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Sister-In-Law Can’ t Meet Her Baby Nephew Because She’ s Too Broke To Stick To All The Rules His Parents Have Set

Ieva Gailiūtė and
Mindaugas Balčiauskas
Making the transition to parenthood and bringing home a newborn baby is challenging at the best of times. Amid the pandemic, it's a whole other story. For many soon-to-be moms and dads, everything comes with new worries and questions, so making a plan can bring some calm to the chaos. However, one couple took it a few steps too far. User No_Letter_1344, a 34-year-old mom who just had her son on Christmas Day, sparked a debate in a recent post on r/AITA after revealing some of the rules she and her husband have for guests that come to see their newborn baby. Sure, keeping your child safe and insisting that friends and family must be "up to date on all vaccines" and won't visit late at night is reasonable. But demanding to bring gifts and do household chores takes it to a whole new level. The woman asked if she was in the wrong for not bending the rules for her sister-in-law, who "studies in a different part of the country" and rarely comes home. Read on for the full story and share your thoughts in the comments below!

A woman shared a list of strict rules she and her husband have for visiting their newborn baby on r AITA

Image credits: Kristina Paukshtite (not the actual photo)

She asks if she s in the wrong for refusing to bend them for her sister-in-law

Image credits: No_Letter_1344 No_Letter_1344's story has amassed more than 13.1K upvotes and 6.2K comments in just a few days. The post started with a few decent requests but quickly turned sour when the author named her unreasonable demands. "Before you ever come, no matter how many times, you will be given a list of food or groceries to bring with you AND a chore for a list of your choosing," the user wrote. It seems that all this was a bit much for the sister-in-law, a 20-year-old college student, who couldn't afford to buy the things this couple requested. She instead offered to clean the whole house just so she could visit the newborn baby, but the woman and her husband refused to bend the rules. When other family members confronted them about the situation, saying they're using their child as "a cash grab", the husband told his parents that they were on a "time out and blocked them". Members of the r/AITA subreddit quickly determined that the author was completely in the wrong for creating this list of demands and refusing to allow her family member to visit the baby.

Which rules for visitors really matter

Needless to say, having a child is a major event in a person's life, and being instantly surrounded by a flock of visitors might be stressful. While setting some rules might be beneficial, it's important to know which of them truly matter. Sarah Goldberg, a pregnancy massage therapist and childbirth educator, told ABC Everyday that who visits and when should come down to what's best for the baby and mom. "When a baby is born, they [ideally] need undisturbed skin-to-skin contact for a minimum of 90 minutes; that's when all the baby's hormones and mother's hormones are working really hard to bond and connect," she explained. "Your time in bed snuggling and cuddling your baby is imperative for a healthy postnatal recovery, so I implore rest, rest, rest-and rest does not happen when you have a thousand visitors." Some parents prohibit picking up their children or kissing them. Archana Koirala, a pediatric infectious diseases physician, said it's important to understand that "babies need to be cuddled, they need to be touched, they need to be loved. So when you say, 'No, you can't do this, you can't do that', you're actually providing restrictions potentially on a newborn's development." Also, if your visitor is a smoker, you should have a conversation before allowing them to visit. Even if they won't be smoking anywhere near the baby, the smoke can hang around in their clothes. Your best bet would be to ask them not to do it before the visit, request that they wash their hands, and ideally, ask them to consider changing their clothes to minimize the risk of exposure. While it might be a difficult conversation to have with your friend or family member, you have to keep your baby safe and healthy-and that's what setting rules should be all about.

Redditors unanimously agreed that the OP was acting like a jerk here s what they had to say

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POST Jo Choto Jo Choto Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I was thinking this would be all about keeping the baby safe and healthy and then, boom! Give me free stuff and work for me? Go to hell. 392 392points reply Helderder Helderder Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Exactly. The first sound very reasonable especially now. But the rest..... 143 143points reply Load More Replies... Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Especially because I assume everybody would have gladly obliged had she asked them politely. As in: could you help me with the ironing please? 30 30points reply PepsiCoke PepsiCoke Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) Umm, no. She and her husband can work on a schedule to do their own chores. They are both functioning adults. It will be a different story if she's a single parent with no help whatsoever. 27 27points reply Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Ok. You don’t iron for functioning adults and assume that adults who just had a baby must be functioning. -6 -6points reply PepsiCoke PepsiCoke Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) I don't assume. I had two kids and I was functioning on both occassions. I didn't say that I got zero help from my mother, tho. However, not in my wildest dream I have the audacity to ask random guest, friend, or family who don't offer first to iron for me, however nicely. 19 19points reply Jo Firth Jo Firth Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago People can only visit for an hour AND during that time they are expected to complete a chore. How does FO sound? 42 42points reply Lillukka79 Lillukka79 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) With the cash grab, I'd never see that kid. Entitled twats. 42 42points reply Shirazeh Tabibi Shirazeh Tabibi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Does children have no control. They are going to be lonely with no visitors! 8 8points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago @Jo Choto, I was okay with "Vaccinated and call ahead." Everything else... Gobsmacked by the greed of the parents. 41 41points reply Andrei Caldararu Andrei Caldararu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Exactly - that's the only rule that makes any sense. Yeah, I have 2 kids and know how tiring it is, but to expect groceries, gift cards, gifts and chores on top of that? 27 27points reply Felicia Watkins Felicia Watkins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) I agree 100% that is bs they are in the wrong i would not blame this girl if she never speaks to them ever again most collage students live off of cheap food to survive collage i lived off of ramen and bread and cheap peanut butter and water!!!!! 27 27points reply Gerard Neaux Gerard Neaux Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Sounds like they really don't want guests and, should the guests prove stubborn, they want to punish those guests. 23 23points reply Michał Osiecki Michał Osiecki Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago it was getting strange at the perfume and then went crazy 16 16points reply Vicky Stringer Vicky Stringer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Ya no perfume or deodorant, I guess they want everyone to stink. 6 6points reply Trialia Trialia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 7 months ago No, that one isn't really that unreasonable. Babies' lungs are delicate, especially in newborns. It's after that they go off the deep end! 0 0points reply P Webb P Webb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago OK to ban strong perfume, but not deodorant! 5 5points reply Kat Price Kat Price Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This is beyond sickening! The shame these 2 people should have but don't and the child will grow up thinking that's how life is supposed to be. He is going to be confused and probably treat people awful because he seen his parents to do it thinking it's normal. Shame on them and good they will reap the hell they created. Shame on them. The way of the world is beyond screwed. 15 15points reply Immortal Emperor Paradox Immortal Emperor Paradox Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Exactly. I even thought for a moment that the baby's actually an imperial prince. Beg for appointment, complete quests for acceptance, limited time appointment since it's the prince, and even provide tribute and service. 12 12points reply Orange Is Aging Orange Is Aging Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 8 months ago A few of those rules I can understand - no smokers, up to date on all vaccines, no advice () - but pretty much all of the other ones range from stupid to cruel. 184 184points reply That nerd Zoe That nerd Zoe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Yeah.. also strong perfume, maybe, but deodorant? You want your house to smell like a barn? 137 137points reply Load More Replies... Terilee Bruyere Terilee Bruyere Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Antiperspirant and deodorant are two different things that work in different ways. deodorant generally covers the BO with another smell whereas antiperspirant can stop some of the smell from happening in the first place. That may be what she means. When my daughter was younger, before we knew what was causing her near constant wheezing and skin rashes it was suggested that we cut out anything with a fragrance (honestly the only reason I know what the difference between deodorant/antiperspirant is). 15 15points reply That nerd Zoe That nerd Zoe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Oh okay. Then strong deodorant would likely be included in the strong perfume thing. Honestly I use scented deodorant and can't smell it even after exercise¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 11 11points reply Amy Jo Hoppins Amy Jo Hoppins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. ...and THAT is usually what is at issue. Those who use toxic fragrance chemicals lose their sense of smell. Yay Johnson and Johnson. -16 -16points reply Stephanie Spriggs-Luckey Stephanie Spriggs-Luckey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago We don't allow anyone to hold my grandson who has on perfume unless we lay his blanket down on them. Perfume on your clothing can irritate a baby's skin as we all found out. Now all of our clothing is washed in All free and clear and those that wear perfume spray it on their backs. 2 2points reply Tom Accola Tom Accola Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Allergies, I once knew someone who could not eat any protein. If they had even the tiniest amount it would eat away at their brain. Knew another that was allergic to aerosol, so when someone sprayed a air freshener he had to leave for half an hour. Babies can't say what's wrong so avoidance is key. 1 1point reply Chris Davison Chris Davison Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago You don't know what the difference between an allergy and a dislike is. Duh 3 3points reply Terilee Bruyere Terilee Bruyere Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) Chris ~ Dude, no need to be rude. -2 -2points reply EEP EEP Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago They are crazy. Poor child 27 27points reply Ashley Rose Ashley Rose Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago My bestfriend has a baby the same age as this kid... aside from her parents I'm the only one who has met the baby (I was there when he was born) I am a smoker and also fully vaccinated... I do keep a change of clothes at her house and change evertime I go over, I also don't wear perfume but my friend didn't ask me to do any of that it's just being consideredate and imo having to send a list out like this in general is just an insult to the families when most of it is common sense! and ya know what my friends baby still got covid from his dad,, who is also vaccinated... unfortunately the only guarentee is total isolation but that's not beneficial to the babies development, can't always control the inevitable or live in a bubble ... but u can control requesting ur own family to scrub ur toilets and bring u presents acting like ur the first woman to ever give birth and ur vagina is made of platinum... lol 10 10points reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I don't even understand those: if you are a smoker it does not mean that you start smoking in the face of the child or in the same house where the child lives. Even being up to date with all vaccines means nothing: for example, how could a missed tetanus vaccination harm the child? And the prohibition on giving advice is pure rudeness. These are all nonsense. 9 9points reply Kim Burke Kim Burke Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I lived in a house with smokers. I have never smoked in my life but everything I owned smelled like smoke, even books and furniture. When I moved out I had to wash everything that was washable, air out non-washables and use a ton of Febreeze to get the smoke smell out. My point is, although the parents are taking their demand to ridiculous levels, the clothing of someone who smokes will always have a nicotine smell/residue. If the baby is sensitive to scents, that could be an issue. 5 5points reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. @Kim Burke: "If the baby is sensitive to scents". I imagine the millions and millions of babies who died or were seriously damaged in the past, because they were exposed for a short time and at a distance to clothes belonging to smokers. Really a serious issue. Fortunately, today there are mothers like the one mentioned in this post, who really care about their children's health and put it in front of everything, even money. -12 -12points reply Agamemenon Triforce Agamemenon Triforce Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Smokers generally smell pretty bad from the smoke that has clung to them, their clothes and their breath. Add perfume or strongly scented perfume and YUCK. 5 5points reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago @Agamemenon Triforce: So if a baby is exposed for a few seconds (I don't think this mother would allow contact for a longer time) to the smell of smoke, would a tragedy ensue? 2 2points reply Nicole Douglas Nicole Douglas Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) Smokers hold smoke and nicotine within their clothes it's called 3rd hand smoking. My son was micropreemie so our NICU was strict on smokers my dad had to wear a hospital gown when he visited my son at the hospital. Also here in the US a tetanus shot is usually given with diphtheria and pertussis both are deadly to children. 2 2points reply AzKhaleesi AzKhaleesi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Yes however no where in the post does it say that her baby was / is a preemie. So if the child is a full term child and healthy I can see saying, no smoking prior to arrival or during visit please wear clean clothing etc. But to just make a no smoking rule period is just crazy. I can see "wash your hands etc prior to holding baby." But "no pictures" come on. these parents are insane. 13 13points reply Patricia Howard Patricia Howard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) Ummm ya but the most concerning part should be the demand for enslavement and pre approved payment and fees to just be in the general vicinity of the child ...because you have to work for your hour in their home....and not just demanding a gift for the baby but a gift card for mom too?? And groceries or take out from where they say ??? Thats disgusting that poor kid their parents just robbed them of a lifelong bond with very important people for their development and put a price on love so sick so wrong 17 17points reply Terilee Bruyere Terilee Bruyere Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago AzKhaleesi ~ The no pictures one makes sense. There are a ton of very sick people out there. As a parent who found out that their child's personal info, including pictures, was hacked out of a medical company's database, I can tell you, the thought that some stranger is looking and knowing where your child is...it's terrifying. 6 6points reply charles warner charles warner Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago I can see postingbphotos on social media but would be hurt not to take a photo with my grandchild. 6 6points reply Tamara Hoops-King Tamara Hoops-King Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Why would a "Medical Company" have your child's picture? 2 2points reply Terilee Bruyere Terilee Bruyere Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Tamara ~ It's a company that helps with tracking/coordinating various doctors and specialist with a person's insurance companies, to help pay for the medical costs of children with special needs. The company has info about her doctors, disabilities, bank account, school, therapists, home address, and various images of her to identify her to help protect from medical fraud. -3 -3points reply Dwana Atkins Dwana Atkins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Never heard of that. I'd be suspicious. 1 1point reply Dwana Atkins Dwana Atkins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Who is we? You aren't the parent. So you don't make the rules!! 1 1point reply Nicole Douglas Nicole Douglas Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Smoke can still negatively affect healthy newborn babies and depending on the type of smoker even "clean" clothes can still have nicotine. I'm just speaking from my experience. 1 1point reply Dwana Atkins Dwana Atkins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Spores are on the body of a smoker so changing clothes doesn't do a thing. You would need to shower and then change your clothes and no smoking or being around smoke before holding the baby!! -3 -3points reply Trialia Trialia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 7 months ago The no smoking rule is entirely reasonable. I ended up with asthma from passive smoking during childhood. Babies have delicate lungs, and most smokers can't smell the smoke even when it makes their clothing reek. -2 -2points reply Tamara Hoops-King Tamara Hoops-King Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago News flash....EVERYONE entering the NICU must wear a "cover gown " over their street clothes.....NEXT 10 10points reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) @Nicole Douglas: Yes, ok, but it appears that the baby is perfectly healthy and in no way someone could infect a baby with tetanus simply interacting with him. 5 5points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Tetanus is also deadly, just an FYI. 3 3points reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago @Leo Domitrix: Of course tetanus is deadly, but I was just saying that if a person doesn't get the tetanus vaccination booster they can still interact with a baby. Or maybe you think tetanus is passed from person to person ?! 8 8points reply Shauna Rydman Shauna Rydman Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Tetanus is usually in a combo TDAP shot... Meaning it also vaccinates you against the (very dangerous for you) pertussis (whooping cough) which IS contagious. So, your point is a little moot? 4 4points reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago @Shauna Rydman: tetanus vaccination requires few boosters over time... It saddens me that many here only look at the example (without however understanding it), instead of understanding the thinking behind it. 3 3points reply Dwana Atkins Dwana Atkins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago What the hell are you talking about? You get a Tetanus vaccine if you have had an injury that might possibly cause Tetanus, as in a nail driven into your hand, cutting yourself with a dirty knife,etc. Generally, you get a Tetnus, Pertussis and Diphtheria every 10 years if you are an adult and follow your normal Vaccination Schedule 2 2points reply Tamara Hoops-King Tamara Hoops-King Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Perhaps you need to go back to whatever internet site you get all of your "info" from & re-read the section where it discusses how its transmitted to humans. -2 -2points reply Chris Davison Chris Davison Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. 1) TDaP (combined vax for tetanus, diphtheria, and pertussis), MMR, polio, flu, and, uh, Covid. Not just a tetanus booster. Dumbass. 2) Rudeness is offering advice when no one asked you. 3) Smokers stink. Reasonable not to want stink coming in. *YOU* are nonsense. Dumbass! -17 -17points reply Rookie Banter Rookie Banter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago You are the most rude person here, so far as I have read. Let alone name calling. Don't be one of those people making the internet a horrible place. It does that all by itself. 4 4points reply Bayou Billy Bayou Billy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Funny you don't make sense and rail about reasonability then end on you are nonsense ... Classic irony vunderbar... -1 -1point reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago @Bayou Billy: it seems that several people here are the mommy in question in disguise. 3 3points reply Marsha M Marsha M Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Exactly! Especially not making an exception for a broke college student. 6 6points reply jane don jane don Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I can see No Smoking--But no Smokers?-- 5 5points reply D D D D Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Vaccinated or not is only about the person themself, nothing to do with passing on an infection to man, mother, beast or baby. The idea of vaccine = infection blocker is being pushed as part of the Covid-19 agenda. People who fall for this so get the so-called vacc often take less precautions like handwashing & soc.distancing. I don't let them near myself even. -12 -12points reply A Dasher Panda A Dasher Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago You're an idiot. A loner idiot, but still an idiot. 8 8points reply OhNoAO OhNoAO Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 7 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Well it won't let me reply to DD. Although avoiding people that have gotten the jab is a bit extreme it doesn't make what they are saying not true. This is evident now that time has passed since this was originally posted and the Pfizer vaccine studies are starting to become available to the public. You know the ones that they wanted to wait 75 years before they released them. It's the darndest thing too because out of the 8,000+ side effects of "special interest" covid was one of them. Yup they admit the jab gives you COVID oh and things like chicken pox, herpes, bacterial arthritis, type 1 diabetes (mind you type 1 has ALWAYS been a Genetic Endocrine Disorder meaning it only runs in bloodlines and makes the person 100% insulin dependent for life. Type 2 diabetes is the one that attacks the overweight and unhealthy that can be reversed and only requires a pill and diet change unless you're completly careless after you're diagnosed, those are the ones losing their feet) -7 -7points reply Lothriel Lothriel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I have a toddler, but this is outrageous. I would never ever use my child as a cash grab. Everyone is free to come and see, ofc, when you arrive, you should wash your hands, but what are you saying, is way way to far... To be honest, i feel for the young kid... 140 140points reply Karina H Karina H Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago my son is almost 3 yo and when ge was born we restricted the visits per week, too. we just needed time in-between to rest and be for ourselves. I think we had people over 2, max 3 times a week. everyone was understanding, even before the pandemic 68 68points reply Load More Replies... AzKhaleesi AzKhaleesi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago That is the ONLY rule that makes sense out of all of these. New parents definitely need quiet time with baby. But the rest is nuts. 34 34points reply Danielle Schaefer-singleton Danielle Schaefer-singleton Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Well..my family came to help..id shower pump nap etc..so depends on who ..BUT- BRING S GIFT.A MEAL.A GIFT CARD.You get 1 hour..( ALL of those require plp to go to STORES ya know!) Sounds like mom is pimping. Out this baby..sad. .y fa. Would come TO HELP.not cater to me..Id shower, pump, take a nap.etc... New parents need HELP in order to GET A quiet min! 17 17points reply Serafina Potenzo Serafina Potenzo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Danielle, my mom took a week off work to help me but i promise if i demanded anything in the fashion these primadonnas did they would have laughed...they wont get people coming to help while she pumps or showers etc when the greedy demands make them get on the defense...ya know...she probably would have to gotten those things done without asking as we both had help...but like i said my mom would have been ashamed of me if I'm did as such 18 18points reply Nora D. Harrison Nora D. Harrison Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago EXACTLY!! 8 8points reply Rachel Betancort Rachel Betancort Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Restricting is something the parents do.. but the intended visitors only need to here " we are tired", it's not a good time", we'll have other family over".... but to straight up tell well wishers to not bother if you can't bring food , clean or a present everything? They were ridiculous. 13 13points reply Michelle A Michelle A Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago That rule makes sense as well as vaccines and smoking. The rest....naaa. I had 3 children. Never did any of this other stuff about gifts and chores on demand even come to mind. Baby shower gifts should have been enough if they had one. 13 13points reply Serafina Potenzo Serafina Potenzo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Right? Never would have even crossed my mind to ask these things of people 11 11points reply Amy Stone-Chandler Amy Stone-Chandler Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago That's the one I understood as a mom. Don't bombard me. Your exhausted and trying to figure out your own baby groove. 8 8points reply Nicole Herron Nicole Herron Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I don't have kids but I am an introvert who relishes her quiet time and I also have a basic understanding that families need to bond without people trying to snug the tiny squiggly. 7 7points reply sw sw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Is this for real? My husband and I had a great laugh. Get over yourself 21 21points reply Mymy Mymy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Hehe, tiny squiggly 2 2points reply Alexander Wellington Alexander Wellington Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Yeah, I don't want to sound like I typical internet troll here, but until you really can't possibly understand. You may think that's condescending, but as somebody who didn't have children until he was 37, and had only one, I both understand where you are, and want to tell you unless and until you have kids, You really can't understand it. Plus quiet time when you have a child is basically non-existent. -8 -8points reply Patricia Howard Patricia Howard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) Um nobody is questioning the time to themselves with their baby lol it's the rest of the insane BS and then not allowing the aunty (husbands sister) to come see the baby....because she can't afford the gift from the store they say they want one from AND a gift card for the mom cause I guess she's just so sweet and special she deserves that AND bring what THEY demand for take out food AND as if that wasn't enough to do a household chore???? Ya I feel sorry for that child because the parents are SELF CENTERED rude assists!!! So do you agree with all their demands? 24 24points reply Marla Celeri Marla Celeri Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago It's the chores, the gift, and the struggling college student. That's the problem. Not the quiet time. Get a clue 18 18points reply Nora D. Harrison Nora D. Harrison Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I can understand limiting visits but making a college student pay for the privilege of bonding with her FAMILY??? That is HORRIBLE! I have children and grandchildren and I believe in bonding with the child but you and that child also NEED the village to help raise it. The sis in law knew this and was being family by offering to clean the whole house but you say NO... Grocery item?? Gift card for mom?? Gift for baby??? Did these people go to college?? They should be ASHAMED especially her big brother. He should've given her the money for the gift. 13 13points reply CL Rowan CL Rowan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago They'll be all up in the sister when they want a FREE babysitter. "Oh, come on over and meet your niece/nephew~~Here's your list of chores, babies needs, and oh yes~~don't eat our food. We'll be back by 2am! Ta~ta!!" 6 6points reply sue dreifus sue dreifus Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago college is not required to have decency and common sense 3 3points reply L. H. L. H. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago So is that all you read. Because some of their other rules are ridiculous. 5 5points reply Kimberly Quinn Kimberly Quinn Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I can understand that. Having a baby is tiring and you don't need to feel like you are entertaining guests. It's the rest of this list that's crazy. 1 1point reply D'Jango Rey D'Jango Rey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 months ago Karina, you seem like a very reasonable and conscientious woman. These parents are Pigs. 1 1point reply Tiggerdk Tiggerdk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. You did right, a new baby takes alot of stamina. Enjoy your time, it goes fast -9 -9points reply Danielle Schaefer-singleton Danielle Schaefer-singleton Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Millions of babies born every day. THEY ARE ALL precious. WILL MOM go thru life w/BO,no Deodorant? Not going out since ppl are PEOPLE?. NO IDEA HOW humans have survived in society ALL these years sans these rules.... A gift,a gift card , a meal..1 hr max.sounds like a mommy brothel ?Did she see these ppl while gestatig? Bring food, a gift, u only get 1 hour-SO I CAN GO SHOPPING w/ me gift cards- around STRANGERS WEARING DOVE & SPEED STICK?. SEND A CARD. 14 14points reply Load More Comments POST Jo Choto Jo Choto Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I was thinking this would be all about keeping the baby safe and healthy and then, boom! Give me free stuff and work for me? Go to hell. 392 392points reply Helderder Helderder Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Exactly. The first sound very reasonable especially now. But the rest..... 143 143points reply Load More Replies... Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Especially because I assume everybody would have gladly obliged had she asked them politely. As in: could you help me with the ironing please? 30 30points reply PepsiCoke PepsiCoke Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) Umm, no. She and her husband can work on a schedule to do their own chores. They are both functioning adults. It will be a different story if she's a single parent with no help whatsoever. 27 27points reply Stephanie IV Stephanie IV Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Ok. You don’t iron for functioning adults and assume that adults who just had a baby must be functioning. -6 -6points reply PepsiCoke PepsiCoke Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) I don't assume. I had two kids and I was functioning on both occassions. I didn't say that I got zero help from my mother, tho. However, not in my wildest dream I have the audacity to ask random guest, friend, or family who don't offer first to iron for me, however nicely. 19 19points reply Jo Firth Jo Firth Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago People can only visit for an hour AND during that time they are expected to complete a chore. How does FO sound? 42 42points reply Lillukka79 Lillukka79 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) With the cash grab, I'd never see that kid. Entitled twats. 42 42points reply Shirazeh Tabibi Shirazeh Tabibi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Does children have no control. They are going to be lonely with no visitors! 8 8points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago @Jo Choto, I was okay with "Vaccinated and call ahead." Everything else... Gobsmacked by the greed of the parents. 41 41points reply Andrei Caldararu Andrei Caldararu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Exactly - that's the only rule that makes any sense. Yeah, I have 2 kids and know how tiring it is, but to expect groceries, gift cards, gifts and chores on top of that? 27 27points reply Felicia Watkins Felicia Watkins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) I agree 100% that is bs they are in the wrong i would not blame this girl if she never speaks to them ever again most collage students live off of cheap food to survive collage i lived off of ramen and bread and cheap peanut butter and water!!!!! 27 27points reply Gerard Neaux Gerard Neaux Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Sounds like they really don't want guests and, should the guests prove stubborn, they want to punish those guests. 23 23points reply Michał Osiecki Michał Osiecki Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago it was getting strange at the perfume and then went crazy 16 16points reply Vicky Stringer Vicky Stringer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Ya no perfume or deodorant, I guess they want everyone to stink. 6 6points reply Trialia Trialia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 7 months ago No, that one isn't really that unreasonable. Babies' lungs are delicate, especially in newborns. It's after that they go off the deep end! 0 0points reply P Webb P Webb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago OK to ban strong perfume, but not deodorant! 5 5points reply Kat Price Kat Price Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This is beyond sickening! The shame these 2 people should have but don't and the child will grow up thinking that's how life is supposed to be. He is going to be confused and probably treat people awful because he seen his parents to do it thinking it's normal. Shame on them and good they will reap the hell they created. Shame on them. The way of the world is beyond screwed. 15 15points reply Immortal Emperor Paradox Immortal Emperor Paradox Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Exactly. I even thought for a moment that the baby's actually an imperial prince. Beg for appointment, complete quests for acceptance, limited time appointment since it's the prince, and even provide tribute and service. 12 12points reply Orange Is Aging Orange Is Aging Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 8 months ago A few of those rules I can understand - no smokers, up to date on all vaccines, no advice () - but pretty much all of the other ones range from stupid to cruel. 184 184points reply That nerd Zoe That nerd Zoe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Yeah.. also strong perfume, maybe, but deodorant? You want your house to smell like a barn? 137 137points reply Load More Replies... Terilee Bruyere Terilee Bruyere Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Antiperspirant and deodorant are two different things that work in different ways. deodorant generally covers the BO with another smell whereas antiperspirant can stop some of the smell from happening in the first place. That may be what she means. When my daughter was younger, before we knew what was causing her near constant wheezing and skin rashes it was suggested that we cut out anything with a fragrance (honestly the only reason I know what the difference between deodorant/antiperspirant is). 15 15points reply That nerd Zoe That nerd Zoe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Oh okay. Then strong deodorant would likely be included in the strong perfume thing. Honestly I use scented deodorant and can't smell it even after exercise¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 11 11points reply Amy Jo Hoppins Amy Jo Hoppins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. ...and THAT is usually what is at issue. Those who use toxic fragrance chemicals lose their sense of smell. Yay Johnson and Johnson. -16 -16points reply Stephanie Spriggs-Luckey Stephanie Spriggs-Luckey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago We don't allow anyone to hold my grandson who has on perfume unless we lay his blanket down on them. Perfume on your clothing can irritate a baby's skin as we all found out. Now all of our clothing is washed in All free and clear and those that wear perfume spray it on their backs. 2 2points reply Tom Accola Tom Accola Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Allergies, I once knew someone who could not eat any protein. If they had even the tiniest amount it would eat away at their brain. Knew another that was allergic to aerosol, so when someone sprayed a air freshener he had to leave for half an hour. Babies can't say what's wrong so avoidance is key. 1 1point reply Chris Davison Chris Davison Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago You don't know what the difference between an allergy and a dislike is. Duh 3 3points reply Terilee Bruyere Terilee Bruyere Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) Chris ~ Dude, no need to be rude. -2 -2points reply EEP EEP Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago They are crazy. Poor child 27 27points reply Ashley Rose Ashley Rose Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago My bestfriend has a baby the same age as this kid... aside from her parents I'm the only one who has met the baby (I was there when he was born) I am a smoker and also fully vaccinated... I do keep a change of clothes at her house and change evertime I go over, I also don't wear perfume but my friend didn't ask me to do any of that it's just being consideredate and imo having to send a list out like this in general is just an insult to the families when most of it is common sense! and ya know what my friends baby still got covid from his dad,, who is also vaccinated... unfortunately the only guarentee is total isolation but that's not beneficial to the babies development, can't always control the inevitable or live in a bubble ... but u can control requesting ur own family to scrub ur toilets and bring u presents acting like ur the first woman to ever give birth and ur vagina is made of platinum... lol 10 10points reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I don't even understand those: if you are a smoker it does not mean that you start smoking in the face of the child or in the same house where the child lives. Even being up to date with all vaccines means nothing: for example, how could a missed tetanus vaccination harm the child? And the prohibition on giving advice is pure rudeness. These are all nonsense. 9 9points reply Kim Burke Kim Burke Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I lived in a house with smokers. I have never smoked in my life but everything I owned smelled like smoke, even books and furniture. When I moved out I had to wash everything that was washable, air out non-washables and use a ton of Febreeze to get the smoke smell out. My point is, although the parents are taking their demand to ridiculous levels, the clothing of someone who smokes will always have a nicotine smell/residue. If the baby is sensitive to scents, that could be an issue. 5 5points reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. @Kim Burke: "If the baby is sensitive to scents". I imagine the millions and millions of babies who died or were seriously damaged in the past, because they were exposed for a short time and at a distance to clothes belonging to smokers. Really a serious issue. Fortunately, today there are mothers like the one mentioned in this post, who really care about their children's health and put it in front of everything, even money. -12 -12points reply Agamemenon Triforce Agamemenon Triforce Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Smokers generally smell pretty bad from the smoke that has clung to them, their clothes and their breath. Add perfume or strongly scented perfume and YUCK. 5 5points reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago @Agamemenon Triforce: So if a baby is exposed for a few seconds (I don't think this mother would allow contact for a longer time) to the smell of smoke, would a tragedy ensue? 2 2points reply Nicole Douglas Nicole Douglas Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) Smokers hold smoke and nicotine within their clothes it's called 3rd hand smoking. My son was micropreemie so our NICU was strict on smokers my dad had to wear a hospital gown when he visited my son at the hospital. Also here in the US a tetanus shot is usually given with diphtheria and pertussis both are deadly to children. 2 2points reply AzKhaleesi AzKhaleesi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Yes however no where in the post does it say that her baby was / is a preemie. So if the child is a full term child and healthy I can see saying, no smoking prior to arrival or during visit please wear clean clothing etc. But to just make a no smoking rule period is just crazy. I can see "wash your hands etc prior to holding baby." But "no pictures" come on. these parents are insane. 13 13points reply Patricia Howard Patricia Howard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) Ummm ya but the most concerning part should be the demand for enslavement and pre approved payment and fees to just be in the general vicinity of the child ...because you have to work for your hour in their home....and not just demanding a gift for the baby but a gift card for mom too?? And groceries or take out from where they say ??? Thats disgusting that poor kid their parents just robbed them of a lifelong bond with very important people for their development and put a price on love so sick so wrong 17 17points reply Terilee Bruyere Terilee Bruyere Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago AzKhaleesi ~ The no pictures one makes sense. There are a ton of very sick people out there. As a parent who found out that their child's personal info, including pictures, was hacked out of a medical company's database, I can tell you, the thought that some stranger is looking and knowing where your child is...it's terrifying. 6 6points reply charles warner charles warner Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago I can see postingbphotos on social media but would be hurt not to take a photo with my grandchild. 6 6points reply Tamara Hoops-King Tamara Hoops-King Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Why would a "Medical Company" have your child's picture? 2 2points reply Terilee Bruyere Terilee Bruyere Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Tamara ~ It's a company that helps with tracking/coordinating various doctors and specialist with a person's insurance companies, to help pay for the medical costs of children with special needs. The company has info about her doctors, disabilities, bank account, school, therapists, home address, and various images of her to identify her to help protect from medical fraud. -3 -3points reply Dwana Atkins Dwana Atkins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Never heard of that. I'd be suspicious. 1 1point reply Dwana Atkins Dwana Atkins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Who is we? You aren't the parent. So you don't make the rules!! 1 1point reply Nicole Douglas Nicole Douglas Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Smoke can still negatively affect healthy newborn babies and depending on the type of smoker even "clean" clothes can still have nicotine. I'm just speaking from my experience. 1 1point reply Dwana Atkins Dwana Atkins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Spores are on the body of a smoker so changing clothes doesn't do a thing. You would need to shower and then change your clothes and no smoking or being around smoke before holding the baby!! -3 -3points reply Trialia Trialia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 7 months ago The no smoking rule is entirely reasonable. I ended up with asthma from passive smoking during childhood. Babies have delicate lungs, and most smokers can't smell the smoke even when it makes their clothing reek. -2 -2points reply Tamara Hoops-King Tamara Hoops-King Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago News flash....EVERYONE entering the NICU must wear a "cover gown " over their street clothes.....NEXT 10 10points reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) @Nicole Douglas: Yes, ok, but it appears that the baby is perfectly healthy and in no way someone could infect a baby with tetanus simply interacting with him. 5 5points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Tetanus is also deadly, just an FYI. 3 3points reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago @Leo Domitrix: Of course tetanus is deadly, but I was just saying that if a person doesn't get the tetanus vaccination booster they can still interact with a baby. Or maybe you think tetanus is passed from person to person ?! 8 8points reply Shauna Rydman Shauna Rydman Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Tetanus is usually in a combo TDAP shot... Meaning it also vaccinates you against the (very dangerous for you) pertussis (whooping cough) which IS contagious. So, your point is a little moot? 4 4points reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago @Shauna Rydman: tetanus vaccination requires few boosters over time... It saddens me that many here only look at the example (without however understanding it), instead of understanding the thinking behind it. 3 3points reply Dwana Atkins Dwana Atkins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago What the hell are you talking about? You get a Tetanus vaccine if you have had an injury that might possibly cause Tetanus, as in a nail driven into your hand, cutting yourself with a dirty knife,etc. Generally, you get a Tetnus, Pertussis and Diphtheria every 10 years if you are an adult and follow your normal Vaccination Schedule 2 2points reply Tamara Hoops-King Tamara Hoops-King Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Perhaps you need to go back to whatever internet site you get all of your "info" from & re-read the section where it discusses how its transmitted to humans. -2 -2points reply Chris Davison Chris Davison Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. 1) TDaP (combined vax for tetanus, diphtheria, and pertussis), MMR, polio, flu, and, uh, Covid. Not just a tetanus booster. Dumbass. 2) Rudeness is offering advice when no one asked you. 3) Smokers stink. Reasonable not to want stink coming in. *YOU* are nonsense. Dumbass! -17 -17points reply Rookie Banter Rookie Banter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago You are the most rude person here, so far as I have read. Let alone name calling. Don't be one of those people making the internet a horrible place. It does that all by itself. 4 4points reply Bayou Billy Bayou Billy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Funny you don't make sense and rail about reasonability then end on you are nonsense ... Classic irony vunderbar... -1 -1point reply pebs pebs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago @Bayou Billy: it seems that several people here are the mommy in question in disguise. 3 3points reply Marsha M Marsha M Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Exactly! Especially not making an exception for a broke college student. 6 6points reply jane don jane don Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I can see No Smoking--But no Smokers?-- 5 5points reply D D D D Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Vaccinated or not is only about the person themself, nothing to do with passing on an infection to man, mother, beast or baby. The idea of vaccine = infection blocker is being pushed as part of the Covid-19 agenda. People who fall for this so get the so-called vacc often take less precautions like handwashing & soc.distancing. I don't let them near myself even. -12 -12points reply A Dasher Panda A Dasher Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago You're an idiot. A loner idiot, but still an idiot. 8 8points reply OhNoAO OhNoAO Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 7 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Well it won't let me reply to DD. Although avoiding people that have gotten the jab is a bit extreme it doesn't make what they are saying not true. This is evident now that time has passed since this was originally posted and the Pfizer vaccine studies are starting to become available to the public. You know the ones that they wanted to wait 75 years before they released them. It's the darndest thing too because out of the 8,000+ side effects of "special interest" covid was one of them. Yup they admit the jab gives you COVID oh and things like chicken pox, herpes, bacterial arthritis, type 1 diabetes (mind you type 1 has ALWAYS been a Genetic Endocrine Disorder meaning it only runs in bloodlines and makes the person 100% insulin dependent for life. Type 2 diabetes is the one that attacks the overweight and unhealthy that can be reversed and only requires a pill and diet change unless you're completly careless after you're diagnosed, those are the ones losing their feet) -7 -7points reply Lothriel Lothriel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I have a toddler, but this is outrageous. I would never ever use my child as a cash grab. Everyone is free to come and see, ofc, when you arrive, you should wash your hands, but what are you saying, is way way to far... To be honest, i feel for the young kid... 140 140points reply Karina H Karina H Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago my son is almost 3 yo and when ge was born we restricted the visits per week, too. we just needed time in-between to rest and be for ourselves. I think we had people over 2, max 3 times a week. everyone was understanding, even before the pandemic 68 68points reply Load More Replies... AzKhaleesi AzKhaleesi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago That is the ONLY rule that makes sense out of all of these. New parents definitely need quiet time with baby. But the rest is nuts. 34 34points reply Danielle Schaefer-singleton Danielle Schaefer-singleton Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Well..my family came to help..id shower pump nap etc..so depends on who ..BUT- BRING S GIFT.A MEAL.A GIFT CARD.You get 1 hour..( ALL of those require plp to go to STORES ya know!) Sounds like mom is pimping. Out this baby..sad. .y fa. Would come TO HELP.not cater to me..Id shower, pump, take a nap.etc... New parents need HELP in order to GET A quiet min! 17 17points reply Serafina Potenzo Serafina Potenzo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Danielle, my mom took a week off work to help me but i promise if i demanded anything in the fashion these primadonnas did they would have laughed...they wont get people coming to help while she pumps or showers etc when the greedy demands make them get on the defense...ya know...she probably would have to gotten those things done without asking as we both had help...but like i said my mom would have been ashamed of me if I'm did as such 18 18points reply Nora D. Harrison Nora D. Harrison Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago EXACTLY!! 8 8points reply Rachel Betancort Rachel Betancort Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Restricting is something the parents do.. but the intended visitors only need to here " we are tired", it's not a good time", we'll have other family over".... but to straight up tell well wishers to not bother if you can't bring food , clean or a present everything? They were ridiculous. 13 13points reply Michelle A Michelle A Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago That rule makes sense as well as vaccines and smoking. The rest....naaa. I had 3 children. Never did any of this other stuff about gifts and chores on demand even come to mind. Baby shower gifts should have been enough if they had one. 13 13points reply Serafina Potenzo Serafina Potenzo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Right? Never would have even crossed my mind to ask these things of people 11 11points reply Amy Stone-Chandler Amy Stone-Chandler Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago That's the one I understood as a mom. Don't bombard me. Your exhausted and trying to figure out your own baby groove. 8 8points reply Nicole Herron Nicole Herron Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I don't have kids but I am an introvert who relishes her quiet time and I also have a basic understanding that families need to bond without people trying to snug the tiny squiggly. 7 7points reply sw sw Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Is this for real? My husband and I had a great laugh. Get over yourself 21 21points reply Mymy Mymy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Hehe, tiny squiggly 2 2points reply Alexander Wellington Alexander Wellington Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Yeah, I don't want to sound like I typical internet troll here, but until you really can't possibly understand. You may think that's condescending, but as somebody who didn't have children until he was 37, and had only one, I both understand where you are, and want to tell you unless and until you have kids, You really can't understand it. Plus quiet time when you have a child is basically non-existent. -8 -8points reply Patricia Howard Patricia Howard Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago (edited) Um nobody is questioning the time to themselves with their baby lol it's the rest of the insane BS and then not allowing the aunty (husbands sister) to come see the baby....because she can't afford the gift from the store they say they want one from AND a gift card for the mom cause I guess she's just so sweet and special she deserves that AND bring what THEY demand for take out food AND as if that wasn't enough to do a household chore???? Ya I feel sorry for that child because the parents are SELF CENTERED rude assists!!! So do you agree with all their demands? 24 24points reply Marla Celeri Marla Celeri Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago It's the chores, the gift, and the struggling college student. That's the problem. Not the quiet time. Get a clue 18 18points reply Nora D. Harrison Nora D. Harrison Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago I can understand limiting visits but making a college student pay for the privilege of bonding with her FAMILY??? That is HORRIBLE! I have children and grandchildren and I believe in bonding with the child but you and that child also NEED the village to help raise it. The sis in law knew this and was being family by offering to clean the whole house but you say NO... Grocery item?? Gift card for mom?? Gift for baby??? Did these people go to college?? They should be ASHAMED especially her big brother. He should've given her the money for the gift. 13 13points reply CL Rowan CL Rowan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago They'll be all up in the sister when they want a FREE babysitter. "Oh, come on over and meet your niece/nephew~~Here's your list of chores, babies needs, and oh yes~~don't eat our food. We'll be back by 2am! Ta~ta!!" 6 6points reply sue dreifus sue dreifus Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago college is not required to have decency and common sense 3 3points reply L. H. L. H. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago So is that all you read. Because some of their other rules are ridiculous. 5 5points reply Kimberly Quinn Kimberly Quinn Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I can understand that. Having a baby is tiring and you don't need to feel like you are entertaining guests. It's the rest of this list that's crazy. 1 1point reply D'Jango Rey D'Jango Rey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 months ago Karina, you seem like a very reasonable and conscientious woman. These parents are Pigs. 1 1point reply Tiggerdk Tiggerdk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. You did right, a new baby takes alot of stamina. Enjoy your time, it goes fast -9 -9points reply Danielle Schaefer-singleton Danielle Schaefer-singleton Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 8 months ago Millions of babies born every day. THEY ARE ALL precious. WILL MOM go thru life w/BO,no Deodorant? Not going out since ppl are PEOPLE?. NO IDEA HOW humans have survived in society ALL these years sans these rules.... A gift,a gift card , a meal..1 hr max.sounds like a mommy brothel ?Did she see these ppl while gestatig? Bring food, a gift, u only get 1 hour-SO I CAN GO SHOPPING w/ me gift cards- around STRANGERS WEARING DOVE & SPEED STICK?. SEND A CARD. 14 14points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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