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Woman Sends Her Boyfriend A Pic Of Her Hairy Legs To Have A Laugh Doesn’ t Expect He Would Respond By Shaming Her Interview

Ieva Gailiūtė and
Ilona Baliūnaitė
Over the last few years, beauty standards around body hair have been steadily changing, largely as a result of many women happily rocking their natural hairy bits. More and more females are moving on from body-hair stigma and starting a mini-revolution by not shaving and encouraging other people to let it grow. However, when TikTok user bonedrymilkers decided to embrace her "winter coat" and send a picture of her unshaven legs to her boyfriend, things did not go smoothly. What was supposed to be sweet and funny turned sour-the BF replied that it's "kinda gross" and "unhygienic for a female," which was a glaring red flag in the woman's eyes. In just a few days, the clip went viral, amassing more than 15.2M views and almost 86K comments. Check out her full video below, and be sure to let us know what you think in the comment section below.

Over the holidays this TikTok user decided to embrace her winter coat sending a photo of her unshaven legs to her boyfriend

The conversation turned sour when her BF said it s gross and unhygienic for a female

You can watch the full video which got over 15 2M views right over here

@bonedrymilkers does anyone know why men are like this #men #bf #relationships #gf #hairylegs #greenscreen #fyp ♬ The Time is Coming – Aery Yormany

Later on the woman posted another clip with an update on this whole situation

Here s the full video

@bonedrymilkers Reply to @bonedrymilkers for those who wanted an update. our phone call was anticlimactic. it's obvious i wasted my time👍🏼 #greenscreen ♬ butterfly effect – demo – Sophie Holohan After some time, the TikTok user decided to post another video with an update for her followers. It seems that after exchanging a few more texts, the couple talked everything over and did in fact break up. As bonedrymilkers wrote in her caption, "It's obvious I wasted my time." A vast majority of her followers were on her side. Many wrote that the boyfriend's reaction was completely inappropriate, others started a discussion about double standards in the comments. Bored Panda reached out to Karin Lesnik-Oberstein, a Professor of Critical Theory at the University of Reading and author of The Last Taboo: Women and Body Hair, to find out why letting our natural hair grow is still deeply stigmatized. According to the professor, many women today feel the pressure to remove their body hair because it is "part of the construction of femininity in our culture (and most Western cultures, although to differing degrees and in some groups differently too)." When asked about why some partners may see hairy legs as "gross" or "unhygienic", Lesnik-Oberstein said it's because they are traditionally seen as masculine. "Masculinity in a woman repels many heterosexual men (and also many other sexual identities, by the way)," she explained. "This is a way to uphold the limits between differing sexual and gender identities." After all, there's no one-size-fits-all solution to this issue. To shave or not to shave-it's completely up to you. What truly matters is that you feel safe and welcomed as you are, with all of your body hair. "A partner who does not accept that too is not right for you," the professor said. "But for many women, shaving is something that they want to do for themselves too and they enjoy their partner admiring their shaven legs or other shaven body parts," she added. "See what is really right for you, but never allow any partner to be emotionally or physically abusive to you (including being verbally aggressive) about anything!" Still, we are surrounded by many unrealistic beauty standards that can sometimes lead to feeling shame. "Not shaving or shaving are not 'right' or 'wrong' in general but this depends on what kind of person you are." "This is also true for other issues such as wearing make-up, dieting, cosmetic surgery and so on, but it can take time and exploration of your feelings about yourself and your body to work out what is really best for you, so do take that time," Karin Lesnik-Oberstein suggested.

Her followers were united and saw the boyfriend s behavior as a red flag

Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Ieva Gailiūtė Ieva Gailiūtė Writer, BoredPanda staff Ieva is a writer at Bored Panda who graduated in Scandinavian studies from Vilnius University. After learning the Swedish language and getting completely lost in the world of Scandinavian mythology, she figured out that translating and writing is what she's passionate about. When not writing, Ieva enjoys making jewelry, going on hikes, reading and drinking coffee. Read more » Ilona Baliūnaitė Ilona Baliūnaitė Author, BoredPanda staff Ilona is a photo editor at Bored Panda with an MA in Communication Of Creative Society. Before Bored Panda, she worked as a social media manager and freelance graphic designer. When she is not photoshopping or searching for the most interesting photos for stories, she is usually watching good movies and says that The Godfather is the best. 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Which is anoying because sometimes is useful to be able to talk about sex and not gender and "female" would be the word to use. But in colloquial conversations nowadays it means most of the time "i am a misogyn". (I know that AFAB exists but many people doesnt know what it is and it also doesnt work in other languages) 11 11points reply Load More Replies... Martha Meyer Martha Meyer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Female is an adjective. It gets weird when people use it as a proper noun for humans. Makes it sound like a mating ritual description in an animal documentary. "The female reacts to his advances." 12 12points reply I'mNotARoboat I'mNotARoboat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Martha Meyer: "Female is an adjective. It gets weird when people use it as a proper noun for humans. Makes it sound like a mating ritual description in an animal documentary. "The female reacts to his advances."" Absolutely! It makes the person saying it sound so stupid. especially because they are trying to sound smart/sophisticated. It also irks me when "woman" is used when it is more grammatically correct to use "female". Regardless of one's opinion of her politics, "first woman prime minister" has never been nor ever will be correct when people were talking about Margaret Thatcher. She was the first female PM of the UK, she was not the Prime Minister of Women. A more currently example of this egregious stupidity actually came from a writer/journalist last year writing about "women hunters" when they meant "female hunters". Women hunters hunt women FFS. (Also, side note: how does one create spaces between paragraphs in BP posts? I cannot for the life of me figure it out so I always end up with a wall of text.) 3 3points reply Marnie Marnie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I'mNotARobot: Yeah, I cringe every time I hear about tha organization, something like "Society of Women Scientists". How smart can they be if the actual title of their organization is not even made up of proper grammar? 2 2points reply Evelyn Haskins Evelyn Haskins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Female IS a noun, as is male. Feminine is the adjective. Please check your dictionary before posting. -8 -8points reply I'mNotARoboat I'mNotARoboat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Female/male are only used as nouns in terms of discussions in biology, such as "the female counterpart of a peacock is called a peahen". As for looking it up in a dictionary, female is both a noun (as per my first phrase) as well as being a synonymous adjective for feminine. 1 1point reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago That is correct but when you are talking about biology is the term used. You cannot talk about sex without using the word female (as in female human). Thats why i widh that those sexist idiots didnt destroy the word. 1 1point reply Evelyn Haskins Evelyn Haskins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Actually, IF you look in an English Dictionary female IS a noun, though it can also be used as an adjective. Ditto Male -3 -3points reply Martha Meyer Martha Meyer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Evelyn, it's teh other way around. It's an adjective and all adjectives can be turned into a noun. Doesn't mean that it sounds smart though. 0 0points reply Tina Hugh Tina Hugh Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Let's not make "female" a bad word. It's a good word, and the incels don’t get to change that 2 2points reply Aaricia Aaricia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Female isn't a bad word. Just people calling women female as if it's a noun is bad. 1 1point reply Marnie Marnie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago "Female" is an adjective, and "woman" is a noun. 0 0points reply Louise B Louise B Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This! For me, alarm bells start screaming when a man starts pontificating on 'females.' You just know it's gonna be bad. I really hate when they try to weasel out of it by saying it's just a way of identifying a woman. We all know the implications. 6 6points reply I'mNotARoboat I'mNotARoboat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Louise B "...by saying it's just a way of identifying a woman." Because we all know that the only word to identify women is the word "female" used in every possible instance lol I think I just realised that, in speaking the way they do, it's a way of sounding superior and keeping a distance while masking their actual fear of women. So fearful are they that they can't even say the word. 1 1point reply Frannie Kaplan Frannie Kaplan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago In some languages it's not weird. Femmine in italian is not that weird. 1 1point reply MagNat MagNat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago And somehow those people very rarely refer to men as "males". 0 0points reply Craig Reynolds Craig Reynolds Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Then you better brace for a lot more of that reference as it's now used for clarity since "woman/women" is no longer a clear-cut gender description. I expect to hear "male/males" being used in place of "man/men" for the same reason. 0 0points reply IeabellAlakar@aqueenofaplanet IeabellAlakar@aqueenofaplanet Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Point, that. 0 0points reply Heather G Heather G Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This may only serve to harden your opinion of this but the military uses the terms male and female instead of women and men. 0 0points reply Tina Hugh Tina Hugh Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Yeah. "Female" sounds perfectly fine to me and I'll even refer to myself as one. I don’t want "female" to come a dirty word. 'So f*****g sick of misogyny. 0 0points reply Autumn Autumn Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I use female and male sometimes….. I’m just weird like that though. 0 0points reply I'mNotARoboat I'mNotARoboat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Sometimes the grammar calls for female/male and sometimes the grammar calls for woman/man. "When I speak to women and men about the females and males of this species of beetle." "There have only been male presidents of the United States while Margaret Thatcher and Theresa May were both female Prime Ministers of the UK." 2 2points reply Evelyn Haskins Evelyn Haskins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Every time I hear human females called "women' I know I will get a crappy opinion. Please, ladies!!!! LOL!! -2 -2points reply Troux Troux Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago "You have the same hygiene practices as me? Eew, that's disgusting!" 74 74points reply Keith O Keith O Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago He was an asshole with how he handled it, but it's ok if he doesn't like it and it turns him off. Plain and simple. He could have been much nicer about it, but you like what you like and don't what you don't. Maybe they're just not compatible in this sense, and that's fine, but it is 100% ok for him to not be attracted to leg hair.... 41 41points reply Aliquid Aliquid Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago He is an idiot for saying it is "unhygienic". But saying it is a "turn off" is a perfectly valid opinion that he should have expressed more politely. 45 45points reply Load More Replies... Marco Conti Marco Conti Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I find this a pretty good commentary. We cannot control our tastes and they are shaped by the larger society, the way we were brought up and current norms. He can have whatever "taste" he wants or prefers. But the "hygiene" part? That's nuts. I have hairy legs. I am Italian, I am hairier than most. Never had an hygiene problem in that regard and I know enough about human anatomy to know that men and women share the same traits from the thighs down. 13 13points reply purple zebra purple zebra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. I really don’t think there was going to be any answer by him, no matter how polite, where this would end well. She was always going to post this online and that was always going to be the demise of their relationship -12 -12points reply Vicky Z Vicky Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I agree! It's a matter of personal taste and clearly people are allowed to be turned on and off with whatever they want ( as long as it's legal). The problematic is that he insulted her saying that she is gross and unhygienic which was also stupid statement 19 19points reply Marco Conti Marco Conti Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago No one is judging his taste in hairy legs. It's the whole tone of the comments that is weird. It displays an immature, unempathetic person that also has some strange ideas about "hygiene" and how it applies to men and women. Frankly, if a girlfriend displayed an equivalent lack of awareness, I would seriously reconsider my commitment to her. These weird attitudes don't exist in a vacuum and they are often a symptom of a larger issue that is often not a benign as "I don't like hairy legs in women". I also prefer a woman with shaved legs. Society must have left its mark on me, but I would never force my SO to shave if she didn't want to, and I would never use a cheap excuse as hygiene. We are Homo Sapiens Sapiens. Save for a few unique characteristics, such as reproductive organs, we are the same species and our hygiene standards are the same. 9 9points reply Celtic Pirate Queen Celtic Pirate Queen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Right? If she didn't want him to give her honest feedback, why the hell did she send him the photo in the first place? (Though he could have been a little more polite about it.) -1 -1point reply NotTodaySatan!! NotTodaySatan!! Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. But why does she get to tell him how he feels? I didn't think he was a jerk, I thought he was truthful. Like he said in their conversation, he had never mentioned it before, but she brought it up by sending the pic. She didn't get the reaction she anticipated from him and got mad about it. He is right in that he should be able to give an honest opinion to his girlfriend. Just because she didn't like the opinion doesn't make him a jerk. -4 -4points reply Mistiekim Mistiekim Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago But he didn’t just give his opinion. He basically was telling her there was something wrong with her and that she was gross and should be embarrassed. That’s a whole lot different than just saying it’s a turn off. Plus there is a bit of a future implication here - if they ended up married and with kids that kinda thing might be neglected for a bit do to being busy/exhausted. Would he make her feel horrible at that time too? 17 17points reply purple zebra purple zebra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Thank goodness they didn’t bring kids into this. Imagine them together some time from now with a sick kid. Kid throws up and neither parent helps or comforts the kid because Daddy is grossed out by the throw up and Mommy is too busy posting the video of the kid throwing up and then looking to see how many hits and likes her post has gotten. -7 -7points reply Ms.GB Ms.GB Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago He's not in the wrong for not being attracted to hairy legs but the way he went about it is the problem. He basically gaslit her by saying it's unhygienic for females unless he really believes that in which case he isn't very bright. He then went on to call her gross and tell he she should be embarrassed....gross and embarrassed for having something that literally everyone has. It would be like if I like my man clean shaven and he shows up with stubble.. am I going to tell him that his stubble is gross, ung and an embarrassment or am I going to tell him I prefer him clean shaven because stubble just isn't my cup of tea and the smoothness turns me on. There's just a certain way you communicate with people you care about especially when it comes to sensitive issues like physical appearance. 8 8points reply NotTodaySatan!! NotTodaySatan!! Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I definitely feel he could have said things better. But I didn't feel he was saying SHE was gross, but rather the hair was gross to him. If he felt she was gross he wouldn't have been with her and wouldn't have been tolerating it, saying nothing, until she opened the topic for discussion. I also don't think your comparison works. No one expects men to be clean shaven and it hasn't been a societal norm. A man shaving their body isn't anything new, it happens all the time. Though I'm unable, at the moment, to come up with a comparison myself, however. Maybe when men get mani/pedis? Both sexes have fingers and toes (well most people do). And women generally take care of their's. Though it has become more common for men, some women feel it makes them less manly. But telling your significant other going for a mani/pedi makes him appear more feminine and you are less attractive to him because you find it not sexy I guess would compare.... kinda. 0 0points reply Load More Comments POST Dee on bikes Dee on bikes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Every time I hear women referred to as "females", I brace for a crappy opinion. 79 79points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago It seems to be the norm. Which is anoying because sometimes is useful to be able to talk about sex and not gender and "female" would be the word to use. But in colloquial conversations nowadays it means most of the time "i am a misogyn". (I know that AFAB exists but many people doesnt know what it is and it also doesnt work in other languages) 11 11points reply Load More Replies... Martha Meyer Martha Meyer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Female is an adjective. It gets weird when people use it as a proper noun for humans. Makes it sound like a mating ritual description in an animal documentary. "The female reacts to his advances." 12 12points reply I'mNotARoboat I'mNotARoboat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Martha Meyer: "Female is an adjective. It gets weird when people use it as a proper noun for humans. Makes it sound like a mating ritual description in an animal documentary. "The female reacts to his advances."" Absolutely! It makes the person saying it sound so stupid. especially because they are trying to sound smart/sophisticated. It also irks me when "woman" is used when it is more grammatically correct to use "female". Regardless of one's opinion of her politics, "first woman prime minister" has never been nor ever will be correct when people were talking about Margaret Thatcher. She was the first female PM of the UK, she was not the Prime Minister of Women. A more currently example of this egregious stupidity actually came from a writer/journalist last year writing about "women hunters" when they meant "female hunters". Women hunters hunt women FFS. (Also, side note: how does one create spaces between paragraphs in BP posts? I cannot for the life of me figure it out so I always end up with a wall of text.) 3 3points reply Marnie Marnie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I'mNotARobot: Yeah, I cringe every time I hear about tha organization, something like "Society of Women Scientists". How smart can they be if the actual title of their organization is not even made up of proper grammar? 2 2points reply Evelyn Haskins Evelyn Haskins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Female IS a noun, as is male. Feminine is the adjective. Please check your dictionary before posting. -8 -8points reply I'mNotARoboat I'mNotARoboat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Female/male are only used as nouns in terms of discussions in biology, such as "the female counterpart of a peacock is called a peahen". As for looking it up in a dictionary, female is both a noun (as per my first phrase) as well as being a synonymous adjective for feminine. 1 1point reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago That is correct but when you are talking about biology is the term used. You cannot talk about sex without using the word female (as in female human). Thats why i widh that those sexist idiots didnt destroy the word. 1 1point reply Evelyn Haskins Evelyn Haskins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Actually, IF you look in an English Dictionary female IS a noun, though it can also be used as an adjective. Ditto Male -3 -3points reply Martha Meyer Martha Meyer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Evelyn, it's teh other way around. It's an adjective and all adjectives can be turned into a noun. Doesn't mean that it sounds smart though. 0 0points reply Tina Hugh Tina Hugh Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Let's not make "female" a bad word. It's a good word, and the incels don’t get to change that 2 2points reply Aaricia Aaricia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Female isn't a bad word. Just people calling women female as if it's a noun is bad. 1 1point reply Marnie Marnie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago "Female" is an adjective, and "woman" is a noun. 0 0points reply Louise B Louise B Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This! For me, alarm bells start screaming when a man starts pontificating on 'females.' You just know it's gonna be bad. I really hate when they try to weasel out of it by saying it's just a way of identifying a woman. We all know the implications. 6 6points reply I'mNotARoboat I'mNotARoboat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Louise B "...by saying it's just a way of identifying a woman." Because we all know that the only word to identify women is the word "female" used in every possible instance lol I think I just realised that, in speaking the way they do, it's a way of sounding superior and keeping a distance while masking their actual fear of women. So fearful are they that they can't even say the word. 1 1point reply Frannie Kaplan Frannie Kaplan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago In some languages it's not weird. Femmine in italian is not that weird. 1 1point reply MagNat MagNat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago And somehow those people very rarely refer to men as "males". 0 0points reply Craig Reynolds Craig Reynolds Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Then you better brace for a lot more of that reference as it's now used for clarity since "woman/women" is no longer a clear-cut gender description. I expect to hear "male/males" being used in place of "man/men" for the same reason. 0 0points reply IeabellAlakar@aqueenofaplanet IeabellAlakar@aqueenofaplanet Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Point, that. 0 0points reply Heather G Heather G Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This may only serve to harden your opinion of this but the military uses the terms male and female instead of women and men. 0 0points reply Tina Hugh Tina Hugh Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Yeah. "Female" sounds perfectly fine to me and I'll even refer to myself as one. I don’t want "female" to come a dirty word. 'So f*****g sick of misogyny. 0 0points reply Autumn Autumn Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I use female and male sometimes….. I’m just weird like that though. 0 0points reply I'mNotARoboat I'mNotARoboat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Sometimes the grammar calls for female/male and sometimes the grammar calls for woman/man. "When I speak to women and men about the females and males of this species of beetle." "There have only been male presidents of the United States while Margaret Thatcher and Theresa May were both female Prime Ministers of the UK." 2 2points reply Evelyn Haskins Evelyn Haskins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Every time I hear human females called "women' I know I will get a crappy opinion. Please, ladies!!!! LOL!! -2 -2points reply Troux Troux Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago "You have the same hygiene practices as me? Eew, that's disgusting!" 74 74points reply Keith O Keith O Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago He was an asshole with how he handled it, but it's ok if he doesn't like it and it turns him off. Plain and simple. He could have been much nicer about it, but you like what you like and don't what you don't. Maybe they're just not compatible in this sense, and that's fine, but it is 100% ok for him to not be attracted to leg hair.... 41 41points reply Aliquid Aliquid Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago He is an idiot for saying it is "unhygienic". But saying it is a "turn off" is a perfectly valid opinion that he should have expressed more politely. 45 45points reply Load More Replies... Marco Conti Marco Conti Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I find this a pretty good commentary. We cannot control our tastes and they are shaped by the larger society, the way we were brought up and current norms. He can have whatever "taste" he wants or prefers. But the "hygiene" part? That's nuts. I have hairy legs. I am Italian, I am hairier than most. Never had an hygiene problem in that regard and I know enough about human anatomy to know that men and women share the same traits from the thighs down. 13 13points reply purple zebra purple zebra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. I really don’t think there was going to be any answer by him, no matter how polite, where this would end well. She was always going to post this online and that was always going to be the demise of their relationship -12 -12points reply Vicky Z Vicky Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I agree! It's a matter of personal taste and clearly people are allowed to be turned on and off with whatever they want ( as long as it's legal). The problematic is that he insulted her saying that she is gross and unhygienic which was also stupid statement 19 19points reply Marco Conti Marco Conti Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago No one is judging his taste in hairy legs. It's the whole tone of the comments that is weird. It displays an immature, unempathetic person that also has some strange ideas about "hygiene" and how it applies to men and women. Frankly, if a girlfriend displayed an equivalent lack of awareness, I would seriously reconsider my commitment to her. These weird attitudes don't exist in a vacuum and they are often a symptom of a larger issue that is often not a benign as "I don't like hairy legs in women". I also prefer a woman with shaved legs. Society must have left its mark on me, but I would never force my SO to shave if she didn't want to, and I would never use a cheap excuse as hygiene. We are Homo Sapiens Sapiens. Save for a few unique characteristics, such as reproductive organs, we are the same species and our hygiene standards are the same. 9 9points reply Celtic Pirate Queen Celtic Pirate Queen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Right? If she didn't want him to give her honest feedback, why the hell did she send him the photo in the first place? (Though he could have been a little more polite about it.) -1 -1point reply NotTodaySatan!! NotTodaySatan!! Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. But why does she get to tell him how he feels? I didn't think he was a jerk, I thought he was truthful. Like he said in their conversation, he had never mentioned it before, but she brought it up by sending the pic. She didn't get the reaction she anticipated from him and got mad about it. He is right in that he should be able to give an honest opinion to his girlfriend. Just because she didn't like the opinion doesn't make him a jerk. -4 -4points reply Mistiekim Mistiekim Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago But he didn’t just give his opinion. He basically was telling her there was something wrong with her and that she was gross and should be embarrassed. That’s a whole lot different than just saying it’s a turn off. Plus there is a bit of a future implication here - if they ended up married and with kids that kinda thing might be neglected for a bit do to being busy/exhausted. Would he make her feel horrible at that time too? 17 17points reply purple zebra purple zebra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Thank goodness they didn’t bring kids into this. Imagine them together some time from now with a sick kid. Kid throws up and neither parent helps or comforts the kid because Daddy is grossed out by the throw up and Mommy is too busy posting the video of the kid throwing up and then looking to see how many hits and likes her post has gotten. -7 -7points reply Ms.GB Ms.GB Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago He's not in the wrong for not being attracted to hairy legs but the way he went about it is the problem. He basically gaslit her by saying it's unhygienic for females unless he really believes that in which case he isn't very bright. He then went on to call her gross and tell he she should be embarrassed....gross and embarrassed for having something that literally everyone has. It would be like if I like my man clean shaven and he shows up with stubble.. am I going to tell him that his stubble is gross, ung and an embarrassment or am I going to tell him I prefer him clean shaven because stubble just isn't my cup of tea and the smoothness turns me on. There's just a certain way you communicate with people you care about especially when it comes to sensitive issues like physical appearance. 8 8points reply NotTodaySatan!! NotTodaySatan!! Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I definitely feel he could have said things better. But I didn't feel he was saying SHE was gross, but rather the hair was gross to him. If he felt she was gross he wouldn't have been with her and wouldn't have been tolerating it, saying nothing, until she opened the topic for discussion. I also don't think your comparison works. No one expects men to be clean shaven and it hasn't been a societal norm. A man shaving their body isn't anything new, it happens all the time. Though I'm unable, at the moment, to come up with a comparison myself, however. Maybe when men get mani/pedis? Both sexes have fingers and toes (well most people do). And women generally take care of their's. Though it has become more common for men, some women feel it makes them less manly. But telling your significant other going for a mani/pedi makes him appear more feminine and you are less attractive to him because you find it not sexy I guess would compare.... kinda. 0 0points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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