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Man Walks Out Of Meal Over Sister-In-Law s Racist Remark About His Cooking Which Leads To Huge Family Divide

Robertas Lisickis
BoredPanda staff Don't mess with chefs. Not only because they are in direct contact with your food and you are effectively risking ingesting something that they may or may not meddle with, but also because they have a pointy kitchen utensil in their hand. But no, this isn't about that-no food poisoning or kitchen cutlery were used in the making of this story. This is a story that started with a question of am I wrong for calling my sister in law a racist after she compared my cooking to "making kung pao chicken"? and it ended in a literal family feud. More Info: Reddit

You don t mess with the cook You just don t Or else you end up in a family feud

Image credits: kelly Reddit user u/throwaway23235982353 recently went to r/AmITheA-hole to ask if he was wrong to call his sister-in-law a racist after she compared his cooking to making kung pao chicken. In context, it sounds much worse, so let's break it down. Throwaway is a professional chef and was preparing food for the family. Now, his wife's sister was also a chef, and a bit of a braggart who'd often criticize him when it comes to food. No matter what he did, he'd always hear some iteration of "you should actually do X like this…" or other forms of relentless critique. He tried to be patient for the greater good, but patience wore thin one day.

This Reddit user ended up starting a literal war in his family for not putting up with his sister-in-law s bullpies

Image credits: u/throwaway23235982353 He was getting some food done, and at one point the sister-in-law spouted out yet another one of her comments, effectively saying he was doing it wrong. Not wanting to take it anymore, he asked her to stop criticizing his cooking-he's a chef, after all-to which she replied "making Kung Pao chicken at some Chinese restaurant doesn't count." Following a short dead silence and a very brief "what's wrong with you" exchange, Throwaway left. This also sparked a huge fight between multiple family members, with the extended family somehow finding out about this. Image credits: u/throwaway23235982353 Despite all of this, Throwaway's wife begged him to apologize, seemingly for the greater good, but he refused and that's where his question arose: was he wrong here? Image credits: u/throwaway23235982353 Well, it gets better. The Reddit user provided some updates on what happened later as it was happening. His sister-in-law got into trouble at work and blamed Throwaway for it. Why? A coworker heard her rant about this incident and reported it to management. Oh wait, there's more. Wife's cousin found this Reddit post and shared it on the sister-in-law's Facebook wall, asking if this was her and many of her friends starting to shame her. OH WAIT, there's more! At this point, Throwaway was considering that this might have gotten a bit out of hand, and now was the time to maybe remove the post. Well, the father-in-law butted in, pouring more gas into the fire that is this family feud, in response to which the Reddit user decided to keep the post up. Image credits: u/throwaway23235982353 OH WAIT. The fourth, biggest, and last update. Wife gets a call from the sister, who continues to be racist and blames her husband for getting demoted at work (cause everyone there knew about her at this point), to which the wife responded with some more swears and was now fully on Throwaway's side. The mother-in-law also had some beef with the father after she found out about his little comment to Throwaway, which led to even more screaming. And lastly, that post on Facebook effectively became a verbal war zone. All in all, the whole family as well as extended family and friends are now at each other's throats, which the Reddit user referred to as "nuclear" in terms of its size and scope, also sharing a GIF of James Norrington from the Pirates of the Caribbean calmly walking as his ship turns to rubble in the most violent way. A perfect depiction of what's going on in Throwaway's family right now.

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Image credits: Walt Disney Pictures Anywho, the story was very well received by the AITA community, garnering nearly 39,000 upvotes and receiving a whopping 580+ Reddit awards in just two days' time. Needless to say, the AITA democratic community ruled that he's not the bad guy here, far from it. You're welcome to read through all of the comments that succeeded the post here, but before you go, let us know your thoughts on this in the comment section below! Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Robertas Lisickis Follow Unfollow Robertas Lisickis Author, BoredPanda staff Robertas, nicknamed the Comma Inquisitor by friends, is a Bored Panda writer and content creator. After his studies at LCC International University, where he got a BA in English Language and Literature, Robertas went on to do freelance teaching, translation, and copywriting work, primarily specializing in IT. 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I think someone here let her "French cuisine" dreams distort her reality. SIL was out of line. Not her kitchen, not her cooking, NOT HER PLACE. That's basic COURTESY in any kitchen. She'd make a rotten head chef if she can't handle how anyone else does anything, anyway, IMHO. 186 186points reply cassiushumanmother cassiushumanmother Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago And as a french i would probably laugh out loud at what she think is "french cuisine". I love french cuisine but oh dear god of food, i love a lot of cuisine around the world and i'm eager to try everything. Every cook deserve respect, even if it's not really good (except Sarah the racist) and every cuisine deserve respect too, there is a strong history and culture behind every meal. 116 116points reply Load More Replies... Ueda Ueda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I was thinking exactement the same. I'd probably laught at her so-called French cuisine. 1 1point reply Wistiti Wistiti Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I was snickering for the same reasons! 1 1point reply James DeBorde James DeBorde Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I agree with your statement with the exception of your remark (except Sarah the racist) based on you premis it would make you racist . -3 -3points reply N G N G Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I've just reread this (after getting lost down the Reddit rabbit hole), and nowhere do I see SIL actually *helping* in the kitchen, just offering criticism. So now I'm thinking a) "French cuisine" is too upscale for a family home meal, but a "Chinese takeaway" (her attitude, not her words) is just fine; or b) she's actually not a very good cook, having blustered her way into her position and doesn't want to have her skills directly compared with an actually *good* chef. This is on top of her just being a horrible imitation of a human being. 18 18points reply Dave P Dave P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I mean look at the French, they literally colonized parts of Asia and integrated elements into their own cuisine. The fanciest asian resturaunt I ate at was in Paris (a Chinese/Vietnamese fancy resturaunt) that people I knew in Paris recommended (no menu's in English, had to get me the one English Speaking waiter so I could understand the menu. This was not a tourist place), and it was amazing. The French respect other Cuisines it seems and enjoy it. Just look at all the North African they added into their own. 15 15points reply lakitha tolbert lakitha tolbert Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It turns out she actually can handle other people's cooking, she was just using his cooking as an excuse to be racist to him. She actually is a racist ,and she used the cooking to criticize him in ways she couldn't get away with, if she just came out and called him a racial slur. Later she revealed her true colors by using the slur. 3 3points reply Bill Wyrebek Bill Wyrebek Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You are correct. Sarah is the type of person you catch smelling her hands after leaving the bathroom. 0 0points reply Nothanks L. Walk Nothanks L. Walk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Courtesy? IN A KITCHEN? You must be new. Gordon Ramsay isn't some deranged angry man. He's the LOW end of normal for that industry. 0 0points reply Black Karen Black Karen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Its called "white supremacy" 0 0points reply Yvette C. Marple Yvette C. Marple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment has been deleted. -2 -2points reply Steve Steve Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago If SIL can't take the heat, she shouldn't order the Mongolian Beef -3 -3points reply Grumble O'Pug Grumble O'Pug Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Let's face it, it's some of the hardest cooking there is. No offense Julia, but girl, anyone can make a fawking sauce. -6 -6points reply Steve Steve Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. If he worked at Panda Express, she'd have a point -7 -7points reply John Brown John Brown Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Hello, He was in the right at first but by putting it on the internet and getting his SIL demoted and shamed etc. he put himself in the wrong. Has he never done anything wrong? If he did not like her then don't invite his SIL over and don't go to her house His SIL being an a-hole is not a criminal offense. Did she ever cause him to be demoted at work ruining his career? I am sure he would not his family members to air his dirty laundry, his career to be ruined. I am sure what goes around will come around, (everyone has secrets there are no perfect human gods) he wil get his as well and he and his entire family both sides and he will be the losers. He is a loser!. What a mistake his wife made marrying him. -8 -8points reply Easily Excitable Panda Easily Excitable Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It's the SIL and FIL who divided the family, not the OP. 158 158points reply Joe Reaves Joe Reaves Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Exactly. That headline pissed me off. He didnt cause anything, unintentionally or not. SIL caused the split and FIL is making it worse. Not putting up with being insulted is not causing a split. Being a racist asshole is. And he had NOTHING to do with her being demoted. She chose to rant about it where co-workers could hear and they chose to report her. She just doesn't like the fact that there are apparently consequences for being a shitty person and a shitty sister. 67 67points reply Load More Replies... Easily Excitable Panda Easily Excitable Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Oh, no! Consequences! Amazing what people think they're "owed." And yes, the headline pissed me off, too! 11 11points reply danielw danielw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I think maybe, the... escalation... that happened from the post being found was the 'accident'. He didn't seem to intend for it to get back, (which is frequent with Am I the Asshole posts.) I any case... yeah, definitely not his fault. 1 1point reply Nat Hedley Nat Hedley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago (edited) Exactly; knocking some render off a building to reveal a cracked wall doesn't mean you're the one that cracked it. 0 0points reply John Brown John Brown Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Hello, He was in the right at first but by putting it on the internet and getting his SIL demoted and shamed etc. he put himself in the wrong. Has he never done anything wrong? If he did not like her then don't invite his SIL over and don't go to her house His SIL being an a-hole is not a criminal offense. Did she ever cause him to be demoted at work ruining his career? I am sure he would not want his family members to air his dirty laundry, his career to be ruined. I am sure what goes around will come around, (everyone has secrets there are no perfect human gods) he wil get his as well and he and his entire family both sides and he will be the losers. He is a loser!. What a mistake his wife made marrying him. -6 -6points reply Ceredwyn Ealanta Ceredwyn Ealanta Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Also, props to the MIL - presumably decades of marriage and she's still gonna go with what's right and support her son in law. That can't be easy at all. 3 3points reply K Witmer K Witmer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Yep and he was right. They are racist and tried to keep it secret. Never question your intuition 3 3points reply lakitha tolbert lakitha tolbert Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Exactly! He did nothing wrong. He stood his ground and refused to be racially bullied by this person. The consequences are on her and her alone. He should continue to stand his ground. As a woc there is no way in hell I would put up with being treated in such a blatantly racist manner without saying or doing something about. He did fine! Now the ball is in their court, and let them sort out their relationships after this. 2 2points reply Owiella Freddie Owiella Freddie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Except you only read ONE side of the story. Let’s hear what Sarah has to say before making accusations. -4 -4points reply Manuela Martins Manuela Martins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago If this is not the perfect example of the "Butterfly effect", I don't know what is. Just for completion: Your wife should have been in your corner from the very beginning; asking you to apologize while her sister is constantly belittling you is just not acceptable. So, big A**hole trophy goes to your SIL, but a tiny bit of that also goes to your wife. 92 92points reply Jaded Queen Jaded Queen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Can't say I don't agree. But family affairs r not black & white. Sil maybe a racist bitch but if she has a relationship with the wife it's not easy to detangle that f**k. Nothing is black & white. It's like a divorce, kids will always get f****d. 44 44points reply Load More Replies... Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Maybe they need to get all this pent up stuff out, then let the dust settle, and work with what’s left. The truth will always set you free. And we can’t force harmony. 4 4points reply ChinmayGhule ChinmayGhule Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Or maybe not. The kids still have their youth in the future while the parents grow old. If they don't have a good relationship with the kids, they might die alone. 0 0points reply boredpanDaman boredpanDaman Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. dont say "black n white", thats racist -22 -22points reply Wouldiwas Shookspeared Wouldiwas Shookspeared Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Or maybe they’re just opposite colors???? Not everyone lives in America where y’all are racist af 6 6points reply Bear42212 Bear42212 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Everyone in America isn't racist. 1 1point reply Misty Tree Misty Tree Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Daman was probably making a (bad) joke. "Oh, you say everything's racist. Now I'm gonna say so, too." 1 1point reply elStiJneriNO elStiJneriNO Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) i don't think it's a perfect example of "butterfly effect" the actions and reactions are all quite related and could have been predicted. 2 2points reply John Brown John Brown Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. He was in the right at first but by putting it on the internet and getting his SIL demoted and shamed etc. he put himself in the wrong. Has he never done anything wrong? If he did not like her then don't invite his SIL over and don't go to her house His SIL being an a-hole is not a criminal offence. Did she ever cause him to be demoted at work ruining his career? I am sure he would not his family members to air his dirty laundry, his career to be ruined. I am sure what goes around will come around, (everyone has secrets there are no perfect human gods) he will get his as well and he and his entire family both sides and he will be the losers. He is a loser!. What a mistake his wife made marrying him. The SIL was going to win the a-hole trophy but he took the prize by escalating out of all reason making him the racist. They don't do this kind of thing to family in Chinese culture. They keep it private He did it because his SIL is not Chinese. As if Chinese or any race can't be racist. -6 -6points reply A Henry A Henry Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Reading comprehension is clearly not your strong suit. He didn’t do anything to get her demoted. She did that to herself with her behavior. 1 1point reply Load More Comments POST Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Since when is Asian cooking not "real" cooking? I think someone here let her "French cuisine" dreams distort her reality. SIL was out of line. Not her kitchen, not her cooking, NOT HER PLACE. That's basic COURTESY in any kitchen. She'd make a rotten head chef if she can't handle how anyone else does anything, anyway, IMHO. 186 186points reply cassiushumanmother cassiushumanmother Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago And as a french i would probably laugh out loud at what she think is "french cuisine". I love french cuisine but oh dear god of food, i love a lot of cuisine around the world and i'm eager to try everything. Every cook deserve respect, even if it's not really good (except Sarah the racist) and every cuisine deserve respect too, there is a strong history and culture behind every meal. 116 116points reply Load More Replies... Ueda Ueda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I was thinking exactement the same. I'd probably laught at her so-called French cuisine. 1 1point reply Wistiti Wistiti Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I was snickering for the same reasons! 1 1point reply James DeBorde James DeBorde Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I agree with your statement with the exception of your remark (except Sarah the racist) based on you premis it would make you racist . -3 -3points reply N G N G Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I've just reread this (after getting lost down the Reddit rabbit hole), and nowhere do I see SIL actually *helping* in the kitchen, just offering criticism. So now I'm thinking a) "French cuisine" is too upscale for a family home meal, but a "Chinese takeaway" (her attitude, not her words) is just fine; or b) she's actually not a very good cook, having blustered her way into her position and doesn't want to have her skills directly compared with an actually *good* chef. This is on top of her just being a horrible imitation of a human being. 18 18points reply Dave P Dave P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I mean look at the French, they literally colonized parts of Asia and integrated elements into their own cuisine. The fanciest asian resturaunt I ate at was in Paris (a Chinese/Vietnamese fancy resturaunt) that people I knew in Paris recommended (no menu's in English, had to get me the one English Speaking waiter so I could understand the menu. This was not a tourist place), and it was amazing. The French respect other Cuisines it seems and enjoy it. Just look at all the North African they added into their own. 15 15points reply lakitha tolbert lakitha tolbert Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It turns out she actually can handle other people's cooking, she was just using his cooking as an excuse to be racist to him. She actually is a racist ,and she used the cooking to criticize him in ways she couldn't get away with, if she just came out and called him a racial slur. Later she revealed her true colors by using the slur. 3 3points reply Bill Wyrebek Bill Wyrebek Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You are correct. Sarah is the type of person you catch smelling her hands after leaving the bathroom. 0 0points reply Nothanks L. Walk Nothanks L. Walk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Courtesy? IN A KITCHEN? You must be new. Gordon Ramsay isn't some deranged angry man. He's the LOW end of normal for that industry. 0 0points reply Black Karen Black Karen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Its called "white supremacy" 0 0points reply Yvette C. Marple Yvette C. Marple Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment has been deleted. -2 -2points reply Steve Steve Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago If SIL can't take the heat, she shouldn't order the Mongolian Beef -3 -3points reply Grumble O'Pug Grumble O'Pug Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Let's face it, it's some of the hardest cooking there is. No offense Julia, but girl, anyone can make a fawking sauce. -6 -6points reply Steve Steve Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. If he worked at Panda Express, she'd have a point -7 -7points reply John Brown John Brown Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Hello, He was in the right at first but by putting it on the internet and getting his SIL demoted and shamed etc. he put himself in the wrong. Has he never done anything wrong? If he did not like her then don't invite his SIL over and don't go to her house His SIL being an a-hole is not a criminal offense. Did she ever cause him to be demoted at work ruining his career? I am sure he would not his family members to air his dirty laundry, his career to be ruined. I am sure what goes around will come around, (everyone has secrets there are no perfect human gods) he wil get his as well and he and his entire family both sides and he will be the losers. He is a loser!. What a mistake his wife made marrying him. -8 -8points reply Easily Excitable Panda Easily Excitable Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It's the SIL and FIL who divided the family, not the OP. 158 158points reply Joe Reaves Joe Reaves Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Exactly. That headline pissed me off. He didnt cause anything, unintentionally or not. SIL caused the split and FIL is making it worse. Not putting up with being insulted is not causing a split. Being a racist asshole is. And he had NOTHING to do with her being demoted. She chose to rant about it where co-workers could hear and they chose to report her. She just doesn't like the fact that there are apparently consequences for being a shitty person and a shitty sister. 67 67points reply Load More Replies... Easily Excitable Panda Easily Excitable Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Oh, no! Consequences! Amazing what people think they're "owed." And yes, the headline pissed me off, too! 11 11points reply danielw danielw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I think maybe, the... escalation... that happened from the post being found was the 'accident'. He didn't seem to intend for it to get back, (which is frequent with Am I the Asshole posts.) I any case... yeah, definitely not his fault. 1 1point reply Nat Hedley Nat Hedley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago (edited) Exactly; knocking some render off a building to reveal a cracked wall doesn't mean you're the one that cracked it. 0 0points reply John Brown John Brown Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Hello, He was in the right at first but by putting it on the internet and getting his SIL demoted and shamed etc. he put himself in the wrong. Has he never done anything wrong? If he did not like her then don't invite his SIL over and don't go to her house His SIL being an a-hole is not a criminal offense. Did she ever cause him to be demoted at work ruining his career? I am sure he would not want his family members to air his dirty laundry, his career to be ruined. I am sure what goes around will come around, (everyone has secrets there are no perfect human gods) he wil get his as well and he and his entire family both sides and he will be the losers. He is a loser!. What a mistake his wife made marrying him. -6 -6points reply Ceredwyn Ealanta Ceredwyn Ealanta Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Also, props to the MIL - presumably decades of marriage and she's still gonna go with what's right and support her son in law. That can't be easy at all. 3 3points reply K Witmer K Witmer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Yep and he was right. They are racist and tried to keep it secret. Never question your intuition 3 3points reply lakitha tolbert lakitha tolbert Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Exactly! He did nothing wrong. He stood his ground and refused to be racially bullied by this person. The consequences are on her and her alone. He should continue to stand his ground. As a woc there is no way in hell I would put up with being treated in such a blatantly racist manner without saying or doing something about. He did fine! Now the ball is in their court, and let them sort out their relationships after this. 2 2points reply Owiella Freddie Owiella Freddie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Except you only read ONE side of the story. Let’s hear what Sarah has to say before making accusations. -4 -4points reply Manuela Martins Manuela Martins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago If this is not the perfect example of the "Butterfly effect", I don't know what is. Just for completion: Your wife should have been in your corner from the very beginning; asking you to apologize while her sister is constantly belittling you is just not acceptable. So, big A**hole trophy goes to your SIL, but a tiny bit of that also goes to your wife. 92 92points reply Jaded Queen Jaded Queen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Can't say I don't agree. But family affairs r not black & white. Sil maybe a racist bitch but if she has a relationship with the wife it's not easy to detangle that f**k. Nothing is black & white. It's like a divorce, kids will always get f****d. 44 44points reply Load More Replies... Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Maybe they need to get all this pent up stuff out, then let the dust settle, and work with what’s left. The truth will always set you free. And we can’t force harmony. 4 4points reply ChinmayGhule ChinmayGhule Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Or maybe not. The kids still have their youth in the future while the parents grow old. If they don't have a good relationship with the kids, they might die alone. 0 0points reply boredpanDaman boredpanDaman Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. dont say "black n white", thats racist -22 -22points reply Wouldiwas Shookspeared Wouldiwas Shookspeared Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Or maybe they’re just opposite colors???? Not everyone lives in America where y’all are racist af 6 6points reply Bear42212 Bear42212 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Everyone in America isn't racist. 1 1point reply Misty Tree Misty Tree Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Daman was probably making a (bad) joke. "Oh, you say everything's racist. Now I'm gonna say so, too." 1 1point reply elStiJneriNO elStiJneriNO Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) i don't think it's a perfect example of "butterfly effect" the actions and reactions are all quite related and could have been predicted. 2 2points reply John Brown John Brown Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. He was in the right at first but by putting it on the internet and getting his SIL demoted and shamed etc. he put himself in the wrong. Has he never done anything wrong? If he did not like her then don't invite his SIL over and don't go to her house His SIL being an a-hole is not a criminal offence. Did she ever cause him to be demoted at work ruining his career? I am sure he would not his family members to air his dirty laundry, his career to be ruined. I am sure what goes around will come around, (everyone has secrets there are no perfect human gods) he will get his as well and he and his entire family both sides and he will be the losers. He is a loser!. What a mistake his wife made marrying him. The SIL was going to win the a-hole trophy but he took the prize by escalating out of all reason making him the racist. They don't do this kind of thing to family in Chinese culture. They keep it private He did it because his SIL is not Chinese. As if Chinese or any race can't be racist. -6 -6points reply A Henry A Henry Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Reading comprehension is clearly not your strong suit. 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