Mom Charges Her 17 Year Old Daughter Over $16k A Year To Fund Her 18 Year Old Son Receives Backlash Online
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All parents want what's best for their kids. But raising two kids of the same age with two different career choices may be a whole new challenge on its own. One mom has recently taken to Mumsnet for advice on whether her mode of financial support for her 17-year-old daughter and 18-year-old son won't cause resentment. Turns out, her daughter is now undertaking a full-time apprenticeship course, and since she's fairly independent, mom is charging her "rent/keep/petrol equivalent to 25% of her take home." But the same doesn't go for her son, who decided to accept university offers and start a degree there. As you can probably guess, mom's post titled "One at uni, one at work…" raised eyebrows and stirred a heated debate on the platform. Let's see her whole post in full right below, and be sure to share your thoughts on the whole situation in the comments.
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If you want to encourage financial responsibility from your child, use your authority to make her build up a savings account, not line your own pocket. 124 124points reply S S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago THIS. 25 25points reply Load More Replies... Just JoLynn Just JoLynn Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I completely agree, and to further your point, funding one dependent child with another dependent child's hard earned money takes this to a whole new level. Not mention the tone of the mother comes across to me as if she is more interested in protecting the son from the daughter instead of protecting them both. 23 23points reply Amanda Reicha Amanda Reicha Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My husband finished military after 8 years. He came home, got a low wage job until he could find a career based job. He moved in with his mom and this was supposed to be temporary until he could find an apartment. His mom charged him rent for almost all of his monthly earnings. He was trapped after that. He hates his mom. He moved in with me, was able to start college, and now has a great career. Her daughter should be saving that money. Apprentice jobs are education, just a different kind. She shouldn't do this. 16 16points reply Diana Diana Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) This 100%. I can't believe many people agree with the mom here, her son is capable of making his own money and after all going to university is a decision that in the long run will probably only benefit him. Why does the daughter have to sacrifice her hard earned money for the brother? That's unfair and the mother should stop that because the sibling relationship may get ugly. She should also apologize to the daughter for this 13 13points reply Ria C. Ria C. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I wonder how long "a while back" his uni acceptances were. Why hasn't he been able to work and save? It also sounds to me like mommy feels bad for her "little" boys heartbreak and it just using the entire situation as an excuse to use her daughter's income to supplement her and her son's monetary needs. 9 9points reply Gin Marie Gin Marie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Look at all the people justifying it. If the positions were reversed the daughter would STILL be paying for the son. 1 1point reply SocksNeverMatch SocksNeverMatch Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago sorry for typos :)_ 0 0points reply Emme Magnolia Emme Magnolia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This is how you make your kids go no contact 82 82points reply Ella Blackwood Ella Blackwood Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This seems very unfair to me and also a surefire way to cause your daughter to deeply resent you for favoring your son over her. They are both trying to get on their feet in this difficult world, but you are only penalizing one of them and subsidizing the other. It just seems blatantly sexist to me. 61 61points reply Nikki Sevven Nikki Sevven Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I can tell you firsthand that this is true. My mother temporarily borrowed $22,000 from me (for about six months) with the promise to repay me as soon as my grandfather's house sold. I withdrew the money from my daughter's college tuition savings account. My mother refused to repay me, saying "we've helped you a lot." Even when reminded that the money was my daughter's college fund, she refused. Three months later, she handed my money over to my brother, so he could pay off his credit cards before he got married. I resent it to this day, and that was 15 years ago. My daughter had to take an additional student loan, which caused her numerous problems down the years. 28 28points reply Load More Replies... Gin Marie Gin Marie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'd have her arrested. She's a horrible liar and thief. 11 11points reply Mike Rodrick Mike Rodrick Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'd definitely have her in court! Imagine what Britney Spears is dealing with right now, & she's an adult. 1 1point reply Mer? Mer? Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Three Words: Small Claims Court. *or "large" claims court? Idk the monetary cut-off point 1 1point reply Signe Manat Hansen Signe Manat Hansen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. You had no right to touch your daughter's college fund. Shame on you for speculating with her future. -8 -8points reply Maggie Dinzler Shaw Maggie Dinzler Shaw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. whole different situation. We contribute to our families if we live at home when we get a paying job. NORMAL. Borrowing money from an adult child who needs it for her own family, very different and totally wrong. She had no right to your money. The parent in this scenario had every right to ask for some money to offset expenses and once they received it, it was theirs. -16 -16points reply Maggie Dinzler Shaw Maggie Dinzler Shaw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. If the son were working, I would expect to pay the same amount if he lived at home. iF YOU have aa job and you live at home, you contribute to the family. It doesn't matter what the parents use the money for, you pay your share. -13 -13points reply KT KT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You're an idiot 2 2points reply Load More Comments POST Nat Hedley Nat Hedley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago It absolutely is unfair to fund the life development of one dependent child but not the other, and this parent may already have caused permanent scarring to the relationship with the unequal treatment. If you want to encourage financial responsibility from your child, use your authority to make her build up a savings account, not line your own pocket. 124 124points reply S S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago THIS. 25 25points reply Load More Replies... Just JoLynn Just JoLynn Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I completely agree, and to further your point, funding one dependent child with another dependent child's hard earned money takes this to a whole new level. Not mention the tone of the mother comes across to me as if she is more interested in protecting the son from the daughter instead of protecting them both. 23 23points reply Amanda Reicha Amanda Reicha Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My husband finished military after 8 years. He came home, got a low wage job until he could find a career based job. He moved in with his mom and this was supposed to be temporary until he could find an apartment. His mom charged him rent for almost all of his monthly earnings. He was trapped after that. He hates his mom. He moved in with me, was able to start college, and now has a great career. Her daughter should be saving that money. Apprentice jobs are education, just a different kind. She shouldn't do this. 16 16points reply Diana Diana Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) This 100%. I can't believe many people agree with the mom here, her son is capable of making his own money and after all going to university is a decision that in the long run will probably only benefit him. Why does the daughter have to sacrifice her hard earned money for the brother? That's unfair and the mother should stop that because the sibling relationship may get ugly. She should also apologize to the daughter for this 13 13points reply Ria C. Ria C. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I wonder how long "a while back" his uni acceptances were. Why hasn't he been able to work and save? It also sounds to me like mommy feels bad for her "little" boys heartbreak and it just using the entire situation as an excuse to use her daughter's income to supplement her and her son's monetary needs. 9 9points reply Gin Marie Gin Marie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Look at all the people justifying it. If the positions were reversed the daughter would STILL be paying for the son. 1 1point reply SocksNeverMatch SocksNeverMatch Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago sorry for typos :)_ 0 0points reply Emme Magnolia Emme Magnolia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This is how you make your kids go no contact 82 82points reply Ella Blackwood Ella Blackwood Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This seems very unfair to me and also a surefire way to cause your daughter to deeply resent you for favoring your son over her. They are both trying to get on their feet in this difficult world, but you are only penalizing one of them and subsidizing the other. It just seems blatantly sexist to me. 61 61points reply Nikki Sevven Nikki Sevven Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I can tell you firsthand that this is true. My mother temporarily borrowed $22,000 from me (for about six months) with the promise to repay me as soon as my grandfather's house sold. I withdrew the money from my daughter's college tuition savings account. My mother refused to repay me, saying "we've helped you a lot." Even when reminded that the money was my daughter's college fund, she refused. Three months later, she handed my money over to my brother, so he could pay off his credit cards before he got married. I resent it to this day, and that was 15 years ago. My daughter had to take an additional student loan, which caused her numerous problems down the years. 28 28points reply Load More Replies... Gin Marie Gin Marie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'd have her arrested. She's a horrible liar and thief. 11 11points reply Mike Rodrick Mike Rodrick Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'd definitely have her in court! Imagine what Britney Spears is dealing with right now, & she's an adult. 1 1point reply Mer? Mer? Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Three Words: Small Claims Court. *or "large" claims court? Idk the monetary cut-off point 1 1point reply Signe Manat Hansen Signe Manat Hansen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. You had no right to touch your daughter's college fund. Shame on you for speculating with her future. -8 -8points reply Maggie Dinzler Shaw Maggie Dinzler Shaw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. whole different situation. We contribute to our families if we live at home when we get a paying job. NORMAL. Borrowing money from an adult child who needs it for her own family, very different and totally wrong. She had no right to your money. The parent in this scenario had every right to ask for some money to offset expenses and once they received it, it was theirs. -16 -16points reply Maggie Dinzler Shaw Maggie Dinzler Shaw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. If the son were working, I would expect to pay the same amount if he lived at home. iF YOU have aa job and you live at home, you contribute to the family. It doesn't matter what the parents use the money for, you pay your share. -13 -13points reply KT KT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You're an idiot 2 2points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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Mom Charges Her 17-Year-Old Daughter Over $16k A Year To Fund Her 18-Year-Old Son Receives Backlash Online
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All parents want what's best for their kids. But raising two kids of the same age with two different career choices may be a whole new challenge on its own. One mom has recently taken to Mumsnet for advice on whether her mode of financial support for her 17-year-old daughter and 18-year-old son won't cause resentment. Turns out, her daughter is now undertaking a full-time apprenticeship course, and since she's fairly independent, mom is charging her "rent/keep/petrol equivalent to 25% of her take home." But the same doesn't go for her son, who decided to accept university offers and start a degree there. As you can probably guess, mom's post titled "One at uni, one at work…" raised eyebrows and stirred a heated debate on the platform. Let's see her whole post in full right below, and be sure to share your thoughts on the whole situation in the comments.
One mom has recently taken to Mumsnet to ask how best to support her 17-y o and 18-y o children
Image credits: Sharon McCutcheonTurns out she charges her teen daughter rent and gives the money to her son who decided to go to university
To see what a clinical psychologist had to say on this complex situation, Bored Panda reached out to Dr. Lise Deguire, the author of "Flashback Girl: Lessons on Resilience From a Burn Survivor." Dr. Lise explained that fairness is often extremely important for children. "The perception that another sibling is favored or treated better can lead to many lasting difficulties, including poor self-image, sibling conflict, and resentment of parents." "On the other hand, people often deeply appreciate feeling that their parents treated all their children with equal love, care and support," she added. Not knowing any of the people involved in this case, Dr. Lise said she wouldn't feel comfortable predicting how they will feel about each other. "We don't know their history, or how the mother may have supported her daughter in the past. We also don't know the mother's history or how she may have supported her own parents. Perhaps there is more to the story than we know," she explained. Having said that, Dr. Lise added that "from this brief snapshot, I could imagine that the daughter might feel unsupported and that her vocational goals were not prioritized or valued as much as her brother's." The clinical psychologist hopes the family finds a way to work out the financial obligations that feel fair to all concerned.Her post stirred a heated  debate and this is what people had to comment on this whole situation
Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! 226Kviews Share on Facebook Denis Tymulis Follow Unfollow Denis Tymulis Author, Community member Denis is a photo editor at Bored Panda. After getting his bachelor's degree in Multimedia and Computer Design, he tried to succeed in digital design, advertising, and branding.Also, Denis really enjoys sports and loves everything related to board sports and water. Read more » Liucija Adomaite Liucija Adomaite Author, BoredPanda staff Liucija Adomaite is a creative mind with years of experience in copywriting. She has a dynamic set of experiences from advertising, academia, and journalism. This time, she has set out on a journey to investigate the ways in which we communicate ideas on a large scale. Her current mission is to find a magic formula for how to make ideas, news, and other such things spread like a virus. Read more » Show All Contributors Get the latest inspiring stories via our awesome iOS app! Download Bored Panda app! 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If you want to encourage financial responsibility from your child, use your authority to make her build up a savings account, not line your own pocket. 124 124points reply S S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago THIS. 25 25points reply Load More Replies... Just JoLynn Just JoLynn Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I completely agree, and to further your point, funding one dependent child with another dependent child's hard earned money takes this to a whole new level. Not mention the tone of the mother comes across to me as if she is more interested in protecting the son from the daughter instead of protecting them both. 23 23points reply Amanda Reicha Amanda Reicha Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My husband finished military after 8 years. He came home, got a low wage job until he could find a career based job. He moved in with his mom and this was supposed to be temporary until he could find an apartment. His mom charged him rent for almost all of his monthly earnings. He was trapped after that. He hates his mom. He moved in with me, was able to start college, and now has a great career. Her daughter should be saving that money. Apprentice jobs are education, just a different kind. She shouldn't do this. 16 16points reply Diana Diana Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) This 100%. I can't believe many people agree with the mom here, her son is capable of making his own money and after all going to university is a decision that in the long run will probably only benefit him. Why does the daughter have to sacrifice her hard earned money for the brother? That's unfair and the mother should stop that because the sibling relationship may get ugly. She should also apologize to the daughter for this 13 13points reply Ria C. Ria C. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I wonder how long "a while back" his uni acceptances were. Why hasn't he been able to work and save? It also sounds to me like mommy feels bad for her "little" boys heartbreak and it just using the entire situation as an excuse to use her daughter's income to supplement her and her son's monetary needs. 9 9points reply Gin Marie Gin Marie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Look at all the people justifying it. If the positions were reversed the daughter would STILL be paying for the son. 1 1point reply SocksNeverMatch SocksNeverMatch Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago sorry for typos :)_ 0 0points reply Emme Magnolia Emme Magnolia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This is how you make your kids go no contact 82 82points reply Ella Blackwood Ella Blackwood Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This seems very unfair to me and also a surefire way to cause your daughter to deeply resent you for favoring your son over her. They are both trying to get on their feet in this difficult world, but you are only penalizing one of them and subsidizing the other. It just seems blatantly sexist to me. 61 61points reply Nikki Sevven Nikki Sevven Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I can tell you firsthand that this is true. My mother temporarily borrowed $22,000 from me (for about six months) with the promise to repay me as soon as my grandfather's house sold. I withdrew the money from my daughter's college tuition savings account. My mother refused to repay me, saying "we've helped you a lot." Even when reminded that the money was my daughter's college fund, she refused. Three months later, she handed my money over to my brother, so he could pay off his credit cards before he got married. I resent it to this day, and that was 15 years ago. My daughter had to take an additional student loan, which caused her numerous problems down the years. 28 28points reply Load More Replies... Gin Marie Gin Marie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'd have her arrested. She's a horrible liar and thief. 11 11points reply Mike Rodrick Mike Rodrick Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'd definitely have her in court! Imagine what Britney Spears is dealing with right now, & she's an adult. 1 1point reply Mer? Mer? Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Three Words: Small Claims Court. *or "large" claims court? Idk the monetary cut-off point 1 1point reply Signe Manat Hansen Signe Manat Hansen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. You had no right to touch your daughter's college fund. Shame on you for speculating with her future. -8 -8points reply Maggie Dinzler Shaw Maggie Dinzler Shaw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. whole different situation. We contribute to our families if we live at home when we get a paying job. NORMAL. Borrowing money from an adult child who needs it for her own family, very different and totally wrong. She had no right to your money. The parent in this scenario had every right to ask for some money to offset expenses and once they received it, it was theirs. -16 -16points reply Maggie Dinzler Shaw Maggie Dinzler Shaw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. If the son were working, I would expect to pay the same amount if he lived at home. iF YOU have aa job and you live at home, you contribute to the family. It doesn't matter what the parents use the money for, you pay your share. -13 -13points reply KT KT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You're an idiot 2 2points reply Load More Comments POST Nat Hedley Nat Hedley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago It absolutely is unfair to fund the life development of one dependent child but not the other, and this parent may already have caused permanent scarring to the relationship with the unequal treatment. If you want to encourage financial responsibility from your child, use your authority to make her build up a savings account, not line your own pocket. 124 124points reply S S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago THIS. 25 25points reply Load More Replies... Just JoLynn Just JoLynn Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I completely agree, and to further your point, funding one dependent child with another dependent child's hard earned money takes this to a whole new level. Not mention the tone of the mother comes across to me as if she is more interested in protecting the son from the daughter instead of protecting them both. 23 23points reply Amanda Reicha Amanda Reicha Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My husband finished military after 8 years. He came home, got a low wage job until he could find a career based job. He moved in with his mom and this was supposed to be temporary until he could find an apartment. His mom charged him rent for almost all of his monthly earnings. He was trapped after that. He hates his mom. He moved in with me, was able to start college, and now has a great career. Her daughter should be saving that money. Apprentice jobs are education, just a different kind. She shouldn't do this. 16 16points reply Diana Diana Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) This 100%. I can't believe many people agree with the mom here, her son is capable of making his own money and after all going to university is a decision that in the long run will probably only benefit him. Why does the daughter have to sacrifice her hard earned money for the brother? That's unfair and the mother should stop that because the sibling relationship may get ugly. She should also apologize to the daughter for this 13 13points reply Ria C. Ria C. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) I wonder how long "a while back" his uni acceptances were. Why hasn't he been able to work and save? It also sounds to me like mommy feels bad for her "little" boys heartbreak and it just using the entire situation as an excuse to use her daughter's income to supplement her and her son's monetary needs. 9 9points reply Gin Marie Gin Marie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Look at all the people justifying it. If the positions were reversed the daughter would STILL be paying for the son. 1 1point reply SocksNeverMatch SocksNeverMatch Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago sorry for typos :)_ 0 0points reply Emme Magnolia Emme Magnolia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This is how you make your kids go no contact 82 82points reply Ella Blackwood Ella Blackwood Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This seems very unfair to me and also a surefire way to cause your daughter to deeply resent you for favoring your son over her. They are both trying to get on their feet in this difficult world, but you are only penalizing one of them and subsidizing the other. It just seems blatantly sexist to me. 61 61points reply Nikki Sevven Nikki Sevven Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I can tell you firsthand that this is true. My mother temporarily borrowed $22,000 from me (for about six months) with the promise to repay me as soon as my grandfather's house sold. I withdrew the money from my daughter's college tuition savings account. My mother refused to repay me, saying "we've helped you a lot." Even when reminded that the money was my daughter's college fund, she refused. Three months later, she handed my money over to my brother, so he could pay off his credit cards before he got married. I resent it to this day, and that was 15 years ago. My daughter had to take an additional student loan, which caused her numerous problems down the years. 28 28points reply Load More Replies... Gin Marie Gin Marie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'd have her arrested. She's a horrible liar and thief. 11 11points reply Mike Rodrick Mike Rodrick Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I'd definitely have her in court! Imagine what Britney Spears is dealing with right now, & she's an adult. 1 1point reply Mer? Mer? Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Three Words: Small Claims Court. *or "large" claims court? Idk the monetary cut-off point 1 1point reply Signe Manat Hansen Signe Manat Hansen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. You had no right to touch your daughter's college fund. Shame on you for speculating with her future. -8 -8points reply Maggie Dinzler Shaw Maggie Dinzler Shaw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. whole different situation. We contribute to our families if we live at home when we get a paying job. NORMAL. Borrowing money from an adult child who needs it for her own family, very different and totally wrong. She had no right to your money. The parent in this scenario had every right to ask for some money to offset expenses and once they received it, it was theirs. -16 -16points reply Maggie Dinzler Shaw Maggie Dinzler Shaw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. If the son were working, I would expect to pay the same amount if he lived at home. iF YOU have aa job and you live at home, you contribute to the family. It doesn't matter what the parents use the money for, you pay your share. -13 -13points reply KT KT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You're an idiot 2 2points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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