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Woman Goes Viral With 7 7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed Interview

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Saulė Tolstych
To leave an unforgettable first impression can take a lot of preparation and time. Having this in mind, a lot of people like to sway others by showing up with their perfect appearance. Nice outfit and good makeup are some of the things that can help to make an impression on the person in mind. Very often this applies to going on a date, because everyone wants to look their best when they are about to meet someone who could potentially become their significant other. Of course, looking your best does not always indicate that you want to show others how good you look. A lot of people like to express who they are through their appearance by wearing intricate clothes and accessories and having eye-catching makeup on. But it seems that sometimes even the closest people to you can have a problem with that. At least that is what happened to TikToker Nikki Jabs who decided to share her dating experience with her followers. More Info: TikTok

A woman on TikTok decided to share her dating experience with her followers

Image credits: nikki.jabs The woman, who is known for sharing her experiences as she lives and travels in a van, also shared some videos of her dating life. This is when "Greg," her date, was introduced to her followers. Nikki was kind with details in her story and it seemed that everything was going really well for them. Her new date was very kind and well mannered, he even asked Nikki to stay at his place because of how much fun they had together. All was well until one evening, the woman shared on her TikTok an incident that happened on the same night. The couple had plans to go out for dinner and then continue their night by going to a grand opening of the retail company were Greg works. Once they were on their way to the restaurant, the man kept staring at Nikki, which made her ask what is wrong. At first Greg told her that there was nothing wrong, but as the conversation continued, he made it clear that he didn't want Nikki to go to this event looking the way she did that night. The woman suggested that she go and change to which he said that this whole situation made him feel "bad."

Everything seemed to be going really well between the couple until one evening the woman shared a video after she was sent home by her date

Image credits: nikki.jabs Nikki also revealed that it wasn't the first time that Greg had commented on her looks by telling her that she didn't need to wear makeup or that she was overdressed. Having this issue in mind, Nikki then told Greg that either he should be fine with her going to the event dressed the way she wanted to, or she wouldn't go at all. The man then offered to call her an Uber. This situation reached the point where the woman went back to his house and took all her stuff with her back to her van while he was out at the event. However, Nikki had to go back to his place one more time because she forgot her laptop. The woman shared that Greg tried to get her back by apologizing and asking her to stay, but she knew that it all was over.

The man decided that his date wasn t wearing appropriate clothing so he got her an Uber to take her home instead of them going to an event together

Image credits: nikki.jabs Image credits: nikki.jabs Once Nikki shared this story on social media, she received a lot of attention from people online. A lot of TikTok users were glad that she got out of this relationship early because this man was showing signs of some pretty toxic behavior that would've only become worse with time. Of course, there were some users who thought that the woman brought this situation on herself. The woman herself was open to the discussion and was glad that she was able to end this relationship without it escalating further.

After her first video the woman sat down and explained the whole situation that happened that evening

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The TikToker showed what she was wearing that evening and what made her date question her outfit choices

Image credits: nikki.jabs Bored Panda connected Nikki to find out more about the situation and how she feels about it all. The woman shared that "the attention that the story has garnered has definitely kept my mind off of the fact that I just went through a breakup. It has been a whirlwind of a week for me. I am happy to have ended things sooner rather than later as his behavioral pattern of comments about my appearance progressed over time." Nikki also shared that she cut all ties with the guy, despite him trying to apologize and get back together. A lot of people became invested in this story, sharing their own opinion about the situation. Nikki revealed that what surprised her most was that "SO many women not only experienced this type of behaviors from this exes, but got 'trapped' into a tumultuous relationship for many years with their partners." The woman was happy that she got the chance to get away from this early in the relationship.

The woman was furious with his actions stressing that it wasn t the first time he had commented on her looks

Image credits: nikki.jabs For those who might find themselves in a similar situation, the woman's advice is "to accept any compliments from your partner about your looks. If your partner says that you are beautiful without makeup, be flattered. But pay attention to comments that begin to compare, suggest, and request to change your appearance. This is a very slippery slope and if you begin to change your appearance based on the subtle comments of your partner, it's time to reevaluate his or her intentions." Nikki also stressed that communication is the key, so you need to speak about what bothers you. This is that she did but apparently it didn't have an impact on Greg's behavior. "If your partner truly loves you, they will accept you for who you are and how you choose to present yourself," added Nikki.

The woman confronted her date with an ultimatum after which he asked if he could call an Uber for her

Image credits: nikki.jabs The woman also added a comment on what she now thinks about her date: "I don't think 'Greg' is a bad person. I think 'Greg' made a mistake. I really cared for him and I still do. I also don't believe I was a victim; I believe I was the subject of a poor decision. I hope that he was able to learn from this experience to be a better romantic partner in the future and know that you should accept your partner unconditionally." Every situation teaches us and provides us with some new experiences. The TikToker also shared that "one important thing I took away from this experience is that if you choose to speak publicly about an important experience like this, many people will learn from your experience. I will continue to document parts of my life to anyone who wants to listen hoping that I may help someone someday if they find themselves in a similar situation."

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People online were telling her that it was right for her to leave the man as he was showing some signs of abuse

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POST Shoshana Sherrington Shoshana Sherrington Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago The comments calling the guy abusive are really exaggerated I think. People get nervous about their work and what their superiors think. He panicked a little at the crop top. Probably he went and saw other people dressed that way and realized he'd made a mistake. Doesn't mean they're meant to be together. As for comments about unlike you natural etc. We've had a decade or so of fighting back against the pressure for women to always look perfect and done up. This guy probably does like the girl exactly how she looks without all the effort which is sweet. When he is pushing it on her I think it is the result of growing up during that fight and not realizing that many women like to get dressed up. We are now at the opposite extreme 92 92points reply Che Che Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago When everything you do is wrong it is abuse. "He" feels bad--manipulation. If she was improperly dressed that's a matter of fact and he can say so, not do a weird staring dance until she has to ask what's wrong. Manipulative. You can warn someone they are under or over dressed so they can steel themselves, but if he's wearing jogging pants, I call BS. If you want someone with you, you won't send them away like that. She could have worn a cocktail dress to that event. He was flexing. If you don't do what I want I'll punish you. You must put all your effort into what I want, but I won't tell you what that is so I can always punish you. That is abuse, or at least getting it started. If you don't think so, you are welcome to try it and see how you like the constant tension and fear. Maybe he never beats her, but the emotional stuff can be more impactful because it doesn't end with the sting of a slap. 81 81points reply Load More Replies... Shoshana Sherrington Shoshana Sherrington Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago I'm not saying he was correct. But I am not about to bash and label someone whom I dont know particularly when the subject of the story doesn't seem to share all of these angry thoughts people are posting. She seems self aware and level headed so I'll take my cues from her. It's easy to sit at a screen and tell people how they should have handled a situation or a relationship. So he messed up. In not going to scream abuse 19 19points reply Fectiver Undercroft Fectiver Undercroft Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago True. But OP also said this behavior had been on the rise. If she’s not just connecting unrelated occurrences because she’s doubting herself after what he did, then this probably is a sign of worse things to come. But if his “turns out your outfit would have been fine; I misjudged the formality of the event” nonapology was the coda of the only such instance, then I’d think he probably didn’t have a good sense for these things. The progression doesn’t give me hope, but maybe he’s just in need of some lessons about boundaries. If he likes flat shoes or minimal makeup, he certainly should compliment her for those, but on the other hand a three week relationship seems pretty new for him to offer multiple criticisms based only on his preferences for minor things. 18 18points reply Bruce Scheiman Bruce Scheiman Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I love your comment!! Because you're absolutely right! She stated that he had been doing that for weeks. The sad thing is, after meeting him she moved in to his home. I can't make assumptions but it sound like she was living in a van. What he did to her that night, was disgusting cruel and mean! He knew exactly what he was doing when he did it! I'm pretty sure he felt no guilt until after he saw how other people were dressed she had a very classy off and on simply stunning! Most of the time that doesn't work out, just meeting someone and then moving in. However, I moved in with my husband on our first date and we've been together 18 years. He is actually the absolute opposite, of controlling. I consider myself to be a very blessed woman! He's the most beautiful human being I've ever met !I was with the man that was abusive for 10 years and it is their absolute insecurity that causes it! 5 5points reply P.A.B. P.A.B. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Yes, she was living in a van, but if you look closely, you’ll see that it’s a furnished van, like a tiny house type. It’s a lifestyle choice. She wasn’t homeless or desperate for a place to live. 7 7points reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Yes, she is f*****g homeless. A van is not a home dipshit. -8 -8points reply Winna Libert Winna Libert Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago It is if you make it one..it had a kitchen sink! 3 3points reply Cecilia Matthews Cecilia Matthews Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago And it wasn’t down by the river! 1 1point reply Milton Crumbley Milton Crumbley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 6 months ago Level headed people. Not common on this website, I commend you Sherrington 3 3points reply Jason Alexander Jason Alexander Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago But she left him... because he kept telling her things about her weren't the way he wanted them... so you aren't taking cues from her, but rather you're interjecting your feelings into a comment that was based on the facts. You clearly do not understand how manipulation starts or works. I hope you do not have any daughters, because they will not learn how to spot the signs with an oblivious parent such as yourself. 3 3points reply Robbie Margot Robbie Margot Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 months ago anyone who lived with this abuse recognises it in this story... You can play switzerland all you want, but more of us know what we just read. 2 2points reply rabbit rabbit Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago You are so right about emotional abuse. I put up with it for nearly 20 years, at home and at work (another story). I didn't recognize what it for what it was until many years after I got the divorce and left the job. It took nearly 20 years to recover. If I had not gotten married I might have left the job sooner. I needed help that I didn't have to get out. 13 13points reply Milton Crumbley Milton Crumbley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 6 months ago You're crazy, your actually crazy do you even hear yourself. "He feels bad so therefore it is manipulation." Man, when Bert and Ernie stepped on that bug and felt bad they were manipulating innocent children. I mean, they were really flexing their obvious insecure masculinity. Maybe try to not read into everything and become immediately offended by it. The guy was nice enough to call her an Uber, and now he should be charged for domestic abuse? 3 3points reply Joseph Singer Joseph Singer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago The problem is, he said, "I don't accept you as you are." 3 3points reply Shreeky Shreeky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago It's verbal abuse. I dealt with that for 16yrs and so has my 18yr old since her little sister was born. The name calling, the cussing out, being called greedy, all you think about is your self, you are a fkn idigit.... We heard that all the time from him. He threatens to make you get out of the car and walk home if you ask if we were doing anything as a family he would go off on us cause Saturday nights was bar hopping and cheating. My daughter became suicidal during the summer right before HS and I didn't know it until Oct 2017, girl at church saw her marks and called dss. She didn't want me to know cause she was afraid I would tell her dad and she can't handle him anymore that she wanted to die. She was only 14 luckily her little sister didn't get talked to like that from her dad. She was 9 at the time when we left their dad. He hurts her in another way... Not showing any emotions when she would tell him something she's really proud of and hopes he's proud of her. She gets ingored in 3 3points reply Shreeky Shreeky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago (edited) Instead. That's how he treats her. He treats his gf adult kid like a son he never had while he ingores his own 2 kids. My 13yr old just realized that today cause he will ignore the phone calls and messages but will read her Snapchat posts less than 30secs after it was posted but can't answer the phone or texts and act like he actually care about his kids instead of being a prick but yet he won't answer their phone calls unless it's convenient in his FAVOR. 1 1point reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago Almost had a stroke trying to read this illegible nonsense. Are you drunk? 0 0points reply Vonny Vonny Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Very well said. And absolutely true. 2 2points reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago Ugh! Go back to tik tok che. And take your b******t with you. 1 1point reply Mya Lugar Mya Lugar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago You are FOS 1 1point reply Nina Love Nina Love Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago coming from a woman who got out of abusive relationship, this man WHILE an a*****e does not deserve the title of Abuser, if anything maybe the title of entitled asshat. 0 0points reply Robbie Margot Robbie Margot Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 months ago wrong. that IS abusive, -1 -1point reply Chris Müller Chris Müller Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. You are going to die alone lol -23 -23points reply smash17 smash17 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Stop making excuses. Even if he had good reason to worry about what his colleagues might think, there's a way to break things to other people and a way to behave. He was a tool. 13 13points reply Otter Otter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) I agree, this isn't abuse, this is poor communication and a "You aren't meant for each other". He seems to be serious enough about his career to worry about what his superiors think of him and his date at a "work party" (not an actual party), but if he wanted her to look a certain way he needed to talk to her about it and beg her to get a little black dress or whatever. Well, that didn't happen, he got annoyed by her taste and she got annoyed by him caring what his bosses think, which shows a certain incompatibility. Why the heck are they living together. 5 5points reply ANGIECAT ANGIECAT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Except he wanted the opposite of a little black dress. He wanted her to wear athleisure wear. You guys have bad reading comprehension. 5 5points reply Joseph Singer Joseph Singer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago Overdressed is a problem? 0 0points reply Julia Baldwin Julia Baldwin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago It's abuse.my ex started a tad slower with the mind games and then the telling me what I can and can't do. Vefore I even realized it he pulled me away from my family so I had no one but him. No matter what it was as you say poor communication but it's still abuse today's her clothes tomorrow he's cryshing her spirit. Who shows up to dinner and a work party in sweats that's pretty lazy she put effort for dinner and his work. How would he expect her to look one way for diner and then from thee to the party looking different. He should be thankful he had a beautiful person to go to his work party and stop being so vain. He's an emotion verbal psychological abuser 1 1point reply Nina Love Nina Love Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago how so? I have PTSD and marked as SMI from my abuser from a relationship. Even i can tell this man was a real Ahole but not an abuser. he didn't insult her , he just didn't approve. Just because a man is a mean a*****e does not make him abusive. 5 5points reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago Here's some more "abuse" Julia. Not even in the same ball park. Oh and maybe learn how to spell you uneducated whiner! -1 -1point reply Robbie Margot Robbie Margot Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 months ago haha someone hurt you and now you spend your time bullying normies on boredpanda because the fb trolls probably made you cry 3 3points reply Ruth Hempsey Ruth Hempsey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Can't tell the difference between spelling errors and typos, eh? You sound like the person she needed to escape from, and what gives you the right to insult others for speaking up? It's a comment thread you uneducated twerp. -1 -1point reply Brian Garrett Brian Garrett Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 days ago and what gives you the right to insult others for speaking up? It's a comment thread you uneducated twerp. You literally did exactly what you got after the guy for. Not saying he was right but uh try not to be a hypocrite next time huh. 0 0points reply Jeff Diamond Jeff Diamond Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago As someone who's been on the receiving end of abuse, I can say that a narcissist can make you believe this 100%. But that's not what's really happening--it's part of the grooming process. The goal is to get her to think that he's such a good advocate for women, that he wants her to feel comfortable how they are, etc. But it will escalate. I couldn't wear red, orange or yellow shirts for 9 years because "they didn't look good with my complexion." 2 2points reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago Thank you Dr. PHIL. The stank of bullshitvis strong with this one. -2 -2points reply Kay Gee Kay Gee Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago Hopefully E Hall is single. 0 0points reply AlanandLeila Hoyt AlanandLeila Hoyt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) I agree with this-I myself would have worried about dressing business casual or formal unless I was told ahead of time I could do otherwise. It’s his employer. I would worry about this with mine or with his. I also think the makeup comments were a shortsighted attempt at a compliment. Especially if he is a young, sensitive guy he may feel it’s a way to take pressure off. Just say you wear the makeup for you, you actually do enjoy it. It’s not a red flag unless he actually pressures you to change it after you state it is your own preference. Commenting alone isn’t bad. 2 2points reply jade s jade s Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago I wouldn't be so quick to defend this. I had someone on a first date act like this. I was in jeans and a nice day top with my hair and make up done but I'm quite minimal/natural with it. The first thing I got was "I didn't think you were into that fakery stuff". No compliments, no nice to meet you. He then proceeded to laugh at my coffee order because I asked for a skinny caramel latte and ordered it standard, told me he was late because of an accident and it must have been a woman cyclist that caused it because their not as confident on the road, undermined me saying I like movies because I couldn't talk about obscure directors. They're not saying it to back up women's rights, they're just being d**ks. Supporting her would be saying you look beautiful with or without make up but just being happy that she made the effort to look her best for you. Her outfit was perfectly appropriate and an inch of waist does not make it "revealing" and to send her home rather was derogatory. 1 1point reply AshErika Michaela AshErika Michaela Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 month ago The problem is that this wasn't a one-off. It was a pattern. He wanted to control her appearance (and likely more), but he got caught. As for her, the point is that people can wear what they like- provided that it abides by the law, of course. This applies to everyone, not just women. 1 1point reply Victoria Pitt Victoria Pitt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago "We've had a decade or so of fighting back against the pressure for women to always look perfect and done up." A decade? Girl it's been longer than a decade... Pressure on women to be a thing of beauty has been going on for centuries. 0 0points reply Katie Sullivan Katie Sullivan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago She looked beautiful and he was being emotionally abusive. Get over it. 0 0points reply Nina Love Nina Love Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago i have PTSD from a emotionally and physical abusive relationship, the man was not abusive , he offered her a uber and didn't insult her but let her know he did not approve. He's a D**** don't get me wrong , but women need to stop tossing the word abuse around for every time a man is 'mean' it's really pathetic. 5 5points reply Robbie Margot Robbie Margot Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 months ago shut up Nina You are not the arbiter of what constitutes abuse. Controlling behaviour that puts someone on edge and constantly criticises them is ABUSE and a red flag that it is going to get worse youre all over this thread whining about your ptsd while trying to be dismissive of anyone elses experience go take your meds honey, becaue this pickmeass s**t, is not cute 1 1point reply Milton Crumbley Milton Crumbley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 6 months ago Smart words 0 0points reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago She looked like s**t. Your opinion is s**t. And I'm assuming you will probably die alone, or possibly with many cats. But be careful, cats can be not only emotionally, but physically abusive as well!! 0 0points reply Robbie Margot Robbie Margot Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 months ago e hall Ill literally eat my own hat if youre not unattractive and single af 3 3points reply Dean Bernales Dean Bernales Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago (edited) E Hall I bet you are just a joy to be around at parties... But then again, I seriously doubt that you get invited to parties. Or that you have any friends... Or cats. They probably would not want to be your friend either... She was gorgeous and well dressed for the party as described. Esp since the man here was dressed in a jogging suit... Some people just gonna hate. I would say have a nice day, but I think that you get off on being pissed off...JS 2 2points reply Full Nameю Full Nameю Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Women being smelly fish. Calling anything a man does as "abusive". No wonder nobody cares to hear their opinion. That's the equivalent to the N word. Saying "abusive" for everything. Sick!! -22 -22points reply Marceli Szelag Marceli Szelag Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Ive got a strange feeling there is more to that story. 92 92points reply blatherskitenoir blatherskitenoir Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Yeah, like the fact that that's not even a crop top, but a bandeau (she has to pull it down to make it look like a crop top), and he works for a retail company, and had told her it was casual. 21 21points reply Load More Replies... invisible sheep invisible sheep Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago you don't seem to know the difference between a crop top and a bandeau.... That is no way a bandeau lol, and more so, her pants were high-waist so it is not even revealing much skin here. Plus, she was wearing a coat over the whole outfit. I don't think the outfit was overdressed at all. I go to lunches and coffee with my friends in outfits like that. 26 26points reply Lu Harris Lu Harris Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Calling her overdressed was an attempt to be kind. It looked like a frilly black bra under a hot pink satin jacket. Not appropriate attire for a work-related event. 5 5points reply M C M C Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago It is a bandeau -3 -3points reply Jackie Lulu Jackie Lulu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago That outfit IS casual! 15 15points reply Kris Latoya Kris Latoya Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago She did ask if he wanted her to go home and change and he didn't even respond properly. Whole thing is ridiculous. 14 14points reply Katie Sullivan Katie Sullivan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago She looked amazing, he even said afterwards she would’ve been fine. Also, you clearly don’t know what a bandeau is. She also had a jacket. Just admit you’re an idiot. 12 12points reply P.A.B. P.A.B. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago (edited) Where does it say he told her it was casual? I must have missed that part. At the end she mentioned he was in joggers and tennis shoes, but I didn’t see any mention of him telling her to dress sporty or dressy. 3 3points reply Joseph Singer Joseph Singer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago If he was dressed so casually, one would assume it was the dress code, no? 1 1point reply AshErika Michaela AshErika Michaela Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 month ago No, not really. Nobody said that she had to dress to match him or whatever. 2 2points reply Katie Sullivan Katie Sullivan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I’ve got a strange feeling you might be a victim-blaming loser. 11 11points reply Eppe Eppe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago There usually is 6 6points reply Nisa Roberts Nisa Roberts Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago I got the same feeling. 4 4points reply Okatango Okatango Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 month ago I agree. The attire is not at all appropriate for a work event, and it's his career at the company. People are saying he is controlling, the argument could be made that she is not supportive. In either case, not suited for each other. Also, he called her an Uber to ensure she got home safely and he covered the cost, so where is the issue? 2 2points reply Yasmine Quenum Yasmine Quenum Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Money donation to the serious person GIFT OF MY LUCK Given my current state of health, I have decided to donate what I inherited from my late husband to help the poor. Interested.E-mail: [email protected] -1 -1point reply Chelsea Bates Chelsea Bates Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago She looks so adorable. I hate guys like this 48 48points reply Monty Glue Monty Glue Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago On the bright side he didn't tell her she smelled bad like the creep we read about here a few days ago. I think she looked beautiful and she really needs to raise her standards in men. 57 57points reply Load More Replies... JessRS JessRS Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Jeezum Crow, I don't know where those guys come from but we should pour concrete on that hellhole and lock it forever! 16 16points reply George Francis George Francis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 month ago Right, once she moves out if the van. 0 0points reply 13 13 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago That is a personal opinion. I wouldn't take my partner to a workfunction if they were dressed this casually. Pretty sure that top is even shorter than the pic shows, she's pulling it down. Perfectly fine for the beach or a garden party or similar, not so much for a work thing. 18 18points reply Lisa Schlosstein Lisa Schlosstein Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago That was my feeling about it, it WAS a business function she was going to accompany him to, her outfit wasn't entirely appropriate, regardless whether or not it's an athliesure company (and most athliesure clothing actually COVERS your body), but that's also his work and professional life. I wouldn't have worn something like that to a partners work party myself personally. 14 14points reply Bored_Randomツ Bored_Randomツ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Ohh no, women's skin and abdomen is so offense./S. Who gives a sh*t, really. Athleisure clothing isn't even always made for doing actual athletic sh*t, it's just for pretentious aholes to pretend they work out. Most people who actually work out wear less than what she's wearing, so f him and f you for pulling the not like other girls card. 5 5points reply SweetsEve SweetsEve Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago It's not her job. It's not her work place. You have to keep in mind everything in this story is from her perspective. She even said she knew what was coming, because he had mentioned the way she dressed before. I would say the basic rule of thumb when you're going to a work function of a friend or partner is to ask what the kind of function/dress is needed and to try to dress appropriately for their work function. How she dresses directly reflects on the person who invited her, as she is not affiliated with his work place, and no one else invited her. 11 11points reply Happy Traveller Happy Traveller Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago Exactly. The guy warned her in advance yet she purposely went against it. That's her fault. How would she like it if it was the other way around? The guy deserves better. 0 0points reply Joseph Singer Joseph Singer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago Don't you think he ought to have been clearer if he cared about this stuff? 1 1point reply Milton Crumbley Milton Crumbley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 6 months ago Spoken like someone who doesn't work out, is underappreciated, and overlooked. How's 7th grade my dude. -1 -1point reply ANGIECAT ANGIECAT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) Thank you @Bored_Random to be one of the only actual people to read and understand the article. -2 -2points reply Martha Howley Martha Howley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Most women's athleisure includes crop tops, sports bras, yoga tanks, etc. Her blouse was much less revealing than those items. If it was a function where it would’ve been appropriate for her to ONLY wear athleisure clothes, he should’ve said so, specifically. She lives in a van; she probably doesn’t have a huge wardrobe from which to choose, so if the event had a certain dress code, or theme, he should’ve informed her. I think it was reasonable for her to get dressed up for dinner and an evening event, but I also think that if I was going to a work event with a new boyfriend, I’d ASK if there was a dress code. There was probably miscommunication from both people, and if they BOTH have dramatic reactions to a situation that didn’t have to be that serious, they are better off apart. 3 3points reply Happy Traveller Happy Traveller Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago That brown knitted top is appropriate. The guy warned her in advance, she chose to purposely go against it, it's her fault. Then the guy apologized unnecessarily for paying for her Uber ride. He deserves better. 0 0points reply ANGIECAT ANGIECAT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Except he said she was OVER-dressed. Not underdressed. She emphasized he was wearing sweatpants and works for an athleisure company... you guys all have horrible reading comprehension. 9 9points reply P.A.B. P.A.B. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago (edited) He wore joggers and tennis shoes. Can’t get much more casual than that, so who was the casually dressed one for his “work thing”?? 2 2points reply Asswipe Asswipe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago It's likely a mental disorder and it's not limited to guys only. 6 6points reply Michael Chan Michael Chan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Guys/men are the REAL crazy ones and girls/women are the REAL sane ones, you female-bashing dingus -6 -6points reply JJ Buddhabrot JJ Buddhabrot Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 month ago Like what? 0 0points reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago They hate you too. 0 0points reply Michael Chan Michael Chan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Do you believe then that guys/men are REAL subhuman losers and women are REAL perfect human beings? -6 -6points reply aroace man, but german aroace man, but german Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago ya'll seem really stuck on "men=bad" i'm male, i don't seem that bad, what about male to female trans people? do they suddenly become "subhuman losers?" 4 4points reply Joe West Joe West Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Any person that is trans anything needs a therapist. -2 -2points reply Joseph Singer Joseph Singer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago Dude. Not cool. 2 2points reply Load More Comments POST Shoshana Sherrington Shoshana Sherrington Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago The comments calling the guy abusive are really exaggerated I think. People get nervous about their work and what their superiors think. He panicked a little at the crop top. Probably he went and saw other people dressed that way and realized he'd made a mistake. Doesn't mean they're meant to be together. As for comments about unlike you natural etc. We've had a decade or so of fighting back against the pressure for women to always look perfect and done up. This guy probably does like the girl exactly how she looks without all the effort which is sweet. When he is pushing it on her I think it is the result of growing up during that fight and not realizing that many women like to get dressed up. We are now at the opposite extreme 92 92points reply Che Che Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago When everything you do is wrong it is abuse. "He" feels bad--manipulation. If she was improperly dressed that's a matter of fact and he can say so, not do a weird staring dance until she has to ask what's wrong. Manipulative. You can warn someone they are under or over dressed so they can steel themselves, but if he's wearing jogging pants, I call BS. If you want someone with you, you won't send them away like that. She could have worn a cocktail dress to that event. He was flexing. If you don't do what I want I'll punish you. You must put all your effort into what I want, but I won't tell you what that is so I can always punish you. That is abuse, or at least getting it started. If you don't think so, you are welcome to try it and see how you like the constant tension and fear. Maybe he never beats her, but the emotional stuff can be more impactful because it doesn't end with the sting of a slap. 81 81points reply Load More Replies... Shoshana Sherrington Shoshana Sherrington Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago I'm not saying he was correct. But I am not about to bash and label someone whom I dont know particularly when the subject of the story doesn't seem to share all of these angry thoughts people are posting. She seems self aware and level headed so I'll take my cues from her. It's easy to sit at a screen and tell people how they should have handled a situation or a relationship. So he messed up. In not going to scream abuse 19 19points reply Fectiver Undercroft Fectiver Undercroft Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago True. But OP also said this behavior had been on the rise. If she’s not just connecting unrelated occurrences because she’s doubting herself after what he did, then this probably is a sign of worse things to come. But if his “turns out your outfit would have been fine; I misjudged the formality of the event” nonapology was the coda of the only such instance, then I’d think he probably didn’t have a good sense for these things. The progression doesn’t give me hope, but maybe he’s just in need of some lessons about boundaries. If he likes flat shoes or minimal makeup, he certainly should compliment her for those, but on the other hand a three week relationship seems pretty new for him to offer multiple criticisms based only on his preferences for minor things. 18 18points reply Bruce Scheiman Bruce Scheiman Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I love your comment!! Because you're absolutely right! She stated that he had been doing that for weeks. The sad thing is, after meeting him she moved in to his home. I can't make assumptions but it sound like she was living in a van. What he did to her that night, was disgusting cruel and mean! He knew exactly what he was doing when he did it! I'm pretty sure he felt no guilt until after he saw how other people were dressed she had a very classy off and on simply stunning! Most of the time that doesn't work out, just meeting someone and then moving in. However, I moved in with my husband on our first date and we've been together 18 years. He is actually the absolute opposite, of controlling. I consider myself to be a very blessed woman! He's the most beautiful human being I've ever met !I was with the man that was abusive for 10 years and it is their absolute insecurity that causes it! 5 5points reply P.A.B. P.A.B. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Yes, she was living in a van, but if you look closely, you’ll see that it’s a furnished van, like a tiny house type. It’s a lifestyle choice. She wasn’t homeless or desperate for a place to live. 7 7points reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Yes, she is f*****g homeless. A van is not a home dipshit. -8 -8points reply Winna Libert Winna Libert Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago It is if you make it one..it had a kitchen sink! 3 3points reply Cecilia Matthews Cecilia Matthews Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago And it wasn’t down by the river! 1 1point reply Milton Crumbley Milton Crumbley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 6 months ago Level headed people. Not common on this website, I commend you Sherrington 3 3points reply Jason Alexander Jason Alexander Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago But she left him... because he kept telling her things about her weren't the way he wanted them... so you aren't taking cues from her, but rather you're interjecting your feelings into a comment that was based on the facts. You clearly do not understand how manipulation starts or works. I hope you do not have any daughters, because they will not learn how to spot the signs with an oblivious parent such as yourself. 3 3points reply Robbie Margot Robbie Margot Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 months ago anyone who lived with this abuse recognises it in this story... You can play switzerland all you want, but more of us know what we just read. 2 2points reply rabbit rabbit Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago You are so right about emotional abuse. I put up with it for nearly 20 years, at home and at work (another story). I didn't recognize what it for what it was until many years after I got the divorce and left the job. It took nearly 20 years to recover. If I had not gotten married I might have left the job sooner. I needed help that I didn't have to get out. 13 13points reply Milton Crumbley Milton Crumbley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 6 months ago You're crazy, your actually crazy do you even hear yourself. "He feels bad so therefore it is manipulation." Man, when Bert and Ernie stepped on that bug and felt bad they were manipulating innocent children. I mean, they were really flexing their obvious insecure masculinity. Maybe try to not read into everything and become immediately offended by it. The guy was nice enough to call her an Uber, and now he should be charged for domestic abuse? 3 3points reply Joseph Singer Joseph Singer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago The problem is, he said, "I don't accept you as you are." 3 3points reply Shreeky Shreeky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago It's verbal abuse. I dealt with that for 16yrs and so has my 18yr old since her little sister was born. The name calling, the cussing out, being called greedy, all you think about is your self, you are a fkn idigit.... We heard that all the time from him. He threatens to make you get out of the car and walk home if you ask if we were doing anything as a family he would go off on us cause Saturday nights was bar hopping and cheating. My daughter became suicidal during the summer right before HS and I didn't know it until Oct 2017, girl at church saw her marks and called dss. She didn't want me to know cause she was afraid I would tell her dad and she can't handle him anymore that she wanted to die. She was only 14 luckily her little sister didn't get talked to like that from her dad. She was 9 at the time when we left their dad. He hurts her in another way... Not showing any emotions when she would tell him something she's really proud of and hopes he's proud of her. She gets ingored in 3 3points reply Shreeky Shreeky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago (edited) Instead. That's how he treats her. He treats his gf adult kid like a son he never had while he ingores his own 2 kids. My 13yr old just realized that today cause he will ignore the phone calls and messages but will read her Snapchat posts less than 30secs after it was posted but can't answer the phone or texts and act like he actually care about his kids instead of being a prick but yet he won't answer their phone calls unless it's convenient in his FAVOR. 1 1point reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago Almost had a stroke trying to read this illegible nonsense. Are you drunk? 0 0points reply Vonny Vonny Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Very well said. And absolutely true. 2 2points reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago Ugh! Go back to tik tok che. And take your b******t with you. 1 1point reply Mya Lugar Mya Lugar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago You are FOS 1 1point reply Nina Love Nina Love Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago coming from a woman who got out of abusive relationship, this man WHILE an a*****e does not deserve the title of Abuser, if anything maybe the title of entitled asshat. 0 0points reply Robbie Margot Robbie Margot Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 months ago wrong. that IS abusive, -1 -1point reply Chris Müller Chris Müller Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. You are going to die alone lol -23 -23points reply smash17 smash17 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Stop making excuses. Even if he had good reason to worry about what his colleagues might think, there's a way to break things to other people and a way to behave. He was a tool. 13 13points reply Otter Otter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) I agree, this isn't abuse, this is poor communication and a "You aren't meant for each other". He seems to be serious enough about his career to worry about what his superiors think of him and his date at a "work party" (not an actual party), but if he wanted her to look a certain way he needed to talk to her about it and beg her to get a little black dress or whatever. Well, that didn't happen, he got annoyed by her taste and she got annoyed by him caring what his bosses think, which shows a certain incompatibility. Why the heck are they living together. 5 5points reply ANGIECAT ANGIECAT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Except he wanted the opposite of a little black dress. He wanted her to wear athleisure wear. You guys have bad reading comprehension. 5 5points reply Joseph Singer Joseph Singer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago Overdressed is a problem? 0 0points reply Julia Baldwin Julia Baldwin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago It's abuse.my ex started a tad slower with the mind games and then the telling me what I can and can't do. Vefore I even realized it he pulled me away from my family so I had no one but him. No matter what it was as you say poor communication but it's still abuse today's her clothes tomorrow he's cryshing her spirit. Who shows up to dinner and a work party in sweats that's pretty lazy she put effort for dinner and his work. How would he expect her to look one way for diner and then from thee to the party looking different. He should be thankful he had a beautiful person to go to his work party and stop being so vain. He's an emotion verbal psychological abuser 1 1point reply Nina Love Nina Love Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago how so? I have PTSD and marked as SMI from my abuser from a relationship. Even i can tell this man was a real Ahole but not an abuser. he didn't insult her , he just didn't approve. Just because a man is a mean a*****e does not make him abusive. 5 5points reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago Here's some more "abuse" Julia. Not even in the same ball park. Oh and maybe learn how to spell you uneducated whiner! -1 -1point reply Robbie Margot Robbie Margot Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 months ago haha someone hurt you and now you spend your time bullying normies on boredpanda because the fb trolls probably made you cry 3 3points reply Ruth Hempsey Ruth Hempsey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Can't tell the difference between spelling errors and typos, eh? You sound like the person she needed to escape from, and what gives you the right to insult others for speaking up? It's a comment thread you uneducated twerp. -1 -1point reply Brian Garrett Brian Garrett Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 days ago and what gives you the right to insult others for speaking up? It's a comment thread you uneducated twerp. You literally did exactly what you got after the guy for. Not saying he was right but uh try not to be a hypocrite next time huh. 0 0points reply Jeff Diamond Jeff Diamond Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago As someone who's been on the receiving end of abuse, I can say that a narcissist can make you believe this 100%. But that's not what's really happening--it's part of the grooming process. The goal is to get her to think that he's such a good advocate for women, that he wants her to feel comfortable how they are, etc. But it will escalate. I couldn't wear red, orange or yellow shirts for 9 years because "they didn't look good with my complexion." 2 2points reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago Thank you Dr. PHIL. The stank of bullshitvis strong with this one. -2 -2points reply Kay Gee Kay Gee Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago Hopefully E Hall is single. 0 0points reply AlanandLeila Hoyt AlanandLeila Hoyt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) I agree with this-I myself would have worried about dressing business casual or formal unless I was told ahead of time I could do otherwise. It’s his employer. I would worry about this with mine or with his. I also think the makeup comments were a shortsighted attempt at a compliment. Especially if he is a young, sensitive guy he may feel it’s a way to take pressure off. Just say you wear the makeup for you, you actually do enjoy it. It’s not a red flag unless he actually pressures you to change it after you state it is your own preference. Commenting alone isn’t bad. 2 2points reply jade s jade s Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago I wouldn't be so quick to defend this. I had someone on a first date act like this. I was in jeans and a nice day top with my hair and make up done but I'm quite minimal/natural with it. The first thing I got was "I didn't think you were into that fakery stuff". No compliments, no nice to meet you. He then proceeded to laugh at my coffee order because I asked for a skinny caramel latte and ordered it standard, told me he was late because of an accident and it must have been a woman cyclist that caused it because their not as confident on the road, undermined me saying I like movies because I couldn't talk about obscure directors. They're not saying it to back up women's rights, they're just being d**ks. Supporting her would be saying you look beautiful with or without make up but just being happy that she made the effort to look her best for you. Her outfit was perfectly appropriate and an inch of waist does not make it "revealing" and to send her home rather was derogatory. 1 1point reply AshErika Michaela AshErika Michaela Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 month ago The problem is that this wasn't a one-off. It was a pattern. He wanted to control her appearance (and likely more), but he got caught. As for her, the point is that people can wear what they like- provided that it abides by the law, of course. This applies to everyone, not just women. 1 1point reply Victoria Pitt Victoria Pitt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago "We've had a decade or so of fighting back against the pressure for women to always look perfect and done up." A decade? Girl it's been longer than a decade... Pressure on women to be a thing of beauty has been going on for centuries. 0 0points reply Katie Sullivan Katie Sullivan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago She looked beautiful and he was being emotionally abusive. Get over it. 0 0points reply Nina Love Nina Love Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago i have PTSD from a emotionally and physical abusive relationship, the man was not abusive , he offered her a uber and didn't insult her but let her know he did not approve. He's a D**** don't get me wrong , but women need to stop tossing the word abuse around for every time a man is 'mean' it's really pathetic. 5 5points reply Robbie Margot Robbie Margot Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 months ago shut up Nina You are not the arbiter of what constitutes abuse. Controlling behaviour that puts someone on edge and constantly criticises them is ABUSE and a red flag that it is going to get worse youre all over this thread whining about your ptsd while trying to be dismissive of anyone elses experience go take your meds honey, becaue this pickmeass s**t, is not cute 1 1point reply Milton Crumbley Milton Crumbley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 6 months ago Smart words 0 0points reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago She looked like s**t. Your opinion is s**t. And I'm assuming you will probably die alone, or possibly with many cats. But be careful, cats can be not only emotionally, but physically abusive as well!! 0 0points reply Robbie Margot Robbie Margot Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 months ago e hall Ill literally eat my own hat if youre not unattractive and single af 3 3points reply Dean Bernales Dean Bernales Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago (edited) E Hall I bet you are just a joy to be around at parties... But then again, I seriously doubt that you get invited to parties. Or that you have any friends... Or cats. They probably would not want to be your friend either... She was gorgeous and well dressed for the party as described. Esp since the man here was dressed in a jogging suit... Some people just gonna hate. I would say have a nice day, but I think that you get off on being pissed off...JS 2 2points reply Full Nameю Full Nameю Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Women being smelly fish. Calling anything a man does as "abusive". No wonder nobody cares to hear their opinion. That's the equivalent to the N word. Saying "abusive" for everything. Sick!! -22 -22points reply Marceli Szelag Marceli Szelag Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Ive got a strange feeling there is more to that story. 92 92points reply blatherskitenoir blatherskitenoir Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago Yeah, like the fact that that's not even a crop top, but a bandeau (she has to pull it down to make it look like a crop top), and he works for a retail company, and had told her it was casual. 21 21points reply Load More Replies... invisible sheep invisible sheep Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago you don't seem to know the difference between a crop top and a bandeau.... That is no way a bandeau lol, and more so, her pants were high-waist so it is not even revealing much skin here. Plus, she was wearing a coat over the whole outfit. I don't think the outfit was overdressed at all. I go to lunches and coffee with my friends in outfits like that. 26 26points reply Lu Harris Lu Harris Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Calling her overdressed was an attempt to be kind. It looked like a frilly black bra under a hot pink satin jacket. Not appropriate attire for a work-related event. 5 5points reply M C M C Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago It is a bandeau -3 -3points reply Jackie Lulu Jackie Lulu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago That outfit IS casual! 15 15points reply Kris Latoya Kris Latoya Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago She did ask if he wanted her to go home and change and he didn't even respond properly. Whole thing is ridiculous. 14 14points reply Katie Sullivan Katie Sullivan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago She looked amazing, he even said afterwards she would’ve been fine. Also, you clearly don’t know what a bandeau is. She also had a jacket. Just admit you’re an idiot. 12 12points reply P.A.B. P.A.B. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago (edited) Where does it say he told her it was casual? I must have missed that part. At the end she mentioned he was in joggers and tennis shoes, but I didn’t see any mention of him telling her to dress sporty or dressy. 3 3points reply Joseph Singer Joseph Singer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago If he was dressed so casually, one would assume it was the dress code, no? 1 1point reply AshErika Michaela AshErika Michaela Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 month ago No, not really. Nobody said that she had to dress to match him or whatever. 2 2points reply Katie Sullivan Katie Sullivan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I’ve got a strange feeling you might be a victim-blaming loser. 11 11points reply Eppe Eppe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago There usually is 6 6points reply Nisa Roberts Nisa Roberts Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago I got the same feeling. 4 4points reply Okatango Okatango Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 month ago I agree. The attire is not at all appropriate for a work event, and it's his career at the company. People are saying he is controlling, the argument could be made that she is not supportive. In either case, not suited for each other. Also, he called her an Uber to ensure she got home safely and he covered the cost, so where is the issue? 2 2points reply Yasmine Quenum Yasmine Quenum Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Money donation to the serious person GIFT OF MY LUCK Given my current state of health, I have decided to donate what I inherited from my late husband to help the poor. Interested.E-mail: [email protected] -1 -1point reply Chelsea Bates Chelsea Bates Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago She looks so adorable. I hate guys like this 48 48points reply Monty Glue Monty Glue Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago On the bright side he didn't tell her she smelled bad like the creep we read about here a few days ago. I think she looked beautiful and she really needs to raise her standards in men. 57 57points reply Load More Replies... JessRS JessRS Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Jeezum Crow, I don't know where those guys come from but we should pour concrete on that hellhole and lock it forever! 16 16points reply George Francis George Francis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 month ago Right, once she moves out if the van. 0 0points reply 13 13 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago That is a personal opinion. I wouldn't take my partner to a workfunction if they were dressed this casually. Pretty sure that top is even shorter than the pic shows, she's pulling it down. Perfectly fine for the beach or a garden party or similar, not so much for a work thing. 18 18points reply Lisa Schlosstein Lisa Schlosstein Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago That was my feeling about it, it WAS a business function she was going to accompany him to, her outfit wasn't entirely appropriate, regardless whether or not it's an athliesure company (and most athliesure clothing actually COVERS your body), but that's also his work and professional life. I wouldn't have worn something like that to a partners work party myself personally. 14 14points reply Bored_Randomツ Bored_Randomツ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Ohh no, women's skin and abdomen is so offense./S. Who gives a sh*t, really. Athleisure clothing isn't even always made for doing actual athletic sh*t, it's just for pretentious aholes to pretend they work out. Most people who actually work out wear less than what she's wearing, so f him and f you for pulling the not like other girls card. 5 5points reply SweetsEve SweetsEve Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago It's not her job. It's not her work place. You have to keep in mind everything in this story is from her perspective. She even said she knew what was coming, because he had mentioned the way she dressed before. I would say the basic rule of thumb when you're going to a work function of a friend or partner is to ask what the kind of function/dress is needed and to try to dress appropriately for their work function. How she dresses directly reflects on the person who invited her, as she is not affiliated with his work place, and no one else invited her. 11 11points reply Happy Traveller Happy Traveller Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago Exactly. The guy warned her in advance yet she purposely went against it. That's her fault. How would she like it if it was the other way around? The guy deserves better. 0 0points reply Joseph Singer Joseph Singer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago Don't you think he ought to have been clearer if he cared about this stuff? 1 1point reply Milton Crumbley Milton Crumbley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 6 months ago Spoken like someone who doesn't work out, is underappreciated, and overlooked. How's 7th grade my dude. -1 -1point reply ANGIECAT ANGIECAT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) Thank you @Bored_Random to be one of the only actual people to read and understand the article. -2 -2points reply Martha Howley Martha Howley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Most women's athleisure includes crop tops, sports bras, yoga tanks, etc. Her blouse was much less revealing than those items. If it was a function where it would’ve been appropriate for her to ONLY wear athleisure clothes, he should’ve said so, specifically. She lives in a van; she probably doesn’t have a huge wardrobe from which to choose, so if the event had a certain dress code, or theme, he should’ve informed her. I think it was reasonable for her to get dressed up for dinner and an evening event, but I also think that if I was going to a work event with a new boyfriend, I’d ASK if there was a dress code. There was probably miscommunication from both people, and if they BOTH have dramatic reactions to a situation that didn’t have to be that serious, they are better off apart. 3 3points reply Happy Traveller Happy Traveller Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago That brown knitted top is appropriate. The guy warned her in advance, she chose to purposely go against it, it's her fault. Then the guy apologized unnecessarily for paying for her Uber ride. He deserves better. 0 0points reply ANGIECAT ANGIECAT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Except he said she was OVER-dressed. Not underdressed. She emphasized he was wearing sweatpants and works for an athleisure company... you guys all have horrible reading comprehension. 9 9points reply P.A.B. P.A.B. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago (edited) He wore joggers and tennis shoes. Can’t get much more casual than that, so who was the casually dressed one for his “work thing”?? 2 2points reply Asswipe Asswipe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 10 months ago It's likely a mental disorder and it's not limited to guys only. 6 6points reply Michael Chan Michael Chan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Guys/men are the REAL crazy ones and girls/women are the REAL sane ones, you female-bashing dingus -6 -6points reply JJ Buddhabrot JJ Buddhabrot Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 month ago Like what? 0 0points reply E Hall E Hall Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago They hate you too. 0 0points reply Michael Chan Michael Chan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Do you believe then that guys/men are REAL subhuman losers and women are REAL perfect human beings? -6 -6points reply aroace man, but german aroace man, but german Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago ya'll seem really stuck on "men=bad" i'm male, i don't seem that bad, what about male to female trans people? do they suddenly become "subhuman losers?" 4 4points reply Joe West Joe West Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Any person that is trans anything needs a therapist. -2 -2points reply Joseph Singer Joseph Singer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 months ago Dude. Not cool. 2 2points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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