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Mom Is 5 Hours Late To Pick Up Her Son From A Birthday Party Gets Him Uninvited From The Next Celebration The Mom Gets Mad At The Host

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BoredPanda staff Being a parent is a hard task requiring a lot of responsibility. So no one can understand a parent better than another parent. Keeping good relationships with other parents is important in order to set a good example for your kids and this way make sure that they'll have friends that will treat them right. However, in life, there are situations where keeping a good relationship with someone becomes hard because of their behavior. At least that's what happened to Reddit user @emu_party7894, who is a mom to her 10-year-old son and who encountered a careless parent she decided not to deal with any longer. More Info: Reddit

Organizing a kid s party might seem like a lot of work but seeing their excitement is worth the hassle

Image credits: Emran Kassim The woman decided to share her story to find out if she was right to tell the truth to her son's friend's mom. The woman revealed that before her son turned 10, she used to invite his friend James, who also was his classmate. The kid, who behaved very well, had a mom who actually became the issue. The woman recalled her son's previous birthday when James was invited along with 3 other friends. On the invite, the narrator wrote that all kids should be picked up by 11 AM the next day because the family had plans to visit their relatives.

One Reddit user decided to share a situation after which she decided not to invite one of her kid s friends anymore

To people s surprise the problem wasn t the kid s behavior but rather his mom s

The narrator revealed that his mom kept failing to pick him up on time together ruining their family s plans

Image credits: emu_party7894 After the birthday party, the next day, all kids were picked up by the exact hour-the only kid that was left was James. At first, Reddit user wasn't thinking anything bad, just assumed that his mother was on the way, but was late because she was running some errands. At 11:30AM, the woman texted James' mom to remind her that she needed to pick up her son as they were about to leave the house themselves. And indeed, the woman replied that she was already on her way.

Even though the woman was constantly reminded to take her kid she only showed up when it was threatened to call the police

Image credits: emu_party7894 12:30 rolled around and James was still at the family's house. The narrator once again reached out to the mom as they had to hurry up themselves. She got a reply saying that she was out for lunch and would come to pick her son as soon as possible. The Reddit user continued to ask the mom to come and take her kid until 4PM came and the narrator's husband had already left with the kids to go and see their relatives. This is when the woman called James' mom and told her that if she didn't get there in the next 30 minutes, she would call the police to let them know that there was "an abandoned child" at their house. Her last try to contact the mother resulted in her actually showing up and taking her kid. The woman apologized, but it was the last straw. From that day, the narrator decided not to invite the boy to their parties because of his mom's behavior.

This year her kid was not invited to the party and after finding out why the mother got really upset

Image credits: emu_party7894 So this year, when the Reddit user's son turned 10, James was not invited to the celebration and soon his mom found out about this. She wanted to know why her son was not invited, so she asked this and the woman told the whole truth about how she didn't want to invite her kid because it ended up ruining their plans for the next day, as she couldn't come on time. This resulted in James' mom being upset and blocking the narrator from social media and her contacts. Image credits: emu_party7894 The woman wanted to know if she was right to tell the truth and a lot of people online were on her side. They all agreed that James' mom was looking at their family as babysitters and didn't take into account that they have plans of their own. It was agreed that the woman had problems with time management as it turned out later, her husband never failed to pick their kids up on time. What do you think about this situation? Have you ever experienced something similar? Don't forget to leave your thoughts in the comments down below!

People online supported the narrator as it was quite clear that the mother used their family as a babysitter

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POST LH25 LH25 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Totally lost me when her "excuse" was that she was eating lunch. Without her kid. Assuming that the party hosts would be feeding him? 78 78points reply Troux Troux Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago 11:30 -"On the way" 12:30 -"Eating lunch" This would have been the first clue that #1 is a lie and this person can't be trusted, but I understand not wanting to escalate immediately. 21 21points reply Load More Replies... fu yu fu yu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Me too. She was testing the waters, with that 'I'm having lunch' excuse. If anyone responded to me with that line,.....but then again, this nonsense would have been resolved WAY b4 then. 6 6points reply Kathryn Baylis Kathryn Baylis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago And AFTER earlier texting she was On Her Way! Neglectful, entitled, and an asshole is what I’d call this woman. Luckily the kid’s father is a good parent. UNLESS there’s more context to her situation that we, and possibly the OP as well, aren’t privy to. She may be massively overwhelmed and overscheduled, with no support system to help her, and the only help the responsible-appearing father gives is once in a while picking the kid up, and only if HIS schedule permits. You. Never. Know. 2 2points reply Daria Z Daria Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Exactly. Choosing lunch instead of picking up her child is strange. 1 1point reply Gaby Almodovar Gaby Almodovar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Feeding him is normal, the excuse is bullshit. 0 0points reply LH25 LH25 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Not in this case. The party was long over. They had other plans that didn't seem to include feeding another person. 3 3points reply Gaby Almodovar Gaby Almodovar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Man, it's a kid ... you feed a kid if he/she is hungry. 3 3points reply Ελίνα Γεραρά Ελίνα Γεραρά Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago You have something completely wrong. The late mother was having lunch. Nobody was feeding any kids. 1 1point reply LH25 LH25 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Of course you do. But the mom was wrong to just leave the kid there, and assume the other family would take care of him. To the extent of being late because she is having lunch, without her son. 1 1point reply plain bOrEd not panda plain bOrEd not panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I used to have a friend who was chronically late all the time for everything. If you had an appointment with her at 10:00 you should expect her to come at 11:00 or 12:00, waiting for her outside on some bus stop, for example. One time I was at her home, and I knew she had an agreement for 14:00 with a friend, so when it passed 13:00 I said, "Girl, you have to meet X at 14:00, you still want to take a shower and do make up, you also have 40 minutes to get there, you should start preparing", and she still wandered around, doing nothing, and went out the door at 16:00, 2 hours past her appointment with her other friend. I am no longer friends with her, because she doesn't respect people's time and it infuriated me so much. 50 50points reply Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Used to have a friend, who was exactly like the person you've mentioned. Never ever reached anywhere on time, never completed any task or assignment on time, never even once reached her workplace on time. E 9 9points reply Load More Replies... Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago She was a wonderful caring loving person, excellent at her work, intelligent and sweet tempered. Just no sense of punctuality. None. It was infuriating. I tried to get along with her for a decade probably, but I cut loose. Nothing we sacrosanct when it came to her timekeeping. I couldn't take it anymore. We were besties, but we don't talk anymore. It's heartbreaking, but I felt I'd go mad trying to keep up with her the actual world. 9 9points reply Kitty Monash Kitty Monash Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Im going to play devils advocate here and just let you know that ADHD in adult life is actually alot of not being on time.. without much fault of the person. I respect other people and their time, but I'm always late. I get distracted by all kinds of things; sometimes, I can't remember if I locked my gates or I decided to "quickly" put the dishes on... it IS infuriating, I wish I could be more organised- but my mind makes it quite difficult. I do have children and often times, I'll be 5-10 minutes late for school pick up.. or if I have an appointment I will do everything to get there on time without a panic attack.. It really has nothing to do with the other person, I'd be late to my own wedding I reckon... its just me, and I deal with it everyday -4 -4points reply FelineWine FelineWine Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago There's a difference between being like 5-15 mins late and two plus hours late. If you find yourself being being hours late to appointments with set times and you know you get distracted then you should get ready even earlier. No one should have to sit around two hours after an appointment's start time without a reasonable reason. 3 3points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago I had a couple of friends like that. They were always minimum half or an hour late. Even if we were meeting online for a skype they were always late. At some point i "broke up" with them because I got tired of their lack of respect for my time. 7 7points reply KMill KMill Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) My ex was like that. It was never a big deal to him to be on time. It was humiliating to me. Finally I just started lying to him about what time we need to be somewhere. The hard part was when we’d go visit with friends. I’d want to visit too but not if we were staying until 2am. We always were. Once I said it was time to go and he said just a little longer - finally after falling asleep on the couch for a few hours I got up and told him in front of our friends that I’m calling a cab. Ex and friends finally agreed our visit should be over. 3 3points reply Lillukka79 Lillukka79 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I've had friends like these. 15 minutes is the max I'm wating if there's no communication as to why they are late with an appology. It's not my job to call and ask if they are coming. 3 3points reply °•King-A•° °•King-A•° Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago i have similar experience and we are no longer friends. 1 1point reply Rissie Rissie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Sorry, but it's different when it comes to the responsibility for a child that depends on you. That's upping the game multiple times. And your story is exactly why people feel the need to judge. We all know that person who is always late and mostly inconveniencing us with their procrastinating. But procrastinating is not about setting someone up, it's the person lacking proper planning skills in light of their aversion against all things we have to do. Just think about it, why shower before meeting up with a friend? Why put make up on? Why not just grab your things and have a nice afternoon? You, as the person waiting on them, are projected as being the reason they have to. When it's actually society that set their imagined rules, not one person. And that silly dynamic is procrastination in a nutshell. -16 -16points reply Sinkvenice Sinkvenice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Ah yes, that old adage; it's always society's fault. You're talking utter nonsense. That woman needs to take responsibility and be accountable for her actions. It's not just about being late all the time (it's not just procrastinating, she's taking it to a whole other level), she's blatantly disrespecting her friends and their time. The world doesn't revolve around her and she needs to bluntly be told that. 1/6 To everyone else reading, this is long so I apologise. I used to live in a house share with a girl who expected everyone to alter their lives and their time to accommodate her. She moved out and accidentally took something of mine from the kitchen with her. We arranged a time for her to drop it back to the house and I said I had an appointment for a hospital procedure beforehand that could possibly run late but if it did I had no way of telling her. 10 10points reply Sinkvenice Sinkvenice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago 6/6 Jemma - Whatever Go and cry to your stupid mum about it. Me - … Wow. Just, wow. I have no idea how you’ve convinced everyone you know that you’re such a sweet lovely girl, that’s some first class super villain manipulation right there.” And then I finally blocked her; she would’ve kept going otherwise. 5 5points reply Sinkvenice Sinkvenice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago 5/6 Me - Good grief. This is private but I was at the hospital having a procedure I ended up having to be sedated for to obtain a biopsy to determine whether or not I have cancer. But sure _I’m_ the selfish one. I know this will be difficult to comprehend but, shock horror, It’s not always about you. 5 5points reply Sinkvenice Sinkvenice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago 4/6 “Stop everything for a moment! I just need to hop out to send someone a whatsapp message!” Jemma - So you just wasted my time and petrol instead? You owe me petrol money. Me - No. No, I do not. We agreed for you to leave it by the front door just in case I wasn’t back yet and you were visiting your friend anyway, who lives two doors down. Jemma - I don’t care you selfish b*tch. 5 5points reply Sinkvenice Sinkvenice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago 2/6 She read the message but didn’t reply. I went to the hospital and my procedure ran late. It was no big deal as the item was small and she can just leave it by the front door it nobody else was home. I came out of the procedure with text messages from her demanding to know where I was and eventually resorted to calling me unpleasant names. I said I was at the hospital and couldn’t send her a message, like I had told her. The exchange went a little something like this: 5 5points reply Sinkvenice Sinkvenice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago 3/6 Jemma - You can use your phone in a hospital you know ? Me - Yes I know but I was in the middle of a procedure and it was in the basement of the hospital so I didn’t have signal anyway. Jemma - Oh my god, hospitals have Wi-Fi idiot. Me - Er, steady on. Yes, I realise that but I was in a giant machine and couldn’t exactly say to them, 4 4points reply plain bOrEd not panda plain bOrEd not panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I cannot tell why she felt the need to shower every time before going out, nor the need to have her make up on even when going to take out the garbage. Maybe the fact that she's never had a boyfriend, nor has ever kissed a man (now she's in her 40s). The truth is, if you really need to do these things, you really need to take note on how much time they take and plan for them in order not to get late. And being late with 15-20 mins is one thing, but not respecting other people's time and being late constantly with 2 hours is a very different thing. She was not the type of person who procrastinated things. She was the type of person who didn't respect the watch and other people's time. I am sure there is some mental issue that can be used to explain this particular thing about such people. Honestly I've never seen nor expected somebody like this to actually have a child, so I can only hope the woman from the story is far from having this condition. 3 3points reply yo dad yo dad Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago What if her name's smelly Kelly (yes a real girl freinds with a flatmate we had )poor girl STUNK like ass crack all the time she had to shower before she left the house 0 0points reply Lord Mysticlaw Lord Mysticlaw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I have this exact same problem with one of my kid's friends. It's been going on for as long as they've known each other – probably 7 years. Every time we invite the kid over for a birthday party or just for whatever the older-kid version of a playdate is these days. I specifically always give a time when she has to be picked up by her parents and they are always late. They always have some kind of lame excuse but aren't particularly apologetic and don't seem to see the problem. As a matter of fact I don't particularly like the parents at all, they are rude assholes. But I keep inviting the kid because she's a really good kid and I like her a lot. But the parents drive me up the damn wall. (I don't have any kind of advice or input, I'm just ranting.) 48 48points reply Frannie Kaplan Frannie Kaplan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Give a fake time (like an earlier time) so when they're late they come at the real time 38 38points reply Load More Replies... Yvonne Yvonne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I have to do that with my husband. He would be late for everything if I didn’t scalp an hour or so off the time we were meant to be anywhere. 5 5points reply Marco Conti Marco Conti Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Heck, I do that with myself. I cheat my own appointment by at least 15 minutes, usually a full 1/2 hour. I also set the reminder to show a notice the day before, again on the same day a few hours before, then an hour before I get texts, emails and phone notices. I have been pretty punctual lately, but I have more or less 15 notices of my daughter's birthday. Not that I am going to forget it, but I may not be aware of the day of the month, so I have been getting notices for a week. 2 2points reply E Menendez E Menendez Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I can say the kid probably feels bad and embarrassed too. I was the kid growing up that was always late to practice or late being picked up. ALWAYS and it was soooooo embarrassing. I would give my dad an earlier time so I could be on time to things and be picked up on time. It backfired one day when he showed up on time to pick me up from practice the one and only time on time. He spoke to another parent and figured out what I was doing. Guess who got picked up 3 hours late next practice? 20 20points reply Yoga Kitty Yoga Kitty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I feel that. I always needed a lift to parties. I was usually allowed to go there but my father would definitely not drive me as it was an "unnecessary pleasure". So I always asked my friends if their parents could pick me up as well - of course, after some time they told me that MY father had to organise transport sometimes as well... My friends one day called me as I was waiting to be picked up and told me that they had been out shopping and now were already at the party - no time to come and collect me in between, so my dad should just drive me. Of course he didn't. I cried all afternoon. Next day in school I handed over the present to the birthday girl and apologized for not being able to come since I had no lift. My friends' parents never asked for my father to drive again. Only years later I realized that it most probably had been a test. They could not believe that my parents would really make me miss all the fun. Yes, they would. 9 9points reply Izabela Wilson Izabela Wilson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) I feel sorry for you, 'cause I have this kind of dad. I became independent early, so if I could comfort you... I should tell you to come independent as soon as you can I know it sounds odd, but if I wanted to do/to go when I was young (I'm 40 now), that meant walking very long distances, or take a bus. It was risky, but I developed a good sense of direction, location, and timing. Just at my 26 I bought my first motorcycle, and that meant freedom in all meanings. He regrets this behaviour today, but alas... It made me stronger. Believe me Be safe! 1 1point reply Rissie Rissie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Well, the kid is a result of these parents. That's always my take. They must be not the worst people if their kid is sweet. And that's not saying people can't still be uncaring assholes, but it is saying they probably didn't start out that way . You don't really know them and by the time we procreate there have been so many opportunities to get disappointed in other people, they might have lost their trust. You're doing the right thing, however frustrating, by not taking it out on the kid. Not letting that social interaction be a reason for her to feel let down. It's never about you and always about what you can do for others. -19 -19points reply Flying Captain Flying Captain Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago They must be not the worst people if their kid is sweet is just such a wrong take on things. Once in a few times you do have a kid that has emotionally outgrown their own parents. Not bc of their education at home or how they have been raised but simply bc they were born with more emotional intelligence than their parents. When I had the chance to ask adults who were once these kids where they learned it from it's always "well...I figured it out on my own."...tldr: shitty parents having good kids exist. 12 12points reply Kathryn Baylis Kathryn Baylis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago I was one of those kids too. I figured a lot of it out on my own, the rest by looking at the families of friends of mine. Most specifically the ones who were the most balanced and well-adjusted kids who said nice things about their parents without sounding programmed or like they were lying. Once I had a good grasp of what constitutes kind, balanced, and acceptable behavior, I vowed to never be like my parents when I got older. And I’m not. 6 6points reply Joey Marlin Joey Marlin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Absolutely true Flying Captain. Rissie is wrong. Children are their own personalities. Bad parents have great children and vice versa. Yes, children do learn a lot from their parents but that can also include how not to behave based on poor examples set. I was 8 when I realised my parents were not always right. 4 4points reply Justyna R. Justyna R. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago No, this kids learn how to be empathic as hell to not been regected like they are by their parents. Sweet and well behaved to be accepted by others. That's why such parents have sweet kids. They will be people pleaser when they are adults just to be loved and accepted. 3 3points reply Load More Comments POST LH25 LH25 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Totally lost me when her "excuse" was that she was eating lunch. Without her kid. Assuming that the party hosts would be feeding him? 78 78points reply Troux Troux Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago 11:30 -"On the way" 12:30 -"Eating lunch" This would have been the first clue that #1 is a lie and this person can't be trusted, but I understand not wanting to escalate immediately. 21 21points reply Load More Replies... fu yu fu yu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Me too. She was testing the waters, with that 'I'm having lunch' excuse. If anyone responded to me with that line,.....but then again, this nonsense would have been resolved WAY b4 then. 6 6points reply Kathryn Baylis Kathryn Baylis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago And AFTER earlier texting she was On Her Way! Neglectful, entitled, and an asshole is what I’d call this woman. Luckily the kid’s father is a good parent. UNLESS there’s more context to her situation that we, and possibly the OP as well, aren’t privy to. She may be massively overwhelmed and overscheduled, with no support system to help her, and the only help the responsible-appearing father gives is once in a while picking the kid up, and only if HIS schedule permits. You. Never. Know. 2 2points reply Daria Z Daria Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Exactly. Choosing lunch instead of picking up her child is strange. 1 1point reply Gaby Almodovar Gaby Almodovar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Feeding him is normal, the excuse is bullshit. 0 0points reply LH25 LH25 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Not in this case. The party was long over. They had other plans that didn't seem to include feeding another person. 3 3points reply Gaby Almodovar Gaby Almodovar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Man, it's a kid ... you feed a kid if he/she is hungry. 3 3points reply Ελίνα Γεραρά Ελίνα Γεραρά Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago You have something completely wrong. The late mother was having lunch. Nobody was feeding any kids. 1 1point reply LH25 LH25 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Of course you do. But the mom was wrong to just leave the kid there, and assume the other family would take care of him. To the extent of being late because she is having lunch, without her son. 1 1point reply plain bOrEd not panda plain bOrEd not panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I used to have a friend who was chronically late all the time for everything. If you had an appointment with her at 10:00 you should expect her to come at 11:00 or 12:00, waiting for her outside on some bus stop, for example. One time I was at her home, and I knew she had an agreement for 14:00 with a friend, so when it passed 13:00 I said, "Girl, you have to meet X at 14:00, you still want to take a shower and do make up, you also have 40 minutes to get there, you should start preparing", and she still wandered around, doing nothing, and went out the door at 16:00, 2 hours past her appointment with her other friend. I am no longer friends with her, because she doesn't respect people's time and it infuriated me so much. 50 50points reply Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Used to have a friend, who was exactly like the person you've mentioned. Never ever reached anywhere on time, never completed any task or assignment on time, never even once reached her workplace on time. E 9 9points reply Load More Replies... Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago She was a wonderful caring loving person, excellent at her work, intelligent and sweet tempered. Just no sense of punctuality. None. It was infuriating. I tried to get along with her for a decade probably, but I cut loose. Nothing we sacrosanct when it came to her timekeeping. I couldn't take it anymore. We were besties, but we don't talk anymore. It's heartbreaking, but I felt I'd go mad trying to keep up with her the actual world. 9 9points reply Kitty Monash Kitty Monash Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Im going to play devils advocate here and just let you know that ADHD in adult life is actually alot of not being on time.. without much fault of the person. I respect other people and their time, but I'm always late. I get distracted by all kinds of things; sometimes, I can't remember if I locked my gates or I decided to "quickly" put the dishes on... it IS infuriating, I wish I could be more organised- but my mind makes it quite difficult. I do have children and often times, I'll be 5-10 minutes late for school pick up.. or if I have an appointment I will do everything to get there on time without a panic attack.. It really has nothing to do with the other person, I'd be late to my own wedding I reckon... its just me, and I deal with it everyday -4 -4points reply FelineWine FelineWine Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago There's a difference between being like 5-15 mins late and two plus hours late. If you find yourself being being hours late to appointments with set times and you know you get distracted then you should get ready even earlier. No one should have to sit around two hours after an appointment's start time without a reasonable reason. 3 3points reply Ozacoter Ozacoter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago I had a couple of friends like that. They were always minimum half or an hour late. Even if we were meeting online for a skype they were always late. At some point i "broke up" with them because I got tired of their lack of respect for my time. 7 7points reply KMill KMill Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) My ex was like that. It was never a big deal to him to be on time. It was humiliating to me. Finally I just started lying to him about what time we need to be somewhere. The hard part was when we’d go visit with friends. I’d want to visit too but not if we were staying until 2am. We always were. Once I said it was time to go and he said just a little longer - finally after falling asleep on the couch for a few hours I got up and told him in front of our friends that I’m calling a cab. Ex and friends finally agreed our visit should be over. 3 3points reply Lillukka79 Lillukka79 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I've had friends like these. 15 minutes is the max I'm wating if there's no communication as to why they are late with an appology. It's not my job to call and ask if they are coming. 3 3points reply °•King-A•° °•King-A•° Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago i have similar experience and we are no longer friends. 1 1point reply Rissie Rissie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Sorry, but it's different when it comes to the responsibility for a child that depends on you. That's upping the game multiple times. And your story is exactly why people feel the need to judge. We all know that person who is always late and mostly inconveniencing us with their procrastinating. But procrastinating is not about setting someone up, it's the person lacking proper planning skills in light of their aversion against all things we have to do. Just think about it, why shower before meeting up with a friend? Why put make up on? Why not just grab your things and have a nice afternoon? You, as the person waiting on them, are projected as being the reason they have to. When it's actually society that set their imagined rules, not one person. And that silly dynamic is procrastination in a nutshell. -16 -16points reply Sinkvenice Sinkvenice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Ah yes, that old adage; it's always society's fault. You're talking utter nonsense. That woman needs to take responsibility and be accountable for her actions. It's not just about being late all the time (it's not just procrastinating, she's taking it to a whole other level), she's blatantly disrespecting her friends and their time. The world doesn't revolve around her and she needs to bluntly be told that. 1/6 To everyone else reading, this is long so I apologise. I used to live in a house share with a girl who expected everyone to alter their lives and their time to accommodate her. She moved out and accidentally took something of mine from the kitchen with her. We arranged a time for her to drop it back to the house and I said I had an appointment for a hospital procedure beforehand that could possibly run late but if it did I had no way of telling her. 10 10points reply Sinkvenice Sinkvenice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago 6/6 Jemma - Whatever Go and cry to your stupid mum about it. Me - … Wow. Just, wow. I have no idea how you’ve convinced everyone you know that you’re such a sweet lovely girl, that’s some first class super villain manipulation right there.” And then I finally blocked her; she would’ve kept going otherwise. 5 5points reply Sinkvenice Sinkvenice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago 5/6 Me - Good grief. This is private but I was at the hospital having a procedure I ended up having to be sedated for to obtain a biopsy to determine whether or not I have cancer. But sure _I’m_ the selfish one. I know this will be difficult to comprehend but, shock horror, It’s not always about you. 5 5points reply Sinkvenice Sinkvenice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago 4/6 “Stop everything for a moment! I just need to hop out to send someone a whatsapp message!” Jemma - So you just wasted my time and petrol instead? You owe me petrol money. Me - No. No, I do not. We agreed for you to leave it by the front door just in case I wasn’t back yet and you were visiting your friend anyway, who lives two doors down. Jemma - I don’t care you selfish b*tch. 5 5points reply Sinkvenice Sinkvenice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago 2/6 She read the message but didn’t reply. I went to the hospital and my procedure ran late. It was no big deal as the item was small and she can just leave it by the front door it nobody else was home. I came out of the procedure with text messages from her demanding to know where I was and eventually resorted to calling me unpleasant names. I said I was at the hospital and couldn’t send her a message, like I had told her. The exchange went a little something like this: 5 5points reply Sinkvenice Sinkvenice Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago 3/6 Jemma - You can use your phone in a hospital you know ? Me - Yes I know but I was in the middle of a procedure and it was in the basement of the hospital so I didn’t have signal anyway. Jemma - Oh my god, hospitals have Wi-Fi idiot. Me - Er, steady on. Yes, I realise that but I was in a giant machine and couldn’t exactly say to them, 4 4points reply plain bOrEd not panda plain bOrEd not panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I cannot tell why she felt the need to shower every time before going out, nor the need to have her make up on even when going to take out the garbage. Maybe the fact that she's never had a boyfriend, nor has ever kissed a man (now she's in her 40s). The truth is, if you really need to do these things, you really need to take note on how much time they take and plan for them in order not to get late. And being late with 15-20 mins is one thing, but not respecting other people's time and being late constantly with 2 hours is a very different thing. She was not the type of person who procrastinated things. She was the type of person who didn't respect the watch and other people's time. I am sure there is some mental issue that can be used to explain this particular thing about such people. Honestly I've never seen nor expected somebody like this to actually have a child, so I can only hope the woman from the story is far from having this condition. 3 3points reply yo dad yo dad Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago What if her name's smelly Kelly (yes a real girl freinds with a flatmate we had )poor girl STUNK like ass crack all the time she had to shower before she left the house 0 0points reply Lord Mysticlaw Lord Mysticlaw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I have this exact same problem with one of my kid's friends. It's been going on for as long as they've known each other – probably 7 years. Every time we invite the kid over for a birthday party or just for whatever the older-kid version of a playdate is these days. I specifically always give a time when she has to be picked up by her parents and they are always late. They always have some kind of lame excuse but aren't particularly apologetic and don't seem to see the problem. As a matter of fact I don't particularly like the parents at all, they are rude assholes. But I keep inviting the kid because she's a really good kid and I like her a lot. But the parents drive me up the damn wall. (I don't have any kind of advice or input, I'm just ranting.) 48 48points reply Frannie Kaplan Frannie Kaplan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Give a fake time (like an earlier time) so when they're late they come at the real time 38 38points reply Load More Replies... Yvonne Yvonne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I have to do that with my husband. He would be late for everything if I didn’t scalp an hour or so off the time we were meant to be anywhere. 5 5points reply Marco Conti Marco Conti Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Heck, I do that with myself. I cheat my own appointment by at least 15 minutes, usually a full 1/2 hour. I also set the reminder to show a notice the day before, again on the same day a few hours before, then an hour before I get texts, emails and phone notices. I have been pretty punctual lately, but I have more or less 15 notices of my daughter's birthday. Not that I am going to forget it, but I may not be aware of the day of the month, so I have been getting notices for a week. 2 2points reply E Menendez E Menendez Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I can say the kid probably feels bad and embarrassed too. I was the kid growing up that was always late to practice or late being picked up. ALWAYS and it was soooooo embarrassing. I would give my dad an earlier time so I could be on time to things and be picked up on time. It backfired one day when he showed up on time to pick me up from practice the one and only time on time. He spoke to another parent and figured out what I was doing. Guess who got picked up 3 hours late next practice? 20 20points reply Yoga Kitty Yoga Kitty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I feel that. I always needed a lift to parties. I was usually allowed to go there but my father would definitely not drive me as it was an "unnecessary pleasure". So I always asked my friends if their parents could pick me up as well - of course, after some time they told me that MY father had to organise transport sometimes as well... My friends one day called me as I was waiting to be picked up and told me that they had been out shopping and now were already at the party - no time to come and collect me in between, so my dad should just drive me. Of course he didn't. I cried all afternoon. Next day in school I handed over the present to the birthday girl and apologized for not being able to come since I had no lift. My friends' parents never asked for my father to drive again. Only years later I realized that it most probably had been a test. They could not believe that my parents would really make me miss all the fun. Yes, they would. 9 9points reply Izabela Wilson Izabela Wilson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) I feel sorry for you, 'cause I have this kind of dad. I became independent early, so if I could comfort you... I should tell you to come independent as soon as you can I know it sounds odd, but if I wanted to do/to go when I was young (I'm 40 now), that meant walking very long distances, or take a bus. It was risky, but I developed a good sense of direction, location, and timing. Just at my 26 I bought my first motorcycle, and that meant freedom in all meanings. He regrets this behaviour today, but alas... It made me stronger. Believe me Be safe! 1 1point reply Rissie Rissie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Well, the kid is a result of these parents. That's always my take. They must be not the worst people if their kid is sweet. And that's not saying people can't still be uncaring assholes, but it is saying they probably didn't start out that way . You don't really know them and by the time we procreate there have been so many opportunities to get disappointed in other people, they might have lost their trust. You're doing the right thing, however frustrating, by not taking it out on the kid. Not letting that social interaction be a reason for her to feel let down. It's never about you and always about what you can do for others. -19 -19points reply Flying Captain Flying Captain Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago They must be not the worst people if their kid is sweet is just such a wrong take on things. Once in a few times you do have a kid that has emotionally outgrown their own parents. Not bc of their education at home or how they have been raised but simply bc they were born with more emotional intelligence than their parents. When I had the chance to ask adults who were once these kids where they learned it from it's always "well...I figured it out on my own."...tldr: shitty parents having good kids exist. 12 12points reply Kathryn Baylis Kathryn Baylis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago I was one of those kids too. I figured a lot of it out on my own, the rest by looking at the families of friends of mine. Most specifically the ones who were the most balanced and well-adjusted kids who said nice things about their parents without sounding programmed or like they were lying. Once I had a good grasp of what constitutes kind, balanced, and acceptable behavior, I vowed to never be like my parents when I got older. And I’m not. 6 6points reply Joey Marlin Joey Marlin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Absolutely true Flying Captain. Rissie is wrong. Children are their own personalities. Bad parents have great children and vice versa. Yes, children do learn a lot from their parents but that can also include how not to behave based on poor examples set. I was 8 when I realised my parents were not always right. 4 4points reply Justyna R. Justyna R. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago No, this kids learn how to be empathic as hell to not been regected like they are by their parents. Sweet and well behaved to be accepted by others. That's why such parents have sweet kids. They will be people pleaser when they are adults just to be loved and accepted. 3 3points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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