20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them
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Publish Not your original work? Add source Nowhere on this earth do you expect to feel as safe as in the doctor's office. It's where we come at our most vulnerable, looking for genuine help and understanding. But according to some women on TikTok, this is not always what you find there and they're now sharing the most inappropriate things they were told by a doctor. The trend started when one TikToker, @kristamackenziee, shared an incident during her skin checkup. "He was an older man and I was intimidated by him," the woman recounted and proceeded to talk about taking her shirt off to show him the affected area. At this point, the doctor dropped a comment that left her speechless and made her feel super uncomfortable. Turns out, she was not the only one having experienced a disturbing comment from a medical professional. So let's see what other women have shared in response to @kristamackenziee's question "What is the most unprofessional thing a doctor has ever said to you?" @kristamackenziee Creepy AF!! Mom gave him shit afterwards. ##doctor ##psoriasis ##foryoupage ##fyp ##follow ##foryou ♬ original sound - Krista This post may include affiliate links. #1 I was 15 when I was raped. I didn't tell nobody but I still went to go get checked with a doctor for std's/sti's but they didn't know that. While they were swabbing me down there I started to cry cause it hurt and I was scared. And the doctor said "don't cry now you're the one who decided to open your legs at 15" justsad258 , loilamtan Report Final score: 319points POST K Witmer K Witmer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Jesus Christ this is what misogyny does to people. They knew better and didn't care 230 230points reply View More Replies... View more comments Bored Panda reached out to Krista Wiseman, a social media content creator and mom of three girls sharing her journey through motherhood with her Instagram, TikTok and YouTube followers. Krista was also the TikToker who got women sharing the most inappropriate things they were told at the doctor's office after she posted this viral video. "It is very unfortunate, but I think some doctors feel they are 'above' their patients because of their title and their education," Krista told Bored Panda. "Maybe they feel they can get away with more because of that, or they feel they are entitled to speak their mind because they have worked hard to get to where they are." The author also said that "obviously this isn't true for all doctors, but I've had many bad experiences myself and so have the women who came forward on TikTok!" #2 My husband and I had a miscarriage within the first year we were together. I was bleeding so we went to the ER. They were like 'there's nothing wrong with you'. I went to the bathroom and ended up birthing our baby in the toilet. I ring the emergency bell. They come in. And they look... they flush the baby down the toilet. I, in shock, walk out to my husband. He says 'what just happened?'. And I', like 'the doctor just flushed out baby down the toilet'. He [the doctor] came in and said 'Well what else were we supposed to do, it was already dead'. ogpeelar , Jonathan Borba Report Final score: 244points POST Hilary Mol Hilary Mol Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Tell me there's a lawsuit. 261 261points reply View More Replies... View more comments #3 So I had to start seeing a brand new doctor because I was having a bunch of issues with my skin. Turns out it was psoriasis, but we had no idea what was going on. So I got referred to this new doctor. He was an older man and I was a little bit intimidated by him at first. So the appointment starts and he's asking me all kinds of questions and then he asks to see the rash. And one of the issues I was having was in my armpit. So I was trying to show him like through my shirt. And it was kind of hard to show the whole thing. So I was like, oh, should I just take off my shirt? And this man sits back in his chair and says, yes, excite me. What? I honestly didn't even know what to say at this point. I took off my shirt and I felt extremely uncomfortable. I had a lacy bralette on and this man is just like staring at me. Anyways, after the appointment, my mom ended up going back in and giving him sh*t. kristamackenziee , granderboy Report Final score: 243points POST Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Yeeeeaaaah MOM!!! Creepy a-hole doctor, Inappropriate as all get out. no excuses 142 142points reply View More Replies... View more comments #4 The doctor that I was going to for my birth control was checking it. And I had mirena (spiral), and I could tell that it had moved, it was uncomfortable, that she needed to check it better. She said, well, let's check it, come in. And checked it. She was like, nope, it didn't move. And I was like, well, how about taking it out? Because I'm having a lot of issues. And she says, no, you don't need any more kids. You're young, you have enough. Then proceeds to tell me after ab ultrasound, oh, no, you really do need it removed, because it moved. So we're gonna get you into surgery. Then, doesn't tell me or the doctor that is performing the surgery that I'm pregnant. And then, after I have already found out that the pregnancy was terminated after the surgery, calls and says, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize that you were pregnant. jadehersley1993 , Kristine Wook Report Final score: 209points POST Hilary Mol Hilary Mol Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I really hope they got fired for every bit of that. 149 149points reply View More Replies... View more comments When asked if she'd handle the situation differently now, Krista said that she definitely would if it happened again. "I've been making an effort to speak up for myself more, especially if I feel I'm not being treated properly." "When the doctor made the comment telling me to 'excite him' I think I was in shock, which is one of the reasons why I chose not to say anything. Being a survivor of sexual assault, I froze and didn't know what I should say or do." Krista said that being in therapy, she learned that this response is normal. "I would hope that if I was faced with the situation again I could gather the courage to speak up and tell him that what he is saying is inappropriate, and that he shouldn't be speaking to women that way in this professional setting." #5 what he said wasn't really unprofessional. It was more how he handled it. Big back story. I was having pain in my pelvis for about a year and a half. Had every test you can imagine. I was referred to the doctor because he was a specialist and knew my family history. I waited a year and a half to see him. He did not review my file. Asked me a few basic questions. In total spent less than 15 minutes with me. Examined me, didn't order more tests. Looked me dead in the face and said: Oh, you're constipated. You just need to take a laxative. And left. Waited a year and a half for that. He did not take me seriously in any way, shape or form. Fast forward to another specialist. She happens to be female. She ordered some tests. I get diagnosed with endometriosis. I'm now on a wait list for surgery. So was the problem that he was a male doctor and it was a female problem, or that I was female and he didn't take me seriously, or that he just didn't care? lunar_moon_witch , Sharon McCutcheon Report Final score: 195points POST Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Most doctors dont recieve the sufficient training about womens health. So even female doctors often dont take women seriously. I have endometriosis too and most of the doctors that dismissed me were women :( 77 77points reply View More Replies... View more comments #6 "You aren't married, right? This miscarriage is probably a blessing in disguise, huh?" mlt92119 , Clay Banks Report Final score: 193points POST Hilary Mol Hilary Mol Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago What the actual eff. 105 105points reply View more comments #7 It was a nurse. I'm well, I'm sexually active. And I was like, OK, maybe I should get tested for STDs because that's what people who are sexually active do. So I went to a clinic that specializes in STDs and pregnancy, and the nurse looked at me completely disgusted and and said, you should practice abstinence. I'll be praying for you. Then she grabbed my hand and started praying. I never went there ever again. taylortottok , MedicAlert UK Report Final score: 176points POST JennyLaRue JennyLaRue Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It's concerning that such a centre would employ someone with those views or not have realises what they were saying to patients. 112 112points reply View More Replies... View more comments The woman also said that she was surprised to see that so many women have experienced unprofessionalism from doctors. "I wasn't expecting the TikTok to blow up, or to have so many responses. Something needs to change!"For anyone who's wondering if a medical professional has crossed the line during an appointment, Krista says: "I think if a patient is uncomfortable in any way during an appointment, a line has been crossed." Moreover, "If someone comes forward saying they felt uncomfortable, the doctor should take accountability for the situation and apologize and try to learn from it," she concluded. #8 OK, so when I was 18, I went to the doctors to follow up on like a bunch of symptoms that I was having. And when I was there, much to my surprise and shock, I found out that I was pregnant. I hadn't considered as an option. And I was 18. So I was understandably shock. So I because I was in shock, I started crying in an attempt to console me. My doctor said to me, don't worry, you are still really early on in the pregnancy. And sometimes this early on, people have miscarriages. And for people like you, that may be a good thing. The fact that I'm a medical professional, I thought it was her place to wish a miscarriage upon me. Anyway, this year, my daughter is going to be 10 and her dad and I are still together. shannoona , DebMomOf3 Report Final score: 173points POST Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I’m glad that you have a wonderful family and a pox on that medical “professional” and I use that term professional very lightly… OK no scratch out professional and just put worker 42 42points reply View More Replies... View more comments #9 I stopped getting my periods at the age of 17. I went to my doctor who said it was because I was fat. I was told this multiple times by multiple doctors at the same hospital. Finally went somewhere else and was told its because I have PCOS. I'm 23 and finally got them back and now working on having my own family pcoswarrior97 , valelopardo Report Final score: 169points POST TmKhr TmKhr Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago So unprofessional. You can't blame something like that on being overweight. I'm glad she got the correct diagnosis eventually. 62 62points reply View More Replies... View more comments #10 One time I went to go get my blood drawn. [The doctor] was looking at my arm and she ended up saying that she couldn't find a vein prominent enough in the normal spot to draw blood. So she started looking higher up on my arm and she's pressing around and I'm like, you know, that's really weird. I've never really had anyone go up on my arm this far to get blood. And she was like, well, it looks like you've had needles there before. She was like, yeah, you have little needle marks on your arm. I've never used a needle a day in my life. This woman was accusing me of using hard drugs hheyyjustine , Trnava University Report Final score: 166points POST DC DC Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago ... a bit aside - accusing someone of this already is part of the problem, as this contributes to the stigma drug users have to face. They're not criminal, they're sick. And if they're not addicted, not even that. 66 66points reply View More Replies... View more comments #11 I was having really bad stomach pains after I had had my daughter and I went to the doctor to find out what the pains were. They did ultrasounds and all of that stuff. I go back to get the results. The doctor comes in, she she tells me that she didn't see what was wrong. And then she goes, but you do have gallstones. So I proceed to ask what are gallstones, you know, all of that stuff. She tells me the best thing I can tell you is Google it. cosmeticgenie , National Cancer Institute Report Final score: 149points POST Nash Nopper Nash Nopper Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago WTF?! 76 76points reply View More Replies... View more comments #12 My doctor took off his mask and said "I already had Covid I can't give it to you" makpdog , pixabay Report Final score: 147points POST Jo Johannsen Jo Johannsen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Jerk. 54 54points reply View more comments #13 I went in for a horrible rash in an area. My doctor tried fighting me saying either I was cheating or my bf was since she said it was an STD.. Ends up I have shingles. I also had a doctor refusing to check out my son's who I brought in with hfm until I answered questions about my income and sex life. Safe to say I just walked out and that clinic closed kennafam , ExplorerBob Report Final score: 143points POST Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Unfortunately that doctor is victimizing other people someplace else. These people need to be reported they are horrible 50 50points reply View More Replies... View more comments #14 When I was younger, I went to a checkup with my doctor and just had mentioned that I wish I was a little taller. And a literal pediatrician responded: Men don't date tall women. medicalherstory , José Pablo Domínguez Report Final score: 143points POST K Witmer K Witmer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Believe it or not women aren't on earth to please men so gross 158 158points reply View More Replies... View more comments #15 I went to the doctor at 17/18 so I could get updated on my vaccines. I need 4. I also got an std test because my narcissist boyfriend at the time had cheated on me. she came into the room with FIVE needles. I asked what the 5th one was. she said it was the DEPO shot! Mind you I was openly against birth control for myself and told her before. she said "I thought you'd be okay with it since you're active" I feel like if I didn't ask she would have given it to me. blissful.surviving , whitesession Report Final score: 110points POST James016 James016 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago So the doctor was wanting to give you a shot you did not consent to and wouldn't have said what it was if you didn't ask...... 48 48points reply View More Replies... View more comments #16 I have chronic back pain because of a broken disk. This old doctor told me it's because I'm too fat. I needed to lose weight _forever_blue_ , National Cancer Institute Report Final score: 106points POST Valisbourne Spiritforge Valisbourne Spiritforge Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago If you are overweight & female, you can go to a doctor with a broken arm and they have a 50/50 chance of just telling you to lose weight. 171 171points reply View More Replies... View more comments #17 I had a miscarriage and was told my only option was a DNC (which now with a new OB I know that I had more options). The OB [messed] up and didn't remove all that needed to be. I got very sick. The excuse was "well you did have a lot of tissue". The a week after she asked me when I was gonna try for another. 3 WEEKS AFTER I MISCARRIAGED redheadwitha420attitude , Sharon McCutcheon Report Final score: 100points POST Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago OMG!! It’s so sad that our culture expects us to just blow these horribly abusive people off and continue to go see them and continue to be their patients and continue to be abused over and over and over and over and over again. 31 31points reply View More Replies... View more comments #18 Well it hasn't just been one dr, it's been multiple, plus other health care professionals. "It would be easier on everyone if you killed yourself". "If you don't take oral antibiotics we will not admit you for IV antibiotics and are happy for you to die at home", "you are pretty bad at sewer slide, cause if you were good it at you would of succeeded already". "we have given up, you are unhelpable" those are probably the worst that has been said. I have chronic mental health issues and have been in the hospital system since I was 12. These things they have currently been saying have literally broken me recoverygirl1998 , Zohre Nemati Report Final score: 100points POST Jihana Jihana Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago What the f? 57 57points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective #19 1. the doctor was about done, it was just a normal check up and he looks at me and he's like "your eyes are kinda droopy" and I was like "yeah I've been up since 6am" cuz of school. So then him and my step mother start talking about eye lifts!
2.another check up. So after they do the heart thing ig my heart rate was weird and he asked me (this is a different doctor btw) if I felt anxious and I said "yes" and he was like "no you dont" like you asked if that's how I felt and I said yes, and now you're telling me that's not right like what? riotlynn , Li Lin Report Final score: 94points POST The Dave The Dave Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Give doctor number one a sock in the eye, maybe he’ll forget about eye lifts. 28 28points reply View More Replies... View more comments #20 I went to the hospital because I fainted when I was like in my eighth month of pregnancy. And the doctors told me that I needed to put more ranch or my salads because I had only gained 13 pounds during my pregnancy and they were making a big deal that I wasn't gaining more. So they're like, don't be afraid to put in your salads. My ob-gyn said my weight was perfect miraonyourwall , Helena Lopes Report Final score: 71points POST Nadine Debard Nadine Debard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Yeah pretty sure ranch dressing contains all the valuable nutriments that a baby needs. Brilliant. 60 60points reply View More Replies... View more comments Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Add Your Answer! Not your original work? Add source Publish Change image Upload Photo Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Upload Upload Edit Image Error occurred when generating embed. Please check link and try again. Render conversation
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I had periods so painful all my youth that I used to pass out from the pain. My father is a doctor and always found it normal. At 19 I got tired and went to a doctor. He didnt examined me and told me that "I needed to relax", refusing to even send me to the gyn. I have heard it all. "You are just anxious" "you need to be patient" (illneses dont dissapear by being patient) and my favourite "just a paracetqmol should be enough" (my pain gets so high that 200mg of tramadol dont help). It took me 11 years, 5 GPs and 4 gynecologists to even get a diagnosis while having textbook symptoms of those diseases. Now they are so bad that I am disabled and wont ever be able to have a normal life. 29 29points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago (edited) Then it took me another year to find a gynecologist that could do surgery. This man refused to give me a hysterectomy (best treatment for adenomyosis) "because you will regret not having kids". He pushed me to have a less effective treatment (endometrial ablation) and also refused to sterilise me when I asked (salpingectomy). He took me to surgery without telling me that pregnancy after that operation is super dangerous. With about 26% morbidity and x3 chances of ectopic pregnancy. He refused to sterilise me and actively endangered my life just to preserve a minimal ammount of fertility! My consent to the surgery was not valid. When I spoke to his boss he didnt even blinked or apologized and my GP was the same. 21 21points reply Load More Replies... Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Then I developed Nafld (liver issues) and I was feeling terrible. My liver enzimes were three times the ammount that they should be. The hepatologist and I thought that it was an adverse reaction to the anesthesia (I never had before and they didnt test me). But no. A couple of months ago I managed to get hold to my ex surgeons notes (that he did not send to my doctor). He saw during surgery that my liver was already very inflamated but never mentioned it to me or to my doctor. Because why would he? Luckily I dont drink alcohol but I need to take a fair ammount of medication so it could have been very dangerous if my GP didnt realise. 11 11points reply Iggy Iggy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My God, Ozacoter, you have been through hell! I am so sorry. The medical profession still refuses to acknowledge that for some women, a hysterectomy is the best solution. I do hope you can report them. They have not done what was best for their patient, to put it mildly! 12 12points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Thanks. Ot is hell, I cant have a normal life anymore and I hate it. I also developed other issues as a consequence (like cfs) so even after the hysterectomy I will likely be disabled the rest of my life. I try to spread awareness about this as often as I can so others know that they arent alone. 7 7points reply Iggy Iggy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I really, really hope it won't leave you disabled. 1 1point reply BetterBitterButter BetterBitterButter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This is so wrong! This shouldn't happen to anyone. This causes so much anger knowing you could have just had the hysterectomy and not gone through so much. Feels like they should be given sensitization training along with medical training. And worst part they get away with it and this happens again. 3 3points reply Ami Temi Ami Temi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I hope you'll find new doctors worthy of that name and that your condition will be treated much better. I understand a bit of how difficult this must be for you. I've had chronic health issues all my life due to being born really premature, then anorexia and chronic anemia as a teenager and also endometriosis. It took me years of living like a decharged battery to find a good doctor. I now know what supplements and meds are good for me and that gives me the energy to get through the days and not feel like a zombie. She follows me up really well and takes the time to give proper advice. I wish you lots of strength and hope you'll get much better! 2 2points reply Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report him to the state board. Got these people need to find jobs picking up dog s**t 7 7points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I reported him to the hospital ethics comitee. As far as I know there isnt more that I can do here unless I sue. And i dont have the money or energy to win that 9 9points reply Vicky Z Vicky Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Even the report is important! It's understandable if you don't have the strength to take it any further! Personally I walk away and report when I have a really bad experience with a doctor! Reports can help others too 0 0points reply Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I’ve learned that the hard way the American medical Association has successfully petition to the government to reduce the awards regarding lawsuits and as a result it’s hell to try to find an attorney 0 0points reply J. Normal J. Normal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago To them we are nothing but breeding livestock. When one goes "down" just find a young one to replace her. 4 4points reply Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago gosh this sounds like it happened in the Middle Ages.. :( 3 3points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Yes :( the old hysteria 5 5points reply Nikki Sevven Nikki Sevven Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'm so sorry you had to go through that, especially when that surgeon was dead wrong. I had an endometrial ablation when my periods became nightmarish. Bleeding 3 weeks out of every month, with clots the size of lemons. The surgeon explained the seriousness of the procedure because he was medically required to also do the salpingectomy. The issue is that when the lining of the uterus is cauterized during the ablation, it doesn't grow back so there's nowhere for the fertilized egg to implant. You must not become pregnant after the procedure. 2 2points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I feel you in ways nobody should. My story is similar, and that's with my having an MD to back me up. A uterus is a distinct disadvantage. My hubby complained of "testicle ache". He got opiates and a specialist in 3 days flat. I have endometriosis. I was told, "wait it out till menopause". Nuff said. I'm throwing up from pain and inability to eat, but by golly, I can wait? 6 6points reply Nadine Debard Nadine Debard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Ozacoter, I'm so sorry for what you lived through. This is so heartbreaking. 1 1point reply Vicky Z Vicky Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I can relate so much!! I've been suffering with heavy periods my whole life! Pain, vomit, faint every month this was "normal" for me! Needed injections for the Pain just to be able to tolerate it! Quality of life? Zero! Years and years of doctors telling me I'm exaggerating and all women have Pain! Misdiagnosed many times with every possible syndrome you can imagine! Found out what the problem was when i started seeing different specialties (was fed up with obs and my problem was more complicated than just feminine). It's devastating we have to suffer for so many years due to malpractice! Personally i lost my teenage years and my early 20's which is more than a decade! 0 0points reply Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I was 18 and quite overweight (depression and lots of school stress) went to a new gynecologist, who turned out to be the one who delivered me at birth. He looked at me and said "oh I didnt know I gave birth to whales". wow.. the grace, the professionalism. Unfortunately back then I was too weak to stand up for myself and tell him how pathetic he was, so I just took the hit and went home crying.. 24 24points reply pinkk-sugar pinkk-sugar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'm sorry you were treated so poorly 9 9points reply Load More Replies... Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago thanks... thankfully I have grown into a strong independent woman. I sincerely pity these kind of doctors, I guess they must have sad lives... 4 4points reply bumble bee bumble bee Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago What amazes me is that these types of doctors, nurses, etc who think what ever comes out of their mouths is gold, are doing grave damage to people's health when people will no longer go to the doctors because they do not want to be verbally abused/shamed again. When someone does a study on this issue, it will be a significant cause of serious illness. 3 3points reply Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago exactly, and not everyone has a great supporting family/friends circle they can rely upon. 0 0points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Thats horrible! I am sorry 2 2points reply Pacifico Fernandez Pacifico Fernandez Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago you don't owe an explanation on why are you overweight. 0 0points reply Miriam L Miriam L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I just want to say - as a chronic patient who's met exceptional doctors, pathetic doctors and everyone in between, as well as socially knowing a heck-ton of doctors -- it's not always like this. It is very important that we do share the horror stories, the exceptions, the times where things do go wrong, so that future patients know that their doctors aren't infallible (and sometimes are just straight up unethical slimebags) and people feel comfortable speaking up and advocating for themselves. We can't sweep these stories under the rug if we want things to get better. But most doctors are good, kind people - not perfect but they'll do their best and they'll respect your wishes. Doctors as a whole are beginning to embrace the idea of informing their patients as much as possible, answering questions, offering options and generally giving as much autonomy to their patients as possible. Being a patient can feel powerless, but most doctors do their best 17 17points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I am glad that you had better experiences than me. I barely met one or two doctors in the last 12 years that showed any empathy for their patients. 7 7points reply Load More Replies... Vera1 Vera1 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It's not most doctors that are good. Some are. Unfortunately, sexism is rampant in the medical community (and it's not just male doctors either) and it is worse when you're a women of colour or indigenous. 1 1point reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago True, MANY doctors do, but it is very dependent on gender, age, location, education. Also, patients aren't powerless. You can fire a doctor. And file a complaint explaining *why*, in the US. 0 0points reply Load More Comments POST Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I have endometriosis, adenomyosis and other issues. I had periods so painful all my youth that I used to pass out from the pain. My father is a doctor and always found it normal. At 19 I got tired and went to a doctor. He didnt examined me and told me that "I needed to relax", refusing to even send me to the gyn. I have heard it all. "You are just anxious" "you need to be patient" (illneses dont dissapear by being patient) and my favourite "just a paracetqmol should be enough" (my pain gets so high that 200mg of tramadol dont help). It took me 11 years, 5 GPs and 4 gynecologists to even get a diagnosis while having textbook symptoms of those diseases. Now they are so bad that I am disabled and wont ever be able to have a normal life. 29 29points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago (edited) Then it took me another year to find a gynecologist that could do surgery. This man refused to give me a hysterectomy (best treatment for adenomyosis) "because you will regret not having kids". He pushed me to have a less effective treatment (endometrial ablation) and also refused to sterilise me when I asked (salpingectomy). He took me to surgery without telling me that pregnancy after that operation is super dangerous. With about 26% morbidity and x3 chances of ectopic pregnancy. He refused to sterilise me and actively endangered my life just to preserve a minimal ammount of fertility! My consent to the surgery was not valid. When I spoke to his boss he didnt even blinked or apologized and my GP was the same. 21 21points reply Load More Replies... Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Then I developed Nafld (liver issues) and I was feeling terrible. My liver enzimes were three times the ammount that they should be. The hepatologist and I thought that it was an adverse reaction to the anesthesia (I never had before and they didnt test me). But no. A couple of months ago I managed to get hold to my ex surgeons notes (that he did not send to my doctor). He saw during surgery that my liver was already very inflamated but never mentioned it to me or to my doctor. Because why would he? Luckily I dont drink alcohol but I need to take a fair ammount of medication so it could have been very dangerous if my GP didnt realise. 11 11points reply Iggy Iggy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My God, Ozacoter, you have been through hell! I am so sorry. The medical profession still refuses to acknowledge that for some women, a hysterectomy is the best solution. I do hope you can report them. They have not done what was best for their patient, to put it mildly! 12 12points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Thanks. Ot is hell, I cant have a normal life anymore and I hate it. I also developed other issues as a consequence (like cfs) so even after the hysterectomy I will likely be disabled the rest of my life. I try to spread awareness about this as often as I can so others know that they arent alone. 7 7points reply Iggy Iggy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I really, really hope it won't leave you disabled. 1 1point reply BetterBitterButter BetterBitterButter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This is so wrong! This shouldn't happen to anyone. This causes so much anger knowing you could have just had the hysterectomy and not gone through so much. Feels like they should be given sensitization training along with medical training. And worst part they get away with it and this happens again. 3 3points reply Ami Temi Ami Temi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I hope you'll find new doctors worthy of that name and that your condition will be treated much better. I understand a bit of how difficult this must be for you. I've had chronic health issues all my life due to being born really premature, then anorexia and chronic anemia as a teenager and also endometriosis. It took me years of living like a decharged battery to find a good doctor. I now know what supplements and meds are good for me and that gives me the energy to get through the days and not feel like a zombie. She follows me up really well and takes the time to give proper advice. I wish you lots of strength and hope you'll get much better! 2 2points reply Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report him to the state board. Got these people need to find jobs picking up dog s**t 7 7points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I reported him to the hospital ethics comitee. As far as I know there isnt more that I can do here unless I sue. And i dont have the money or energy to win that 9 9points reply Vicky Z Vicky Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Even the report is important! It's understandable if you don't have the strength to take it any further! Personally I walk away and report when I have a really bad experience with a doctor! Reports can help others too 0 0points reply Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I’ve learned that the hard way the American medical Association has successfully petition to the government to reduce the awards regarding lawsuits and as a result it’s hell to try to find an attorney 0 0points reply J. Normal J. Normal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago To them we are nothing but breeding livestock. When one goes "down" just find a young one to replace her. 4 4points reply Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago gosh this sounds like it happened in the Middle Ages.. :( 3 3points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Yes :( the old hysteria 5 5points reply Nikki Sevven Nikki Sevven Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'm so sorry you had to go through that, especially when that surgeon was dead wrong. I had an endometrial ablation when my periods became nightmarish. Bleeding 3 weeks out of every month, with clots the size of lemons. The surgeon explained the seriousness of the procedure because he was medically required to also do the salpingectomy. The issue is that when the lining of the uterus is cauterized during the ablation, it doesn't grow back so there's nowhere for the fertilized egg to implant. You must not become pregnant after the procedure. 2 2points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I feel you in ways nobody should. My story is similar, and that's with my having an MD to back me up. A uterus is a distinct disadvantage. My hubby complained of "testicle ache". He got opiates and a specialist in 3 days flat. I have endometriosis. I was told, "wait it out till menopause". Nuff said. I'm throwing up from pain and inability to eat, but by golly, I can wait? 6 6points reply Nadine Debard Nadine Debard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Ozacoter, I'm so sorry for what you lived through. This is so heartbreaking. 1 1point reply Vicky Z Vicky Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I can relate so much!! I've been suffering with heavy periods my whole life! Pain, vomit, faint every month this was "normal" for me! Needed injections for the Pain just to be able to tolerate it! Quality of life? Zero! Years and years of doctors telling me I'm exaggerating and all women have Pain! Misdiagnosed many times with every possible syndrome you can imagine! Found out what the problem was when i started seeing different specialties (was fed up with obs and my problem was more complicated than just feminine). It's devastating we have to suffer for so many years due to malpractice! Personally i lost my teenage years and my early 20's which is more than a decade! 0 0points reply Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I was 18 and quite overweight (depression and lots of school stress) went to a new gynecologist, who turned out to be the one who delivered me at birth. He looked at me and said "oh I didnt know I gave birth to whales". wow.. the grace, the professionalism. Unfortunately back then I was too weak to stand up for myself and tell him how pathetic he was, so I just took the hit and went home crying.. 24 24points reply pinkk-sugar pinkk-sugar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'm sorry you were treated so poorly 9 9points reply Load More Replies... Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago thanks... thankfully I have grown into a strong independent woman. I sincerely pity these kind of doctors, I guess they must have sad lives... 4 4points reply bumble bee bumble bee Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago What amazes me is that these types of doctors, nurses, etc who think what ever comes out of their mouths is gold, are doing grave damage to people's health when people will no longer go to the doctors because they do not want to be verbally abused/shamed again. When someone does a study on this issue, it will be a significant cause of serious illness. 3 3points reply Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago exactly, and not everyone has a great supporting family/friends circle they can rely upon. 0 0points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Thats horrible! I am sorry 2 2points reply Pacifico Fernandez Pacifico Fernandez Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago you don't owe an explanation on why are you overweight. 0 0points reply Miriam L Miriam L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I just want to say - as a chronic patient who's met exceptional doctors, pathetic doctors and everyone in between, as well as socially knowing a heck-ton of doctors -- it's not always like this. It is very important that we do share the horror stories, the exceptions, the times where things do go wrong, so that future patients know that their doctors aren't infallible (and sometimes are just straight up unethical slimebags) and people feel comfortable speaking up and advocating for themselves. We can't sweep these stories under the rug if we want things to get better. But most doctors are good, kind people - not perfect but they'll do their best and they'll respect your wishes. Doctors as a whole are beginning to embrace the idea of informing their patients as much as possible, answering questions, offering options and generally giving as much autonomy to their patients as possible. Being a patient can feel powerless, but most doctors do their best 17 17points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I am glad that you had better experiences than me. I barely met one or two doctors in the last 12 years that showed any empathy for their patients. 7 7points reply Load More Replies... Vera1 Vera1 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It's not most doctors that are good. Some are. Unfortunately, sexism is rampant in the medical community (and it's not just male doctors either) and it is worse when you're a women of colour or indigenous. 1 1point reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago True, MANY doctors do, but it is very dependent on gender, age, location, education. Also, patients aren't powerless. You can fire a doctor. And file a complaint explaining *why*, in the US. 0 0points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them
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Publish Not your original work? Add source Nowhere on this earth do you expect to feel as safe as in the doctor's office. It's where we come at our most vulnerable, looking for genuine help and understanding. But according to some women on TikTok, this is not always what you find there and they're now sharing the most inappropriate things they were told by a doctor. The trend started when one TikToker, @kristamackenziee, shared an incident during her skin checkup. "He was an older man and I was intimidated by him," the woman recounted and proceeded to talk about taking her shirt off to show him the affected area. At this point, the doctor dropped a comment that left her speechless and made her feel super uncomfortable. Turns out, she was not the only one having experienced a disturbing comment from a medical professional. So let's see what other women have shared in response to @kristamackenziee's question "What is the most unprofessional thing a doctor has ever said to you?" @kristamackenziee Creepy AF!! Mom gave him shit afterwards. ##doctor ##psoriasis ##foryoupage ##fyp ##follow ##foryou ♬ original sound - Krista This post may include affiliate links. #1 I was 15 when I was raped. I didn't tell nobody but I still went to go get checked with a doctor for std's/sti's but they didn't know that. While they were swabbing me down there I started to cry cause it hurt and I was scared. And the doctor said "don't cry now you're the one who decided to open your legs at 15" justsad258 , loilamtan Report Final score: 319points POST K Witmer K Witmer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Jesus Christ this is what misogyny does to people. They knew better and didn't care 230 230points reply View More Replies... View more comments Bored Panda reached out to Krista Wiseman, a social media content creator and mom of three girls sharing her journey through motherhood with her Instagram, TikTok and YouTube followers. Krista was also the TikToker who got women sharing the most inappropriate things they were told at the doctor's office after she posted this viral video. "It is very unfortunate, but I think some doctors feel they are 'above' their patients because of their title and their education," Krista told Bored Panda. "Maybe they feel they can get away with more because of that, or they feel they are entitled to speak their mind because they have worked hard to get to where they are." The author also said that "obviously this isn't true for all doctors, but I've had many bad experiences myself and so have the women who came forward on TikTok!" #2 My husband and I had a miscarriage within the first year we were together. I was bleeding so we went to the ER. They were like 'there's nothing wrong with you'. I went to the bathroom and ended up birthing our baby in the toilet. I ring the emergency bell. They come in. And they look... they flush the baby down the toilet. I, in shock, walk out to my husband. He says 'what just happened?'. And I', like 'the doctor just flushed out baby down the toilet'. He [the doctor] came in and said 'Well what else were we supposed to do, it was already dead'. ogpeelar , Jonathan Borba Report Final score: 244points POST Hilary Mol Hilary Mol Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Tell me there's a lawsuit. 261 261points reply View More Replies... View more comments #3 So I had to start seeing a brand new doctor because I was having a bunch of issues with my skin. Turns out it was psoriasis, but we had no idea what was going on. So I got referred to this new doctor. He was an older man and I was a little bit intimidated by him at first. So the appointment starts and he's asking me all kinds of questions and then he asks to see the rash. And one of the issues I was having was in my armpit. So I was trying to show him like through my shirt. And it was kind of hard to show the whole thing. So I was like, oh, should I just take off my shirt? And this man sits back in his chair and says, yes, excite me. What? I honestly didn't even know what to say at this point. I took off my shirt and I felt extremely uncomfortable. I had a lacy bralette on and this man is just like staring at me. Anyways, after the appointment, my mom ended up going back in and giving him sh*t. kristamackenziee , granderboy Report Final score: 243points POST Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Yeeeeaaaah MOM!!! Creepy a-hole doctor, Inappropriate as all get out. no excuses 142 142points reply View More Replies... View more comments #4 The doctor that I was going to for my birth control was checking it. And I had mirena (spiral), and I could tell that it had moved, it was uncomfortable, that she needed to check it better. She said, well, let's check it, come in. And checked it. She was like, nope, it didn't move. And I was like, well, how about taking it out? Because I'm having a lot of issues. And she says, no, you don't need any more kids. You're young, you have enough. Then proceeds to tell me after ab ultrasound, oh, no, you really do need it removed, because it moved. So we're gonna get you into surgery. Then, doesn't tell me or the doctor that is performing the surgery that I'm pregnant. And then, after I have already found out that the pregnancy was terminated after the surgery, calls and says, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize that you were pregnant. jadehersley1993 , Kristine Wook Report Final score: 209points POST Hilary Mol Hilary Mol Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I really hope they got fired for every bit of that. 149 149points reply View More Replies... View more comments When asked if she'd handle the situation differently now, Krista said that she definitely would if it happened again. "I've been making an effort to speak up for myself more, especially if I feel I'm not being treated properly." "When the doctor made the comment telling me to 'excite him' I think I was in shock, which is one of the reasons why I chose not to say anything. Being a survivor of sexual assault, I froze and didn't know what I should say or do." Krista said that being in therapy, she learned that this response is normal. "I would hope that if I was faced with the situation again I could gather the courage to speak up and tell him that what he is saying is inappropriate, and that he shouldn't be speaking to women that way in this professional setting." #5 what he said wasn't really unprofessional. It was more how he handled it. Big back story. I was having pain in my pelvis for about a year and a half. Had every test you can imagine. I was referred to the doctor because he was a specialist and knew my family history. I waited a year and a half to see him. He did not review my file. Asked me a few basic questions. In total spent less than 15 minutes with me. Examined me, didn't order more tests. Looked me dead in the face and said: Oh, you're constipated. You just need to take a laxative. And left. Waited a year and a half for that. He did not take me seriously in any way, shape or form. Fast forward to another specialist. She happens to be female. She ordered some tests. I get diagnosed with endometriosis. I'm now on a wait list for surgery. So was the problem that he was a male doctor and it was a female problem, or that I was female and he didn't take me seriously, or that he just didn't care? lunar_moon_witch , Sharon McCutcheon Report Final score: 195points POST Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Most doctors dont recieve the sufficient training about womens health. So even female doctors often dont take women seriously. I have endometriosis too and most of the doctors that dismissed me were women :( 77 77points reply View More Replies... View more comments #6 "You aren't married, right? This miscarriage is probably a blessing in disguise, huh?" mlt92119 , Clay Banks Report Final score: 193points POST Hilary Mol Hilary Mol Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago What the actual eff. 105 105points reply View more comments #7 It was a nurse. I'm well, I'm sexually active. And I was like, OK, maybe I should get tested for STDs because that's what people who are sexually active do. So I went to a clinic that specializes in STDs and pregnancy, and the nurse looked at me completely disgusted and and said, you should practice abstinence. I'll be praying for you. Then she grabbed my hand and started praying. I never went there ever again. taylortottok , MedicAlert UK Report Final score: 176points POST JennyLaRue JennyLaRue Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It's concerning that such a centre would employ someone with those views or not have realises what they were saying to patients. 112 112points reply View More Replies... View more comments The woman also said that she was surprised to see that so many women have experienced unprofessionalism from doctors. "I wasn't expecting the TikTok to blow up, or to have so many responses. Something needs to change!"For anyone who's wondering if a medical professional has crossed the line during an appointment, Krista says: "I think if a patient is uncomfortable in any way during an appointment, a line has been crossed." Moreover, "If someone comes forward saying they felt uncomfortable, the doctor should take accountability for the situation and apologize and try to learn from it," she concluded. #8 OK, so when I was 18, I went to the doctors to follow up on like a bunch of symptoms that I was having. And when I was there, much to my surprise and shock, I found out that I was pregnant. I hadn't considered as an option. And I was 18. So I was understandably shock. So I because I was in shock, I started crying in an attempt to console me. My doctor said to me, don't worry, you are still really early on in the pregnancy. And sometimes this early on, people have miscarriages. And for people like you, that may be a good thing. The fact that I'm a medical professional, I thought it was her place to wish a miscarriage upon me. Anyway, this year, my daughter is going to be 10 and her dad and I are still together. shannoona , DebMomOf3 Report Final score: 173points POST Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I’m glad that you have a wonderful family and a pox on that medical “professional” and I use that term professional very lightly… OK no scratch out professional and just put worker 42 42points reply View More Replies... View more comments #9 I stopped getting my periods at the age of 17. I went to my doctor who said it was because I was fat. I was told this multiple times by multiple doctors at the same hospital. Finally went somewhere else and was told its because I have PCOS. I'm 23 and finally got them back and now working on having my own family pcoswarrior97 , valelopardo Report Final score: 169points POST TmKhr TmKhr Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago So unprofessional. You can't blame something like that on being overweight. I'm glad she got the correct diagnosis eventually. 62 62points reply View More Replies... View more comments #10 One time I went to go get my blood drawn. [The doctor] was looking at my arm and she ended up saying that she couldn't find a vein prominent enough in the normal spot to draw blood. So she started looking higher up on my arm and she's pressing around and I'm like, you know, that's really weird. I've never really had anyone go up on my arm this far to get blood. And she was like, well, it looks like you've had needles there before. She was like, yeah, you have little needle marks on your arm. I've never used a needle a day in my life. This woman was accusing me of using hard drugs hheyyjustine , Trnava University Report Final score: 166points POST DC DC Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago ... a bit aside - accusing someone of this already is part of the problem, as this contributes to the stigma drug users have to face. They're not criminal, they're sick. And if they're not addicted, not even that. 66 66points reply View More Replies... View more comments #11 I was having really bad stomach pains after I had had my daughter and I went to the doctor to find out what the pains were. They did ultrasounds and all of that stuff. I go back to get the results. The doctor comes in, she she tells me that she didn't see what was wrong. And then she goes, but you do have gallstones. So I proceed to ask what are gallstones, you know, all of that stuff. She tells me the best thing I can tell you is Google it. cosmeticgenie , National Cancer Institute Report Final score: 149points POST Nash Nopper Nash Nopper Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago WTF?! 76 76points reply View More Replies... View more comments #12 My doctor took off his mask and said "I already had Covid I can't give it to you" makpdog , pixabay Report Final score: 147points POST Jo Johannsen Jo Johannsen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Jerk. 54 54points reply View more comments #13 I went in for a horrible rash in an area. My doctor tried fighting me saying either I was cheating or my bf was since she said it was an STD.. Ends up I have shingles. I also had a doctor refusing to check out my son's who I brought in with hfm until I answered questions about my income and sex life. Safe to say I just walked out and that clinic closed kennafam , ExplorerBob Report Final score: 143points POST Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Unfortunately that doctor is victimizing other people someplace else. These people need to be reported they are horrible 50 50points reply View More Replies... View more comments #14 When I was younger, I went to a checkup with my doctor and just had mentioned that I wish I was a little taller. And a literal pediatrician responded: Men don't date tall women. medicalherstory , José Pablo Domínguez Report Final score: 143points POST K Witmer K Witmer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Believe it or not women aren't on earth to please men so gross 158 158points reply View More Replies... View more comments #15 I went to the doctor at 17/18 so I could get updated on my vaccines. I need 4. I also got an std test because my narcissist boyfriend at the time had cheated on me. she came into the room with FIVE needles. I asked what the 5th one was. she said it was the DEPO shot! Mind you I was openly against birth control for myself and told her before. she said "I thought you'd be okay with it since you're active" I feel like if I didn't ask she would have given it to me. blissful.surviving , whitesession Report Final score: 110points POST James016 James016 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago So the doctor was wanting to give you a shot you did not consent to and wouldn't have said what it was if you didn't ask...... 48 48points reply View More Replies... View more comments #16 I have chronic back pain because of a broken disk. This old doctor told me it's because I'm too fat. I needed to lose weight _forever_blue_ , National Cancer Institute Report Final score: 106points POST Valisbourne Spiritforge Valisbourne Spiritforge Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago If you are overweight & female, you can go to a doctor with a broken arm and they have a 50/50 chance of just telling you to lose weight. 171 171points reply View More Replies... View more comments #17 I had a miscarriage and was told my only option was a DNC (which now with a new OB I know that I had more options). The OB [messed] up and didn't remove all that needed to be. I got very sick. The excuse was "well you did have a lot of tissue". The a week after she asked me when I was gonna try for another. 3 WEEKS AFTER I MISCARRIAGED redheadwitha420attitude , Sharon McCutcheon Report Final score: 100points POST Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago OMG!! It’s so sad that our culture expects us to just blow these horribly abusive people off and continue to go see them and continue to be their patients and continue to be abused over and over and over and over and over again. 31 31points reply View More Replies... View more comments #18 Well it hasn't just been one dr, it's been multiple, plus other health care professionals. "It would be easier on everyone if you killed yourself". "If you don't take oral antibiotics we will not admit you for IV antibiotics and are happy for you to die at home", "you are pretty bad at sewer slide, cause if you were good it at you would of succeeded already". "we have given up, you are unhelpable" those are probably the worst that has been said. I have chronic mental health issues and have been in the hospital system since I was 12. These things they have currently been saying have literally broken me recoverygirl1998 , Zohre Nemati Report Final score: 100points POST Jihana Jihana Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago What the f? 57 57points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective #19 1. the doctor was about done, it was just a normal check up and he looks at me and he's like "your eyes are kinda droopy" and I was like "yeah I've been up since 6am" cuz of school. So then him and my step mother start talking about eye lifts!
2.another check up. So after they do the heart thing ig my heart rate was weird and he asked me (this is a different doctor btw) if I felt anxious and I said "yes" and he was like "no you dont" like you asked if that's how I felt and I said yes, and now you're telling me that's not right like what? riotlynn , Li Lin Report Final score: 94points POST The Dave The Dave Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Give doctor number one a sock in the eye, maybe he’ll forget about eye lifts. 28 28points reply View More Replies... View more comments #20 I went to the hospital because I fainted when I was like in my eighth month of pregnancy. And the doctors told me that I needed to put more ranch or my salads because I had only gained 13 pounds during my pregnancy and they were making a big deal that I wasn't gaining more. So they're like, don't be afraid to put in your salads. My ob-gyn said my weight was perfect miraonyourwall , Helena Lopes Report Final score: 71points POST Nadine Debard Nadine Debard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Yeah pretty sure ranch dressing contains all the valuable nutriments that a baby needs. Brilliant. 60 60points reply View More Replies... View more comments Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Add Your Answer! Not your original work? Add source Publish Change image Upload Photo Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Upload Upload Edit Image Error occurred when generating embed. Please check link and try again. Render conversation
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I had periods so painful all my youth that I used to pass out from the pain. My father is a doctor and always found it normal. At 19 I got tired and went to a doctor. He didnt examined me and told me that "I needed to relax", refusing to even send me to the gyn. I have heard it all. "You are just anxious" "you need to be patient" (illneses dont dissapear by being patient) and my favourite "just a paracetqmol should be enough" (my pain gets so high that 200mg of tramadol dont help). It took me 11 years, 5 GPs and 4 gynecologists to even get a diagnosis while having textbook symptoms of those diseases. Now they are so bad that I am disabled and wont ever be able to have a normal life. 29 29points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago (edited) Then it took me another year to find a gynecologist that could do surgery. This man refused to give me a hysterectomy (best treatment for adenomyosis) "because you will regret not having kids". He pushed me to have a less effective treatment (endometrial ablation) and also refused to sterilise me when I asked (salpingectomy). He took me to surgery without telling me that pregnancy after that operation is super dangerous. With about 26% morbidity and x3 chances of ectopic pregnancy. He refused to sterilise me and actively endangered my life just to preserve a minimal ammount of fertility! My consent to the surgery was not valid. When I spoke to his boss he didnt even blinked or apologized and my GP was the same. 21 21points reply Load More Replies... Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Then I developed Nafld (liver issues) and I was feeling terrible. My liver enzimes were three times the ammount that they should be. The hepatologist and I thought that it was an adverse reaction to the anesthesia (I never had before and they didnt test me). But no. A couple of months ago I managed to get hold to my ex surgeons notes (that he did not send to my doctor). He saw during surgery that my liver was already very inflamated but never mentioned it to me or to my doctor. Because why would he? Luckily I dont drink alcohol but I need to take a fair ammount of medication so it could have been very dangerous if my GP didnt realise. 11 11points reply Iggy Iggy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My God, Ozacoter, you have been through hell! I am so sorry. The medical profession still refuses to acknowledge that for some women, a hysterectomy is the best solution. I do hope you can report them. They have not done what was best for their patient, to put it mildly! 12 12points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Thanks. Ot is hell, I cant have a normal life anymore and I hate it. I also developed other issues as a consequence (like cfs) so even after the hysterectomy I will likely be disabled the rest of my life. I try to spread awareness about this as often as I can so others know that they arent alone. 7 7points reply Iggy Iggy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I really, really hope it won't leave you disabled. 1 1point reply BetterBitterButter BetterBitterButter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This is so wrong! This shouldn't happen to anyone. This causes so much anger knowing you could have just had the hysterectomy and not gone through so much. Feels like they should be given sensitization training along with medical training. And worst part they get away with it and this happens again. 3 3points reply Ami Temi Ami Temi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I hope you'll find new doctors worthy of that name and that your condition will be treated much better. I understand a bit of how difficult this must be for you. I've had chronic health issues all my life due to being born really premature, then anorexia and chronic anemia as a teenager and also endometriosis. It took me years of living like a decharged battery to find a good doctor. I now know what supplements and meds are good for me and that gives me the energy to get through the days and not feel like a zombie. She follows me up really well and takes the time to give proper advice. I wish you lots of strength and hope you'll get much better! 2 2points reply Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report him to the state board. Got these people need to find jobs picking up dog s**t 7 7points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I reported him to the hospital ethics comitee. As far as I know there isnt more that I can do here unless I sue. And i dont have the money or energy to win that 9 9points reply Vicky Z Vicky Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Even the report is important! It's understandable if you don't have the strength to take it any further! Personally I walk away and report when I have a really bad experience with a doctor! Reports can help others too 0 0points reply Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I’ve learned that the hard way the American medical Association has successfully petition to the government to reduce the awards regarding lawsuits and as a result it’s hell to try to find an attorney 0 0points reply J. Normal J. Normal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago To them we are nothing but breeding livestock. When one goes "down" just find a young one to replace her. 4 4points reply Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago gosh this sounds like it happened in the Middle Ages.. :( 3 3points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Yes :( the old hysteria 5 5points reply Nikki Sevven Nikki Sevven Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'm so sorry you had to go through that, especially when that surgeon was dead wrong. I had an endometrial ablation when my periods became nightmarish. Bleeding 3 weeks out of every month, with clots the size of lemons. The surgeon explained the seriousness of the procedure because he was medically required to also do the salpingectomy. The issue is that when the lining of the uterus is cauterized during the ablation, it doesn't grow back so there's nowhere for the fertilized egg to implant. You must not become pregnant after the procedure. 2 2points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I feel you in ways nobody should. My story is similar, and that's with my having an MD to back me up. A uterus is a distinct disadvantage. My hubby complained of "testicle ache". He got opiates and a specialist in 3 days flat. I have endometriosis. I was told, "wait it out till menopause". Nuff said. I'm throwing up from pain and inability to eat, but by golly, I can wait? 6 6points reply Nadine Debard Nadine Debard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Ozacoter, I'm so sorry for what you lived through. This is so heartbreaking. 1 1point reply Vicky Z Vicky Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I can relate so much!! I've been suffering with heavy periods my whole life! Pain, vomit, faint every month this was "normal" for me! Needed injections for the Pain just to be able to tolerate it! Quality of life? Zero! Years and years of doctors telling me I'm exaggerating and all women have Pain! Misdiagnosed many times with every possible syndrome you can imagine! Found out what the problem was when i started seeing different specialties (was fed up with obs and my problem was more complicated than just feminine). It's devastating we have to suffer for so many years due to malpractice! Personally i lost my teenage years and my early 20's which is more than a decade! 0 0points reply Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I was 18 and quite overweight (depression and lots of school stress) went to a new gynecologist, who turned out to be the one who delivered me at birth. He looked at me and said "oh I didnt know I gave birth to whales". wow.. the grace, the professionalism. Unfortunately back then I was too weak to stand up for myself and tell him how pathetic he was, so I just took the hit and went home crying.. 24 24points reply pinkk-sugar pinkk-sugar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'm sorry you were treated so poorly 9 9points reply Load More Replies... Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago thanks... thankfully I have grown into a strong independent woman. I sincerely pity these kind of doctors, I guess they must have sad lives... 4 4points reply bumble bee bumble bee Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago What amazes me is that these types of doctors, nurses, etc who think what ever comes out of their mouths is gold, are doing grave damage to people's health when people will no longer go to the doctors because they do not want to be verbally abused/shamed again. When someone does a study on this issue, it will be a significant cause of serious illness. 3 3points reply Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago exactly, and not everyone has a great supporting family/friends circle they can rely upon. 0 0points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Thats horrible! I am sorry 2 2points reply Pacifico Fernandez Pacifico Fernandez Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago you don't owe an explanation on why are you overweight. 0 0points reply Miriam L Miriam L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I just want to say - as a chronic patient who's met exceptional doctors, pathetic doctors and everyone in between, as well as socially knowing a heck-ton of doctors -- it's not always like this. It is very important that we do share the horror stories, the exceptions, the times where things do go wrong, so that future patients know that their doctors aren't infallible (and sometimes are just straight up unethical slimebags) and people feel comfortable speaking up and advocating for themselves. We can't sweep these stories under the rug if we want things to get better. But most doctors are good, kind people - not perfect but they'll do their best and they'll respect your wishes. Doctors as a whole are beginning to embrace the idea of informing their patients as much as possible, answering questions, offering options and generally giving as much autonomy to their patients as possible. Being a patient can feel powerless, but most doctors do their best 17 17points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I am glad that you had better experiences than me. I barely met one or two doctors in the last 12 years that showed any empathy for their patients. 7 7points reply Load More Replies... Vera1 Vera1 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It's not most doctors that are good. Some are. Unfortunately, sexism is rampant in the medical community (and it's not just male doctors either) and it is worse when you're a women of colour or indigenous. 1 1point reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago True, MANY doctors do, but it is very dependent on gender, age, location, education. Also, patients aren't powerless. You can fire a doctor. And file a complaint explaining *why*, in the US. 0 0points reply Load More Comments POST Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I have endometriosis, adenomyosis and other issues. I had periods so painful all my youth that I used to pass out from the pain. My father is a doctor and always found it normal. At 19 I got tired and went to a doctor. He didnt examined me and told me that "I needed to relax", refusing to even send me to the gyn. I have heard it all. "You are just anxious" "you need to be patient" (illneses dont dissapear by being patient) and my favourite "just a paracetqmol should be enough" (my pain gets so high that 200mg of tramadol dont help). It took me 11 years, 5 GPs and 4 gynecologists to even get a diagnosis while having textbook symptoms of those diseases. Now they are so bad that I am disabled and wont ever be able to have a normal life. 29 29points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago (edited) Then it took me another year to find a gynecologist that could do surgery. This man refused to give me a hysterectomy (best treatment for adenomyosis) "because you will regret not having kids". He pushed me to have a less effective treatment (endometrial ablation) and also refused to sterilise me when I asked (salpingectomy). He took me to surgery without telling me that pregnancy after that operation is super dangerous. With about 26% morbidity and x3 chances of ectopic pregnancy. He refused to sterilise me and actively endangered my life just to preserve a minimal ammount of fertility! My consent to the surgery was not valid. When I spoke to his boss he didnt even blinked or apologized and my GP was the same. 21 21points reply Load More Replies... Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Then I developed Nafld (liver issues) and I was feeling terrible. My liver enzimes were three times the ammount that they should be. The hepatologist and I thought that it was an adverse reaction to the anesthesia (I never had before and they didnt test me). But no. A couple of months ago I managed to get hold to my ex surgeons notes (that he did not send to my doctor). He saw during surgery that my liver was already very inflamated but never mentioned it to me or to my doctor. Because why would he? Luckily I dont drink alcohol but I need to take a fair ammount of medication so it could have been very dangerous if my GP didnt realise. 11 11points reply Iggy Iggy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My God, Ozacoter, you have been through hell! I am so sorry. The medical profession still refuses to acknowledge that for some women, a hysterectomy is the best solution. I do hope you can report them. They have not done what was best for their patient, to put it mildly! 12 12points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Thanks. Ot is hell, I cant have a normal life anymore and I hate it. I also developed other issues as a consequence (like cfs) so even after the hysterectomy I will likely be disabled the rest of my life. I try to spread awareness about this as often as I can so others know that they arent alone. 7 7points reply Iggy Iggy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I really, really hope it won't leave you disabled. 1 1point reply BetterBitterButter BetterBitterButter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This is so wrong! This shouldn't happen to anyone. This causes so much anger knowing you could have just had the hysterectomy and not gone through so much. Feels like they should be given sensitization training along with medical training. And worst part they get away with it and this happens again. 3 3points reply Ami Temi Ami Temi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I hope you'll find new doctors worthy of that name and that your condition will be treated much better. I understand a bit of how difficult this must be for you. I've had chronic health issues all my life due to being born really premature, then anorexia and chronic anemia as a teenager and also endometriosis. It took me years of living like a decharged battery to find a good doctor. I now know what supplements and meds are good for me and that gives me the energy to get through the days and not feel like a zombie. She follows me up really well and takes the time to give proper advice. I wish you lots of strength and hope you'll get much better! 2 2points reply Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report him to the state board. Got these people need to find jobs picking up dog s**t 7 7points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I reported him to the hospital ethics comitee. As far as I know there isnt more that I can do here unless I sue. And i dont have the money or energy to win that 9 9points reply Vicky Z Vicky Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Even the report is important! It's understandable if you don't have the strength to take it any further! Personally I walk away and report when I have a really bad experience with a doctor! Reports can help others too 0 0points reply Mazer Mazer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I’ve learned that the hard way the American medical Association has successfully petition to the government to reduce the awards regarding lawsuits and as a result it’s hell to try to find an attorney 0 0points reply J. Normal J. Normal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago To them we are nothing but breeding livestock. When one goes "down" just find a young one to replace her. 4 4points reply Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago gosh this sounds like it happened in the Middle Ages.. :( 3 3points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Yes :( the old hysteria 5 5points reply Nikki Sevven Nikki Sevven Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'm so sorry you had to go through that, especially when that surgeon was dead wrong. I had an endometrial ablation when my periods became nightmarish. Bleeding 3 weeks out of every month, with clots the size of lemons. The surgeon explained the seriousness of the procedure because he was medically required to also do the salpingectomy. The issue is that when the lining of the uterus is cauterized during the ablation, it doesn't grow back so there's nowhere for the fertilized egg to implant. You must not become pregnant after the procedure. 2 2points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I feel you in ways nobody should. My story is similar, and that's with my having an MD to back me up. A uterus is a distinct disadvantage. My hubby complained of "testicle ache". He got opiates and a specialist in 3 days flat. I have endometriosis. I was told, "wait it out till menopause". Nuff said. I'm throwing up from pain and inability to eat, but by golly, I can wait? 6 6points reply Nadine Debard Nadine Debard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Ozacoter, I'm so sorry for what you lived through. This is so heartbreaking. 1 1point reply Vicky Z Vicky Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I can relate so much!! I've been suffering with heavy periods my whole life! Pain, vomit, faint every month this was "normal" for me! Needed injections for the Pain just to be able to tolerate it! Quality of life? Zero! Years and years of doctors telling me I'm exaggerating and all women have Pain! Misdiagnosed many times with every possible syndrome you can imagine! Found out what the problem was when i started seeing different specialties (was fed up with obs and my problem was more complicated than just feminine). It's devastating we have to suffer for so many years due to malpractice! Personally i lost my teenage years and my early 20's which is more than a decade! 0 0points reply Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I was 18 and quite overweight (depression and lots of school stress) went to a new gynecologist, who turned out to be the one who delivered me at birth. He looked at me and said "oh I didnt know I gave birth to whales". wow.. the grace, the professionalism. Unfortunately back then I was too weak to stand up for myself and tell him how pathetic he was, so I just took the hit and went home crying.. 24 24points reply pinkk-sugar pinkk-sugar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'm sorry you were treated so poorly 9 9points reply Load More Replies... Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago thanks... thankfully I have grown into a strong independent woman. I sincerely pity these kind of doctors, I guess they must have sad lives... 4 4points reply bumble bee bumble bee Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago What amazes me is that these types of doctors, nurses, etc who think what ever comes out of their mouths is gold, are doing grave damage to people's health when people will no longer go to the doctors because they do not want to be verbally abused/shamed again. When someone does a study on this issue, it will be a significant cause of serious illness. 3 3points reply Lav Oravaf Lav Oravaf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago exactly, and not everyone has a great supporting family/friends circle they can rely upon. 0 0points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Thats horrible! I am sorry 2 2points reply Pacifico Fernandez Pacifico Fernandez Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago you don't owe an explanation on why are you overweight. 0 0points reply Miriam L Miriam L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I just want to say - as a chronic patient who's met exceptional doctors, pathetic doctors and everyone in between, as well as socially knowing a heck-ton of doctors -- it's not always like this. It is very important that we do share the horror stories, the exceptions, the times where things do go wrong, so that future patients know that their doctors aren't infallible (and sometimes are just straight up unethical slimebags) and people feel comfortable speaking up and advocating for themselves. We can't sweep these stories under the rug if we want things to get better. But most doctors are good, kind people - not perfect but they'll do their best and they'll respect your wishes. Doctors as a whole are beginning to embrace the idea of informing their patients as much as possible, answering questions, offering options and generally giving as much autonomy to their patients as possible. Being a patient can feel powerless, but most doctors do their best 17 17points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I am glad that you had better experiences than me. I barely met one or two doctors in the last 12 years that showed any empathy for their patients. 7 7points reply Load More Replies... Vera1 Vera1 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It's not most doctors that are good. Some are. Unfortunately, sexism is rampant in the medical community (and it's not just male doctors either) and it is worse when you're a women of colour or indigenous. 1 1point reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago True, MANY doctors do, but it is very dependent on gender, age, location, education. Also, patients aren't powerless. You can fire a doctor. And file a complaint explaining *why*, in the US. 0 0points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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