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Girlfriend Gets Mad After Guy Walks Out Of Dinner With Her Parents When They Start Insulting His Brother And His Husband
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Austėja Akavickaitė
Family is family, no matter how 'weird' your situation might look to others. It's absolutely natural to want to protect those dearest to you. And if anyone dares criticize your loved ones..? Hang on tight because there's going to be a storm of reckoning coming your way. Redditor Worried_Usual_3799 shared a dramatic story about how he met his girlfriend's parents, only to have the night end incredibly badly due to their hateful comments. You see, the redditor grew up in difficult and unusual circumstances: after losing both of his parents, his brother and his partner raised him together. While most of you Pandas are bound to focus on how this family overcame adversity in the face of tragedy, the redditor's girlfriend's homophobic parents instead chose to criticize the fact that it was two men who raised the child. You'll find the full story, as told by Worried_Usual_3799, below, with all of its dramatic ups and downs. Have a read and let us know if you think the redditor was right to react the way he did or if you think his actions were rude. Psychologist and wellbeing consultant Lee Chambers told Bored Panda that parental behavior "is often modeled and plays a significant role in children's attitudes." According to him, "Parents influence a child's values and choices, and the stronger the bond you have with a child, the more they are likely to value what you say and what you do, and therefore more likely to be shaped by those attitudes and beliefs." An internet user shared what happened during dinner with his gf s parents after they found out that his gay brother and his partner raised him
Image credits: Ketut Subiyanto (not the actual photo) Here is the full story
"While there is no doubt that we are not born as raging homophobes carrying out homophobic abuse, we are still in a place of understanding exactly how from an evolutionary, genetically, societal, and developmental perspective our attitudes towards sexuality are shaped to become beliefs, behaviours, and implicit biases," psychologist Lee told Bored Panda. "From the counter studies of Gallup and Archer 25 years ago, we are still in a position where we are trying to understand how the many variables manifest." The redditor's girlfriend's parents were incredibly judgmental of his brother and his partner, and their comments were practically oozing homophobia. They referred to being gay as "bad habits" and called the young adult's brother "perverted." Naturally, comments like this would make nearly anyone angry. Imagine if you found out that someone's been saying things like this about the people closest to you, the people who raised you and gave you the best possible childhood. The vast majority of redditors on the AITA online community said that the author of the post was completely justified in walking out on dinner with his partner's parents. Some internet users even suggested completely cutting ties with his girlfriend because she kept 'making excuses' for her parents. During a previous interview, I spoke about the roots of homophobia with psychotherapist Silva Neves, from the United Kingdom. He explained that homophobia is learned behavior and usually becomes enrooted in people's minds due to their upbringing. "If people grew up with homophobic parents and they haven't been exposed to different opinions, they are more likely to be homophobic themselves," the expert told Bored Panda. "Most religions promote the inaccurate idea that same-sex relationships and sexual behaviors are unnatural, wrong, against their God, and a sin," Silva explained that people growing up in religious households are more likely to hold homophobic beliefs. "Even recently, the Pope declared that same-sex marriages were not endorsed by the Church. Islam is also very homophobic. Most Islamic countries have anti-gay laws with punishment ranging from imprisonment to the death penalty. Many people in the UK growing up in such households are more likely to be homophobic," he said that it isn't any one particular religion, but many, that promote these views. "Teenagers can be homophobic as a way to conform to heterosexuality and be more accepted by their peers," he added. What's more, some people turn to homophobia as a way to try to deny and repress their own same-sex attractions. "In being homophobic they attempt to repress their own feelings by fighting against the source of their arousal: the LGBTQ people." Reddit users overwhelmingly supported the author of the story Here s what they had to say about his reaction during dinner
Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Jonas Grinevičius Follow Unfollow Jonas Grinevičius Writer, BoredPanda staff Jonas is a Bored Panda writer who previously worked as a world news journalist elsewhere. After getting his bachelor's degree in Politics and International Relations at the University of Manchester, he returned home and graduated from Vilnius University with a master's degree in Comparative Politics. Jonas enjoys writing articles ranging from serious topics like politics and social issues to more lighthearted things like art, pop culture, and nature. In his spare time, Jonas writes books and short stories and likes to draw lighthearted illustrations. A huge fan of literature, films, philosophy, and tabletop games, he also has a special place in his heart for anything related to fantasy or science fiction. 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POST lightbulb lightbulb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago If you make excuses for someone else's bigotry you're just as horrible. He needs to dump Sara right now and never look back. 82 82points reply Hans Hans Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I find it alarming that so many people carry so much hate in them. There is not a single reason or argument for condemning homosexuality (i.e. it is not an "opinion" to be against homosexuality but a choice to ignore facts and a choice to be unempathic), and linking it to "bad habits" or even "lifestyle choices" merely shows a lack of education – or the unwillingness to be educated. 69 69points reply Gabriel Sbárbaro Gabriel Sbárbaro Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago They most probably were religious people... religion rottens brains... 18 18points reply Load More Replies... Jaded Queen Jaded Queen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago https://youtu.be/ww47bR86wSc Ur welcome 0 0points reply Gabriel Sbárbaro Gabriel Sbárbaro Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 12 months ago (edited) What's your point? 0 0points reply Stella Southwick Stella Southwick Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Everyone has a right to their own feelings & opinions so to label anyone with intolerant labels for not agreeing with you makes YOU the bad person -3 -3points reply Gabriel Sbárbaro Gabriel Sbárbaro Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 12 months ago Facts are facts, m'am... the VAST majority of people who condemn homosexuality does it based on their religious beliefs... the VAST majority of anti-vaxxers are religious people... the VAST majority of flat-earthers are religious people... the VAST majority of climate-change deniers are religious people... the VAST majority of prison inmates are religious people... Yes, everyone has the right of their own opinions, but DO NOT confuse the right to HAVE an opinion with the NON-EXISTING "right" of having all our opinions RESPECTED... opinions CAN be stupid, homophobic, racist, or just being plain wrong... 1 1point reply Beth L Beth L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Was it his best moment? Probably not. But then again we're not required to be our best selves 24/7. It was his authentic self, and he is under no obligation to tolerate continued rudeness. Sympathy for losing his parents at such a young age would have been appropriate, but no, they had to double down on the homophobia. I hope the OP is on to someone new who loves him *and* his family. 50 50points reply René Studer René Studer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I agree with everything you wrote except one thing. I think it was his best moment. 60 60points reply Load More Replies... 13 13 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Me too. 8 8points reply Diane Knight Diane Knight Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Given the young man is 19, his 'rudeness' is age-appropriate. How many times has he had to practice or handle things with grace? Her parents were not acting their age nor giving a good example. 7 7points reply Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It's not rudeness at all. He walked away from terrible people. The point of manners is to put other people at ease, not to allow terrible people to insult you. 4 4points reply RenaMoonlight RenaMoonlight Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Life is too short to tolerate toxicity in any of its form. He did well on leaving. 3 3points reply Maria Mandjik Maria Mandjik Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I just wished he told them before leaving they are rotten people. 0 0points reply Load More Comments POST lightbulb lightbulb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago If you make excuses for someone else's bigotry you're just as horrible. He needs to dump Sara right now and never look back. 82 82points reply Hans Hans Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I find it alarming that so many people carry so much hate in them. There is not a single reason or argument for condemning homosexuality (i.e. it is not an "opinion" to be against homosexuality but a choice to ignore facts and a choice to be unempathic), and linking it to "bad habits" or even "lifestyle choices" merely shows a lack of education – or the unwillingness to be educated. 69 69points reply Gabriel Sbárbaro Gabriel Sbárbaro Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago They most probably were religious people... religion rottens brains... 18 18points reply Load More Replies... Jaded Queen Jaded Queen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago https://youtu.be/ww47bR86wSc Ur welcome 0 0points reply Gabriel Sbárbaro Gabriel Sbárbaro Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 12 months ago (edited) What's your point? 0 0points reply Stella Southwick Stella Southwick Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Everyone has a right to their own feelings & opinions so to label anyone with intolerant labels for not agreeing with you makes YOU the bad person -3 -3points reply Gabriel Sbárbaro Gabriel Sbárbaro Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 12 months ago Facts are facts, m'am... the VAST majority of people who condemn homosexuality does it based on their religious beliefs... the VAST majority of anti-vaxxers are religious people... the VAST majority of flat-earthers are religious people... the VAST majority of climate-change deniers are religious people... the VAST majority of prison inmates are religious people... Yes, everyone has the right of their own opinions, but DO NOT confuse the right to HAVE an opinion with the NON-EXISTING "right" of having all our opinions RESPECTED... opinions CAN be stupid, homophobic, racist, or just being plain wrong... 1 1point reply Beth L Beth L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Was it his best moment? Probably not. But then again we're not required to be our best selves 24/7. It was his authentic self, and he is under no obligation to tolerate continued rudeness. Sympathy for losing his parents at such a young age would have been appropriate, but no, they had to double down on the homophobia. I hope the OP is on to someone new who loves him *and* his family. 50 50points reply René Studer René Studer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I agree with everything you wrote except one thing. I think it was his best moment. 60 60points reply Load More Replies... 13 13 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Me too. 8 8points reply Diane Knight Diane Knight Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Given the young man is 19, his 'rudeness' is age-appropriate. How many times has he had to practice or handle things with grace? Her parents were not acting their age nor giving a good example. 7 7points reply Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago It's not rudeness at all. He walked away from terrible people. The point of manners is to put other people at ease, not to allow terrible people to insult you. 4 4points reply RenaMoonlight RenaMoonlight Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Life is too short to tolerate toxicity in any of its form. He did well on leaving. 3 3points reply Maria Mandjik Maria Mandjik Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I just wished he told them before leaving they are rotten people. 0 0points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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