points reply Olga Dremina Olga Dremina Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago My hubs and i have a 10 years age gap. I was 23, he was 33 when we met. 10 years later - still no control. What's your point? 1 1point reply Asswipe Asswipe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Giant age gap? It would be giant if she was 10 but as an adult that is nothing. Screwed up thing is denying privacy because he didn't have that as a child. It's like beating your child because your parents beat you. Trust goes both ways and it surely is in jeopardy. I don't know about the kid but I'd be pretty upset. 1 1point reply DC DC Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago It's 11 years. My Grandparents, maternal, had 8 years between them, and Grandma was quite young when they met ... and it worked out. Never knew a less perverted man than that Grandpa (the paternal side ... oh my, oh my...). 1 1point reply ForgotMyPWSendHelp ForgotMyPWSendHelp Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) And most people who don't wear sunscreen never get skin cancer. It doesn't mean you should throw caution to the wind and never wear it. The fact that your grandparents worked out doesn't mean we shouldn't be wary of older people who like to date younger people in their late teens and early 20s before their brains are fully developed. You're just entering the world as a young adult at that age, and it makes you vulnerable. Sure, many of those relationships work out, but there's still a reason some older people prey on younger romantic partners. 5 5points reply Sean P Sean P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Consenting adults who are over the age of majority should be f*****g and having children with whoever they want to. It's literally their lives. If 'their brains aren't fully developed' they shouldn't be driving, drinking, partying without supervision, working in managerial positions or procreating by this insane logic. 4 4points reply Requiem Requiem Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. I know people who had this growing up because of mothers. Still incels? -14 -14points reply Aliquid Aliquid Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Your ability to process logic is lacking. The above post did not say that the man was an incel, and did not say that taking away a door was an incel thing to do... plus talking about a father being a horrible person does not in any way imply that mothers can't also be horrible people. Your comment makes no sense at all. 17 17points reply Chucky Cheezburger Chucky Cheezburger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Jeez, this guy's an a-hole all over. Everyone needs a space of their own, if just to get away from things and decompress. Those teenage years can be rough enough without being able to just chill with your own thoughts. Plus, the 14 year old is gonna want some privacy for "other" things... You can only go to the bathroom or take a shower so many times a day without it looking strange. 32 32points reply Load More Comments POST Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago No door, and the phrase "what it takes for (kid) to be a man", caused serious red flags. Then came "This is how I was raised". Change locks, wave him good-bye, get counseling, IMHO. That may be extreme, but it's a symbol of trust, that door is. That would be wonderful for a kid, I'd think? 104 104points reply Viviane Viviane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) The two quotes point to the father wanting his son to take after him. Two generations of abusers is two generations of abusers too many. I hope the mother cuts her losses. No father in the son's life would be a major improvement. 65 65points reply Load More Replies... Viviane Viviane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) Plus leaving gives her a chance to meet someone better. Many single parents are more selective the second time around - they get to see how potential mates relate to children. If partners can be in synch with each other, step and adoptive parents can be just as understanding and connected with non-biological children. 13 13points reply Requiem Requiem Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Kevin Hart never had a door on his bedroom because of his MOTHER, she was never abusive -13 -13points reply Vicky Zar Vicky Zar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Isn't denying children privacy abusive in itself? 14 14points reply Annabelle Annabelle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) I still find it a symbol of distrust. Gender has nothing to do with it 8 8points reply ForgotMyPWSendHelp ForgotMyPWSendHelp Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) I'm sorry, are you trying to use a random joke made by a comedian (that may or may not even be true) to argue about what qualifies as abuse? I honestly don't even get your point. 5 5points reply Cassie Cassie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago I commented this on the Reddit post, but essentially, that "this is how I was raised" line translates to "this is how I was abused growing up and now it's my turn to do the abusing", so, yea, this guy needs to go. 7 7points reply ForgotMyPWSendHelp ForgotMyPWSendHelp Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) It's not extreme. You are right on the nose. This guy is super controlling, and it's unacceptable. A 14-year-old should be allowed to have a door by default. It's not something that should be a discussion/argument between the parents or a special gift. It's a given. 4 4points reply Helen Haley Helen Haley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago The giant age gap and all the controlling behavior and what he's doing to his son? There are more red flags here than an incel convention. 81 81points reply Random Panda Random Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 10 months ago It's a small chance, but I hope this is a wake-up call for her and she takes herself and her son away from this abusive a-hole. 10 10points reply Load More Replies... King Kashue King Kashue Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) For everyone saying "it's not a giant age gap": It wouldn't be if they met *now* - but they didn't. They had a kid together when she was 21 and he was 32. Which means they got together *prior* to that, likely when she was 20 or even in her teens. A 30 year old getting with a 19 year old *ABSOLUTELY* is a creepy-ass gap on it's own - combine it with his *crazy* controlling behavior (both with the kid and her) and there's almost zero chance he wasn't a skeevy, manipulative groomer. 5 5points reply Martha Meyer Martha Meyer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago 10 or 11 years between a couple is not a "giant" age gap. 30 years would be giant. She needs to take herself and her son away from him regardless. 4 4points reply ForgotMyPWSendHelp ForgotMyPWSendHelp Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago The age gap matters less as you get older, but when a woman is 19 or 20 when she starts dating a man in his early 30s, yes it is giant. 4 4points reply Aleksandra Aleksandra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago It is a big age gap when one person is just 21! And she had her son at 21 which means that they had some relationship before that too. People like this man, entering relationships with much younger people that are just over 20 (or very often even under 20) aren't into them for their "maturity" or anything like that - they are into young people as they are easier to groom, manipulate and control. It really rarely ends up with healthy relationship. 3 3points reply Vicky Zar Vicky Zar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago I don't think an age gap in itself is a red flag. There are lots of good relationships with age gaps. My husband is 10 years my senior. We met when I was 19 and he was 39. We married around 10 years later. It is just a concerning point if the older one displays controlling/ abusive behaviour. 2 2points reply Gin. No tonic Gin. No tonic Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Sorry, but the math doesn't add up. 19+10=29, not 39 5 5points reply Vicky Zar Vicky Zar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago :D So sorry. He was 29. He turned 30 the first year we were together. I never thought of him as a 20 something year old. He was always at least 30 to me. Hmm I think he always will be. I‘m still thinking of him that way and he is turning 50 soon 0 0points reply Mica Silvia Mica Silvia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Giant age gap?? It's 11 years, I would hardly call that a "giant age gap" .. that is so not the issue here..I know very loving couples with more of an age gap.. me and my spouse are 8 years difference (I am the elder and he is the younger) .. You need to think more about what's going on here than offending others with your view of "giant age gaps" ..which would be more 20-30 years than 11. 2 2points reply LB LB Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Based on current ages, she had her baby at 21. And 11 years is a pretty giant age gap at that age. I’ve been on both sides of the age gap (dated someone 16 years older and 7 years younger) and I don’t think it’s offensive to point out there is a large age gap here. Sometimes controlling people seek out younger partners because they are easier to control. That is just a fact. 15 15points reply Martha Meyer Martha Meyer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago The word "giant" is out of proportion here though. I wouldn't even call 10 years "large". There are plenty of couples with an age gap of around 10 years that have perfectly healthy relationships. This woman's husband is clearly a controlling jerk, but I doubt he'd have acted any differently with a spouse of the same age as him. 2 2points reply ForgotMyPWSendHelp ForgotMyPWSendHelp Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) @Martha The age gap matters when she was 21 and he was 32 when they started a family together. She was quite young when she had a baby with him, which means they must have started dating when she was even younger. That shouldn't be ignored. And I doubt he would have chosen an older woman precisely because men like that find younger women easier to control. 3 3points reply K Witmer K Witmer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago He would never date or marry a woman the same age as him that's why he chose her to begin with. He was late 20s early 30s when they first got together which means she was still a teenager. A woman his age wouldn't put up w his crap that's why he chose someone he could groom for his abuse. 2 2points reply Sean P Sean P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Honestly, I've been in two hetero relationships with 9-10 year age gaps to my female partners. Younger women are NOT easier to control. They can be incredibly difficult and extremely distrusting and it takes a long time and a lot of effort to make relationships work with them. Naive 19 year old women are just as naive as naive 39 year old women and I've known a fair bit of both. And I don't have relationships with them, either. It's almost like human being are individuals and after the first couple of decades, the 'age gap' starts to become meaningless. She was not a child when she had her child. Everyone is assuming she dated/was in a relationship for years, when they could've banged literally one time when she was 19 and the kid is now the whole reason they're even married to begin with. There's all kinds of situations nobody here knows about. So stop assigning them to this couple and only address the content of the post. The guy is a controlling and abusive idiot regardless. 2 2points reply Bacony Cakes Bacony Cakes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago It's the Turkish Embassy up in here. 2 2points reply Olga Dremina Olga Dremina Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago My hubs and i have a 10 years age gap. I was 23, he was 33 when we met. 10 years later - still no control. What's your point? 1 1point reply Asswipe Asswipe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Giant age gap? It would be giant if she was 10 but as an adult that is nothing. Screwed up thing is denying privacy because he didn't have that as a child. It's like beating your child because your parents beat you. Trust goes both ways and it surely is in jeopardy. I don't know about the kid but I'd be pretty upset. 1 1point reply DC DC Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago It's 11 years. My Grandparents, maternal, had 8 years between them, and Grandma was quite young when they met ... and it worked out. Never knew a less perverted man than that Grandpa (the paternal side ... oh my, oh my...). 1 1point reply ForgotMyPWSendHelp ForgotMyPWSendHelp Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago (edited) And most people who don't wear sunscreen never get skin cancer. It doesn't mean you should throw caution to the wind and never wear it. The fact that your grandparents worked out doesn't mean we shouldn't be wary of older people who like to date younger people in their late teens and early 20s before their brains are fully developed. You're just entering the world as a young adult at that age, and it makes you vulnerable. Sure, many of those relationships work out, but there's still a reason some older people prey on younger romantic partners. 5 5points reply Sean P Sean P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Consenting adults who are over the age of majority should be f*****g and having children with whoever they want to. It's literally their lives. If 'their brains aren't fully developed' they shouldn't be driving, drinking, partying without supervision, working in managerial positions or procreating by this insane logic. 4 4points reply Requiem Requiem Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. I know people who had this growing up because of mothers. Still incels? -14 -14points reply Aliquid Aliquid Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Your ability to process logic is lacking. The above post did not say that the man was an incel, and did not say that taking away a door was an incel thing to do... plus talking about a father being a horrible person does not in any way imply that mothers can't also be horrible people. Your comment makes no sense at all. 17 17points reply Chucky Cheezburger Chucky Cheezburger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Jeez, this guy's an a-hole all over. Everyone needs a space of their own, if just to get away from things and decompress. Those teenage years can be rough enough without being able to just chill with your own thoughts. Plus, the 14 year old is gonna want some privacy for "other" things... 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