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“ Am I The Jerk For Eating At My Boyfriend’ s Family’ s Christmas Dinner ”

Ignas Vieversys and
Gabija Palšytė
Ah, the Christmas family dinner. Everything smells like gingerbread cookies, there's a fireplace radiating that feel-good warmth and a dozen dishes ready to stuff you like a Thanksgiving turkey. What can go wrong? For many of us, dinner at the partner's parents' household is a real trial by fire. No matter how pretty you look or that you have better table manners than Queen Elizabeth herself (four kinds of spoons? No problem!), there will always be something that you won't be prepared for. As the user TheOA12345 shares in her story full of plot twists, everything seemed perfectly fine and her first Christmas dinner with her boyfriend's parents – a very important first – okay until it suddenly wasn't. Raised to eat as much as your belly can fill not to disrespect the host, the author of the story filled her plate, had a second when prompted by the hostess. How then can you say no to a cup of coffee and a slice of cheesecake too, right? Catching a fishy look from her significant other during dinner, getting shouted at and even called fat for not having any manners was far from how the author envisioned finishing this special night. Yet, little did she know Arabian dining etiquette is quite peculiar to what one is used to. Did you know going to guests' house on an empty stomach is a sign of disrespect in Arab culture? Well, we did not. Nor did the author of the story who wasn't forewarned about any of this and then blamed for her lack of common knowledge. As in most thorny and complicated 'Am I The A-Hole' cases worthy of Dr. Phil's expertise, the woman turned to the trusted subreddit to see if her accidental misappreciation of her partner's culture was really what set the things off. So buckle up, readers, and scroll down to read the story in full.

After their first Christmas dinner together girlfriend is suddenly blamed by her partner for not having any table manners

Image credits: Jay Wennington (not the actual photo)

Here s how the whole story goes

Image credits: TheOA12345

The general consensus was pretty and rightfully one-sided

Some users even called on boyfriend s bluff

Believe it or not, once again the good ol' Reddit helped to save the day. A week later after her original post, the author, receiving almost 4 thousand suggestions and opinions, decided to give some of them a go and wrote a follow-up story. After a few quick messages, she finally caught up with his lies - the tables have been turned. Turns out, the whole fiasco was the fault of getting lost in translation (he did not want to call her "fat", only "greedy" if that's any better) and her partner's touching cover-up mission. His dear folks, it appears, have some financial issues and he only wanted not to share the burden of his family's difficult situation. Especially before their first Christmas dinner together. Intention – great. Execution? Not so much.

After a weeklong radio silence author posted an update of her story

After getting the evidence she needed it was time to see what her boyfriend has to say about it

Image credits: TheOA12345

The hatched was buried and apologies made but many users simply don t buy it

Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Ignas Vieversys Ignas Vieversys Writer, BoredPanda staff Ignas is an editor at Bored Panda with an MA in Magazine Journalism. When he is not writing about video games or hunting for interesting stories, chances are that you will find Ignas at the movies. Read more » Gabija Palšytė Gabija Palšytė Author, BoredPanda staff Gabija is a photo editor at Bored Panda. Before joining the team, she achieved a Professional Bachelor degree in Photography and has been working as a freelance photographer since. She also has a special place in her heart for film photography, movies and nature. Read more » Show All Contributors Get the latest inspiring stories via our awesome iOS app! Download Bored Panda app! 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Taking a little bit more pasta and a slice of cake will not make the parents starve. He wants to control her. It's that simple. What she eats, how much she eats. How she should act, how she should look (not "fat"). He's an idiot. And if he's so worried about them, why not have them over for dinner at his place for the weekends? Nah, he wants to control her. 81 81points reply K Witmer K Witmer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Yep he definitely is a lying controlling manipulator. I'm sure he's done this before but she chose to ignore it bc he didn't get as mad as he did this time. 35 35points reply Load More Replies... Random Panda Random Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago (edited) Same here. Most Arab men I know are very controlling of their partners and this was definitely about him being angry she might get fat. The girl is an idiot for staying with him. 9 9points reply Iconoclast He/Him Iconoclast He/Him Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago People that are being gaslit aren't idiots. They are being manipulated and can't see it yet. He's still there, constantly manipulating her too when she starts to see it, he changes the script. 10 10points reply Jessica Bertram Jessica Bertram Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Agreed, Mewton. Random, way to generalize about Arab men here. Let's not forget that OP herself didn't want to share cultural origins specifically becaue of casual nastiness like this. 3 3points reply Random Panda Random Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago (edited) Did I say all of them are like this? No. Sorry if my lived experience doesn't fit your version of reality. 0 0points reply Tara Raay Tara Raay Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Maybe it’s because you said “most Arab men”…. There are BILLIONS of Arab men and I highly doubt you’ve met most of them. You’ve probably had a few interactions with them and decided most of them are like that…. I bet a lot of it has to do with your own pre conceived notions of Arab culture. There is a real reason that she didn’t want to mention that he’s Arab. For all we know he’s just another asshole who behave like “most men”. -2 -2points reply MoodyBlue MoodyBlue Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Actually what Random Panda said was "Most Arab men I know". Which is not at all same as "most Arab men". 5 5points reply Tara Raay Tara Raay Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago It was edited after the backlash. The original was “most arabs” , it changed like 5 hours ago 0 0points reply Random Panda Random Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago (edited) No, it wasn't edited, Tara. I added in the part about her being an idiot for staying with him BEFORE either you or Mewton responded to me. It's really pathetic to lie like that. Read more carefully next time. Also stop assuming you know anything about me or how/why I came to this opinion. 0 0points reply Ilman Al Barra Ilman Al Barra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Then.... What did you edit about your previous comment? -2 -2points reply Random Panda Random Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago "I added in the part about her being an idiot for staying with him BEFORE either you or Mewton responded to me." 0 0points reply Mewton’s Third Paw Mewton’s Third Paw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Casual racism against Arabs, socially acceptable as long as you’re not talking about black or white. Trashy. -8 -8points reply Omi bub Omi bub Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Agreed. My step mum is anorexic & really weird about what others eat- all boils down to control. 4 4points reply Dodo Dodo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. I think it was the fact that she took equal helpings of everything on the table first. He obviously expected her to have less, which in turn would leave the parents more. And he meant 'greedy', not 'fat'. -13 -13points reply Dina Simoné Dina Simoné Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Arab culture demands taking care of the parents. If the parents dont have enough food or money u naturally provide for them. Anything else is not acceptable. That guy is full of bullshit. He is afraid she might gain weight and wants to control her. 55 55points reply Ilman Al Barra Ilman Al Barra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Well your also not allowed to eat too much either, eating too little isn't allowed either thought 0 0points reply Load More Replies... Roshan Deapal Roshan Deapal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Google pay 97$ per hour my last pay check was $8500 working 1o hours a week online. My younger brother friend has been averaging 12k for months now and he works about 22 hours a week. I cant believe how easy it was once I tried it outit.. HERE ?­?­?.?­?­?­?­?­?­?­?­?­?.?­?­? -20 -20points reply Nunya Bus Nunya Bus Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Did anyone else feel like before the update of the "real" reasons, that he was "equally" disrespectful of HER culture. Being Mexican (or really any latino background) we all know our parents and especially our Abuelas would freak out if we ate so little when they prepared so much. My Abuela (bless her) would complain I was too "skinny" and I needed to eat more. When I invited my now husband to eat with us when my Abuela cooked, he thought he was going to pop afterwards because she kept insisting he eat more. I can only imagine what she'd say if he turned her down. He'd leave and she be like "He doesn't like my cooking? He doesn't like food? Was it too spicy?" Etc etc. Actually, that's also true of any Jewish Mom/Grandma, Italian Mom/Grandma, that I have ever encountered. No way could I have ever left any of their houses eating like a bird. So unless they were in HIS part of the world I would think it would be more "known" that you eat and eat a lot out of politeness. 49 49points reply Nunya Bus Nunya Bus Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Also what is it with people lately assuming their bf/gf should read their minds? I mean it's not like we are talking about a decade together and you probably should have know these "rules." It's always a few months to a year and meeting people for the first time and then getting slammed for not KNOWING the "rules." 28 28points reply Load More Replies... Andrew Bridge Andrew Bridge Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago By lately you mean at least 30 years? It's only been since 2018 I've found out other people CAN'T read minds 3 3points reply Dina Simoné Dina Simoné Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago He lied about the customs of arab culture. She seems to have never been invited to an arab household otherwise she wouldnt have believed him that they expect such a ridiculous thing. Good for her checking on him by talking to his mother. Unfortunately he spun a second lie after that. Arabs take care of the parents and do not under any circusumstances leave them with even the possibility of beeing hungry. He is seriously embarrassing himself and his parents by demanding a guest should eat little. Shame on him. He wants to control her weight. Typical Narcissist. 12 12points reply Omi bub Omi bub Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Agree not my experience of Arab culture at all & to use it for a lie is a really low move. It is not unusual for sons to live at home with family in Arab culture (his wife moves in with in-laws) so if they are struggling financially i think most sons would move in to help out. 5 5points reply Figen Yavuz Figen Yavuz Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Believe me, every Mediterranean and/or Middle-eastern culture -including the Arabs- is just like your culture, when it comes to eating. The aunties wont leave you alone until you eat enough for a heart attack, and pack the rest for you to take home. There is a specific problem with the BF here. 9 9points reply Kirsty Kirsty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I think it's just all grandmas honestly. I'd knock at my man's to drop something off and end up with a bowl of stew or some sort of massively large sandwich before I'd even realised what happened 8 8points reply Kirsty Kirsty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Nans* 1 1point reply Honu Honu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago It was never about culture. He was lying to gaslight her. He lied about it being culture because that is pretty unassailable. People usually defer pretty unquestioningly to whatever people say about their own culture. He didn't expect her to check up on him. It sounds like he was just kicking up whatever dust he could find to "win". Not really playing 3D chess here. I don't think he spent a whole lot of time contemplating an internally consistent strategy. 7 7points reply deanna woods deanna woods Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago That's how it was with my dad's black family. They wanted to make sure that you were well fed. 4 4points reply MyOpinionHasBeenServed MyOpinionHasBeenServed Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Yeah, I think if there's a culture clash it's best to leave individuals to practice their norms and let others practice theirs, and simply explain the difference without imposing them other people. 3 3points reply Moezzzz Moezzzz Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Hell yeah he was! My husband is Hispanic and if I don't at least take a PLATE of food home, my mother in law will think I didn't like the food. I learned that early on. We don't (I'm just plain old white and southern) necessarily take food home, unless it's a pot luck and then everyone is insisting on it, but we are encouraged to clean our plate. It's just rude not to. That dude is an asshole 3 3points reply Alex Boyd Alex Boyd Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Yes! I just read a really interesting book, called "The Rituals of Dinner," that was about how pretty much all human cultures consider it very important to show good manners while eating...but differ widely in exactly what that means. There are cultures where it's polite to eat a lot, cultures where it's polite to eat a little, cultures where you're expected to eat a little and take home a parcel of leftovers for family members who weren't invited, cultures where it's good manners to stay until the food is gone, even if that takes several meals...huge range of variation. Even before the reveal about the boyfriend's weird gaslighting, I was wondering how he could be totally unaware that customs vary in this area, especially if (as seems to be the case) he lives in a place where his cultural background is not the majority. 2 2points reply Omi bub Omi bub Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Absolutely! I would say many cultures it is considered polite to eat what is offered & show you are enjoying. (It is also impolite to turn up empty handed in UK though). Incredibly disrespectful of her culture & red flag. 2 2points reply Alban Bizet Alban Bizet Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Algerian on my father side, if I don't eat everything on the table my grandmother would be very upset 1 1point reply [email protected] [email protected] Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago You forgot the Greek YiaYias. 0 0points reply Ilman Al Barra Ilman Al Barra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Well yes, and no. Arab/Islam culture goes wherever you are, doesn't matter if you're in america, or paris, or wherever. Also if the bf isn't lying and the parents are having a financial problem (which they most likely are) then his words are reasonable, also all of y'all's words (not you nunyu) shows how little you know about arab culture. 0 0points reply Ilman Al Barra Ilman Al Barra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago To be fair, in arab culture eating too much at a guests house is forbidden, but also, eating too little is also forbidden. The boyfriend is right culture wise, but I still don't 100% trust him. 0 0points reply Load More Comments POST Caro Caro Caro Caro Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I don't believe a word that boyfriend has said. Taking a little bit more pasta and a slice of cake will not make the parents starve. He wants to control her. It's that simple. What she eats, how much she eats. How she should act, how she should look (not "fat"). He's an idiot. And if he's so worried about them, why not have them over for dinner at his place for the weekends? Nah, he wants to control her. 81 81points reply K Witmer K Witmer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Yep he definitely is a lying controlling manipulator. I'm sure he's done this before but she chose to ignore it bc he didn't get as mad as he did this time. 35 35points reply Load More Replies... Random Panda Random Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago (edited) Same here. Most Arab men I know are very controlling of their partners and this was definitely about him being angry she might get fat. The girl is an idiot for staying with him. 9 9points reply Iconoclast He/Him Iconoclast He/Him Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago People that are being gaslit aren't idiots. They are being manipulated and can't see it yet. He's still there, constantly manipulating her too when she starts to see it, he changes the script. 10 10points reply Jessica Bertram Jessica Bertram Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Agreed, Mewton. Random, way to generalize about Arab men here. Let's not forget that OP herself didn't want to share cultural origins specifically becaue of casual nastiness like this. 3 3points reply Random Panda Random Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago (edited) Did I say all of them are like this? No. Sorry if my lived experience doesn't fit your version of reality. 0 0points reply Tara Raay Tara Raay Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Maybe it’s because you said “most Arab men”…. There are BILLIONS of Arab men and I highly doubt you’ve met most of them. You’ve probably had a few interactions with them and decided most of them are like that…. I bet a lot of it has to do with your own pre conceived notions of Arab culture. There is a real reason that she didn’t want to mention that he’s Arab. For all we know he’s just another asshole who behave like “most men”. -2 -2points reply MoodyBlue MoodyBlue Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Actually what Random Panda said was "Most Arab men I know". Which is not at all same as "most Arab men". 5 5points reply Tara Raay Tara Raay Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago It was edited after the backlash. The original was “most arabs” , it changed like 5 hours ago 0 0points reply Random Panda Random Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago (edited) No, it wasn't edited, Tara. I added in the part about her being an idiot for staying with him BEFORE either you or Mewton responded to me. It's really pathetic to lie like that. Read more carefully next time. Also stop assuming you know anything about me or how/why I came to this opinion. 0 0points reply Ilman Al Barra Ilman Al Barra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Then.... What did you edit about your previous comment? -2 -2points reply Random Panda Random Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago "I added in the part about her being an idiot for staying with him BEFORE either you or Mewton responded to me." 0 0points reply Mewton’s Third Paw Mewton’s Third Paw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Casual racism against Arabs, socially acceptable as long as you’re not talking about black or white. Trashy. -8 -8points reply Omi bub Omi bub Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Agreed. My step mum is anorexic & really weird about what others eat- all boils down to control. 4 4points reply Dodo Dodo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. I think it was the fact that she took equal helpings of everything on the table first. He obviously expected her to have less, which in turn would leave the parents more. And he meant 'greedy', not 'fat'. -13 -13points reply Dina Simoné Dina Simoné Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Arab culture demands taking care of the parents. If the parents dont have enough food or money u naturally provide for them. Anything else is not acceptable. That guy is full of bullshit. He is afraid she might gain weight and wants to control her. 55 55points reply Ilman Al Barra Ilman Al Barra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Well your also not allowed to eat too much either, eating too little isn't allowed either thought 0 0points reply Load More Replies... Roshan Deapal Roshan Deapal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Google pay 97$ per hour my last pay check was $8500 working 1o hours a week online. My younger brother friend has been averaging 12k for months now and he works about 22 hours a week. I cant believe how easy it was once I tried it outit.. HERE ?­?­?.?­?­?­?­?­?­?­?­?­?.?­?­? -20 -20points reply Nunya Bus Nunya Bus Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Did anyone else feel like before the update of the "real" reasons, that he was "equally" disrespectful of HER culture. Being Mexican (or really any latino background) we all know our parents and especially our Abuelas would freak out if we ate so little when they prepared so much. My Abuela (bless her) would complain I was too "skinny" and I needed to eat more. When I invited my now husband to eat with us when my Abuela cooked, he thought he was going to pop afterwards because she kept insisting he eat more. I can only imagine what she'd say if he turned her down. He'd leave and she be like "He doesn't like my cooking? He doesn't like food? Was it too spicy?" Etc etc. Actually, that's also true of any Jewish Mom/Grandma, Italian Mom/Grandma, that I have ever encountered. No way could I have ever left any of their houses eating like a bird. So unless they were in HIS part of the world I would think it would be more "known" that you eat and eat a lot out of politeness. 49 49points reply Nunya Bus Nunya Bus Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Also what is it with people lately assuming their bf/gf should read their minds? I mean it's not like we are talking about a decade together and you probably should have know these "rules." It's always a few months to a year and meeting people for the first time and then getting slammed for not KNOWING the "rules." 28 28points reply Load More Replies... Andrew Bridge Andrew Bridge Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago By lately you mean at least 30 years? It's only been since 2018 I've found out other people CAN'T read minds 3 3points reply Dina Simoné Dina Simoné Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago He lied about the customs of arab culture. She seems to have never been invited to an arab household otherwise she wouldnt have believed him that they expect such a ridiculous thing. Good for her checking on him by talking to his mother. Unfortunately he spun a second lie after that. Arabs take care of the parents and do not under any circusumstances leave them with even the possibility of beeing hungry. He is seriously embarrassing himself and his parents by demanding a guest should eat little. Shame on him. He wants to control her weight. Typical Narcissist. 12 12points reply Omi bub Omi bub Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Agree not my experience of Arab culture at all & to use it for a lie is a really low move. It is not unusual for sons to live at home with family in Arab culture (his wife moves in with in-laws) so if they are struggling financially i think most sons would move in to help out. 5 5points reply Figen Yavuz Figen Yavuz Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Believe me, every Mediterranean and/or Middle-eastern culture -including the Arabs- is just like your culture, when it comes to eating. The aunties wont leave you alone until you eat enough for a heart attack, and pack the rest for you to take home. There is a specific problem with the BF here. 9 9points reply Kirsty Kirsty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago I think it's just all grandmas honestly. I'd knock at my man's to drop something off and end up with a bowl of stew or some sort of massively large sandwich before I'd even realised what happened 8 8points reply Kirsty Kirsty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Nans* 1 1point reply Honu Honu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago It was never about culture. He was lying to gaslight her. He lied about it being culture because that is pretty unassailable. People usually defer pretty unquestioningly to whatever people say about their own culture. He didn't expect her to check up on him. It sounds like he was just kicking up whatever dust he could find to "win". Not really playing 3D chess here. I don't think he spent a whole lot of time contemplating an internally consistent strategy. 7 7points reply deanna woods deanna woods Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago That's how it was with my dad's black family. They wanted to make sure that you were well fed. 4 4points reply MyOpinionHasBeenServed MyOpinionHasBeenServed Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Yeah, I think if there's a culture clash it's best to leave individuals to practice their norms and let others practice theirs, and simply explain the difference without imposing them other people. 3 3points reply Moezzzz Moezzzz Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Hell yeah he was! My husband is Hispanic and if I don't at least take a PLATE of food home, my mother in law will think I didn't like the food. I learned that early on. We don't (I'm just plain old white and southern) necessarily take food home, unless it's a pot luck and then everyone is insisting on it, but we are encouraged to clean our plate. It's just rude not to. That dude is an asshole 3 3points reply Alex Boyd Alex Boyd Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Yes! I just read a really interesting book, called "The Rituals of Dinner," that was about how pretty much all human cultures consider it very important to show good manners while eating...but differ widely in exactly what that means. There are cultures where it's polite to eat a lot, cultures where it's polite to eat a little, cultures where you're expected to eat a little and take home a parcel of leftovers for family members who weren't invited, cultures where it's good manners to stay until the food is gone, even if that takes several meals...huge range of variation. Even before the reveal about the boyfriend's weird gaslighting, I was wondering how he could be totally unaware that customs vary in this area, especially if (as seems to be the case) he lives in a place where his cultural background is not the majority. 2 2points reply Omi bub Omi bub Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Absolutely! I would say many cultures it is considered polite to eat what is offered & show you are enjoying. (It is also impolite to turn up empty handed in UK though). Incredibly disrespectful of her culture & red flag. 2 2points reply Alban Bizet Alban Bizet Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Algerian on my father side, if I don't eat everything on the table my grandmother would be very upset 1 1point reply [email protected] [email protected] Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago You forgot the Greek YiaYias. 0 0points reply Ilman Al Barra Ilman Al Barra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Well yes, and no. Arab/Islam culture goes wherever you are, doesn't matter if you're in america, or paris, or wherever. Also if the bf isn't lying and the parents are having a financial problem (which they most likely are) then his words are reasonable, also all of y'all's words (not you nunyu) shows how little you know about arab culture. 0 0points reply Ilman Al Barra Ilman Al Barra Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago To be fair, in arab culture eating too much at a guests house is forbidden, but also, eating too little is also forbidden. The boyfriend is right culture wise, but I still don't 100% trust him. 0 0points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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