30 Idealized Behaviors That Are Actually Toxic Traits Pointed Out By TikTok Users
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Publish Not your original work? Add source Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone was acting inappropriate, but no one besides you didn’t seem to notice? And you didn’t say anything just because you felt as if it would just make everything worse? This TikTok user @nayaaford asked her followers to share what is something that people find normal or even idealised when it is an example of toxic behaviour. In her video that has 49.6k likes and almost 3.5k comments, she pointed out that one of the examples of toxic behaviour is wanting a “significant other” who is unfriendly and even mean to other people just because this would mean that they are not going to cheat. Image credits: jade: This post may include affiliate links. #1 Minimizing your own experience by saying “others have it way worse than you”. No. My feelings are valid regardless of how worse it could be. jenny_jen_gwen Report Final score: 270points POST Pezor Zass Pezor Zass Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago There's a balance here, though; you need to feel like your feelings are valid, but you also need perspective. too much either way is bad. 32 32points reply View More Replies... View more comments It encouraged more people to share their examples of toxic behaviour in the comment section: overprotected partners who end up being control freaks, covering early abuse signs with "if someone is mean to you, it means they like you", or blaming one's bad behaviours or lack of responsibility to their zodiac sign. This endless list shows some ridiculous as well as serious problems that society faces but not really takes into consideration, instead they are simply normalised. #2 Telling little girls "if hes being mean to you it means he likes you"... no.. just no im.just.lex Report Final score: 260points POST Marianne Marianne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Are there really people who do that? 47 47points reply View More Replies... View more comments #3 Giving men glory for doing all the normal things women do..ie: cleaning, cooking, caring for their own kids, grocery shopping, etc kaiti94 Report Final score: 257points POST kennedy1209 kennedy1209 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I realize I am in the minority here - But I actually hate that it is assumed that my wife does all of those things and gets all the glory, when I am the one who does them all. 103 103points reply View More Replies... View more comments The virality of the video and the number of comments of this TikTok video showed that people are actually aware of these toxic behaviours. But why then people get along with these situations? Most of them occur in the family and groups of friends. So not saying to your family member or a close friend that they are being unreasonable saves you from a fight that at first seems unnecessary because these people are close to you, so why would they want bad things for you? #4 People bragging that they are “brutally honest”. You can be honest without being Brutal. ifemathis Report Final score: 253points POST Thorfin Wolfsbane Thorfin Wolfsbane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago most of the time, they just want to be brutal. the honesty is just coincidental 129 129points reply View More Replies... View more comments #5 Don't come at me but moms who excessively drink wine to put up with their kids. you'll never convince me it's ok . stephaniesanders58 Report Final score: 247points POST ryn_edits ryn_edits Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago definitely. 58 58points reply View more comments #6 OCD. It's not trendy it's an illness. kirstenkay55 Report Final score: 243points POST -Stitch- -Stitch- Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Yea 37 37points reply View more comments Later all these saved fights turn little annoying behaviours into normalised habits: spitting something upsetting and then calling yourself "brutally honest", being abusive towards your son's/daughter's partner, or spreading toxic positivity when clearly this is not the way to solve an occurring problem. Do you also find some other things that people say or do to be toxic, or maybe you know an effective way on how to stop this kind of behaviour? Share your thoughts in the comments! #7 Giving money to homeless on YouTube. Toxic. You don't need other people to see you doing charitable things for it to be worth doing. chrislackey4 Report Final score: 217points POST Marianne Marianne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Also think about the people on the receiving end who probably don't want to be on some stranger's social media while they are in a bad place in their lives. 61 61points reply View More Replies... View more comments #8 Toxic positivity... let people feel carlina013 Report Final score: 207points POST Thorfin Wolfsbane Thorfin Wolfsbane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago people who are upbeat and positive all the time tend to irritate me 75 75points reply View More Replies... View more comments #9 They use their zodiac sign to justify their actions and anger issues. jessicag833 Report Final score: 205points POST Marianne Marianne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Who does that? I'm a Scorpio and I am so annoyed by all the negative prejudices. No, I am not a psychopath because I was born in November and I am certainly not going to make anyone believe that this is a thing. 67 67points reply View More Replies... View more comments #10 Adhd- just because you were late a few times and got distracted by your friends in class doesn't mean you have it. It's not fun and quirky. jinsglasses Report Final score: 194points POST Bird lover Bird lover Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago YES don't just self-diagnose because you daydream. Tell me once a professional diagnoses you bitch 57 57points reply View More Replies... View more comments #11 Being each other's “everything”. Nah y'all both need lives, family, and friends rmeezus Report Final score: 168points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago #Facts. Sure you want to spend time with each other but you also have lives outside of it. I don't mean to ignore your partner either btw. 36 36points reply View more comments #12 "Push yourself till it hurts” when it comes to work, school, physical activities. I don't get paid enough to go over my physical limits. gracipla Report Final score: 168points POST Katy Katy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago yeah, very dangerous trend... 32 32points reply View More Replies... View more comments #13 Treating trauma/traumatic events as a competition. melkylemon Report Final score: 165points POST -Stitch- -Stitch- Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Yea that sucks 30 30points reply View More Replies... View more comments #14 When the current gfs hate their boyfriends ex's for no other reason but the fact they dated him. toshaberry1 Report Final score: 163points POST Kateryna Kateryna Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Or exes who hate the current partner of their ex-partner for the same reason 49 49points reply View More Replies... View more comments #15 Mother in law's being abusive towards their son mates it's normal in so many cultures and it's NEVER OKAY kompletekunt Report Final score: 161points POST Ambar Ambar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago let me tell you, my mother is getting married to her boyfriend and he has met my grandmother and she is NOT abusive nor is my mom's boyfriend's mom abusive to her as far as I know. this needs to stop since it puts a bad name of MIL 25 25points reply View More Replies... View more comments #16 Men not taking care of their children because they have a new woman in their life forbiddengoddess222 Report Final score: 156points POST Esther (she/her) Esther (she/her) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Just bc it’s a kid doesn’t mean it’s less important 16 16points reply View More Replies... View more comments #17 The whole “respect your elders” where I agree, you should show respect but there is a lot of disrespectful elderly and people in general who don't idothisfor_fun Report Final score: 148points POST Marianne Marianne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I generally try to show respect to every person I meet until they give me reason to stop respecting them. 111 111points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective #18 But we got a baby together so we gotta stay together ladyv5055 Report Final score: 146points POST Marianne Marianne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Kids might prefer divorced parents to a home where fights and anger are a daily issue. 89 89points reply View More Replies... View more comments #19 Overprotective partners - your partner should trust your judgment enough to let you stand up for yourself or ask for their help when it's needed kimfarrell19 Report Final score: 136points POST A A Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Many romantic movies do this and it irritates me. So many creepy or abusive actions or traits are seen as romantic in movies because the love interest is physically attractive. Just stop.... 23 23points reply View More Replies... View more comments #20 Hustle culture for me. Would rather have a good paying 9-5 than 3 entrepreneural "hustles" tiffasar Report Final score: 129points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago "Hustle" has just become so overused and watered down. What they don't show you is 95% of those "hustlers" have financial support outside of the hustle. 49 49points reply View More Replies... View more comments #21 People romanticise "being crazy" in relationships. "Yeah she's so crazy, she deleted every girl off my Facebook, she's so crazy I love her though maddie_b_wraps Report Final score: 129points POST -Stitch- -Stitch- Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Wat. shes jelly then 29 29points reply View more comments #22 Friendzoning! setting boundaries in friendships should be okay. no one owes you getting into a relationship childofjupiter Report Final score: 129points POST anarkzie anarkzie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This one is weird. The Friend Zone just means that someone you like doesn't like you back, it will happen to every adult at some point in their life, it has nothing to do with being owed something. 35 35points reply View More Replies... View more comments #23 Going through your partners phone kaylaween Report Final score: 127points POST cookie panda cookie panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago this is actually rlly disrespectful and disgusting. m8, if they let you use their phone its bc they trust you. don't exploit that. 41 41points reply View More Replies... View more comments #24 Possessive partners izzleoml Report Final score: 118points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I am assuming they mean a partner that wants to know exactly what you're doing every second of the day and want you to be with them 24/7....I'm assuming. 23 23points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Overworked Employee Quits Because He Wasn't Getting A Fair Wage, Costs The Company $40 Million 40 Embarrassing Moments People Didn't Know Who They Were Talking To And Made A Fool Of Themselves #25 The ‘psycho' girlfriend. There's a difference between boundaries and control/abuse autumnrose_tv Report Final score: 116points POST Shafia Mallik Shafia Mallik Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago who else thought of "oh she's sweet but a psycho" 41 41points reply View More Replies... View more comments #26 The concept of forgiveness nowadays is just "oh yeah they hurt you and u prob have trauma u will deal with forever but just forgive and move on" um no berna.os Report Final score: 115points POST beavis beavis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Yeah like my ex friends beat me up ( I had bruises) I got horrible anxiety that they would stab me while I was outside bc my mum asked me to go to the store, after the weekend one of them ( didn't even apologise) asked if we could be friends again and I said no bc they beat me caused me pain and anxiety and made me scared to go outside 31 31points reply View More Replies... View more comments #27 When people talk about beating there kids or scaring there kids vr101_ Report Final score: 110points POST anarkzie anarkzie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I feel that this attitude has thankfully changed in the part of the world that I live in, it seems mad to me that someone would think that hitting a child is somehow okay. 20 20points reply View More Replies... View more comments #28 I don't know if this is toxic but people think that because two people have been together for years their relationship is perfect and healthy. i_dont_even_know104 Report Final score: 102points POST Ambar Ambar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago love can break down. it doesn't matter how long you have been together it matters if your love is still strong that can build up a relationship 22 22points reply View more comments #29 Any beauty standards liaisstoned Report Final score: 101points POST Marianne Marianne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Best way to improve your body image: Throw away any fashion magazines. Go to places where you see real people's bodies, e.g. public pools. (Saunas if you live in a place where this is a thing. Seeing naked strangers will show you that NO ONE has the perfect body.) 37 37points reply View More Replies... View more comments #30 Couples that take pride in being each other's only friends and spend ALL their time together. It's good to be separate from your partner sometimes vryan124 Report Final score: 98points POST Ambar Ambar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago spend some time with family, friends, or just alone time for yourself 24 24points reply View more comments Note: this post originally had 47 images. It’s been shortened to the top 30 images based on user votes. Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Add Your Answer! Not your original work? Add source Publish Change image Upload Photo Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Upload Upload Edit Image Error occurred when generating embed. Please check link and try again. Render conversation
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POST Murple Murple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Idk if this is toxic or not but when parents (typically dads) “joke” about how if the boyfriend stays over, the shotgun will be out or something like that. Or they’ll camp outside the boyfriends room so he can’t go anywhere. It just seems so immature and shows a complete disregard for the guys feelings. 27 27points reply juice juice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago it is toxic. not only does it shame and disregard the boyfriend, it asserts that the daughter "belongs" to the dad/parents. neither of those things are okay. 16 16points reply Load More Replies... M O'Connell M O'Connell Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I also feel like it is dismissive of the daughters judgement, like she lacks the capacity to make a decision about what the two of them do. 5 5points reply Anonymous Bunny Anonymous Bunny Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago when i was SIX my dad made me record a video saying that i wouldn't get a boyfriend until i'm 18. i'm just now realizing how messed up that is 3 3points reply Murple Murple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) That’s incredibly possessive and manipulative. Why do you need to RECORD YOUR SIX YEAR OLD saying how she won’t get a boyfriend until she’s 18. Especially because they probably dont even know what they are talking about... 2 2points reply Murple Murple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago https://twitter.com/thesarahyork/status/1376709684699099137 not my twitter, but I found a picture of this exact thing. Also wouldnt let me put the pic in the original comment. stopplayin...a756b8.jpg 1 1point reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My dad wasn't joking was the problem.... 0 0points reply Don't Look Don't Look Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. that's not toxic. that's the alpha male displaying his dominance. And it's rather nonsensical. don't let the boyfriend stay over. -12 -12points reply Oliver Parker Oliver Parker Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I really want to add something: they pretend to have depression because apparently its cool. It literally kills people. 15 15points reply juice juice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago mental illness seems to have become some sort of sick trend. now, i can't tell exactly where the line is, but i know you can feel depressed or anxious without having a depressive or anxiety disorder. i think for many people, the line is blurred. it's absolutely unfair to those who have an actual problem, and diminishes their struggles 10 10points reply Load More Replies... H Edwards H Edwards Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Counterpoint: I grew up at a time when mental health issues including depression were something to be hidden at all costs. I think that at least the more open environment that we have now is healthier. There will be some people who are performative and dishonest, but I think we are in a better place overall now than we were before. I credit anonymous internet forums like this for being a big part of the change, giving people the space they needed to speak and connect with others, realise that they are not alone. 3 3points reply Julie C Rose Julie C Rose Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Same, H Edwards. I’ve only just gone on medication for a mental health problem I’ve had since I was a kid, because of the “mental illness is just a character flaw” attitude people had even in the 90s. I feel like that old attitude has mutated into a lot of the “they’re just faking” rhetoric we’re seeing today because it’s becoming less socially acceptable to tell people to “just cheer up”, “just get a grip”, etc. Although some of it also comes from other mentally ill people who don’t grasp that different people cope in different ways and that just because Person A has a less severe version than Person B doesn’t mean Person A isn’t struggling. 1 1point reply Rose@143 Rose@143 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago the people who fake it are sort of mocking people who really do have disorders It's sickening 2 2points reply Miss Frankfurter Miss Frankfurter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Thank you 0 0points reply Phil Vaive Phil Vaive Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Gatekeeping mental illness should be on the toxic traits list. You don't get to decide who has a mental illness and who doesn't. You don't get to decide how people talk about it. For some, making it a joke takes its power away, and while this may see callous or like they're pretending to you, to them it could be one way of taking the power away from it. 4 4points reply juice juice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago oh. i didn't think about that. thank you, i'm going to re-evaluate my opinion 3 3points reply R L R L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) It appears to be prevalent in school-going children. They think it's cool, they are talked about, given empathy, and all of a sudden they are boarding the mental illness gravy train. Before they know it, they have convinced themselves that they do have some sort of depression, ADHD, bipolar etc, when the reality is that they are just...children, who then become selfish adults. It also makes it very hard to distinguish between the fakers and those who have a genuine problem, and who often don't get the right help. We speak about mental illness more widely now, that everyone perceives any tiny (normal) issue to a yawning crater of instability. 2 2points reply Draco Malfoy Draco Malfoy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Grown men acting perverted towards young girls or women. Saying things such as, "Make sure to save her for me!" as a joke. Sir, the only thing being saved for you is a cell in prison. 13 13points reply Load More Comments POST Murple Murple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Idk if this is toxic or not but when parents (typically dads) “joke” about how if the boyfriend stays over, the shotgun will be out or something like that. Or they’ll camp outside the boyfriends room so he can’t go anywhere. It just seems so immature and shows a complete disregard for the guys feelings. 27 27points reply juice juice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago it is toxic. not only does it shame and disregard the boyfriend, it asserts that the daughter "belongs" to the dad/parents. neither of those things are okay. 16 16points reply Load More Replies... M O'Connell M O'Connell Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I also feel like it is dismissive of the daughters judgement, like she lacks the capacity to make a decision about what the two of them do. 5 5points reply Anonymous Bunny Anonymous Bunny Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago when i was SIX my dad made me record a video saying that i wouldn't get a boyfriend until i'm 18. i'm just now realizing how messed up that is 3 3points reply Murple Murple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) That’s incredibly possessive and manipulative. Why do you need to RECORD YOUR SIX YEAR OLD saying how she won’t get a boyfriend until she’s 18. Especially because they probably dont even know what they are talking about... 2 2points reply Murple Murple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago https://twitter.com/thesarahyork/status/1376709684699099137 not my twitter, but I found a picture of this exact thing. Also wouldnt let me put the pic in the original comment. stopplayin...a756b8.jpg 1 1point reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My dad wasn't joking was the problem.... 0 0points reply Don't Look Don't Look Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. that's not toxic. that's the alpha male displaying his dominance. And it's rather nonsensical. don't let the boyfriend stay over. -12 -12points reply Oliver Parker Oliver Parker Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I really want to add something: they pretend to have depression because apparently its cool. It literally kills people. 15 15points reply juice juice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago mental illness seems to have become some sort of sick trend. now, i can't tell exactly where the line is, but i know you can feel depressed or anxious without having a depressive or anxiety disorder. i think for many people, the line is blurred. it's absolutely unfair to those who have an actual problem, and diminishes their struggles 10 10points reply Load More Replies... H Edwards H Edwards Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Counterpoint: I grew up at a time when mental health issues including depression were something to be hidden at all costs. I think that at least the more open environment that we have now is healthier. There will be some people who are performative and dishonest, but I think we are in a better place overall now than we were before. I credit anonymous internet forums like this for being a big part of the change, giving people the space they needed to speak and connect with others, realise that they are not alone. 3 3points reply Julie C Rose Julie C Rose Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Same, H Edwards. I’ve only just gone on medication for a mental health problem I’ve had since I was a kid, because of the “mental illness is just a character flaw” attitude people had even in the 90s. I feel like that old attitude has mutated into a lot of the “they’re just faking” rhetoric we’re seeing today because it’s becoming less socially acceptable to tell people to “just cheer up”, “just get a grip”, etc. Although some of it also comes from other mentally ill people who don’t grasp that different people cope in different ways and that just because Person A has a less severe version than Person B doesn’t mean Person A isn’t struggling. 1 1point reply Rose@143 Rose@143 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago the people who fake it are sort of mocking people who really do have disorders It's sickening 2 2points reply Miss Frankfurter Miss Frankfurter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Thank you 0 0points reply Phil Vaive Phil Vaive Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Gatekeeping mental illness should be on the toxic traits list. You don't get to decide who has a mental illness and who doesn't. You don't get to decide how people talk about it. For some, making it a joke takes its power away, and while this may see callous or like they're pretending to you, to them it could be one way of taking the power away from it. 4 4points reply juice juice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago oh. i didn't think about that. thank you, i'm going to re-evaluate my opinion 3 3points reply R L R L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) It appears to be prevalent in school-going children. They think it's cool, they are talked about, given empathy, and all of a sudden they are boarding the mental illness gravy train. Before they know it, they have convinced themselves that they do have some sort of depression, ADHD, bipolar etc, when the reality is that they are just...children, who then become selfish adults. It also makes it very hard to distinguish between the fakers and those who have a genuine problem, and who often don't get the right help. We speak about mental illness more widely now, that everyone perceives any tiny (normal) issue to a yawning crater of instability. 2 2points reply Draco Malfoy Draco Malfoy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Grown men acting perverted towards young girls or women. Saying things such as, "Make sure to save her for me!" as a joke. Sir, the only thing being saved for you is a cell in prison. 13 13points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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30 Idealized Behaviors That Are Actually Toxic Traits Pointed Out By TikTok Users
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Publish Not your original work? Add source Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone was acting inappropriate, but no one besides you didn’t seem to notice? And you didn’t say anything just because you felt as if it would just make everything worse? This TikTok user @nayaaford asked her followers to share what is something that people find normal or even idealised when it is an example of toxic behaviour. In her video that has 49.6k likes and almost 3.5k comments, she pointed out that one of the examples of toxic behaviour is wanting a “significant other” who is unfriendly and even mean to other people just because this would mean that they are not going to cheat. Image credits: jade: This post may include affiliate links. #1 Minimizing your own experience by saying “others have it way worse than you”. No. My feelings are valid regardless of how worse it could be. jenny_jen_gwen Report Final score: 270points POST Pezor Zass Pezor Zass Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago There's a balance here, though; you need to feel like your feelings are valid, but you also need perspective. too much either way is bad. 32 32points reply View More Replies... View more comments It encouraged more people to share their examples of toxic behaviour in the comment section: overprotected partners who end up being control freaks, covering early abuse signs with "if someone is mean to you, it means they like you", or blaming one's bad behaviours or lack of responsibility to their zodiac sign. This endless list shows some ridiculous as well as serious problems that society faces but not really takes into consideration, instead they are simply normalised. #2 Telling little girls "if hes being mean to you it means he likes you"... no.. just no im.just.lex Report Final score: 260points POST Marianne Marianne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Are there really people who do that? 47 47points reply View More Replies... View more comments #3 Giving men glory for doing all the normal things women do..ie: cleaning, cooking, caring for their own kids, grocery shopping, etc kaiti94 Report Final score: 257points POST kennedy1209 kennedy1209 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I realize I am in the minority here - But I actually hate that it is assumed that my wife does all of those things and gets all the glory, when I am the one who does them all. 103 103points reply View More Replies... View more comments The virality of the video and the number of comments of this TikTok video showed that people are actually aware of these toxic behaviours. But why then people get along with these situations? Most of them occur in the family and groups of friends. So not saying to your family member or a close friend that they are being unreasonable saves you from a fight that at first seems unnecessary because these people are close to you, so why would they want bad things for you? #4 People bragging that they are “brutally honest”. You can be honest without being Brutal. ifemathis Report Final score: 253points POST Thorfin Wolfsbane Thorfin Wolfsbane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago most of the time, they just want to be brutal. the honesty is just coincidental 129 129points reply View More Replies... View more comments #5 Don't come at me but moms who excessively drink wine to put up with their kids. you'll never convince me it's ok . stephaniesanders58 Report Final score: 247points POST ryn_edits ryn_edits Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago definitely. 58 58points reply View more comments #6 OCD. It's not trendy it's an illness. kirstenkay55 Report Final score: 243points POST -Stitch- -Stitch- Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Yea 37 37points reply View more comments Later all these saved fights turn little annoying behaviours into normalised habits: spitting something upsetting and then calling yourself "brutally honest", being abusive towards your son's/daughter's partner, or spreading toxic positivity when clearly this is not the way to solve an occurring problem. Do you also find some other things that people say or do to be toxic, or maybe you know an effective way on how to stop this kind of behaviour? Share your thoughts in the comments! #7 Giving money to homeless on YouTube. Toxic. You don't need other people to see you doing charitable things for it to be worth doing. chrislackey4 Report Final score: 217points POST Marianne Marianne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Also think about the people on the receiving end who probably don't want to be on some stranger's social media while they are in a bad place in their lives. 61 61points reply View More Replies... View more comments #8 Toxic positivity... let people feel carlina013 Report Final score: 207points POST Thorfin Wolfsbane Thorfin Wolfsbane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago people who are upbeat and positive all the time tend to irritate me 75 75points reply View More Replies... View more comments #9 They use their zodiac sign to justify their actions and anger issues. jessicag833 Report Final score: 205points POST Marianne Marianne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Who does that? I'm a Scorpio and I am so annoyed by all the negative prejudices. No, I am not a psychopath because I was born in November and I am certainly not going to make anyone believe that this is a thing. 67 67points reply View More Replies... View more comments #10 Adhd- just because you were late a few times and got distracted by your friends in class doesn't mean you have it. It's not fun and quirky. jinsglasses Report Final score: 194points POST Bird lover Bird lover Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago YES don't just self-diagnose because you daydream. Tell me once a professional diagnoses you bitch 57 57points reply View More Replies... View more comments #11 Being each other's “everything”. Nah y'all both need lives, family, and friends rmeezus Report Final score: 168points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago #Facts. Sure you want to spend time with each other but you also have lives outside of it. I don't mean to ignore your partner either btw. 36 36points reply View more comments #12 "Push yourself till it hurts” when it comes to work, school, physical activities. I don't get paid enough to go over my physical limits. gracipla Report Final score: 168points POST Katy Katy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago yeah, very dangerous trend... 32 32points reply View More Replies... View more comments #13 Treating trauma/traumatic events as a competition. melkylemon Report Final score: 165points POST -Stitch- -Stitch- Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Yea that sucks 30 30points reply View More Replies... View more comments #14 When the current gfs hate their boyfriends ex's for no other reason but the fact they dated him. toshaberry1 Report Final score: 163points POST Kateryna Kateryna Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Or exes who hate the current partner of their ex-partner for the same reason 49 49points reply View More Replies... View more comments #15 Mother in law's being abusive towards their son mates it's normal in so many cultures and it's NEVER OKAY kompletekunt Report Final score: 161points POST Ambar Ambar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago let me tell you, my mother is getting married to her boyfriend and he has met my grandmother and she is NOT abusive nor is my mom's boyfriend's mom abusive to her as far as I know. this needs to stop since it puts a bad name of MIL 25 25points reply View More Replies... View more comments #16 Men not taking care of their children because they have a new woman in their life forbiddengoddess222 Report Final score: 156points POST Esther (she/her) Esther (she/her) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Just bc it’s a kid doesn’t mean it’s less important 16 16points reply View More Replies... View more comments #17 The whole “respect your elders” where I agree, you should show respect but there is a lot of disrespectful elderly and people in general who don't idothisfor_fun Report Final score: 148points POST Marianne Marianne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I generally try to show respect to every person I meet until they give me reason to stop respecting them. 111 111points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective #18 But we got a baby together so we gotta stay together ladyv5055 Report Final score: 146points POST Marianne Marianne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Kids might prefer divorced parents to a home where fights and anger are a daily issue. 89 89points reply View More Replies... View more comments #19 Overprotective partners - your partner should trust your judgment enough to let you stand up for yourself or ask for their help when it's needed kimfarrell19 Report Final score: 136points POST A A Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Many romantic movies do this and it irritates me. So many creepy or abusive actions or traits are seen as romantic in movies because the love interest is physically attractive. Just stop.... 23 23points reply View More Replies... View more comments #20 Hustle culture for me. Would rather have a good paying 9-5 than 3 entrepreneural "hustles" tiffasar Report Final score: 129points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago "Hustle" has just become so overused and watered down. What they don't show you is 95% of those "hustlers" have financial support outside of the hustle. 49 49points reply View More Replies... View more comments #21 People romanticise "being crazy" in relationships. "Yeah she's so crazy, she deleted every girl off my Facebook, she's so crazy I love her though maddie_b_wraps Report Final score: 129points POST -Stitch- -Stitch- Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Wat. shes jelly then 29 29points reply View more comments #22 Friendzoning! setting boundaries in friendships should be okay. no one owes you getting into a relationship childofjupiter Report Final score: 129points POST anarkzie anarkzie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This one is weird. The Friend Zone just means that someone you like doesn't like you back, it will happen to every adult at some point in their life, it has nothing to do with being owed something. 35 35points reply View More Replies... View more comments #23 Going through your partners phone kaylaween Report Final score: 127points POST cookie panda cookie panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago this is actually rlly disrespectful and disgusting. m8, if they let you use their phone its bc they trust you. don't exploit that. 41 41points reply View More Replies... View more comments #24 Possessive partners izzleoml Report Final score: 118points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I am assuming they mean a partner that wants to know exactly what you're doing every second of the day and want you to be with them 24/7....I'm assuming. 23 23points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Overworked Employee Quits Because He Wasn't Getting A Fair Wage, Costs The Company $40 Million 40 Embarrassing Moments People Didn't Know Who They Were Talking To And Made A Fool Of Themselves #25 The ‘psycho' girlfriend. There's a difference between boundaries and control/abuse autumnrose_tv Report Final score: 116points POST Shafia Mallik Shafia Mallik Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago who else thought of "oh she's sweet but a psycho" 41 41points reply View More Replies... View more comments #26 The concept of forgiveness nowadays is just "oh yeah they hurt you and u prob have trauma u will deal with forever but just forgive and move on" um no berna.os Report Final score: 115points POST beavis beavis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Yeah like my ex friends beat me up ( I had bruises) I got horrible anxiety that they would stab me while I was outside bc my mum asked me to go to the store, after the weekend one of them ( didn't even apologise) asked if we could be friends again and I said no bc they beat me caused me pain and anxiety and made me scared to go outside 31 31points reply View More Replies... View more comments #27 When people talk about beating there kids or scaring there kids vr101_ Report Final score: 110points POST anarkzie anarkzie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I feel that this attitude has thankfully changed in the part of the world that I live in, it seems mad to me that someone would think that hitting a child is somehow okay. 20 20points reply View More Replies... View more comments #28 I don't know if this is toxic but people think that because two people have been together for years their relationship is perfect and healthy. i_dont_even_know104 Report Final score: 102points POST Ambar Ambar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago love can break down. it doesn't matter how long you have been together it matters if your love is still strong that can build up a relationship 22 22points reply View more comments #29 Any beauty standards liaisstoned Report Final score: 101points POST Marianne Marianne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Best way to improve your body image: Throw away any fashion magazines. Go to places where you see real people's bodies, e.g. public pools. (Saunas if you live in a place where this is a thing. Seeing naked strangers will show you that NO ONE has the perfect body.) 37 37points reply View More Replies... View more comments #30 Couples that take pride in being each other's only friends and spend ALL their time together. It's good to be separate from your partner sometimes vryan124 Report Final score: 98points POST Ambar Ambar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago spend some time with family, friends, or just alone time for yourself 24 24points reply View more comments Note: this post originally had 47 images. It’s been shortened to the top 30 images based on user votes. Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Add Your Answer! Not your original work? Add source Publish Change image Upload Photo Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Upload Upload Edit Image Error occurred when generating embed. Please check link and try again. Render conversation
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POST Murple Murple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Idk if this is toxic or not but when parents (typically dads) “joke” about how if the boyfriend stays over, the shotgun will be out or something like that. Or they’ll camp outside the boyfriends room so he can’t go anywhere. It just seems so immature and shows a complete disregard for the guys feelings. 27 27points reply juice juice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago it is toxic. not only does it shame and disregard the boyfriend, it asserts that the daughter "belongs" to the dad/parents. neither of those things are okay. 16 16points reply Load More Replies... M O'Connell M O'Connell Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I also feel like it is dismissive of the daughters judgement, like she lacks the capacity to make a decision about what the two of them do. 5 5points reply Anonymous Bunny Anonymous Bunny Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago when i was SIX my dad made me record a video saying that i wouldn't get a boyfriend until i'm 18. i'm just now realizing how messed up that is 3 3points reply Murple Murple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) That’s incredibly possessive and manipulative. Why do you need to RECORD YOUR SIX YEAR OLD saying how she won’t get a boyfriend until she’s 18. Especially because they probably dont even know what they are talking about... 2 2points reply Murple Murple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago https://twitter.com/thesarahyork/status/1376709684699099137 not my twitter, but I found a picture of this exact thing. Also wouldnt let me put the pic in the original comment. stopplayin...a756b8.jpg 1 1point reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My dad wasn't joking was the problem.... 0 0points reply Don't Look Don't Look Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. that's not toxic. that's the alpha male displaying his dominance. And it's rather nonsensical. don't let the boyfriend stay over. -12 -12points reply Oliver Parker Oliver Parker Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I really want to add something: they pretend to have depression because apparently its cool. It literally kills people. 15 15points reply juice juice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago mental illness seems to have become some sort of sick trend. now, i can't tell exactly where the line is, but i know you can feel depressed or anxious without having a depressive or anxiety disorder. i think for many people, the line is blurred. it's absolutely unfair to those who have an actual problem, and diminishes their struggles 10 10points reply Load More Replies... H Edwards H Edwards Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Counterpoint: I grew up at a time when mental health issues including depression were something to be hidden at all costs. I think that at least the more open environment that we have now is healthier. There will be some people who are performative and dishonest, but I think we are in a better place overall now than we were before. I credit anonymous internet forums like this for being a big part of the change, giving people the space they needed to speak and connect with others, realise that they are not alone. 3 3points reply Julie C Rose Julie C Rose Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Same, H Edwards. I’ve only just gone on medication for a mental health problem I’ve had since I was a kid, because of the “mental illness is just a character flaw” attitude people had even in the 90s. I feel like that old attitude has mutated into a lot of the “they’re just faking” rhetoric we’re seeing today because it’s becoming less socially acceptable to tell people to “just cheer up”, “just get a grip”, etc. Although some of it also comes from other mentally ill people who don’t grasp that different people cope in different ways and that just because Person A has a less severe version than Person B doesn’t mean Person A isn’t struggling. 1 1point reply Rose@143 Rose@143 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago the people who fake it are sort of mocking people who really do have disorders It's sickening 2 2points reply Miss Frankfurter Miss Frankfurter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Thank you 0 0points reply Phil Vaive Phil Vaive Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Gatekeeping mental illness should be on the toxic traits list. You don't get to decide who has a mental illness and who doesn't. You don't get to decide how people talk about it. For some, making it a joke takes its power away, and while this may see callous or like they're pretending to you, to them it could be one way of taking the power away from it. 4 4points reply juice juice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago oh. i didn't think about that. thank you, i'm going to re-evaluate my opinion 3 3points reply R L R L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) It appears to be prevalent in school-going children. They think it's cool, they are talked about, given empathy, and all of a sudden they are boarding the mental illness gravy train. Before they know it, they have convinced themselves that they do have some sort of depression, ADHD, bipolar etc, when the reality is that they are just...children, who then become selfish adults. It also makes it very hard to distinguish between the fakers and those who have a genuine problem, and who often don't get the right help. We speak about mental illness more widely now, that everyone perceives any tiny (normal) issue to a yawning crater of instability. 2 2points reply Draco Malfoy Draco Malfoy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Grown men acting perverted towards young girls or women. Saying things such as, "Make sure to save her for me!" as a joke. Sir, the only thing being saved for you is a cell in prison. 13 13points reply Load More Comments POST Murple Murple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Idk if this is toxic or not but when parents (typically dads) “joke” about how if the boyfriend stays over, the shotgun will be out or something like that. Or they’ll camp outside the boyfriends room so he can’t go anywhere. It just seems so immature and shows a complete disregard for the guys feelings. 27 27points reply juice juice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago it is toxic. not only does it shame and disregard the boyfriend, it asserts that the daughter "belongs" to the dad/parents. neither of those things are okay. 16 16points reply Load More Replies... M O'Connell M O'Connell Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I also feel like it is dismissive of the daughters judgement, like she lacks the capacity to make a decision about what the two of them do. 5 5points reply Anonymous Bunny Anonymous Bunny Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago when i was SIX my dad made me record a video saying that i wouldn't get a boyfriend until i'm 18. i'm just now realizing how messed up that is 3 3points reply Murple Murple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) That’s incredibly possessive and manipulative. Why do you need to RECORD YOUR SIX YEAR OLD saying how she won’t get a boyfriend until she’s 18. Especially because they probably dont even know what they are talking about... 2 2points reply Murple Murple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago https://twitter.com/thesarahyork/status/1376709684699099137 not my twitter, but I found a picture of this exact thing. Also wouldnt let me put the pic in the original comment. stopplayin...a756b8.jpg 1 1point reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My dad wasn't joking was the problem.... 0 0points reply Don't Look Don't Look Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. that's not toxic. that's the alpha male displaying his dominance. And it's rather nonsensical. don't let the boyfriend stay over. -12 -12points reply Oliver Parker Oliver Parker Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I really want to add something: they pretend to have depression because apparently its cool. It literally kills people. 15 15points reply juice juice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago mental illness seems to have become some sort of sick trend. now, i can't tell exactly where the line is, but i know you can feel depressed or anxious without having a depressive or anxiety disorder. i think for many people, the line is blurred. it's absolutely unfair to those who have an actual problem, and diminishes their struggles 10 10points reply Load More Replies... H Edwards H Edwards Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Counterpoint: I grew up at a time when mental health issues including depression were something to be hidden at all costs. I think that at least the more open environment that we have now is healthier. There will be some people who are performative and dishonest, but I think we are in a better place overall now than we were before. I credit anonymous internet forums like this for being a big part of the change, giving people the space they needed to speak and connect with others, realise that they are not alone. 3 3points reply Julie C Rose Julie C Rose Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Same, H Edwards. I’ve only just gone on medication for a mental health problem I’ve had since I was a kid, because of the “mental illness is just a character flaw” attitude people had even in the 90s. I feel like that old attitude has mutated into a lot of the “they’re just faking” rhetoric we’re seeing today because it’s becoming less socially acceptable to tell people to “just cheer up”, “just get a grip”, etc. Although some of it also comes from other mentally ill people who don’t grasp that different people cope in different ways and that just because Person A has a less severe version than Person B doesn’t mean Person A isn’t struggling. 1 1point reply Rose@143 Rose@143 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago the people who fake it are sort of mocking people who really do have disorders It's sickening 2 2points reply Miss Frankfurter Miss Frankfurter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Thank you 0 0points reply Phil Vaive Phil Vaive Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Gatekeeping mental illness should be on the toxic traits list. You don't get to decide who has a mental illness and who doesn't. You don't get to decide how people talk about it. For some, making it a joke takes its power away, and while this may see callous or like they're pretending to you, to them it could be one way of taking the power away from it. 4 4points reply juice juice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago oh. i didn't think about that. thank you, i'm going to re-evaluate my opinion 3 3points reply R L R L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) It appears to be prevalent in school-going children. They think it's cool, they are talked about, given empathy, and all of a sudden they are boarding the mental illness gravy train. Before they know it, they have convinced themselves that they do have some sort of depression, ADHD, bipolar etc, when the reality is that they are just...children, who then become selfish adults. It also makes it very hard to distinguish between the fakers and those who have a genuine problem, and who often don't get the right help. We speak about mental illness more widely now, that everyone perceives any tiny (normal) issue to a yawning crater of instability. 2 2points reply Draco Malfoy Draco Malfoy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Grown men acting perverted towards young girls or women. Saying things such as, "Make sure to save her for me!" as a joke. Sir, the only thing being saved for you is a cell in prison. 13 13points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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