40 Ridiculous And Toxic Requests These Women Received From Their Exes
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Publish Not your original work? Add source The term "toxic relationship" was first coined by Dr. Lillian Glass, a California-based communication and psychology expert in 1995. She defined it as "any relationship [between people who] don't support each other, where there's conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there's competition, where there's disrespect and a lack of cohesiveness." Today, we hear of it more often than ever. You may wonder what on earth happened that so many of us struggle to have healthy relationships, but it's always best to listen to those who have been in such situations and experienced what it's like in the first place. So when the Redditor SputtleBug posted a question "What is the most ridiculous thing a partner has asked you to change about yourself?" on r/AskWomen, it seems like it hit close to the bone for many women in the community. So they shared their genuinely disturbing experiences that show just how lethal and wrong some relationships are and remind everyone that we don't ever have to put up with it. This post may include affiliate links. #1 He wanted me to get rid of my pets, if I was reeeeaaally good though, he could be okay with me keeping my dog. Nope! Got rid of him instead. Aouwi , Chewy Report Final score: 417points POST KJ KJ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago The correct choice, I wish I could have pets again. 98 98points reply View more comments #2 The amount of men that ask me to come off antidepressants because "don't I make you happy enough without the pills" Lord give me patience PandaConspiracy4000 , Nastya Dulhiier Report Final score: 344points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago That would be a deal breaker for me. One wanted me off meds that I need to stay alive. He was my ex the next day. 163 163points reply View More Replies... View more comments #3 Said I used "too many big words" and he just wanted to be able to "relax" more. Criticized my tv and movie preferences as being too "cerebral." Also told me I was too "analytical" in how I liked to solve problems. Now I have an MA and JD, and married a tech millionaire with a Ph.D. in theoretical physics, so looks like my preference for cerebral entertainment and big words paid off. FuzzyJury , Jonathan Daniels Report Final score: 343points POST Brunettechameleon Brunettechameleon Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Good for you. Success is the best revenge or something idk the whole quote you get it. 71 71points reply View more comments Bored Panda reached out to SputtleBug, the author of this thread on r/AskWomen who said that they feel like everyone males and females alike receive societal pressure but the reasons are different. "In my experience, the standards for women are often focused on physical appearance and reproduction while the standards for men are mainly focused on other things like careers and behavior, there's still a pretty strong expectation for men to be extremely masculine," SputtleBug commented. She continued: "We no longer live in the 1950s but the expectations we had then for men and women remain relatively the same now. Although the standards may have been created by men it's had to have been backed by many women which is the main reason they've been allowed to perpetuate. Granted this seems to have changed significantly in the last few years but the start to change, is in most cases, slow." #4 My ex asked me to stop being depressed after we lost our daughter Fairy-goddess999 , Rae Angela Report Final score: 321points POST ZAPanda ZAPanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago that is disgusting. 156 156points reply View more comments #5 Asked me to be more "agreeable" and not discuss feminist issues in his presence. This winner also told me I needed to lose about 40 pounds because women shouldn't weigh more than 120. For context, I'm 5'9" and at the time was wearing a size 6. I noped out of that relationship pretty quick. lost_throwaway_3326 , NeONBRAND Report Final score: 295points POST Kirsten Kerkhof Kirsten Kerkhof Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Good for you! 68 68points reply View more comments #6 It wasn't a long term thing, we had been dating for a few months at the time. He didn't ask me to change specifically but he was upset when he found out I was born in Romania. I was adopted by an American family when I was two and have lived in the US for the vast majority of my life. I barely remember anything about Romania.
He couldn't see himself with someone like me because I wasn't actually white. So he broke up with me. It was pretty shocking, I had no idea he had this massively racist side to him. He did me a favor. Admirable-Candy3294 , Naomi Suzuki Report Final score: 275points POST Martha Meyer Martha Meyer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago On which planet are Romanians "not white"? This dude couldn't even get his racism right. 273 273points reply View More Replies... View more comments The author of this thread also said that while some of the responses she received were indeed surprising, other comments consisted of "things like losing weight, changing their aesthetic/clothing style, changing their personality that were the most common." Sputtlebug believes that many people end up in toxic relationships and it's a common occurrence for all sexes but not one frequently talks about it. #7 I’m very pale, so pale that you can see the blue of my veins throughout most of my body. A boyfriend I had about ten years ago asked if there was “anything I could do to get rid of them?” I had to explain that no, I had a circulatory system and very much wanted to remain alive calcitemerged , Coline Haslé Report Final score: 274points POST Dill Dill Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Same. People say to me 'you're so pale!'. I often wonder if they think I'd not noticed? ??? I usually respond 'AM I???' in tones of utter shock and horror! 125 125points reply View More Replies... View more comments #8 I'm mixed half Indian half German and he asked to suppress my Indian side and culture cuz he "only dated me cuz at least I'm half" Successful-Painter87 , Deva Darshan Report Final score: 253points POST XSpooky_Mint XSpooky_Mint Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I can't even begin to process this level of stupidity 145 145points reply View More Replies... View more comments #9 He asked me to pretend I wasn’t in pain when I was.
I have endometriosis and if I’m dating you, you will have an up-close and personal seat into the life of someone with a chronic pain condition.
Now, I don’t complain a lot about it, it’s just a fact of my life, and I came to terms with it a long time ago. So when my ex-fiancé got “fed up” with me “being sick all the time,” I told him I can’t act healthy all the time when I’m sometimes in debilitating pain….and he said, “Can’t you fake it?” schmicklebutt , Yuris Alhumaydy Report Final score: 242points POST Brunettechameleon Brunettechameleon Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) “Can’t YOU fake being smart?” 137 137points reply View More Replies... View more comments Sputtlebug said that "it was definitely a learning experience, I didn't really walk into this with any expectations in mind. It was a curious cat moment if that makes sense. Some of the comments made me laugh but a lot of the responses were demoralizing at best and heartbreaking at their worst." "Overall I'm glad it was a moment for people to talk about something that maybe isn't comfortable or okay for them to talk about with their friends and family," she concluded. #10 My former spouse asked me to move my period because it fell on his three day weekend and he refused to have sex with me when I was "broken" so that was a real bummer for him. I suggested that he ask one of the other guys to swap with him but he wouldn't even ask and I suspect it's because he knew noone liked him enough tooterfish80 , Anthony Tran Report Final score: 238points POST Roxy Eastland Roxy Eastland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Ha, for a moment I thought 'I suggested that he ask one of the other guys to swap with him' meant to have sex with her during a period and I thought that was a brilliant idea. I have literally zero time with men that can't cope with a normally functioning human body. 222 222points reply View More Replies... View more comments #11 To go off birth control. At 16. Not because he wanted to try getting me pregnant (we weren’t even having sex) but because “knowing that I wasn’t technically fertile made me seem less feminine.” Not to mention I was on it for debilitating cramps. fliffers , Thought Catalog Report Final score: 225points POST Kirsten Kerkhof Kirsten Kerkhof Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago PSA: he totally wanted to get her pregnant. 152 152points reply View More Replies... View more comments #12 My ex didn’t necessarily ask me to change this because he knew it was impossible, but he had a serious problem with me being white. Said he was “betraying his culture” by being with me.
I can’t begin to understand the struggle of being a black person in the US, but it makes zero sense to pursue me so hard and then hate that I’m white. Not like that was something I kept hidden that came out later. booksandarrows Report Final score: 221points POST Tobias Rieper Tobias Rieper Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) that just makes zero sense to me its not like he found out she was a guy or that she was secretly 3 cats in a human suit or something like that like OP said its not something hidden 78 78points reply View More Replies... View more comments #13 I dye my hair a lot, this is something I’ve always taken pride in and I LOVE my hair. My ex, on the other hand told me I wouldn’t meet his parents until I got rid of the crazy colors. I never met the parents. Clementinecutie13 , Tommy van Kessel Report Final score: 214points POST Helenium Helenium Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago i know its a stock foto but i love that hair 103 103points reply View More Replies... View more comments #14 Me having Asperger’s, and he was a doctor too. When we started dating he was obsessed with how I was ‘the smartest person he’d ever met’ then he tried to get me off my meds because he didn’t believe in them and didn’t understand sensory meltdowns, then when we broke up he said “I tried to fix you but I failed’ lol ok ‘doctor’ good luck with that cure for autism ariz0napi3z , Usman Yousaf Report Final score: 211points POST Ross Warren Ross Warren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago What kind of doctor doesn't believe in medication? 111 111points reply View More Replies... View more comments #15 He wanted me to be shorter. I'm 5'1. He literally wanted me to hunch my shoulders and only wear f**king flats all the time. He was 5'3 and insecure gator--wave , Apostolos Vamvouras Report Final score: 207points POST KJ KJ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Kick him in the nuts a few times and he might end up 5'4, problem solved. 145 145points reply View More Replies... View more comments #16 My ex-bf wanted me to get tattoos, get gauges, pierce my nipples, and start doing a lot of drugs because iTd Be So hOt. He also wanted me to change my demeanor from upbeat to brooding and moody. That kind of happened naturally with him anyways because he was so soul-suckingly awful to be around. petite-crevette , Jessica Christian Report Final score: 200points POST whodunnitfan2013 whodunnitfan2013 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Reminds me of my father trying to pressure me into being feminine and ladylike, telling me I'd actually be pretty if I wore dresses and makeup. 87 87points reply View More Replies... View more comments #17 My ex told me I needed to start pretending I didn't understand things even when I did, bc "men like explaining things to women". The ex before him basically told me I was malfunctioning bc I didn't want to be a SAHM, and he asked me to never fart in front of him bc "women don't poop". Lumpy_Constellation , Headway Report Final score: 185points POST Brunettechameleon Brunettechameleon Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago ? 62 62points reply View more comments #18 My religion. He verbally assaulted me when I said I didn’t want to convert to Islam. He did a lot worse, but that’s where the abuse began. sarah-exalted , Abdullah Faraz Report Final score: 179points POST Atero Atero Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Practicing religious individuals should be avoided like a plague. They are beyond reasoning and sooner or later they will try to push their personal delusions on everybody else. Good for you it's over... 46 46points reply View More Replies... View more comments #19 My job. He didn't want me working around a "bunch of dudes just trying to f**k you" I'm a welder still 10 years later lol thegurlearl Report Final score: 176points POST Susie Elle Susie Elle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago This just shows what he thought of his female coworkers 105 105points reply View More Replies... View more comments #20 Told me I was too anxious and depressed, and I just needed to be “happy” lol I was on birth control for him too (refused to wear a condom) which caused a lot of these mental health issues. After breaking up, got off the pill + the lack of his presence in my life made me significantly happier. Also, he told me I couldn’t take a joke even though his “jokes” were degrading and humiliating me in front of his friends. lunarhoe411 Report Final score: 175points POST Debbie Barnes Debbie Barnes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago The fact that you became 'significantly happier' after breaking up, showed you who was to blame for your insecurities. Good on you for having the courage to walk away. 82 82points reply View more comments #21 I have long, thick, dark brown hair, great condition, I have never dyed it and it's probably my favourite feature. I get a lot of compliments on it.
My ex would always suggest I dye it blonde.
If you like blondes, date a blonde. Dumba** caffeinatedsince97 Report Final score: 175points POST Yeah, you heard Yeah, you heard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago My ex had exactly the same request of me. I never dyed it. He was a dickhead 40 40points reply View More Replies... View more comments #22 The way I walk (I "walk too loudly") and the way my face looks when I read books. Apparently, I was supposed to smile all the time.
Just having a nice smile reading All Quiet on the Western Front. chickpeaze , Siora Photography Report Final score: 172points POST Jaekry Jaekry Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago This is a new low. Walk to loudly? Have a testing smile face? Makes me wonder what a twat he was. 45 45points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective #23 He wanted me to distance myself from my family mainly because he wasn't close to his family and didn't have that kind of support.
He picked me up on Thanksgiving to have lunch with his mom. He promised we would go together to my family's Thanksgiving at dinner. Evening rolled around and he proclaimed he was too tired to go and refused to drive me the whole 25 minutes to my grandpa's house. When I didn't show up my family freaked out and my siblings came to get me. My brother asked my boyfriend what happened and he couldn't come up with an answer other than he was tired. Later he posted online my brother tried to fight him haha. Dumped him that night! I would have left him sooner, but I was young and dumb! wandwish , krakenimages Report Final score: 161points POST Mimi La Souris Mimi La Souris Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago and the whole family then pushed a secret Aaaaaaah of relief 55 55points reply View more comments #24 He didn’t want me to cry. Ever. “The women in my family would never cry unless their arm was being sawed off at the time.” Twenty some years later I realized he should have married his sister sqqueen , Luis Galvez Report Final score: 157points POST Marcellus II Marcellus II Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago The men in his family however, a hissy fit at nothing. 75 75points reply View more comments #25 Him: You shouldn't wear makeup;
Me: Why, what's the problem? Lots of women wear makeup;
Him: My mom doesn't sof-i-a , pure julia Report Final score: 153points POST Nor Nor Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Then let him date his mom 131 131points reply View More Replies... View more comments #26 My college boyfriend said I could "stand to lose a few". I wish he could see me now..I am so much fatter lol. No, but really I looked great and he was a dweeb. yournationaltreasure , Siora Photography Report Final score: 150points POST Ren Karlej Ren Karlej Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I worked with a very lonely but seemingly nice enough man. There was a lovely friendly woman where we worked who was a little overweight and I suggested he ask her out (I was in a long term relationship to a man I since married). He said 'I don't like fat women'. Yeah - ignore how kind and funny she is... (She was also far from ugly but that's beside the point). She is married with children and he is... still alone. Surprise!! Though he has spent years stalking me so I've no sympathy. 75 75points reply View More Replies... View more comments #27 "You're too nice, you need to stop that." Said every time I gave money or food to a panhandler or charity, any time I expressed compassion for someone who wasn't him, and especially when we were watching George W Bush's invasion of Iraq and I was horrified at all the Iraqi people dying. insertcaffeine , Jon Tyson Report Final score: 150points POST ZAPanda ZAPanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) sorry but you need to use the following opening line when dating: republican, nazi, or maga-hat? -> if yes, kick to the kerb. 41 41points reply View More Replies... View more comments #28 He thought my laugh could be more "ladylike," because as long as I had a witch cackle he wouldn't "be able to take me anywhere high-class."
He was flat broke at the time and I was paying for everything. I also sound different depending on how hard I'm laughing, so it's not like I had to break out the witch laugh at all these imaginary restaurants and balls we were totally going to attend. Didn't matter, he wanted me to train myself out of it anyway mylatestphase , Victoria Quirk Report Final score: 142points POST Monday Monday Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Please tell me your response was to let out the loudest cackle you've ever done in your life 88 88points reply View more comments #29 My last partner tried to make me change my willingness to be cheated on. She thought I should be "open to the idea" coolaira16 , OSPAN ALI Report Final score: 141points POST BlackestDawn BlackestDawn Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I could understand if they asked for being open to a polyamorous, polygamous, or open relationship but not open to the idea of being cheated on. Cheating is never ok regardless of the relationship type. 83 83points reply View More Replies... View more comments #30 My body.
I'm 5'5 and naturally thin, but I didn't have muscle at the time. I had been looking to start going to the gym though, so I agreed to go with her. I'd always played sports so I looked forward to being active again. I wanted to gain strength.
She had a gym addiction and her type was pretty much strictly fit people. She's straight up said she wouldn't date an overweight/fat person because they wouldn't be "healthy" (disgusting mindset). She was pretty much trying to mold me to fit her "type" exactly. Including down to my diet which I had to tell her outright to shut the f**k up about what I ate (You can pry ice cream out of my cold, dead hands).
That relationship did not last long. But I feel very vindicated in the fact that I reached her fitness goals in half the time she did just because I genuinely enjoy working out. It helps my mood and ADHD symptoms.
I couldn't care less what I look like as long as my body feels healthy and strong. I have a 4 pack of abs and hella strength now. And my current beautiful, thick, strong af girlfriend very much loves my body for what it is regardless of whether it's "fit" or not. lynn378 Report Final score: 140points POST ShriSha Kamboj ShriSha Kamboj Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago v need to learn to accept people the way they r...n not mold them like clay into the shape we want....... 28 28points reply View More Replies... View more comments #31 My first bf had a problem with me wearing super trendy colourful clothes. "why can't you just wear jeans and a black tee? Why can't you just wear black clothes?"
It annoyed him that people would look at me when we went to malls. It got to a point where if he was picking me up, he'd call and ask "are you ready? Send me a pic of what you're wearing. If it's pink or orange, change into black. If it's a skirt, wear jeans". He made me promise not to wear my favorite deep purple corduroys. He didn't realise that it wasn't the clothes that people looked at me for. I was a loud, outgoing teen with a bubbly personality. THAT'S what made me attract a bit of attention. He hated when people looked at me at all. Even older women who have stopped me to compliment my style or hair.
He's changed in the 10 years since and we're still good friends. He agrees he'd been the jealous type and hated all my friends and hated how much attention I got. He's grown now. And is a much better human being and an amazing friend. reddit Report Final score: 137points POST Kirsten Kerkhof Kirsten Kerkhof Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I'm rather glad to hear he has grown and turned into a great friend. 96 96points reply View more comments #32 My ex boyfriend was very worried about the hair on my upper lip. Now that I’m years out of that relationship, I realize I don’t have an extremely hair upper lip and the memory of his obsession over that makes me so mad. One time when we were kissing, I thought we were having a nice moment, but he pulled away and ran his finger over my upper lip and said “you need to get that fixed.” When I went to the salon to have it waxed, the esthetician told me, unprompted, that she thought I was wasting my money getting my upper lip waxed because it wasn’t hairy. I really just think he just wanted to make me feel bad about myself. MeanLawLady Report Final score: 130points POST Yoga Kitty Yoga Kitty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Reminds me of the "body odour" post here on Bored Panda - another guy who was taught by his daddy to keep the woman small and insecure so that she will not leave him? 98 98points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Overworked Employee Quits Because He Wasn't Getting A Fair Wage, Costs The Company $40 Million 40 Embarrassing Moments People Didn't Know Who They Were Talking To And Made A Fool Of Themselves #33 My life goals. Before I realized I was playing for the other team, the dude just decided, on his own, that we were going to have children and I was going to be his somehow always scantily clad housewife, despite me saying several times I'm never, * ever * having children, and I'll be doing bare necessities housework because I got s**t to do before I go to the grave. BrainForSale_Unused Report Final score: 125points POST Susie Elle Susie Elle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Sounds like the dude in his head was living in a bad porno 46 46points reply View more comments #34 He had a time limit for conversations. But it only applied when I was speaking or the subject had to do with me.
Did not matter if I was happy, sad, upset, worried, excited. Time limit on it.
And I am talking minutes for me to share things.
Communication was a joke, yet he repeatedly bragged about what a great communicator he was ShadesOfCerulean Report Final score: 123points POST Billie Templeton Billie Templeton Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Have you met my ex? 32 32points reply View More Replies... View more comments #35 My whole personality. This dude (admittedly very shallow looking back but I was so naive then) told me straight up that I was cute but I’d be better off without the personality because “it’s a bit much.” He didn’t like that I liked to laugh and joke around and such. He basically wanted me to just become an accessory. Shut up and look pretty. Yeah nah I got tf outta there hauntedmilktea , Toa Heftiba Report Final score: 118points POST Paula Marowsky Paula Marowsky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Bet HE really looks better when he shut up 45 45points reply #36 An ex asked me to stop saying sorry all the time. I'm sorry, but I'm Canadian and I cannot help it. ParallelPerson8790 Report Final score: 115points POST Debbie Barnes Debbie Barnes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago If he can't accept you for traits you have, then he's not the one for you. Our traits and personalities make us who we are and I've spent way too many years not being me, to please others.. Dump him and wait for the person who loves you entirely. :) 23 23points reply View more comments #37 He told me my taste in music was awful, and that I should only listen to the most talented musicians in styles I was learning. He trained me to listen to music only for work, never for fun, and would turn off the stereo if I was listening to something like pop music for fun in the car. We're both professional musicians. You'd think it would be impossible to ruin music for a musician. That was 10 years ago, and I still have intense anxiety about choosing music, and listening to music around other people. rubusursinus Report Final score: 115points POST Kristy Nelson Kristy Nelson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago That is awful! 52 52points reply View more comments #38 Her words exactly “You need to stop being bi sexual! I understand it’s who you are but it doesn’t work for me and I really want to be with you” total cringe!! Needless to say, we aren’t together anymore. Visual_Blackberry_24 , Teddy Österblom Report Final score: 114points POST H Edwards H Edwards Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Bisexual people really have to put up with a lot of sh*t. Either it's people not believing that they are really bi (like, pick a side kind of thing), or it's being rejected by both gay and straight people because they don't want to date someone who is bi. 72 72points reply View More Replies... View more comments #39 How much time it took me to have an orgasm lol. Like as if it's in my control. Thin-Commercial-2380 , Kinga Cichewicz Report Final score: 113points POST Roxy Eastland Roxy Eastland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago There are many men out there that enjoy the journey, no need to stick around with one that finds it a chore. 90 90points reply View More Replies... View more comments #40 My past. He was appalled to find out an ex of mine was Jewish. PeacefulTofu Report Final score: 113points POST ZAPanda ZAPanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago So many nazis on this post, quite incredible. 71 71points reply View More Replies... View more comments Note: this post originally had 90 images. It’s been shortened to the top 40 images based on user votes. Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Add Your Answer! Not your original work? Add source Publish Change image Upload Photo Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Upload Upload Edit Image Error occurred when generating embed. Please check link and try again. Render conversation
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He once had a girlfriend that would "accidentally" hit him in the junk... the same girl got mad that he dare choose playing a game with his stepbrother one night instead of spending time with her on the phone so she logged into his PlayStation account and locked him out by changing the password. I was SO thankful when he finally got away from that abusive gremlin. 30 30points reply Susie Elle Susie Elle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I agree, I've heard some toxic stuff coming from male friends about their (ex)girlfriends as well. 10 10points reply Load More Replies... N L N L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Men are more frequently toxic against women and to a more aggressive extent. There are more reports of murder, rape, sexual harassment of men/boys against women/girls than the other way around. 7 7points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago (edited) Yes. Both sexes can be toxic and abusive and can be abused. But it is not a competition. This article was about WOMEN with abusive exes. Do you go to fibromalgia support groups telling them how terrible cancer is? 6 6points reply Beth Sito Beth Sito Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago No, I usually go to fibro support groups to find out how to best cope with it to live my life. Same with the lupus support groups that I go to. 0 0points reply Wendy Boustani Wendy Boustani Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago This is not a revelation. You're just feeling anxious because you're not being centered. Let things exist without needing your input. 5 5points reply Rachael Sampson Rachael Sampson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Yes we are aware that women can be bad too. But this article isn't about women, it's about men. I feel you're just trying to take the conversation away with the whole "what about women too?!" We get it. 1 1point reply Beth Sito Beth Sito Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Yes I am aware that this is an article about women, I can read. I have been that woman, however I have noticed that hardly no one ever mentions the guys that go through this. I was trying to be helpful. 0 0points reply Iris Iris Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) My ex asked me to stop being a self aware and good person because "being in a relationship with someone who always wants to do the right thing is exhausting". Obviously I did the right thing and broke up with him lol. 25 25points reply MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago When in doubt,do the right thing! Lol.Cute. 3 3points reply Load More Replies... Leticia de la Lanza Leticia de la Lanza Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I don't even know where to begin. After he cheated on my he justified it because, 1, he don't like the way I cleaned the house (mind you, I worked full time, made more money than him, took care of my girls, cooked, did laundry, and he mowed the lawn once a week and worked 24 hours a week, 2, having my 2nd child was a mistake, and 3, I had out on weight (my baby was 4 months at the time). After I divorced him, he called me everything in the book, made fun of me for being Latin, lazy, "too perfect", and of course, his biggest insult was to end every discussion with, of course, you are only a woman. WTF?!? 20 20points reply JessRS JessRS Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago You are only a woman, but honey, he's barely a man. 17 17points reply Load More Replies... Load More Comments POST Beth Sito Beth Sito Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) As a mother of a 21 year old son, I can assure you that women can with alarming regularity be just as toxic as men. He once had a girlfriend that would "accidentally" hit him in the junk... the same girl got mad that he dare choose playing a game with his stepbrother one night instead of spending time with her on the phone so she logged into his PlayStation account and locked him out by changing the password. I was SO thankful when he finally got away from that abusive gremlin. 30 30points reply Susie Elle Susie Elle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I agree, I've heard some toxic stuff coming from male friends about their (ex)girlfriends as well. 10 10points reply Load More Replies... N L N L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Men are more frequently toxic against women and to a more aggressive extent. There are more reports of murder, rape, sexual harassment of men/boys against women/girls than the other way around. 7 7points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago (edited) Yes. Both sexes can be toxic and abusive and can be abused. But it is not a competition. This article was about WOMEN with abusive exes. Do you go to fibromalgia support groups telling them how terrible cancer is? 6 6points reply Beth Sito Beth Sito Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago No, I usually go to fibro support groups to find out how to best cope with it to live my life. Same with the lupus support groups that I go to. 0 0points reply Wendy Boustani Wendy Boustani Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago This is not a revelation. You're just feeling anxious because you're not being centered. Let things exist without needing your input. 5 5points reply Rachael Sampson Rachael Sampson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Yes we are aware that women can be bad too. But this article isn't about women, it's about men. I feel you're just trying to take the conversation away with the whole "what about women too?!" We get it. 1 1point reply Beth Sito Beth Sito Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Yes I am aware that this is an article about women, I can read. I have been that woman, however I have noticed that hardly no one ever mentions the guys that go through this. I was trying to be helpful. 0 0points reply Iris Iris Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) My ex asked me to stop being a self aware and good person because "being in a relationship with someone who always wants to do the right thing is exhausting". Obviously I did the right thing and broke up with him lol. 25 25points reply MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago When in doubt,do the right thing! Lol.Cute. 3 3points reply Load More Replies... Leticia de la Lanza Leticia de la Lanza Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I don't even know where to begin. After he cheated on my he justified it because, 1, he don't like the way I cleaned the house (mind you, I worked full time, made more money than him, took care of my girls, cooked, did laundry, and he mowed the lawn once a week and worked 24 hours a week, 2, having my 2nd child was a mistake, and 3, I had out on weight (my baby was 4 months at the time). After I divorced him, he called me everything in the book, made fun of me for being Latin, lazy, "too perfect", and of course, his biggest insult was to end every discussion with, of course, you are only a woman. WTF?!? 20 20points reply JessRS JessRS Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago You are only a woman, but honey, he's barely a man. 17 17points reply Load More Replies... 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40 Ridiculous And Toxic Requests These Women Received From Their Exes
Liucija Adomaite andKotryna Brašiškytė
Publish Not your original work? Add source The term "toxic relationship" was first coined by Dr. Lillian Glass, a California-based communication and psychology expert in 1995. She defined it as "any relationship [between people who] don't support each other, where there's conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there's competition, where there's disrespect and a lack of cohesiveness." Today, we hear of it more often than ever. You may wonder what on earth happened that so many of us struggle to have healthy relationships, but it's always best to listen to those who have been in such situations and experienced what it's like in the first place. So when the Redditor SputtleBug posted a question "What is the most ridiculous thing a partner has asked you to change about yourself?" on r/AskWomen, it seems like it hit close to the bone for many women in the community. So they shared their genuinely disturbing experiences that show just how lethal and wrong some relationships are and remind everyone that we don't ever have to put up with it. This post may include affiliate links. #1 He wanted me to get rid of my pets, if I was reeeeaaally good though, he could be okay with me keeping my dog. Nope! Got rid of him instead. Aouwi , Chewy Report Final score: 417points POST KJ KJ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago The correct choice, I wish I could have pets again. 98 98points reply View more comments #2 The amount of men that ask me to come off antidepressants because "don't I make you happy enough without the pills" Lord give me patience PandaConspiracy4000 , Nastya Dulhiier Report Final score: 344points POST Cecily Holland Cecily Holland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago That would be a deal breaker for me. One wanted me off meds that I need to stay alive. He was my ex the next day. 163 163points reply View More Replies... View more comments #3 Said I used "too many big words" and he just wanted to be able to "relax" more. Criticized my tv and movie preferences as being too "cerebral." Also told me I was too "analytical" in how I liked to solve problems. Now I have an MA and JD, and married a tech millionaire with a Ph.D. in theoretical physics, so looks like my preference for cerebral entertainment and big words paid off. FuzzyJury , Jonathan Daniels Report Final score: 343points POST Brunettechameleon Brunettechameleon Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Good for you. Success is the best revenge or something idk the whole quote you get it. 71 71points reply View more comments Bored Panda reached out to SputtleBug, the author of this thread on r/AskWomen who said that they feel like everyone males and females alike receive societal pressure but the reasons are different. "In my experience, the standards for women are often focused on physical appearance and reproduction while the standards for men are mainly focused on other things like careers and behavior, there's still a pretty strong expectation for men to be extremely masculine," SputtleBug commented. She continued: "We no longer live in the 1950s but the expectations we had then for men and women remain relatively the same now. Although the standards may have been created by men it's had to have been backed by many women which is the main reason they've been allowed to perpetuate. Granted this seems to have changed significantly in the last few years but the start to change, is in most cases, slow." #4 My ex asked me to stop being depressed after we lost our daughter Fairy-goddess999 , Rae Angela Report Final score: 321points POST ZAPanda ZAPanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago that is disgusting. 156 156points reply View more comments #5 Asked me to be more "agreeable" and not discuss feminist issues in his presence. This winner also told me I needed to lose about 40 pounds because women shouldn't weigh more than 120. For context, I'm 5'9" and at the time was wearing a size 6. I noped out of that relationship pretty quick. lost_throwaway_3326 , NeONBRAND Report Final score: 295points POST Kirsten Kerkhof Kirsten Kerkhof Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Good for you! 68 68points reply View more comments #6 It wasn't a long term thing, we had been dating for a few months at the time. He didn't ask me to change specifically but he was upset when he found out I was born in Romania. I was adopted by an American family when I was two and have lived in the US for the vast majority of my life. I barely remember anything about Romania.
He couldn't see himself with someone like me because I wasn't actually white. So he broke up with me. It was pretty shocking, I had no idea he had this massively racist side to him. He did me a favor. Admirable-Candy3294 , Naomi Suzuki Report Final score: 275points POST Martha Meyer Martha Meyer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago On which planet are Romanians "not white"? This dude couldn't even get his racism right. 273 273points reply View More Replies... View more comments The author of this thread also said that while some of the responses she received were indeed surprising, other comments consisted of "things like losing weight, changing their aesthetic/clothing style, changing their personality that were the most common." Sputtlebug believes that many people end up in toxic relationships and it's a common occurrence for all sexes but not one frequently talks about it. #7 I’m very pale, so pale that you can see the blue of my veins throughout most of my body. A boyfriend I had about ten years ago asked if there was “anything I could do to get rid of them?” I had to explain that no, I had a circulatory system and very much wanted to remain alive calcitemerged , Coline Haslé Report Final score: 274points POST Dill Dill Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Same. People say to me 'you're so pale!'. I often wonder if they think I'd not noticed? ??? I usually respond 'AM I???' in tones of utter shock and horror! 125 125points reply View More Replies... View more comments #8 I'm mixed half Indian half German and he asked to suppress my Indian side and culture cuz he "only dated me cuz at least I'm half" Successful-Painter87 , Deva Darshan Report Final score: 253points POST XSpooky_Mint XSpooky_Mint Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I can't even begin to process this level of stupidity 145 145points reply View More Replies... View more comments #9 He asked me to pretend I wasn’t in pain when I was.
I have endometriosis and if I’m dating you, you will have an up-close and personal seat into the life of someone with a chronic pain condition.
Now, I don’t complain a lot about it, it’s just a fact of my life, and I came to terms with it a long time ago. So when my ex-fiancé got “fed up” with me “being sick all the time,” I told him I can’t act healthy all the time when I’m sometimes in debilitating pain….and he said, “Can’t you fake it?” schmicklebutt , Yuris Alhumaydy Report Final score: 242points POST Brunettechameleon Brunettechameleon Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) “Can’t YOU fake being smart?” 137 137points reply View More Replies... View more comments Sputtlebug said that "it was definitely a learning experience, I didn't really walk into this with any expectations in mind. It was a curious cat moment if that makes sense. Some of the comments made me laugh but a lot of the responses were demoralizing at best and heartbreaking at their worst." "Overall I'm glad it was a moment for people to talk about something that maybe isn't comfortable or okay for them to talk about with their friends and family," she concluded. #10 My former spouse asked me to move my period because it fell on his three day weekend and he refused to have sex with me when I was "broken" so that was a real bummer for him. I suggested that he ask one of the other guys to swap with him but he wouldn't even ask and I suspect it's because he knew noone liked him enough tooterfish80 , Anthony Tran Report Final score: 238points POST Roxy Eastland Roxy Eastland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Ha, for a moment I thought 'I suggested that he ask one of the other guys to swap with him' meant to have sex with her during a period and I thought that was a brilliant idea. I have literally zero time with men that can't cope with a normally functioning human body. 222 222points reply View More Replies... View more comments #11 To go off birth control. At 16. Not because he wanted to try getting me pregnant (we weren’t even having sex) but because “knowing that I wasn’t technically fertile made me seem less feminine.” Not to mention I was on it for debilitating cramps. fliffers , Thought Catalog Report Final score: 225points POST Kirsten Kerkhof Kirsten Kerkhof Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago PSA: he totally wanted to get her pregnant. 152 152points reply View More Replies... View more comments #12 My ex didn’t necessarily ask me to change this because he knew it was impossible, but he had a serious problem with me being white. Said he was “betraying his culture” by being with me.
I can’t begin to understand the struggle of being a black person in the US, but it makes zero sense to pursue me so hard and then hate that I’m white. Not like that was something I kept hidden that came out later. booksandarrows Report Final score: 221points POST Tobias Rieper Tobias Rieper Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) that just makes zero sense to me its not like he found out she was a guy or that she was secretly 3 cats in a human suit or something like that like OP said its not something hidden 78 78points reply View More Replies... View more comments #13 I dye my hair a lot, this is something I’ve always taken pride in and I LOVE my hair. My ex, on the other hand told me I wouldn’t meet his parents until I got rid of the crazy colors. I never met the parents. Clementinecutie13 , Tommy van Kessel Report Final score: 214points POST Helenium Helenium Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago i know its a stock foto but i love that hair 103 103points reply View More Replies... View more comments #14 Me having Asperger’s, and he was a doctor too. When we started dating he was obsessed with how I was ‘the smartest person he’d ever met’ then he tried to get me off my meds because he didn’t believe in them and didn’t understand sensory meltdowns, then when we broke up he said “I tried to fix you but I failed’ lol ok ‘doctor’ good luck with that cure for autism ariz0napi3z , Usman Yousaf Report Final score: 211points POST Ross Warren Ross Warren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago What kind of doctor doesn't believe in medication? 111 111points reply View More Replies... View more comments #15 He wanted me to be shorter. I'm 5'1. He literally wanted me to hunch my shoulders and only wear f**king flats all the time. He was 5'3 and insecure gator--wave , Apostolos Vamvouras Report Final score: 207points POST KJ KJ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Kick him in the nuts a few times and he might end up 5'4, problem solved. 145 145points reply View More Replies... View more comments #16 My ex-bf wanted me to get tattoos, get gauges, pierce my nipples, and start doing a lot of drugs because iTd Be So hOt. He also wanted me to change my demeanor from upbeat to brooding and moody. That kind of happened naturally with him anyways because he was so soul-suckingly awful to be around. petite-crevette , Jessica Christian Report Final score: 200points POST whodunnitfan2013 whodunnitfan2013 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Reminds me of my father trying to pressure me into being feminine and ladylike, telling me I'd actually be pretty if I wore dresses and makeup. 87 87points reply View More Replies... View more comments #17 My ex told me I needed to start pretending I didn't understand things even when I did, bc "men like explaining things to women". The ex before him basically told me I was malfunctioning bc I didn't want to be a SAHM, and he asked me to never fart in front of him bc "women don't poop". Lumpy_Constellation , Headway Report Final score: 185points POST Brunettechameleon Brunettechameleon Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago ? 62 62points reply View more comments #18 My religion. He verbally assaulted me when I said I didn’t want to convert to Islam. He did a lot worse, but that’s where the abuse began. sarah-exalted , Abdullah Faraz Report Final score: 179points POST Atero Atero Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Practicing religious individuals should be avoided like a plague. They are beyond reasoning and sooner or later they will try to push their personal delusions on everybody else. Good for you it's over... 46 46points reply View More Replies... View more comments #19 My job. He didn't want me working around a "bunch of dudes just trying to f**k you" I'm a welder still 10 years later lol thegurlearl Report Final score: 176points POST Susie Elle Susie Elle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago This just shows what he thought of his female coworkers 105 105points reply View More Replies... View more comments #20 Told me I was too anxious and depressed, and I just needed to be “happy” lol I was on birth control for him too (refused to wear a condom) which caused a lot of these mental health issues. After breaking up, got off the pill + the lack of his presence in my life made me significantly happier. Also, he told me I couldn’t take a joke even though his “jokes” were degrading and humiliating me in front of his friends. lunarhoe411 Report Final score: 175points POST Debbie Barnes Debbie Barnes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago The fact that you became 'significantly happier' after breaking up, showed you who was to blame for your insecurities. Good on you for having the courage to walk away. 82 82points reply View more comments #21 I have long, thick, dark brown hair, great condition, I have never dyed it and it's probably my favourite feature. I get a lot of compliments on it.
My ex would always suggest I dye it blonde.
If you like blondes, date a blonde. Dumba** caffeinatedsince97 Report Final score: 175points POST Yeah, you heard Yeah, you heard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago My ex had exactly the same request of me. I never dyed it. He was a dickhead 40 40points reply View More Replies... View more comments #22 The way I walk (I "walk too loudly") and the way my face looks when I read books. Apparently, I was supposed to smile all the time.
Just having a nice smile reading All Quiet on the Western Front. chickpeaze , Siora Photography Report Final score: 172points POST Jaekry Jaekry Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago This is a new low. Walk to loudly? Have a testing smile face? Makes me wonder what a twat he was. 45 45points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective #23 He wanted me to distance myself from my family mainly because he wasn't close to his family and didn't have that kind of support.
He picked me up on Thanksgiving to have lunch with his mom. He promised we would go together to my family's Thanksgiving at dinner. Evening rolled around and he proclaimed he was too tired to go and refused to drive me the whole 25 minutes to my grandpa's house. When I didn't show up my family freaked out and my siblings came to get me. My brother asked my boyfriend what happened and he couldn't come up with an answer other than he was tired. Later he posted online my brother tried to fight him haha. Dumped him that night! I would have left him sooner, but I was young and dumb! wandwish , krakenimages Report Final score: 161points POST Mimi La Souris Mimi La Souris Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago and the whole family then pushed a secret Aaaaaaah of relief 55 55points reply View more comments #24 He didn’t want me to cry. Ever. “The women in my family would never cry unless their arm was being sawed off at the time.” Twenty some years later I realized he should have married his sister sqqueen , Luis Galvez Report Final score: 157points POST Marcellus II Marcellus II Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago The men in his family however, a hissy fit at nothing. 75 75points reply View more comments #25 Him: You shouldn't wear makeup;
Me: Why, what's the problem? Lots of women wear makeup;
Him: My mom doesn't sof-i-a , pure julia Report Final score: 153points POST Nor Nor Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Then let him date his mom 131 131points reply View More Replies... View more comments #26 My college boyfriend said I could "stand to lose a few". I wish he could see me now..I am so much fatter lol. No, but really I looked great and he was a dweeb. yournationaltreasure , Siora Photography Report Final score: 150points POST Ren Karlej Ren Karlej Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I worked with a very lonely but seemingly nice enough man. There was a lovely friendly woman where we worked who was a little overweight and I suggested he ask her out (I was in a long term relationship to a man I since married). He said 'I don't like fat women'. Yeah - ignore how kind and funny she is... (She was also far from ugly but that's beside the point). She is married with children and he is... still alone. Surprise!! Though he has spent years stalking me so I've no sympathy. 75 75points reply View More Replies... View more comments #27 "You're too nice, you need to stop that." Said every time I gave money or food to a panhandler or charity, any time I expressed compassion for someone who wasn't him, and especially when we were watching George W Bush's invasion of Iraq and I was horrified at all the Iraqi people dying. insertcaffeine , Jon Tyson Report Final score: 150points POST ZAPanda ZAPanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) sorry but you need to use the following opening line when dating: republican, nazi, or maga-hat? -> if yes, kick to the kerb. 41 41points reply View More Replies... View more comments #28 He thought my laugh could be more "ladylike," because as long as I had a witch cackle he wouldn't "be able to take me anywhere high-class."
He was flat broke at the time and I was paying for everything. I also sound different depending on how hard I'm laughing, so it's not like I had to break out the witch laugh at all these imaginary restaurants and balls we were totally going to attend. Didn't matter, he wanted me to train myself out of it anyway mylatestphase , Victoria Quirk Report Final score: 142points POST Monday Monday Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Please tell me your response was to let out the loudest cackle you've ever done in your life 88 88points reply View more comments #29 My last partner tried to make me change my willingness to be cheated on. She thought I should be "open to the idea" coolaira16 , OSPAN ALI Report Final score: 141points POST BlackestDawn BlackestDawn Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I could understand if they asked for being open to a polyamorous, polygamous, or open relationship but not open to the idea of being cheated on. Cheating is never ok regardless of the relationship type. 83 83points reply View More Replies... View more comments #30 My body.
I'm 5'5 and naturally thin, but I didn't have muscle at the time. I had been looking to start going to the gym though, so I agreed to go with her. I'd always played sports so I looked forward to being active again. I wanted to gain strength.
She had a gym addiction and her type was pretty much strictly fit people. She's straight up said she wouldn't date an overweight/fat person because they wouldn't be "healthy" (disgusting mindset). She was pretty much trying to mold me to fit her "type" exactly. Including down to my diet which I had to tell her outright to shut the f**k up about what I ate (You can pry ice cream out of my cold, dead hands).
That relationship did not last long. But I feel very vindicated in the fact that I reached her fitness goals in half the time she did just because I genuinely enjoy working out. It helps my mood and ADHD symptoms.
I couldn't care less what I look like as long as my body feels healthy and strong. I have a 4 pack of abs and hella strength now. And my current beautiful, thick, strong af girlfriend very much loves my body for what it is regardless of whether it's "fit" or not. lynn378 Report Final score: 140points POST ShriSha Kamboj ShriSha Kamboj Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago v need to learn to accept people the way they r...n not mold them like clay into the shape we want....... 28 28points reply View More Replies... View more comments #31 My first bf had a problem with me wearing super trendy colourful clothes. "why can't you just wear jeans and a black tee? Why can't you just wear black clothes?"
It annoyed him that people would look at me when we went to malls. It got to a point where if he was picking me up, he'd call and ask "are you ready? Send me a pic of what you're wearing. If it's pink or orange, change into black. If it's a skirt, wear jeans". He made me promise not to wear my favorite deep purple corduroys. He didn't realise that it wasn't the clothes that people looked at me for. I was a loud, outgoing teen with a bubbly personality. THAT'S what made me attract a bit of attention. He hated when people looked at me at all. Even older women who have stopped me to compliment my style or hair.
He's changed in the 10 years since and we're still good friends. He agrees he'd been the jealous type and hated all my friends and hated how much attention I got. He's grown now. And is a much better human being and an amazing friend. reddit Report Final score: 137points POST Kirsten Kerkhof Kirsten Kerkhof Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I'm rather glad to hear he has grown and turned into a great friend. 96 96points reply View more comments #32 My ex boyfriend was very worried about the hair on my upper lip. Now that I’m years out of that relationship, I realize I don’t have an extremely hair upper lip and the memory of his obsession over that makes me so mad. One time when we were kissing, I thought we were having a nice moment, but he pulled away and ran his finger over my upper lip and said “you need to get that fixed.” When I went to the salon to have it waxed, the esthetician told me, unprompted, that she thought I was wasting my money getting my upper lip waxed because it wasn’t hairy. I really just think he just wanted to make me feel bad about myself. MeanLawLady Report Final score: 130points POST Yoga Kitty Yoga Kitty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Reminds me of the "body odour" post here on Bored Panda - another guy who was taught by his daddy to keep the woman small and insecure so that she will not leave him? 98 98points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Overworked Employee Quits Because He Wasn't Getting A Fair Wage, Costs The Company $40 Million 40 Embarrassing Moments People Didn't Know Who They Were Talking To And Made A Fool Of Themselves #33 My life goals. Before I realized I was playing for the other team, the dude just decided, on his own, that we were going to have children and I was going to be his somehow always scantily clad housewife, despite me saying several times I'm never, * ever * having children, and I'll be doing bare necessities housework because I got s**t to do before I go to the grave. BrainForSale_Unused Report Final score: 125points POST Susie Elle Susie Elle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Sounds like the dude in his head was living in a bad porno 46 46points reply View more comments #34 He had a time limit for conversations. But it only applied when I was speaking or the subject had to do with me.
Did not matter if I was happy, sad, upset, worried, excited. Time limit on it.
And I am talking minutes for me to share things.
Communication was a joke, yet he repeatedly bragged about what a great communicator he was ShadesOfCerulean Report Final score: 123points POST Billie Templeton Billie Templeton Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Have you met my ex? 32 32points reply View More Replies... View more comments #35 My whole personality. This dude (admittedly very shallow looking back but I was so naive then) told me straight up that I was cute but I’d be better off without the personality because “it’s a bit much.” He didn’t like that I liked to laugh and joke around and such. He basically wanted me to just become an accessory. Shut up and look pretty. Yeah nah I got tf outta there hauntedmilktea , Toa Heftiba Report Final score: 118points POST Paula Marowsky Paula Marowsky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Bet HE really looks better when he shut up 45 45points reply #36 An ex asked me to stop saying sorry all the time. I'm sorry, but I'm Canadian and I cannot help it. ParallelPerson8790 Report Final score: 115points POST Debbie Barnes Debbie Barnes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago If he can't accept you for traits you have, then he's not the one for you. Our traits and personalities make us who we are and I've spent way too many years not being me, to please others.. Dump him and wait for the person who loves you entirely. :) 23 23points reply View more comments #37 He told me my taste in music was awful, and that I should only listen to the most talented musicians in styles I was learning. He trained me to listen to music only for work, never for fun, and would turn off the stereo if I was listening to something like pop music for fun in the car. We're both professional musicians. You'd think it would be impossible to ruin music for a musician. That was 10 years ago, and I still have intense anxiety about choosing music, and listening to music around other people. rubusursinus Report Final score: 115points POST Kristy Nelson Kristy Nelson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago That is awful! 52 52points reply View more comments #38 Her words exactly “You need to stop being bi sexual! I understand it’s who you are but it doesn’t work for me and I really want to be with you” total cringe!! Needless to say, we aren’t together anymore. Visual_Blackberry_24 , Teddy Österblom Report Final score: 114points POST H Edwards H Edwards Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Bisexual people really have to put up with a lot of sh*t. Either it's people not believing that they are really bi (like, pick a side kind of thing), or it's being rejected by both gay and straight people because they don't want to date someone who is bi. 72 72points reply View More Replies... View more comments #39 How much time it took me to have an orgasm lol. Like as if it's in my control. Thin-Commercial-2380 , Kinga Cichewicz Report Final score: 113points POST Roxy Eastland Roxy Eastland Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago There are many men out there that enjoy the journey, no need to stick around with one that finds it a chore. 90 90points reply View More Replies... View more comments #40 My past. He was appalled to find out an ex of mine was Jewish. PeacefulTofu Report Final score: 113points POST ZAPanda ZAPanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago So many nazis on this post, quite incredible. 71 71points reply View More Replies... View more comments Note: this post originally had 90 images. It’s been shortened to the top 40 images based on user votes. Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Add Your Answer! Not your original work? Add source Publish Change image Upload Photo Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Upload Upload Edit Image Error occurred when generating embed. Please check link and try again. Render conversation
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He once had a girlfriend that would "accidentally" hit him in the junk... the same girl got mad that he dare choose playing a game with his stepbrother one night instead of spending time with her on the phone so she logged into his PlayStation account and locked him out by changing the password. I was SO thankful when he finally got away from that abusive gremlin. 30 30points reply Susie Elle Susie Elle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I agree, I've heard some toxic stuff coming from male friends about their (ex)girlfriends as well. 10 10points reply Load More Replies... N L N L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Men are more frequently toxic against women and to a more aggressive extent. There are more reports of murder, rape, sexual harassment of men/boys against women/girls than the other way around. 7 7points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago (edited) Yes. Both sexes can be toxic and abusive and can be abused. But it is not a competition. This article was about WOMEN with abusive exes. Do you go to fibromalgia support groups telling them how terrible cancer is? 6 6points reply Beth Sito Beth Sito Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago No, I usually go to fibro support groups to find out how to best cope with it to live my life. Same with the lupus support groups that I go to. 0 0points reply Wendy Boustani Wendy Boustani Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago This is not a revelation. You're just feeling anxious because you're not being centered. Let things exist without needing your input. 5 5points reply Rachael Sampson Rachael Sampson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Yes we are aware that women can be bad too. But this article isn't about women, it's about men. I feel you're just trying to take the conversation away with the whole "what about women too?!" We get it. 1 1point reply Beth Sito Beth Sito Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Yes I am aware that this is an article about women, I can read. I have been that woman, however I have noticed that hardly no one ever mentions the guys that go through this. I was trying to be helpful. 0 0points reply Iris Iris Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) My ex asked me to stop being a self aware and good person because "being in a relationship with someone who always wants to do the right thing is exhausting". Obviously I did the right thing and broke up with him lol. 25 25points reply MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago When in doubt,do the right thing! Lol.Cute. 3 3points reply Load More Replies... Leticia de la Lanza Leticia de la Lanza Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I don't even know where to begin. After he cheated on my he justified it because, 1, he don't like the way I cleaned the house (mind you, I worked full time, made more money than him, took care of my girls, cooked, did laundry, and he mowed the lawn once a week and worked 24 hours a week, 2, having my 2nd child was a mistake, and 3, I had out on weight (my baby was 4 months at the time). After I divorced him, he called me everything in the book, made fun of me for being Latin, lazy, "too perfect", and of course, his biggest insult was to end every discussion with, of course, you are only a woman. WTF?!? 20 20points reply JessRS JessRS Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago You are only a woman, but honey, he's barely a man. 17 17points reply Load More Replies... Load More Comments POST Beth Sito Beth Sito Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) As a mother of a 21 year old son, I can assure you that women can with alarming regularity be just as toxic as men. He once had a girlfriend that would "accidentally" hit him in the junk... the same girl got mad that he dare choose playing a game with his stepbrother one night instead of spending time with her on the phone so she logged into his PlayStation account and locked him out by changing the password. I was SO thankful when he finally got away from that abusive gremlin. 30 30points reply Susie Elle Susie Elle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I agree, I've heard some toxic stuff coming from male friends about their (ex)girlfriends as well. 10 10points reply Load More Replies... N L N L Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) Men are more frequently toxic against women and to a more aggressive extent. There are more reports of murder, rape, sexual harassment of men/boys against women/girls than the other way around. 7 7points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago (edited) Yes. Both sexes can be toxic and abusive and can be abused. But it is not a competition. This article was about WOMEN with abusive exes. Do you go to fibromalgia support groups telling them how terrible cancer is? 6 6points reply Beth Sito Beth Sito Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago No, I usually go to fibro support groups to find out how to best cope with it to live my life. Same with the lupus support groups that I go to. 0 0points reply Wendy Boustani Wendy Boustani Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago This is not a revelation. You're just feeling anxious because you're not being centered. Let things exist without needing your input. 5 5points reply Rachael Sampson Rachael Sampson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Yes we are aware that women can be bad too. But this article isn't about women, it's about men. I feel you're just trying to take the conversation away with the whole "what about women too?!" We get it. 1 1point reply Beth Sito Beth Sito Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago Yes I am aware that this is an article about women, I can read. I have been that woman, however I have noticed that hardly no one ever mentions the guys that go through this. I was trying to be helpful. 0 0points reply Iris Iris Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago (edited) My ex asked me to stop being a self aware and good person because "being in a relationship with someone who always wants to do the right thing is exhausting". Obviously I did the right thing and broke up with him lol. 25 25points reply MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 11 months ago When in doubt,do the right thing! Lol.Cute. 3 3points reply Load More Replies... Leticia de la Lanza Leticia de la Lanza Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago I don't even know where to begin. After he cheated on my he justified it because, 1, he don't like the way I cleaned the house (mind you, I worked full time, made more money than him, took care of my girls, cooked, did laundry, and he mowed the lawn once a week and worked 24 hours a week, 2, having my 2nd child was a mistake, and 3, I had out on weight (my baby was 4 months at the time). After I divorced him, he called me everything in the book, made fun of me for being Latin, lazy, "too perfect", and of course, his biggest insult was to end every discussion with, of course, you are only a woman. WTF?!? 20 20points reply JessRS JessRS Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 11 months ago You are only a woman, but honey, he's barely a man. 17 17points reply Load More Replies... 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