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Publish Not your original work? Add source In a world governed by unattainable beauty standards, photo editing, plastic surgeries, flawless skin, timeless youth, perfect smiles and… the list is endless, appearance is something that it seems our society is wildly obsessed with. A national survey from Allure found that the first thing 64% of people notice about someone is how attractive he or she is. And half of us-that's every other person-think appearance defines us significantly or completely. Now think of the professional careers, job interviews, dates, and overall success, and it clicks-the way we see beauty has indeed a very ugly side. So when someone asked women on Reddit this uncomfortable question, "What are the lesser-known problems of being an unattractive woman?" the brutally honest and often sad responses started flowing in. Below are some of the most revealing ones that should really make us all stop and reflect on why we judge others so much and how we can change that. This post may include affiliate links. #1 People being rude to you, especially men. If they’re not attracted to you, then you don't deserve respect nor decency. dontbesuspecious1 , Keira Burton Report Final score: 263points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago This extends to disabled women and women with chronic illnesses. “You have diabetes because you are overweight” and “it’s a lifestyle choice”. I was BORN with it as are many so how is that a lifestyle choice? Cruel 95 95points reply View More Replies... View more comments #2 If a skinny, pretty girl dresses super casual with no effort, it’s cute and trendy, but if I do it I’m lazy and don’t care about my looks. loalenatrice , Andres Ayrton Report Final score: 261points POST Stefan Stefan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Skinny and pretty are two different things. 43 43points reply View More Replies... View more comments #3 When someone does genuinely find you attractive and you think it's a joke taco_h0e , Callum Shaw Report Final score: 241points POST Foxxy (The Original) Foxxy (The Original) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) I find it hard to believe and accept compliments about my looks. I also don't think my friends and family who say things like that are liars coz that's insulting to them. So I just say thank you with an awkward laugh. It's all so confusing. 46 46points reply View More Replies... View more comments We reached out to the author of this Reddit thread who said he believes that we all live in a world that's too obsessed with looks. According to BaymaxTheBot, "everyone has social media and if you do not have it, it seems that something must be wrong with you. We take 1000 pictures of ourselves to share the one we think we look the best in." According to the author who posted the question on r/AskWomen, sharing your selfies on social media is one of the easiest ways to receive external validation. Moreover, "everyone chases confidence and a boost to their self-esteem. That's what gets you hooked to social media; the constant need to seek this feeling of self-reassurance," he said. #4 As a fat woman: not being able to go to 90% of my doctor's visits without my weight being brought up. I mean, that's fine in a checkup or physical, but if I go in because I have a sinus infection, I don't really feel the need to discuss how fat I am right at that moment unless it's somehow going to clear up my sinus infection. Electronic-Cow7250 , cottonbro Report Final score: 231points POST Alexandra Nara Alexandra Nara Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Nope ...it's even dangerous if a doctor is always focussed on weight. My doc was so obsessiv blaming my weight for every issue she didn't notice some cancerous cysts-she was just not looking for other reasons. And each feeling " something is wrong with my body" makes me a hypochondric - cause " fat persons don't have a feeling for their own body" Lost my trust to many docs because of this and sadly- I know I'm not the only one And by the way - my BMI is " only" 30, I do yoga and trail-trecking and have hashimoto syndrom-Most docs know that and ignore it still. 92 92points reply View More Replies... View more comments #5 Oh, I'm excited for this one. I'm pretty attractive, I get hit on regularly - I'm attractive enough to appeal to a wide swathe of individuals, but not so attractive as to be intimidating.
But I wasn't always, for five years I was fat because of medication. Last year, I got super toned and lost the weight when I went off the meds. I'm now training for competitive powerlifting.
I was cute before I gained the weight, but somehow, my thirties have been amazing - this weight loss left me with anime eyes and cut cheekbones, a look I've never had before.
I am treated better in every facet of my life and it has given me genuine body dysmorphia that I have been in therapy for.
Men offer me free things, they constantly hit on me; women ask for advice constantly, and all ANYONE wants to discuss is how I look, which is the least interesting f**king thing about me.
Pretty privilege and thin privilege are absolutely real, and the worst part is finding out that my biggest fear - that I was worth less to society when I weighed more - was absolutely f**king true.
Thanks, society, for the super awesome body dysmorphia you have now given me.
What's interesting is that I spent so many years in the shadows that I have zero interest in coming out of them anymore, but just like when I was fat, people think they have some sort of right to discuss my appearance blatantly.
It's disgusting, and all it does is show how incredibly undervalued women are for anything other than our looks. thedjmk Report Final score: 207points POST Jihana Jihana Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Yeah, I feel this one. I have always been fat. But about 20 years ago I lost a lot of weight due to mental health problems. I only ate about an apple a day and nothing else. I was slim but not unhealthy looking, because of course I still had that thyroid problem. It was CRAZY how people treated me once I was slim, even my own family was nicer. Of course once my depression was over and I started to eat normally again I gained all that weight back, and of course I got invisible again. I always resented the attention I got when I was slim, because I always knew that people were never interested in ME, only in my looks. I am strangely relieved that men leave me alone now, being ugly is a great way to filter out the shallow types. 68 68points reply View More Replies... View more comments #6 That no matter how often your significant other tells you that you’re beautiful, you constantly compare yourself to more attractive women and feel that you’ll never be enough. Warai-Kitten , Alex Green Report Final score: 191points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Gave that up years ago. It leads nowhere happy 30 30points reply View More Replies... View more comments When asked what he thought of the overwhelming responses his questions received, the Redditor said he did not expect this amount of attention nor this amount of people relating in some way. When it comes to judging others by their appearance, BaymaxTheBot said that it really depends on the person, but usually, "we put an emphasis on appearance because it's the first thing we notice about the other and according to this perception we are more or less willing to associate with someone." #7 People thinking that you don't have the right to like yourself or thinking that your confidence is 'brave.' F**k off. GettingThere1212 , Jeff Denlea Report Final score: 188points POST Sedona Sedona Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago And if I post a picture of myself I'm automatically promoting obesity.... 49 49points reply View More Replies... View more comments #8 Spending ages trying to dress up nicely only to go outside and realize that everyone else is still a million times more attractive than you. Ethereal-Glow , Polina Tankilevitch Report Final score: 176points POST Chithra Warrier Chithra Warrier Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Exactly. I can't express how much I relate to this it's so true. My parents keep telling me that I look good but afterwards once you go outside you still feel ugly. Worst feeling in the world. 29 29points reply View More Replies... View more comments #9 Being invisible next to your friends. They're all having fun, and you just sit there, and no one is talking to you khajiitidanceparty , Lisa Report Final score: 157points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago The they aren’t your friends then if they do that 75 75points reply View More Replies... View more comments #10 Unsolicited weight loss/health advice (that is often wrong and does not consider my health at all) and unsolicited advice on how to be attractive to men. loalenatrice , Andres Ayrton Report Final score: 142points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Keep it to yourself. You don’t have the right nor do you know what’s going on mentally or medically 23 23points reply View More Replies... View more comments #11 That you should be grateful that any man wants to sleep with you and it’s selfish to think that you deserve to be in a relationship with respect. I’m apparently fine to sleep with but heaven forbid they take me outside the house and be seen with me even if they themselves aren’t conventionally attractive. bbbbbbb9999 , Jaymantri Report Final score: 140points POST littlesaresare littlesaresare Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Yep. You just have to tolerate the abuse, because you sure as hell will never deserve better. 17 17points reply View More Replies... View more comments #12 It’s a lot harder in the office. Women have a hard enough time rising to higher ranks or being taken seriously but it’s very annoying when the pretty women are taken more seriously. Heck same is true for men. Good looks win jobs Nancy2421 , Sigmund Report Final score: 121points POST Tami Tami Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) I worked in an engineering group, and it didn't seem like this at all. The female engineers mostly had average features that they didn't much enhance with makeup, and many didn't wear any makeup; some were overweight, some were not, and they tended to dress in line with the guys in their group—business casual for the older set, jeans and T-shirts among the young people. 7 7points reply View More Replies... View more comments #13 Most men assumed that I was going to be easy — as in easy to have sex with — because they think I have no self-esteem and seek validation with sex. _Lilith_89 , cottonbro Report Final score: 115points POST Zwiebel Suppe Zwiebel Suppe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago And even if you are ok with "being easy" because you, too, want to have casual sex, they'd still look down on you somehow and be disgusted in a way. That is so twisted. 37 37points reply View More Replies... View more comments #14 Fewer job opportunities. Attractiveness plays a part in getting hired. marymoon77 , fauxels Report Final score: 110points POST Jihana Jihana Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago After I lost my job one of my former colleagues told me: "Well, now you have time to lose weight. Just only eat every second day, and you even can get grumpy now because we won't see it. I mean...you can't go to a job interview looking like this" F*ck you, Katharina! 41 41points reply View More Replies... View more comments #15 People constantly trying to fix me. My aunty asked me how I was going to get a man with a body like mine and my dressing style. Mind you, she is pushing 50 with no man, but OK. Forsaken-Vermicelli3 , Dương Nhân Report Final score: 110points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I don’t need fixing thanks 24 24points reply View More Replies... View more comments #16 Empathy and sympathy. People want to comfort you when you're the cute, pretty crier, protect you. I rarely see ugly people being the face of depression or mental illness on social media.
Not so much when you're ugly. It's kind of just awkward. PikaBooSquirrel , Liza Summer Report Final score: 96points POST D. Pitbull D. Pitbull Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Ohhh.. .no, when you're not considered "pretty" - when you're upset, crying or otherwise needing support people get ANGRY with you... they get *irritated* that you're wasting their time and "making a scene" and "overreacting"... you also get LOTS of reminders about how you should be super grateful for the little scraps of pity thrown at you ... you know... things like ... lucky that you weren't abandoned as a baby. 11 11points reply View More Replies... View more comments #17 Sometimes I feel bad for my partner, thinking he's embarrassed or could do better. Sensitiverock85 , freestocks.org Report Final score: 91points POST Helenium Helenium Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Before i married my skinny super handsome husband i said he can call it off as he can do better with someone prettier as im over weight, i ha an eating disorder and lost aton of weight but then i put it back on double, still married me and i said if you find someone else in the mean time i wont blame you at all 19 19points reply View More Replies... View more comments #18 When I was fat, they would hit on my significant other right in front of me. When I’m slim, they look at him and immediately look at the floor and walk away. catniagara , Katerina Holmes Report Final score: 90points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago The double standard is disgusting 35 35points reply View More Replies... View more comments #19 I lost a lot of weight after getting married & you'd be surprised how many people have said to me "Awww, he loved you for what you were on the inside!" The implication of course being he didn't find me attractive before but for some reason pursued me anyway - girl, what? Cyclibant , Jennifer Burk Report Final score: 87points POST Anzelle Van Der Vyver Anzelle Van Der Vyver Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago This is funny, why would he marry you if he didn't like / love you!!! People are so shallow really! I hope you have many more happy years of marriage! 18 18points reply View More Replies... View more comments #20 I was treated differently than my attractive friends. People were less helpful to me, left me out of everything (especially photos), and only wanted me around when it suited them. Ethereal-Glow , Mor Shani Report Final score: 84points POST MyOpinionHasBeenServed MyOpinionHasBeenServed Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Ever have a photo studio photographer argue with their colleague who will take your photo? I don't like photographers for this reason. They always seem annoyed and angry with me while being so nice to everyone else in the group. 14 14points reply View More Replies... View more comments #21 I was ugly as a pre-teen and teenager, and whenever I said that some other woman was mean to me, I just got told “oh you are just jealous of them!”. Like, wtf, no?!
It also felt like people were able to bully me as much as they wanted to and that my claims were untrue. Just because I was ugly doesn’t mean I was lying. Somehow ppl just trust attractive people more for some crazy reason.
These days I’m cute, but I don’t put much effort in. Sometimes people get annoyed at me for not “using my potential”. No, I don’t wanna spend 1h each morning applying makeup. Who do I wanna impress? I’m cute enough to not be treated like s**t, and I have no desire to be hit on or looked at by every random dude. Let me just live my life ok? Cute_Mousse_7980 , M. Report Final score: 83points POST Ross Warren Ross Warren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I blame the media. Did you ever notice that the heroic character is almost always attractive while the villain is usually ugly? 38 38points reply View More Replies... View more comments #22 I think growing up the “ugly duckling” can have bad effects on your mind and cause you to put up with bad behaviour from men. I legit thought I was ugly and unlovable and that I was lucky to have any guy interested, so I had a beggars mindset and put up with his terrible behaviour.
It’s now that I realise that I had actually had a glow up and hadn’t realised. I look at old photos and see a beautiful young woman. I was just so stuck in my past that I couldn’t embrace myself or be confident.
Your perception of yourself really does determine how you let others treat you thanarealnobody , Zhivko Minkov Report Final score: 81points POST ZAPanda ZAPanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago absolutely. I remember kids at school telling me i was ugly, then the other day i showed a picture of myself at 16 to a female friend and she was like, "OMG if you were at my school you would have been jumped by all of us!" so... yeah. your self-image is generally false. 22 22points reply View more comments #23 That specific feeling when everyone gathers to take a group picture and hands the phone to me to take it. Ouch jupiterjazz87 , NordWood Themes Report Final score: 76points POST Deja Katz Deja Katz Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I’d f**k it up every time 16 16points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective #24 People leaving you for your best friend when they realise she's prettier.
No she hasn't ever gotten with them, but they've left with the intention of getting with her blopdab , Claudia Wolff Report Final score: 69points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago She’s a good friend if she’s blown that fantasy time after time in defence of you 44 44points reply View more comments #25 Being called sir in shops. Not being able to contribute to the conversation when other women share stories of men hitting on them because it never happens vpetmad , Anastasiya Gepp Report Final score: 65points POST Julie C Rose Julie C Rose Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I’ve hardly ever had to deal with being creeped on and I’m glad about that. That stuff can be scary. 19 19points reply View More Replies... View more comments #26 well as a chubby and “ugly” person, most often people think you are dumb and uninteresting and you have no right to date/like attractive people because they are out of your league. when I was a teen people would say straight to my face that I was ugly…they don’t say it anymore, but I can feel it…ahahah dallasdina , Daniela Dávila Report Final score: 64points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I have an indent in my left temple from major brain surgery 8 years ago. I am sick and tired of people trying to get me to fix it. It’s fine and any cosmetic surgery won’t work because of the plates underneath. All it does by bringing attention to it is make people feel less than 24 24points reply View More Replies... View more comments #27 Guys lying saying you're obsessed with them just to get other girls to laugh and be like "eww really??" Krazygirl1234 , Kat Smith Report Final score: 61points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Cruel 16 16points reply View more comments #28 I hate when people comment or say, 'I wanna have your self-esteem/confidence!' as if it was a compliment. It isn't — they're just using other words to call the person ugly. tealgirl94 , Vinicius Wiesehofer Report Final score: 60points POST Caro Caro Caro Caro Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Women can do this to other women. It's not alway about looks but sometimes these women are themselves so terribly insecure and don't understand how the secure woman can be so confident (or seems like she is confident). 21 21points reply View More Replies... View more comments #29 A guy telling me "He usually wasn't attracted to women like me" in other words fat girls.
Seriously einahpetsg , Laura Tancredi Report Final score: 60points POST Caro Caro Caro Caro Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago So you took off your stiletto shoe and shoved it up his a$$? 39 39points reply View More Replies... View more comments #30 Being 21 and knowing there is a big chance you have to live your life alone and never getting married.
Lots of people gonna say nooo you find the right one eventually but then I always think of my teacher who looked like me and she was 50, never been married and living alone with two cats. daydreaming-g , Ekaterina Report Final score: 58points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Don’t underestimate the peace of living with animals 86 86points reply View More Replies... View more comments Note: this post originally had 55 images. It’s been shortened to the top 30 images based on user votes. Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Add Your Answer! Not your original work? Add source Publish Change image Upload Photo Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Upload Upload Edit Image Error occurred when generating embed. Please check link and try again. Render conversation
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POST Paula Marowsky Paula Marowsky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Being not able to look at you in the mirror, because you really don't like what you see. Or people telling you how "ugly ducklings" became beauty pageant princesses if they put enough effort to it... meaning you could use some surgical enhancement. 13 13points reply Samantha Lomb Samantha Lomb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Just get rid of mirrors. It works for me. Much happier without. And of course ignore Shitlord Ryan. He really never has anything nice to say. 2 2points reply Load More Replies... Yort Yort Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago But how do you brush your hair or make sure your acne medicine is going on the right place? 0 0points reply Jyndaru Jyndaru Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago THANK YOU!! Both Ryan and Petros were a mess in this comment section. They must truly hate themselves. I hope they can both find some happiness in life and stop bringing down other people. 0 0points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Surgery is the best option. -20 -20points reply Suz66 Suz66 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Do you ever have anything nice to say? You're comments are always so hurtful! 6 6points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago He is an incel; a part of a terrorist misogynistic organisation. I doubt that he ever said something nice 1 1point reply BorPand8 BorPand8 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago It's sad. He is 'too ugly to be loved' but the ugliness is on the inside, not the outside. 2 2points reply BorPand8 BorPand8 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Like, look at this guy from the cute kitty post. He's not conventionally handsome, but he is attractive. He's got personality, a good sense of humor, and he loves animals. What's not to like? And somebody already snapped him up, since he's wearing a wedding ring. cute-61943...a1ef3f.jpg 3 3points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago (edited) This comment is hidden. Click here to view. You are a liar. "incel" is just an adjective that means "too ugly to be loved". -6 -6points reply Ms.GB Ms.GB Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago So then you can relate, how does it feel to know that all these women you made fun of for being unattractive still wouldn't be attracted to you. 3 3points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Well, it never happened, so I can't tell... But I supposed I would not give a f**k? -7 -7points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. That's not hurtful. Telling people that their feelings are not valid and they should be hated for that reason is. I'm sorry my honesty makes you face your own evil hypocrisy. -4 -4points reply Jyndaru Jyndaru Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Saying "surgery is the best option" in reference to someone feeling ugly? Yes, that's most definitely hurtful. You've been making comments all over this post that are completely unnecessary and purposely hurtful. You may feel bad about yourself, but that isn't an excuse to make other people feel bad. I hope you can find some happiness in life and stop bringing others down. 3 3points reply Samantha Lomb Samantha Lomb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago You really are just a nasty miserable person. And THAT is why you are unloved. 2 2points reply Kitty Jordan Kitty Jordan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) It saddens me to see how many of these say, "As a fat woman...". I understand that our culture promotes the ideal that skinny is the only way to be pretty, but it perpetuates the idea that any woman can be pretty if only they would lose weight, which is not the case. (And I'm saying this out of personal experience. I am not an attractive woman. That's okay, I think I'm pretty intelligent and funny and have other attributes to make up for it. But the truth is, I was not attractive when I was 135 lbs. and I was not attractive when I was 175 lbs). When we hold up this standard that all you have to do to be pretty is be skinny, it A. reinforces that overweight = ugly, which is wrong, and B. makes people who are genuinely not blessed in the looks department, even when they are healthy or slim, feel invisible, which is already a problem as unattractive women are routinely overlooked in our society. 10 10points reply BorPand8 BorPand8 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I don't know why people downvoted you 1 1point reply Load More Replies... Kitty Jordan Kitty Jordan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Probably because I said not every person is going to be attractive. It's not an indictment; I think that instead of saying "Everyone is beautiful", which is a wonderful sentiment but encourages the idea that everyone's value is in their physical attractiveness, we should instead encourage people to know that physical beauty isn't the sum of their worth. Being kind, compassionate, funny, or smart are all things we should aspire to be more than just physically beautiful. And, as a bonus, it's all things we can learn to be, rather than just luck of genetics. 1 1point reply Yort Yort Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Well, I was ugly even when I was skinny, so, I guess I’m fine. 0 0points reply Kitty Jordan Kitty Jordan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago I'm afraid I don't really understand? That's exactly the point that I was making: I was unattractive when I was overweight, and hey, I'm still unattractive skinny. My point is that equating ugliness with fat is both awful to fat people and to people who think, "I'm skinny, but I'm still ugly, so what's wrong with me?" (Hey, teenage me: you really do learn to be okay with it mostly after a while. And to any teenage me's out there: your worth is not in your physical attractiveness. It's in your humor, your compassion, your intelligence, your talents... you have so much more to offer than your body and face.) 0 0points reply Evil Little Thing Evil Little Thing Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago A friend of mine has been losing weight for the past year for health purposes, and her husband is angry at her. He claims to be less attracted to her, and accuses her of losing weight in order to attract other men. They are in therapy. 10 10points reply Iggy Iggy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Her husband sounds scared of losing control of the relationship or of losing her. He sees her becoming slimmer and more conventionally attractive, which means she will get hit on more. It sounds like like he has low self esteem. . 12 12points reply Load More Replies... Load More Comments POST Paula Marowsky Paula Marowsky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Being not able to look at you in the mirror, because you really don't like what you see. Or people telling you how "ugly ducklings" became beauty pageant princesses if they put enough effort to it... meaning you could use some surgical enhancement. 13 13points reply Samantha Lomb Samantha Lomb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Just get rid of mirrors. It works for me. Much happier without. And of course ignore Shitlord Ryan. He really never has anything nice to say. 2 2points reply Load More Replies... Yort Yort Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago But how do you brush your hair or make sure your acne medicine is going on the right place? 0 0points reply Jyndaru Jyndaru Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago THANK YOU!! Both Ryan and Petros were a mess in this comment section. They must truly hate themselves. I hope they can both find some happiness in life and stop bringing down other people. 0 0points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Surgery is the best option. -20 -20points reply Suz66 Suz66 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Do you ever have anything nice to say? You're comments are always so hurtful! 6 6points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago He is an incel; a part of a terrorist misogynistic organisation. I doubt that he ever said something nice 1 1point reply BorPand8 BorPand8 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago It's sad. He is 'too ugly to be loved' but the ugliness is on the inside, not the outside. 2 2points reply BorPand8 BorPand8 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Like, look at this guy from the cute kitty post. He's not conventionally handsome, but he is attractive. He's got personality, a good sense of humor, and he loves animals. What's not to like? And somebody already snapped him up, since he's wearing a wedding ring. cute-61943...a1ef3f.jpg 3 3points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago (edited) This comment is hidden. Click here to view. You are a liar. "incel" is just an adjective that means "too ugly to be loved". -6 -6points reply Ms.GB Ms.GB Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago So then you can relate, how does it feel to know that all these women you made fun of for being unattractive still wouldn't be attracted to you. 3 3points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Well, it never happened, so I can't tell... But I supposed I would not give a f**k? -7 -7points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. That's not hurtful. Telling people that their feelings are not valid and they should be hated for that reason is. I'm sorry my honesty makes you face your own evil hypocrisy. -4 -4points reply Jyndaru Jyndaru Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Saying "surgery is the best option" in reference to someone feeling ugly? Yes, that's most definitely hurtful. You've been making comments all over this post that are completely unnecessary and purposely hurtful. You may feel bad about yourself, but that isn't an excuse to make other people feel bad. I hope you can find some happiness in life and stop bringing others down. 3 3points reply Samantha Lomb Samantha Lomb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago You really are just a nasty miserable person. And THAT is why you are unloved. 2 2points reply Kitty Jordan Kitty Jordan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) It saddens me to see how many of these say, "As a fat woman...". I understand that our culture promotes the ideal that skinny is the only way to be pretty, but it perpetuates the idea that any woman can be pretty if only they would lose weight, which is not the case. (And I'm saying this out of personal experience. I am not an attractive woman. That's okay, I think I'm pretty intelligent and funny and have other attributes to make up for it. But the truth is, I was not attractive when I was 135 lbs. and I was not attractive when I was 175 lbs). When we hold up this standard that all you have to do to be pretty is be skinny, it A. reinforces that overweight = ugly, which is wrong, and B. makes people who are genuinely not blessed in the looks department, even when they are healthy or slim, feel invisible, which is already a problem as unattractive women are routinely overlooked in our society. 10 10points reply BorPand8 BorPand8 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I don't know why people downvoted you 1 1point reply Load More Replies... Kitty Jordan Kitty Jordan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Probably because I said not every person is going to be attractive. It's not an indictment; I think that instead of saying "Everyone is beautiful", which is a wonderful sentiment but encourages the idea that everyone's value is in their physical attractiveness, we should instead encourage people to know that physical beauty isn't the sum of their worth. Being kind, compassionate, funny, or smart are all things we should aspire to be more than just physically beautiful. And, as a bonus, it's all things we can learn to be, rather than just luck of genetics. 1 1point reply Yort Yort Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Well, I was ugly even when I was skinny, so, I guess I’m fine. 0 0points reply Kitty Jordan Kitty Jordan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago I'm afraid I don't really understand? That's exactly the point that I was making: I was unattractive when I was overweight, and hey, I'm still unattractive skinny. My point is that equating ugliness with fat is both awful to fat people and to people who think, "I'm skinny, but I'm still ugly, so what's wrong with me?" (Hey, teenage me: you really do learn to be okay with it mostly after a while. And to any teenage me's out there: your worth is not in your physical attractiveness. It's in your humor, your compassion, your intelligence, your talents... you have so much more to offer than your body and face.) 0 0points reply Evil Little Thing Evil Little Thing Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago A friend of mine has been losing weight for the past year for health purposes, and her husband is angry at her. He claims to be less attracted to her, and accuses her of losing weight in order to attract other men. They are in therapy. 10 10points reply Iggy Iggy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Her husband sounds scared of losing control of the relationship or of losing her. He sees her becoming slimmer and more conventionally attractive, which means she will get hit on more. It sounds like like he has low self esteem. . 12 12points reply Load More Replies... Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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Someone Asks About The Lesser-Known Problems Of Being An Unattractive Woman They Give 30 Heartbreaking Answers
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Publish Not your original work? Add source In a world governed by unattainable beauty standards, photo editing, plastic surgeries, flawless skin, timeless youth, perfect smiles and… the list is endless, appearance is something that it seems our society is wildly obsessed with. A national survey from Allure found that the first thing 64% of people notice about someone is how attractive he or she is. And half of us-that's every other person-think appearance defines us significantly or completely. Now think of the professional careers, job interviews, dates, and overall success, and it clicks-the way we see beauty has indeed a very ugly side. So when someone asked women on Reddit this uncomfortable question, "What are the lesser-known problems of being an unattractive woman?" the brutally honest and often sad responses started flowing in. Below are some of the most revealing ones that should really make us all stop and reflect on why we judge others so much and how we can change that. This post may include affiliate links. #1 People being rude to you, especially men. If they’re not attracted to you, then you don't deserve respect nor decency. dontbesuspecious1 , Keira Burton Report Final score: 263points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago This extends to disabled women and women with chronic illnesses. “You have diabetes because you are overweight” and “it’s a lifestyle choice”. I was BORN with it as are many so how is that a lifestyle choice? Cruel 95 95points reply View More Replies... View more comments #2 If a skinny, pretty girl dresses super casual with no effort, it’s cute and trendy, but if I do it I’m lazy and don’t care about my looks. loalenatrice , Andres Ayrton Report Final score: 261points POST Stefan Stefan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Skinny and pretty are two different things. 43 43points reply View More Replies... View more comments #3 When someone does genuinely find you attractive and you think it's a joke taco_h0e , Callum Shaw Report Final score: 241points POST Foxxy (The Original) Foxxy (The Original) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) I find it hard to believe and accept compliments about my looks. I also don't think my friends and family who say things like that are liars coz that's insulting to them. So I just say thank you with an awkward laugh. It's all so confusing. 46 46points reply View More Replies... View more comments We reached out to the author of this Reddit thread who said he believes that we all live in a world that's too obsessed with looks. According to BaymaxTheBot, "everyone has social media and if you do not have it, it seems that something must be wrong with you. We take 1000 pictures of ourselves to share the one we think we look the best in." According to the author who posted the question on r/AskWomen, sharing your selfies on social media is one of the easiest ways to receive external validation. Moreover, "everyone chases confidence and a boost to their self-esteem. That's what gets you hooked to social media; the constant need to seek this feeling of self-reassurance," he said. #4 As a fat woman: not being able to go to 90% of my doctor's visits without my weight being brought up. I mean, that's fine in a checkup or physical, but if I go in because I have a sinus infection, I don't really feel the need to discuss how fat I am right at that moment unless it's somehow going to clear up my sinus infection. Electronic-Cow7250 , cottonbro Report Final score: 231points POST Alexandra Nara Alexandra Nara Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Nope ...it's even dangerous if a doctor is always focussed on weight. My doc was so obsessiv blaming my weight for every issue she didn't notice some cancerous cysts-she was just not looking for other reasons. And each feeling " something is wrong with my body" makes me a hypochondric - cause " fat persons don't have a feeling for their own body" Lost my trust to many docs because of this and sadly- I know I'm not the only one And by the way - my BMI is " only" 30, I do yoga and trail-trecking and have hashimoto syndrom-Most docs know that and ignore it still. 92 92points reply View More Replies... View more comments #5 Oh, I'm excited for this one. I'm pretty attractive, I get hit on regularly - I'm attractive enough to appeal to a wide swathe of individuals, but not so attractive as to be intimidating.
But I wasn't always, for five years I was fat because of medication. Last year, I got super toned and lost the weight when I went off the meds. I'm now training for competitive powerlifting.
I was cute before I gained the weight, but somehow, my thirties have been amazing - this weight loss left me with anime eyes and cut cheekbones, a look I've never had before.
I am treated better in every facet of my life and it has given me genuine body dysmorphia that I have been in therapy for.
Men offer me free things, they constantly hit on me; women ask for advice constantly, and all ANYONE wants to discuss is how I look, which is the least interesting f**king thing about me.
Pretty privilege and thin privilege are absolutely real, and the worst part is finding out that my biggest fear - that I was worth less to society when I weighed more - was absolutely f**king true.
Thanks, society, for the super awesome body dysmorphia you have now given me.
What's interesting is that I spent so many years in the shadows that I have zero interest in coming out of them anymore, but just like when I was fat, people think they have some sort of right to discuss my appearance blatantly.
It's disgusting, and all it does is show how incredibly undervalued women are for anything other than our looks. thedjmk Report Final score: 207points POST Jihana Jihana Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Yeah, I feel this one. I have always been fat. But about 20 years ago I lost a lot of weight due to mental health problems. I only ate about an apple a day and nothing else. I was slim but not unhealthy looking, because of course I still had that thyroid problem. It was CRAZY how people treated me once I was slim, even my own family was nicer. Of course once my depression was over and I started to eat normally again I gained all that weight back, and of course I got invisible again. I always resented the attention I got when I was slim, because I always knew that people were never interested in ME, only in my looks. I am strangely relieved that men leave me alone now, being ugly is a great way to filter out the shallow types. 68 68points reply View More Replies... View more comments #6 That no matter how often your significant other tells you that you’re beautiful, you constantly compare yourself to more attractive women and feel that you’ll never be enough. Warai-Kitten , Alex Green Report Final score: 191points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Gave that up years ago. It leads nowhere happy 30 30points reply View More Replies... View more comments When asked what he thought of the overwhelming responses his questions received, the Redditor said he did not expect this amount of attention nor this amount of people relating in some way. When it comes to judging others by their appearance, BaymaxTheBot said that it really depends on the person, but usually, "we put an emphasis on appearance because it's the first thing we notice about the other and according to this perception we are more or less willing to associate with someone." #7 People thinking that you don't have the right to like yourself or thinking that your confidence is 'brave.' F**k off. GettingThere1212 , Jeff Denlea Report Final score: 188points POST Sedona Sedona Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago And if I post a picture of myself I'm automatically promoting obesity.... 49 49points reply View More Replies... View more comments #8 Spending ages trying to dress up nicely only to go outside and realize that everyone else is still a million times more attractive than you. Ethereal-Glow , Polina Tankilevitch Report Final score: 176points POST Chithra Warrier Chithra Warrier Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Exactly. I can't express how much I relate to this it's so true. My parents keep telling me that I look good but afterwards once you go outside you still feel ugly. Worst feeling in the world. 29 29points reply View More Replies... View more comments #9 Being invisible next to your friends. They're all having fun, and you just sit there, and no one is talking to you khajiitidanceparty , Lisa Report Final score: 157points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago The they aren’t your friends then if they do that 75 75points reply View More Replies... View more comments #10 Unsolicited weight loss/health advice (that is often wrong and does not consider my health at all) and unsolicited advice on how to be attractive to men. loalenatrice , Andres Ayrton Report Final score: 142points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Keep it to yourself. You don’t have the right nor do you know what’s going on mentally or medically 23 23points reply View More Replies... View more comments #11 That you should be grateful that any man wants to sleep with you and it’s selfish to think that you deserve to be in a relationship with respect. I’m apparently fine to sleep with but heaven forbid they take me outside the house and be seen with me even if they themselves aren’t conventionally attractive. bbbbbbb9999 , Jaymantri Report Final score: 140points POST littlesaresare littlesaresare Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Yep. You just have to tolerate the abuse, because you sure as hell will never deserve better. 17 17points reply View More Replies... View more comments #12 It’s a lot harder in the office. Women have a hard enough time rising to higher ranks or being taken seriously but it’s very annoying when the pretty women are taken more seriously. Heck same is true for men. Good looks win jobs Nancy2421 , Sigmund Report Final score: 121points POST Tami Tami Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) I worked in an engineering group, and it didn't seem like this at all. The female engineers mostly had average features that they didn't much enhance with makeup, and many didn't wear any makeup; some were overweight, some were not, and they tended to dress in line with the guys in their group—business casual for the older set, jeans and T-shirts among the young people. 7 7points reply View More Replies... View more comments #13 Most men assumed that I was going to be easy — as in easy to have sex with — because they think I have no self-esteem and seek validation with sex. _Lilith_89 , cottonbro Report Final score: 115points POST Zwiebel Suppe Zwiebel Suppe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago And even if you are ok with "being easy" because you, too, want to have casual sex, they'd still look down on you somehow and be disgusted in a way. That is so twisted. 37 37points reply View More Replies... View more comments #14 Fewer job opportunities. Attractiveness plays a part in getting hired. marymoon77 , fauxels Report Final score: 110points POST Jihana Jihana Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago After I lost my job one of my former colleagues told me: "Well, now you have time to lose weight. Just only eat every second day, and you even can get grumpy now because we won't see it. I mean...you can't go to a job interview looking like this" F*ck you, Katharina! 41 41points reply View More Replies... View more comments #15 People constantly trying to fix me. My aunty asked me how I was going to get a man with a body like mine and my dressing style. Mind you, she is pushing 50 with no man, but OK. Forsaken-Vermicelli3 , Dương Nhân Report Final score: 110points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I don’t need fixing thanks 24 24points reply View More Replies... View more comments #16 Empathy and sympathy. People want to comfort you when you're the cute, pretty crier, protect you. I rarely see ugly people being the face of depression or mental illness on social media.
Not so much when you're ugly. It's kind of just awkward. PikaBooSquirrel , Liza Summer Report Final score: 96points POST D. Pitbull D. Pitbull Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Ohhh.. .no, when you're not considered "pretty" - when you're upset, crying or otherwise needing support people get ANGRY with you... they get *irritated* that you're wasting their time and "making a scene" and "overreacting"... you also get LOTS of reminders about how you should be super grateful for the little scraps of pity thrown at you ... you know... things like ... lucky that you weren't abandoned as a baby. 11 11points reply View More Replies... View more comments #17 Sometimes I feel bad for my partner, thinking he's embarrassed or could do better. Sensitiverock85 , freestocks.org Report Final score: 91points POST Helenium Helenium Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Before i married my skinny super handsome husband i said he can call it off as he can do better with someone prettier as im over weight, i ha an eating disorder and lost aton of weight but then i put it back on double, still married me and i said if you find someone else in the mean time i wont blame you at all 19 19points reply View More Replies... View more comments #18 When I was fat, they would hit on my significant other right in front of me. When I’m slim, they look at him and immediately look at the floor and walk away. catniagara , Katerina Holmes Report Final score: 90points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago The double standard is disgusting 35 35points reply View More Replies... View more comments #19 I lost a lot of weight after getting married & you'd be surprised how many people have said to me "Awww, he loved you for what you were on the inside!" The implication of course being he didn't find me attractive before but for some reason pursued me anyway - girl, what? Cyclibant , Jennifer Burk Report Final score: 87points POST Anzelle Van Der Vyver Anzelle Van Der Vyver Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago This is funny, why would he marry you if he didn't like / love you!!! People are so shallow really! I hope you have many more happy years of marriage! 18 18points reply View More Replies... View more comments #20 I was treated differently than my attractive friends. People were less helpful to me, left me out of everything (especially photos), and only wanted me around when it suited them. Ethereal-Glow , Mor Shani Report Final score: 84points POST MyOpinionHasBeenServed MyOpinionHasBeenServed Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Ever have a photo studio photographer argue with their colleague who will take your photo? I don't like photographers for this reason. They always seem annoyed and angry with me while being so nice to everyone else in the group. 14 14points reply View More Replies... View more comments #21 I was ugly as a pre-teen and teenager, and whenever I said that some other woman was mean to me, I just got told “oh you are just jealous of them!”. Like, wtf, no?!
It also felt like people were able to bully me as much as they wanted to and that my claims were untrue. Just because I was ugly doesn’t mean I was lying. Somehow ppl just trust attractive people more for some crazy reason.
These days I’m cute, but I don’t put much effort in. Sometimes people get annoyed at me for not “using my potential”. No, I don’t wanna spend 1h each morning applying makeup. Who do I wanna impress? I’m cute enough to not be treated like s**t, and I have no desire to be hit on or looked at by every random dude. Let me just live my life ok? Cute_Mousse_7980 , M. Report Final score: 83points POST Ross Warren Ross Warren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I blame the media. Did you ever notice that the heroic character is almost always attractive while the villain is usually ugly? 38 38points reply View More Replies... View more comments #22 I think growing up the “ugly duckling” can have bad effects on your mind and cause you to put up with bad behaviour from men. I legit thought I was ugly and unlovable and that I was lucky to have any guy interested, so I had a beggars mindset and put up with his terrible behaviour.
It’s now that I realise that I had actually had a glow up and hadn’t realised. I look at old photos and see a beautiful young woman. I was just so stuck in my past that I couldn’t embrace myself or be confident.
Your perception of yourself really does determine how you let others treat you thanarealnobody , Zhivko Minkov Report Final score: 81points POST ZAPanda ZAPanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago absolutely. I remember kids at school telling me i was ugly, then the other day i showed a picture of myself at 16 to a female friend and she was like, "OMG if you were at my school you would have been jumped by all of us!" so... yeah. your self-image is generally false. 22 22points reply View more comments #23 That specific feeling when everyone gathers to take a group picture and hands the phone to me to take it. Ouch jupiterjazz87 , NordWood Themes Report Final score: 76points POST Deja Katz Deja Katz Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I’d f**k it up every time 16 16points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective #24 People leaving you for your best friend when they realise she's prettier.
No she hasn't ever gotten with them, but they've left with the intention of getting with her blopdab , Claudia Wolff Report Final score: 69points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago She’s a good friend if she’s blown that fantasy time after time in defence of you 44 44points reply View more comments #25 Being called sir in shops. Not being able to contribute to the conversation when other women share stories of men hitting on them because it never happens vpetmad , Anastasiya Gepp Report Final score: 65points POST Julie C Rose Julie C Rose Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I’ve hardly ever had to deal with being creeped on and I’m glad about that. That stuff can be scary. 19 19points reply View More Replies... View more comments #26 well as a chubby and “ugly” person, most often people think you are dumb and uninteresting and you have no right to date/like attractive people because they are out of your league. when I was a teen people would say straight to my face that I was ugly…they don’t say it anymore, but I can feel it…ahahah dallasdina , Daniela Dávila Report Final score: 64points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I have an indent in my left temple from major brain surgery 8 years ago. I am sick and tired of people trying to get me to fix it. It’s fine and any cosmetic surgery won’t work because of the plates underneath. All it does by bringing attention to it is make people feel less than 24 24points reply View More Replies... View more comments #27 Guys lying saying you're obsessed with them just to get other girls to laugh and be like "eww really??" Krazygirl1234 , Kat Smith Report Final score: 61points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Cruel 16 16points reply View more comments #28 I hate when people comment or say, 'I wanna have your self-esteem/confidence!' as if it was a compliment. It isn't — they're just using other words to call the person ugly. tealgirl94 , Vinicius Wiesehofer Report Final score: 60points POST Caro Caro Caro Caro Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Women can do this to other women. It's not alway about looks but sometimes these women are themselves so terribly insecure and don't understand how the secure woman can be so confident (or seems like she is confident). 21 21points reply View More Replies... View more comments #29 A guy telling me "He usually wasn't attracted to women like me" in other words fat girls.
Seriously einahpetsg , Laura Tancredi Report Final score: 60points POST Caro Caro Caro Caro Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago So you took off your stiletto shoe and shoved it up his a$$? 39 39points reply View More Replies... View more comments #30 Being 21 and knowing there is a big chance you have to live your life alone and never getting married.
Lots of people gonna say nooo you find the right one eventually but then I always think of my teacher who looked like me and she was 50, never been married and living alone with two cats. daydreaming-g , Ekaterina Report Final score: 58points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Don’t underestimate the peace of living with animals 86 86points reply View More Replies... View more comments Note: this post originally had 55 images. It’s been shortened to the top 30 images based on user votes. Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Add Your Answer! Not your original work? Add source Publish Change image Upload Photo Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Upload Upload Edit Image Error occurred when generating embed. Please check link and try again. Render conversation
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POST Paula Marowsky Paula Marowsky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Being not able to look at you in the mirror, because you really don't like what you see. Or people telling you how "ugly ducklings" became beauty pageant princesses if they put enough effort to it... meaning you could use some surgical enhancement. 13 13points reply Samantha Lomb Samantha Lomb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Just get rid of mirrors. It works for me. Much happier without. And of course ignore Shitlord Ryan. He really never has anything nice to say. 2 2points reply Load More Replies... Yort Yort Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago But how do you brush your hair or make sure your acne medicine is going on the right place? 0 0points reply Jyndaru Jyndaru Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago THANK YOU!! Both Ryan and Petros were a mess in this comment section. They must truly hate themselves. I hope they can both find some happiness in life and stop bringing down other people. 0 0points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Surgery is the best option. -20 -20points reply Suz66 Suz66 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Do you ever have anything nice to say? You're comments are always so hurtful! 6 6points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago He is an incel; a part of a terrorist misogynistic organisation. I doubt that he ever said something nice 1 1point reply BorPand8 BorPand8 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago It's sad. He is 'too ugly to be loved' but the ugliness is on the inside, not the outside. 2 2points reply BorPand8 BorPand8 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Like, look at this guy from the cute kitty post. He's not conventionally handsome, but he is attractive. He's got personality, a good sense of humor, and he loves animals. What's not to like? And somebody already snapped him up, since he's wearing a wedding ring. cute-61943...a1ef3f.jpg 3 3points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago (edited) This comment is hidden. Click here to view. You are a liar. "incel" is just an adjective that means "too ugly to be loved". -6 -6points reply Ms.GB Ms.GB Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago So then you can relate, how does it feel to know that all these women you made fun of for being unattractive still wouldn't be attracted to you. 3 3points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Well, it never happened, so I can't tell... But I supposed I would not give a f**k? -7 -7points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. That's not hurtful. Telling people that their feelings are not valid and they should be hated for that reason is. I'm sorry my honesty makes you face your own evil hypocrisy. -4 -4points reply Jyndaru Jyndaru Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Saying "surgery is the best option" in reference to someone feeling ugly? Yes, that's most definitely hurtful. You've been making comments all over this post that are completely unnecessary and purposely hurtful. You may feel bad about yourself, but that isn't an excuse to make other people feel bad. I hope you can find some happiness in life and stop bringing others down. 3 3points reply Samantha Lomb Samantha Lomb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago You really are just a nasty miserable person. And THAT is why you are unloved. 2 2points reply Kitty Jordan Kitty Jordan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) It saddens me to see how many of these say, "As a fat woman...". I understand that our culture promotes the ideal that skinny is the only way to be pretty, but it perpetuates the idea that any woman can be pretty if only they would lose weight, which is not the case. (And I'm saying this out of personal experience. I am not an attractive woman. That's okay, I think I'm pretty intelligent and funny and have other attributes to make up for it. But the truth is, I was not attractive when I was 135 lbs. and I was not attractive when I was 175 lbs). When we hold up this standard that all you have to do to be pretty is be skinny, it A. reinforces that overweight = ugly, which is wrong, and B. makes people who are genuinely not blessed in the looks department, even when they are healthy or slim, feel invisible, which is already a problem as unattractive women are routinely overlooked in our society. 10 10points reply BorPand8 BorPand8 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I don't know why people downvoted you 1 1point reply Load More Replies... Kitty Jordan Kitty Jordan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Probably because I said not every person is going to be attractive. It's not an indictment; I think that instead of saying "Everyone is beautiful", which is a wonderful sentiment but encourages the idea that everyone's value is in their physical attractiveness, we should instead encourage people to know that physical beauty isn't the sum of their worth. Being kind, compassionate, funny, or smart are all things we should aspire to be more than just physically beautiful. And, as a bonus, it's all things we can learn to be, rather than just luck of genetics. 1 1point reply Yort Yort Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Well, I was ugly even when I was skinny, so, I guess I’m fine. 0 0points reply Kitty Jordan Kitty Jordan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago I'm afraid I don't really understand? That's exactly the point that I was making: I was unattractive when I was overweight, and hey, I'm still unattractive skinny. My point is that equating ugliness with fat is both awful to fat people and to people who think, "I'm skinny, but I'm still ugly, so what's wrong with me?" (Hey, teenage me: you really do learn to be okay with it mostly after a while. And to any teenage me's out there: your worth is not in your physical attractiveness. It's in your humor, your compassion, your intelligence, your talents... you have so much more to offer than your body and face.) 0 0points reply Evil Little Thing Evil Little Thing Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago A friend of mine has been losing weight for the past year for health purposes, and her husband is angry at her. He claims to be less attracted to her, and accuses her of losing weight in order to attract other men. They are in therapy. 10 10points reply Iggy Iggy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Her husband sounds scared of losing control of the relationship or of losing her. He sees her becoming slimmer and more conventionally attractive, which means she will get hit on more. It sounds like like he has low self esteem. . 12 12points reply Load More Replies... Load More Comments POST Paula Marowsky Paula Marowsky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Being not able to look at you in the mirror, because you really don't like what you see. Or people telling you how "ugly ducklings" became beauty pageant princesses if they put enough effort to it... meaning you could use some surgical enhancement. 13 13points reply Samantha Lomb Samantha Lomb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Just get rid of mirrors. It works for me. Much happier without. And of course ignore Shitlord Ryan. He really never has anything nice to say. 2 2points reply Load More Replies... Yort Yort Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago But how do you brush your hair or make sure your acne medicine is going on the right place? 0 0points reply Jyndaru Jyndaru Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago THANK YOU!! Both Ryan and Petros were a mess in this comment section. They must truly hate themselves. I hope they can both find some happiness in life and stop bringing down other people. 0 0points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Surgery is the best option. -20 -20points reply Suz66 Suz66 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Do you ever have anything nice to say? You're comments are always so hurtful! 6 6points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago He is an incel; a part of a terrorist misogynistic organisation. I doubt that he ever said something nice 1 1point reply BorPand8 BorPand8 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago It's sad. He is 'too ugly to be loved' but the ugliness is on the inside, not the outside. 2 2points reply BorPand8 BorPand8 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Like, look at this guy from the cute kitty post. He's not conventionally handsome, but he is attractive. He's got personality, a good sense of humor, and he loves animals. What's not to like? And somebody already snapped him up, since he's wearing a wedding ring. cute-61943...a1ef3f.jpg 3 3points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago (edited) This comment is hidden. Click here to view. You are a liar. "incel" is just an adjective that means "too ugly to be loved". -6 -6points reply Ms.GB Ms.GB Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago So then you can relate, how does it feel to know that all these women you made fun of for being unattractive still wouldn't be attracted to you. 3 3points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Well, it never happened, so I can't tell... But I supposed I would not give a f**k? -7 -7points reply Ryan Deschanel Ryan Deschanel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. That's not hurtful. Telling people that their feelings are not valid and they should be hated for that reason is. I'm sorry my honesty makes you face your own evil hypocrisy. -4 -4points reply Jyndaru Jyndaru Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Saying "surgery is the best option" in reference to someone feeling ugly? Yes, that's most definitely hurtful. You've been making comments all over this post that are completely unnecessary and purposely hurtful. You may feel bad about yourself, but that isn't an excuse to make other people feel bad. I hope you can find some happiness in life and stop bringing others down. 3 3points reply Samantha Lomb Samantha Lomb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago You really are just a nasty miserable person. And THAT is why you are unloved. 2 2points reply Kitty Jordan Kitty Jordan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) It saddens me to see how many of these say, "As a fat woman...". I understand that our culture promotes the ideal that skinny is the only way to be pretty, but it perpetuates the idea that any woman can be pretty if only they would lose weight, which is not the case. (And I'm saying this out of personal experience. I am not an attractive woman. That's okay, I think I'm pretty intelligent and funny and have other attributes to make up for it. But the truth is, I was not attractive when I was 135 lbs. and I was not attractive when I was 175 lbs). When we hold up this standard that all you have to do to be pretty is be skinny, it A. reinforces that overweight = ugly, which is wrong, and B. makes people who are genuinely not blessed in the looks department, even when they are healthy or slim, feel invisible, which is already a problem as unattractive women are routinely overlooked in our society. 10 10points reply BorPand8 BorPand8 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I don't know why people downvoted you 1 1point reply Load More Replies... Kitty Jordan Kitty Jordan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Probably because I said not every person is going to be attractive. It's not an indictment; I think that instead of saying "Everyone is beautiful", which is a wonderful sentiment but encourages the idea that everyone's value is in their physical attractiveness, we should instead encourage people to know that physical beauty isn't the sum of their worth. Being kind, compassionate, funny, or smart are all things we should aspire to be more than just physically beautiful. And, as a bonus, it's all things we can learn to be, rather than just luck of genetics. 1 1point reply Yort Yort Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Well, I was ugly even when I was skinny, so, I guess I’m fine. 0 0points reply Kitty Jordan Kitty Jordan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago I'm afraid I don't really understand? That's exactly the point that I was making: I was unattractive when I was overweight, and hey, I'm still unattractive skinny. My point is that equating ugliness with fat is both awful to fat people and to people who think, "I'm skinny, but I'm still ugly, so what's wrong with me?" (Hey, teenage me: you really do learn to be okay with it mostly after a while. And to any teenage me's out there: your worth is not in your physical attractiveness. It's in your humor, your compassion, your intelligence, your talents... you have so much more to offer than your body and face.) 0 0points reply Evil Little Thing Evil Little Thing Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago A friend of mine has been losing weight for the past year for health purposes, and her husband is angry at her. He claims to be less attracted to her, and accuses her of losing weight in order to attract other men. They are in therapy. 10 10points reply Iggy Iggy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Her husband sounds scared of losing control of the relationship or of losing her. He sees her becoming slimmer and more conventionally attractive, which means she will get hit on more. It sounds like like he has low self esteem. . 12 12points reply Load More Replies... Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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