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Pastor Issues An Apology For Making Girls Wear One-Piece Swimsuits And His Honest Letter Goes Viral

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Rokas Laurinavičius
Bryce Brewer has been a pastor for 20 years. During this time, he has given what he now calls a "ridiculous ultimatum" to more young girls than he can count, insisting they only wear one-piece swimsuits to church-sponsored events. But on a recent shopping trip with his fiancé and her 10-year-old daughter to find a one-piece suit for a church summer camp in Spokane Valley, Brewer came to an important realization. "I wandered with them through several department stores and through Target trying to find a cute-but-appropriate one-piece bathing suit and they're very very difficult to find," Brewer told TODAY Parents. "I watched a frustration build with both of them, almost a dejection." "I wondered, how many young ladies did I subject to this event over 20 years of ministry?" Brewer continued. "Times when, because of me, they were desperately searching for a one-piece bathing suit and couldn't find one?" So he turned to social media to explain why he now finds his earlier comments on "appropriate swimwear" cringe-worthy. Image credits: pexels (not the actual photo) Image credits: pastorbrycebrewer "Women are all shaped differently and for a male to come in and say what a female should wear? That's the most ridiculous thing in my head now," Brewer said. "Those conversations and meetings? It breaks my heart that I said some of the things I did. I was totally missing the point." As his open letter is making headlines, the pastor hopes he will inspire others to avoid making the mistake he did. "The number one thing I hope comes from this is that we as leaders, especially in the church, would walk in humility and stop pretending we are the ones that have the answers," he explained. "I truly am sorry, and my intention was to say that and to say that while my heart may have been in the right place, I missed the boat in this area." Understanding and admitting your faults (as well as apologizing for them) are not signs of weakness. They show inner strength and growth. And people are glad this pastor was brave enough to choose this path.

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During summer they had a small paddling pool/wading pool the children could play in. My friend asked why her daughter hadn't played in the pool with the other children, but was told that since she didn't have a top..... The girl was THREE years old. There are no boobs to be hidden at that age. 66 66points reply Abhinc Abhinc Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago this is sickening !! that's sexualizing a 3yo little girl. i'm french. at 3 you run around butt naked on the beach and nobody cares 61 61points reply Load More Replies... Aaricia Aaricia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Same in the Netherlands, parents mostly stop and put on a swim pants when the child is 3,5 years or older. For girls only pants too as they don't look mu h different than boys. 6 6points reply Eric S. Eric S. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. And why do you think they would be sexualizing 3 year olds, hmmmm? -15 -15points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago When I was little, in the US, in fact, we ran around naked/topless as girls. Who cared? So I think the evangelical right-wing religious types are somehow pushing this idea of "women are tempters from he**" into mainstream culture to such a point that it's ridiculous. Frankly, I vote we let adult women go topless. It's flipping hot outside! We'd like to not be suffocated in bras and tops while men can go shirtless! It's almost 40*C here! 15 15points reply Aaricia Aaricia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Many girls go in their bikini when in themeparks. Only in centers of cities it's not allowed. 1 1point reply Flip Flip Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Wow. That never made sense to me as a kid. Never wore that. My boys had a girl come over to play. They were around 8 or so. It was hot. They put off their shirt. She puts off her shirt too. They start to giggle. She says: what? I don't even have anything. 13 13points reply Suzi Gauthier Suzi Gauthier Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I went topless playing outside until I was 5. Then the older boys started teasing me about it. 5 5points reply Calypso poet Calypso poet Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I have the cutest picture of myself playing in the sprinkler when I was about 5 and I'm just in my underwear. Of course people would complain today. My dad didn't make a lot of money in the 70's and bathing suits weren't available everywhere cheap and year round like they are these days! 4 4points reply Pernille Dyre Pernille Dyre Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago In denmark we use T-shirts to the small ones in the pool.... not because of their gender - but to protect them from the sun!!!!! 11 11points reply Aaricia Aaricia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Same in the Netherlands! And when the sun is gone they can go butt naked! 2 2points reply Dhukath Dhukath Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago The "sin of lust", the act by men of forcing women/girls to cover themselves creates the issue, by hiding away "God given" bodies it creates mystery, boys believe there is something overtly sexual about cleavage/boobs, backs and bellies! Normalize the the human form from an early age, normalize breast feeding! Also, the "Seven Sins" are mentioned nowhere in the bible, just another man made form of control! 33 33points reply Natalie Kudryashova Natalie Kudryashova Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Lust is not a sin, it’s an entirely normal and natural thing to feel. Acting on said list in inappropriate and creepy ways is the problem, not the lust itself 12 12points reply Load More Replies... memyselfandI memyselfandI Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I agree that the temptation is not a sin, though letting those thoughts run wild and not even trying to control them is. And actions definitely are. 2 2points reply Carmen Sandiego Carmen Sandiego Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Posts like this make me very happy! 32 32points reply Load More Comments POST Ragnhild Nilsen Ragnhild Nilsen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago A friend lived in USA for a couple of years, and her daughter was in daycare. During summer they had a small paddling pool/wading pool the children could play in. My friend asked why her daughter hadn't played in the pool with the other children, but was told that since she didn't have a top..... The girl was THREE years old. There are no boobs to be hidden at that age. 66 66points reply Abhinc Abhinc Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago this is sickening !! that's sexualizing a 3yo little girl. i'm french. at 3 you run around butt naked on the beach and nobody cares 61 61points reply Load More Replies... Aaricia Aaricia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Same in the Netherlands, parents mostly stop and put on a swim pants when the child is 3,5 years or older. For girls only pants too as they don't look mu h different than boys. 6 6points reply Eric S. Eric S. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. And why do you think they would be sexualizing 3 year olds, hmmmm? -15 -15points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago When I was little, in the US, in fact, we ran around naked/topless as girls. Who cared? So I think the evangelical right-wing religious types are somehow pushing this idea of "women are tempters from he**" into mainstream culture to such a point that it's ridiculous. Frankly, I vote we let adult women go topless. It's flipping hot outside! We'd like to not be suffocated in bras and tops while men can go shirtless! It's almost 40*C here! 15 15points reply Aaricia Aaricia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Many girls go in their bikini when in themeparks. Only in centers of cities it's not allowed. 1 1point reply Flip Flip Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Wow. That never made sense to me as a kid. Never wore that. My boys had a girl come over to play. They were around 8 or so. It was hot. They put off their shirt. She puts off her shirt too. They start to giggle. She says: what? I don't even have anything. 13 13points reply Suzi Gauthier Suzi Gauthier Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I went topless playing outside until I was 5. Then the older boys started teasing me about it. 5 5points reply Calypso poet Calypso poet Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I have the cutest picture of myself playing in the sprinkler when I was about 5 and I'm just in my underwear. Of course people would complain today. My dad didn't make a lot of money in the 70's and bathing suits weren't available everywhere cheap and year round like they are these days! 4 4points reply Pernille Dyre Pernille Dyre Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago In denmark we use T-shirts to the small ones in the pool.... not because of their gender - but to protect them from the sun!!!!! 11 11points reply Aaricia Aaricia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Same in the Netherlands! And when the sun is gone they can go butt naked! 2 2points reply Dhukath Dhukath Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago The "sin of lust", the act by men of forcing women/girls to cover themselves creates the issue, by hiding away "God given" bodies it creates mystery, boys believe there is something overtly sexual about cleavage/boobs, backs and bellies! Normalize the the human form from an early age, normalize breast feeding! Also, the "Seven Sins" are mentioned nowhere in the bible, just another man made form of control! 33 33points reply Natalie Kudryashova Natalie Kudryashova Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Lust is not a sin, it’s an entirely normal and natural thing to feel. Acting on said list in inappropriate and creepy ways is the problem, not the lust itself 12 12points reply Load More Replies... memyselfandI memyselfandI Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I agree that the temptation is not a sin, though letting those thoughts run wild and not even trying to control them is. And actions definitely are. 2 2points reply Carmen Sandiego Carmen Sandiego Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Posts like this make me very happy! 32 32points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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