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User Of This Online Group Asked Others What Is Something Subtle People Say That Is A Red Flag To You And Here Are The 50 Best Answers

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BoredPanda staff Publish Not your original work? Add source It takes some time to get to know another person. And it's not only about what they do and what they like, but also how they interact with you and others. Some small, insignificant comments or remarks can actually have a hidden meaning and reveal that someone you know does not necessarily have good intentions. Throughout time, by getting to know others better and by gaining experience, people start to see signs of others being manipulative or inconsiderate. Having this in mind, Reddit user u/neilnelly asked people "What is something subtle people say that is a red flag to you?" This gave a green light for other users to share what they find annoying and alarming about other people's behavior, from people complimenting others just to achieve personal gain to imposing their own views on others when it's unwanted. Here is the list of 55 things people say to trick you into something that should be taken into account as these are some major red flags. What are other obvious signs you know that people use to trick or deceive others? Leave your thoughts in the comments down below! More Info: Reddit This post may include affiliate links. #1 I used to go to the bar after work with coworkers. One of the managers didn't go, but a coworker kept encouraging him to come out and party. He relented and said he'd come out for one drink. At the bar, he took a sip and said "ah, I haven't had a beer in 5 months". No one else took notice of that, but it struck me. He was gone a week later after coming into work drunk and doing something inappropriate.

To anyone reading this: If someone doesn't want to drink, accept no for an answer. They might have a very good reason to say no, and pressing them on it, especially when well intentioned, might make it much harder for them to say no. BelowDeck , Lou Stejskal Report Final score: 451points POST Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Yes! accept a NO RIGHT AWAY! In any case! Would you like something to eat? No, thanks. OK! Would you like to join? No, thanks! OK! etc. So many potential triggers that people are desperate to steer clear of. 125 125points reply View More Replies... View more comments #2 Idk if this is one, but when people say things like “I can say and do whatever I want” “it’s a free country. Ever hear of freedom of speech?” in order to justify s****y things they say or do. Like sure, you have the right to speak your mind, but people also have the right to judge you for what you say. 87319496 , prisca schmarsow Report Final score: 354points POST JennyLaRue JennyLaRue Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago They forget that Freedom of Speech works in both directions of an opinion 131 131points reply View More Replies... View more comments #3 Don't be so sensitive (or something to that effect). Big warning sign that they A- don't care about your feelings, and B- can't take responsibility for their behaviour Heart_in_her_eye , micadew Report Final score: 326points POST R Carson R Carson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Basically-don't be you. 30 30points reply View more comments #4 It was just a joke. Where's your sense of humor? chuchimumi , Aina Vidal Report Final score: 317points POST Katie Lutesinger Katie Lutesinger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Schroedinger's Douchebag: The person who says something cruel and nasty, then decides whether it was "just a joke" based on the reaction they get. 187 187points reply View More Replies... View more comments #5 “Ok fine I’m sorry happy?” That’s not an apology. Celq124 , Alan Levine Report Final score: 310points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago That's like saying, "I'm sorry for being a jerk but...." 59 59points reply View More Replies... View more comments #6 Anything that exposes poor morals. For example, "I'll just say I never got it so they send me another one."

When people show you who they really are, believe them. Love this quote. emik7133 , Tracey Adams Report Final score: 267points POST R Carson R Carson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Me too. 24 24points reply View more comments #7 I'm not racist but thiosk , zoetnet Report Final score: 262points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You're definitely 100% racist. Lol 65 65points reply View More Replies... View more comments #8 “I’m brutally honest” or some other excuse to be an unbearable person. mywifemademegetthis , Pedro Ribeiro Simões Report Final score: 254points POST JennyLaRue JennyLaRue Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Anyone can be brutally honest, but everyone else has probably worked out that people don't respond well to the lack of tact, sensitivity and empathy, so it doesn't bode well for the long term if you're just rolling round making people feel s**t about themselves. 56 56points reply View More Replies... View more comments #9 Treating service staff poorly, then turning around and being disingenuous. Ariandrin , Terinea IT Support Report Final score: 254points POST Abhinc Abhinc Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago yes !!! the way people treat waiters/ waitresses or cashiers says a lot about who they really are deep inside 69 69points reply View More Replies... View more comments #10 If they wronged you and say something like, "I'm such a terrible person, you should leave me." It's them trying to force sympathy on them instead of genuinely apologizing to you. They're not going to change if you stay. AnonyMissBliss , Alexey Dushutin Report Final score: 239points POST Nay Wilson Nay Wilson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago my mother used to say this to me, leaving me feeling like i had no choice but to reply with 'no you're not, you're a good person' (FYI, she wasnt a good person, she was narcissistic and abusive) 78 78points reply View More Replies... View more comments #11 I personally move away from people who constantly one up someone's story or experience Classic-Daikon-5448 , Pedro Ribeiro Simões Report Final score: 222points POST Lauren Caswell Lauren Caswell Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Again putting this out there: some ppl genuinely have learned that sharing a common experience with someone is a good way to make social bonds. I only recently learned just how many people do not seem to feel this way. I already knew to rein in it and only share experiences sometimes, but I don't ever do it as oneupsmanship. I'm finding myself less sure nowadays about ever doing it at all, which sucks because it is one of my learned strategies and I don't have a big arsenal to choose from 98 98points reply View More Replies... View more comments #12 I’m a guy but anytime I hear other guys say “friend zone” or “girls only date a**holes” or anything that sounds incel/misogynistic, I’m not going to be too fond of the person OW2000 , Nick Gray Report Final score: 209points POST Aliquid A Aliquid A Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My response "if girls only date a**holes, why are you always single?" 119 119points reply View More Replies... View more comments #13 Positive vibes only! gfitzy7 , Glen Bledsoe Report Final score: 207points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Well sorry Susan, I had a rough week. 90 90points reply View More Replies... View more comments #14 “I try to be more like my kids’ friend than their mom.” holyurushiol , Leonid Mamchenkov Report Final score: 205points POST Viviane Viviane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Sometimes, you have to risk being hated by your kids to raise them into functioning adults. It sucks, it's hard, but being liked all the time should not be the primary goal of raising them. 101 101points reply View More Replies... View more comments #15 “Yeah, but YOU don’t act black.”

The f**k? cherenkov_light , Johnny Silvercloud Report Final score: 204points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago How is someone supposed to act an ethnicity/race. Don't give in to stereotypes. 78 78points reply View More Replies... View more comments #16 Making rude comments about homeless ppl and being rude to waitstaff LittleLulu333 , Carl Graph Report Final score: 204points POST Anthony Mann Anthony Mann Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Those people almost always feel like that could NEVER happen to them. It's always a failing of the waiter/homeless person's (morality/religion/class/race - take your pick) in their eyes, and only that reason. 33 33points reply View more comments #17 Non-apologies.

“I’m sorry you got offended by what I said.” SelfDiagnosedUnicorn , Guian Bolisay Report Final score: 197points POST K. Lange K. Lange Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago i learned this phrase while working for a callcenter. Because you shouldn*t apologize for what happened (for reasons of liability) but apologize for the feelings the caller has, so that he feels heard. 40 40points reply View More Replies... View more comments #18 If you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best. paperclip1213 , Robbert van der Steeg Report Final score: 194points POST Grant Barke Grant Barke Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This one is the reddest of red flags. 70 70points reply View More Replies... View more comments #19 "Sorry I did this and that, It's just my inner zodiac sign."

Like, your zodiac sign doesn't define you, you're just being a s****y person and using that phrase as a cover up. Tiredchopsticks , Peter Corbett Report Final score: 186points POST Carmen Sandiego Carmen Sandiego Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Oh sooo sorry, I can't help it, I'm an asparagus! 108 108points reply View More Replies... View more comments #20 When people talk s**t on their spouses. Like even in the most subtle way it’s still not appropriate small talk. If it’s my best friend and she’s telling me about a hardship or a fight, different. But when I’m meeting you for the first time I shouldn’t be able to pick up that you dislike your spouse/SO. Unhappy-Addendum-759 , irisgazer Report Final score: 174points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It's like getting married but complaining about having to get married...we know deep down you're not joking. 38 38points reply View more comments #21 When they disagree with someone, they default to attacking the person's character instead of their actions. We all do this from time to time, but with some people it's every time. The guy who messed up their order is "an idiot". Their boss is "an evil sociopath". The person on Facebook who expressed a political view that opposes theirs is "a degenerate". That new intern at work is "hopeless". In the end, the final result is that anyone they disagree with for any reason is either an inherently bad person who doesn't really merit listening to. Celestaria , Frederick Dennstedt Report Final score: 172points POST R Carson R Carson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Free speech has consequences-it would be nice to agree to disagree without personal attacks. 30 30points reply View More Replies... View more comments #22 “I’m a nice guy” …. Sure you are. Why you gotta justify to me just show it. littlecassowary , Andrij Bulba Report Final score: 172points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago If you're a nice guy you don't need to keep reminding people. Your actions will show it. 69 69points reply View More Replies... View more comments #23 When they are the victim in all of their stories.

I had a colleague who didn't really have any friends outside of work. All of her stories were about how each of her friends had stabbed her in the back at one time or another. She went travelling to Australia with 6 girls and left early because they didn't want to do the things she wanted. It was glaringly obvious that she was the issue but still tried to play the sweet victim.

There is another girl from my high school who has gained quite a few followers on social media through sharing her stories of being bullied in school for being bald. No one can remember that ever happening, she was quite popular but had lost touch with her group as you do when you move away for college. Also, she was never bald.

Red flags when people enjoy pity. POded99 , David Stanley Report Final score: 167points POST DarkAngelNic DarkAngelNic Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago "Also, she was never bald." How can someone make a blatant lie and think no one is going to know? So freakin' weird. 31 31points reply View More Replies... View more comments #24 Maybe this is nitpicky but people who give nicknames or use a shortened version of your name without asking if you mind it. It's annoyed me my whole life and always seems to correlate with them not respecting more serious boundaries later on. Jazz_Brain , Sascha Kohlmann Report Final score: 151points POST Lisa Shaw Lisa Shaw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This one bothers me too, has done since I was a child, I always use the name the person introduced themselves with, if they say David, I call them David, I never presume to call them Dave unless they specifically say "I go by Dave". 61 61points reply View More Replies... View more comments #25 But you're so good at it. Aka I'll compliment you in the hope that you'll take this task off my hands. amelie_v , Jessie Pearl Report Final score: 137points POST Leodavinci Leodavinci Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Worse yet is a family member (looking at spouse) who "volunteers" you to other family members or friends to "help" with something because you have some amount of knowledge/experience with it. No... just no. I don't want the responsibility if something goes wrong or doesn't work. 43 43points reply View More Replies... View more comments #26 “I just tell it like it is…”

Is a red flag for me personally. AnarchistWhiskey , Matus Laslofi Report Final score: 137points POST Connie Martin Connie Martin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Absolutely, red flag 19 19points reply View more comments #27 If they compliment themselves often but rarely or never others, for me that's an obvious narcissistic trait. newtypehero , Myllena Azevedo Report Final score: 136points POST R Carson R Carson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Run! 25 25points reply View more comments #28 When they try to fish compliments. For example they say: ‘why am I so ugly?’ theDiscreetLurker , ErWin Report Final score: 131points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My reply..."Idk, genetics probably." 109 109points reply View More Replies... View more comments #29 “Well then I guess I’ll never do / buy / say / ask anything / (normal okay thing that isn’t actually the problem) ever again.” eternal_dancer Report Final score: 126points POST Weronika Kasperska Weronika Kasperska Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It’s such a toddler’s behaviour, but my husband sometimes doing this. Like when he have his night out, suppose to back Early and instead he Come home in the morning. And when I confront with him it’s allways 'FINE! So I will never go anywhere again!'. Like... dude, I don’t care, you can stay home forever, That’s not my point 7 7points reply View More Replies... View more comments #30 “I’m an empath” makes me want to get in my car and drive ten hours in the opposite direction while shoving wool in my ears.

My last roommate called herself an empath. Turned out to be a 30 year old emotionally abusive a** who let her dog s**t in our apartment. Empath my a** aards , Tom Woodward Report Final score: 115points POST Lisa Shaw Lisa Shaw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I do find people use this term too freely, without actually knowing what it means, true empaths are on the rare side, however according to some social media pages they're averaging about 50% of the population. A true empath does not need to tell you, you will notice it in their personality and actions. 57 57points reply View More Replies... View more comments #31 “I’m not (blank) but...(insert statement that affirms they are what they’re claiming not to be) stokeszdude , Lachlan Hardy Report Final score: 111points POST Katie Lutesinger Katie Lutesinger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago A close cousin of "No offence, but... [offensive remark]" 62 62points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective #32 Pretty much anytime somebody says something about themself when it's not prompted or necessary.

Like "I'm an honest person", "I'm a hard worker", or "I'd never hit a woman". jrhawk42 , Didriks Report Final score: 106points POST Anthony Mann Anthony Mann Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago A lot of the time, they are trying to plant that thought in your head, in case you hear the opposite from someone else. It's a 'preemptive' denial of something they think you will likely hear about. 23 23points reply View more comments #33 my s/o wont let me do so & so beamergirl_66 , Gilles FRANCOIS Report Final score: 104points POST R Carson R Carson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago If you need permission-something's wrong. 54 54points reply View More Replies... View more comments #34 Asking what music you listen to, then immediately critiquing it, especially when you like main stream stuff. (I guess this applies to stuff other than music but that’s what annoys me the most) keeper-of-calves , laura betancourt Report Final score: 104points POST Viviane Viviane Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) One way to handle different tastes is to say, "I'm more into __. What's the appeal for you? What do you like about it?" The answers might turn out to be very interesting. If not, you've at least been courteous and avoided pissing off the other person. 28 28points reply View more comments #35 “That’s just the way God made me,” as an excuse for being a b***h or d**k. Like it’s just their personally and they can’t help it so we should all just accept it. slfraire , Eric Chan Report Final score: 102points POST Abhinc Abhinc Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago yeah sure !! unless you're 4 you ARE responsible for who you are / what you do or say. if you're wrong or if you hurt people or behave poorly just take your responsibilities apologize and try to improve yourself. no discussion !! stop being a childish dishonest coward 23 23points reply View More Replies... View more comments #36 Anyone who tries to convince you that you can trust them.

"Come on man, you can trust me. I'd never do that to you."

People who are actually trust worthy don't need to convince anyone of anything and they also know that real trust isn't freely given to people you barely know and are not offended when they are not given it. Oblique9043 Report Final score: 101points POST Kathryn Baylis Kathryn Baylis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Trust, like respect, is earned. It’s not up to you to say you’re trustworthy; it’s up to others to consider you trustworthy based in your past trustworthiness. And you have to keep on proving your trustworthiness too. 2 2points reply View more comments #37 When someone says "they're my karma child" and implies their child makes their life so hard it must be payback for a mistake they made in the past. I usually discover this person has intense mental health or substance use history. It's a s****y way of mentioning their disdain for their kid. thesensiblething , Tour The Triad Report Final score: 88points POST Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago ..maybe ask what their child could have done wrong to deserve them as their parent. Their proverbial karma isn't a one way street. 46 46points reply View more comments #38 "With all due respect."

I know a guy who says this so frequently that when he says it, I brace myself for the s**t to follow. newenglandredshirt , Cydcor Report Final score: 82points POST Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago "If I'm honest" followed by their opinion du jour. 25 25points reply View More Replies... View more comments #39 “I know what I’m worth.” Especially in a romantic setting, OLD or first date type stuff. It’s good to have a strong sense of self but I’ve found when this exact phrase is stated/listed something ain’t right. serene_brutality Report Final score: 79points POST Nikki Sevven Nikki Sevven Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You're not a commodity; you're a human being. 23 23points reply View More Replies... View more comments #40 Less a direct statement and more of a behavior, but I find myself becoming less able to hang out with the people I know who seem to have no respect for any type of input I have on a subject, despite me trying to always at least entertain what they're saying for the purpose of the discussion, even if it's absurd.

I'll have something to add, and they'll seem to not even hear what I've said, either ignoring it all together or immediately dismissing it as incorrect, sometimes even using the same arguments I just said in explaining why what I just said is nonsense.

And on the occasion that I actually decide to go through the effort of defending my stance, they usually end it with some dismissive statement like "well that's your opinion". Yes, that is my opinion, and considering the fact that I have been sitting here listening to and showing respect towards, even if not always supporting, your opinion, I think would justify me in asking for the same basic respect.

This turned into a rant, and I'm sorry about that. To put it shortly, I guess I'd say when a person seems to have a lot of difficulty with you disagreeing with them, and never seems to even pretend they are giving your position any real thought beyond "no, you're wrong because..." Then I'd say they aren't your friend, and you should consider no longer trying to be theirs. MountainGloat Report Final score: 78points POST Jennifer Gould Jennifer Gould Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It is so frustrating to try to reason with someone who is so one sided. I find some people are just set in their ways and think they are always right. It makes friendship very difficult. I just avoid people who are so negative and like to argue. Being selective about who you interact with can be so helpful! 17 17points reply View More Replies... View more comments #41 Recently had someone tell me "I hate being accused of lying." I'm sure we can all guess what he keeps getting caught doing... InBtwixt , Simply CVR Report Final score: 76points POST Helen Haley Helen Haley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I get so nervous when being questioned about anything I look like I'm lying even if I'm telling the truth. Been that way forever. 18 18points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Overworked Employee Quits Because He Wasn't Getting A Fair Wage, Costs The Company $40 Million 40 Embarrassing Moments People Didn't Know Who They Were Talking To And Made A Fool Of Themselves #42 "I'm always open to debate."

I find most people that say that are open to lecture you, and closed to debate. StringVar Report Final score: 76points POST Jennifer Gould Jennifer Gould Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I love that....Open to lecture you, and closed to debate! Perfectly put! 25 25points reply View more comments #43 When I started my new job the bubbliest girl who was loved by most of the staff and was also a HR manager would act like this when me and her were totally alone.

She would whisper ever so softly (to herself but to me) "you get no thanks around here, no one cares. You just wait and watch the knives stabbing when you least expect it". This is something she did on my first DAY!! I said to her everyone seems lovely and accepting and she said "well wait until you get to know them".

This was a HR MANAGER!!

Edit I've just realised this isn't very subtle

Also Edit! Seems like alot of people see this girls actions as good. I don't, this was my first day and I really believe if people start talking about others they're setting the tone for YOU to perceive the person they are gossiping about, it made me nervous, your first day is bad enough. I was there for 7 months and not one person showed any signs of being a backstabber. Not one! Nothing even remotely shady. Little_Hobbitt , Dan Taylor-Watt Report Final score: 68points POST Leodavinci Leodavinci Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago As an HR manager, she probably heard stuff you never would. 40 40points reply View More Replies... View more comments #44 Try to say, "It could have been worse" (Or something to that affect) everytime they make a mistake. "Yeah, it could have been worse, but you still wrecked my car Rachel" UrasnoFlake2 Report Final score: 67points POST Leodavinci Leodavinci Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Many of these "red flags" are beginning to sound more like personally specific issues. 12 12points reply View More Replies... View more comments #45 "Can't you just do it?" instead of wanting to learn something. mmm-pistol-whip Report Final score: 65points POST Abhinc Abhinc Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago depends ... don't totally agree on this one. sometimes it's just telling your S/O i'm too tired to do it please help me. 13 13points reply View More Replies... View more comments #46 Starting an argument for no reason and then not having the capacity to resolve it. blippityblop , Iryna Yeroshko Report Final score: 64points POST TimesNewLogan TimesNewLogan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago So... 90% of the internet? 40 40points reply View More Replies... View more comments #47 Referring to women as "females". ChibiRedgrave Report Final score: 61points POST Leodavinci Leodavinci Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Do you also object to referring to men as "males"? 23 23points reply View More Replies... View more comments #48 Never asking a question. My husband realized his father never does this and now I can’t stop listening for this. foofoofoobears , Quinn Dombrowski Report Final score: 60points POST Dodo Dodo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I don't really ask questions, because I'm socially awkward and don't know what's considered acceptable/unacceptable to ask 35 35points reply View More Replies... View more comments #49 You'll know I like you when I make fun of every single thing you do maliciously.

Like wth tsoro , Brieuc Saffré Report Final score: 60points POST denzoren denzoren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I think people use this in the whole "best friends who insult each other" way to make it seem okay but it's a completely different thing to do it maliciously. 17 17points reply View More Replies... View more comments #50 Someone who frequently, in response to you telling them about a bad or inconvenient thing that happened to you, start with "Well what you SHOULD have done..." or "What I would have done..." and then argue with your reasonings for not finding their solution helpful. These people tend to be very opinionated and stubborn, even in situations they don't really know anything about. This is especially true if paired with a tendency to always win/have bad losing habits, are generally immature, or have a history of just not knowing what they're talking about but just want to assert themselves in the conversation anyways

Edit: To those who do this to a fault, it's a completely normal behavior! Sometimes it's hard to not begin searching for solutions to a loved one's problem. However it's different when you do it excessively, or to the point of making the other person feel stressed or incompetent. I'm mostly talking about this when it's accompanied by other red flags but can be a standalone depending on frequency/social context solaris_eclipse Report Final score: 58points POST Dodo Dodo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I understand this one. If I try something and it goes wrong, my mother is always there to tell me what I *should* have done instead. Even though my way was valid, she automatically assumes her way is better. 18 18points reply View More Replies... View more comments Note: this post originally had 55 images. It’s been shortened to the top 50 images based on user votes. Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Add Your Answer! Not your original work? Add source Publish Change image Upload Photo Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Upload Upload Edit Image Error occurred when generating embed. Please check link and try again. Render conversation
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