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Man Passes Away At His Brother’ s Wedding Bride Accuses Him Of Ruining The Most Important Day Of Her Life

Rokas Laurinavičius and
Kotryna Brašiškytė
A person's character often reveals itself in times of crisis. And this universal truth is applicable to their flaws just as much as their strengths. A few days ago, Reddit user u/HaKyunga29 submitted a story to the 'Am I the A***ole?' community about her sister-in-law, asking its members to share their take on the situation. The entire family has gone through a very traumatic experience. The original poster's husband passed away from an aneurysm at his brother's wedding. But while everyone was mourning their loss, the bride had the audacity to accuse the deceased of ruining the most important day of her life. Unsure if she crossed any lines reacting to this absurd-and I'd even say offensive-claim by her sister-in-law, u/HaKyunga29 described what happened online, hoping that unbiased strangers could help her make sense of the whole thing.

We ve heard of bridezillas but this lady is something else

Image credits: Pavel Danilyuk (not an actual photo)

She accused her brother-in-law of ruining her wedding when the poor fellow collapsed from an aneurysm

Image credits: zelle duda (not an actual photo) Image credits: Fa Barboza (not an actual photo) As Rebecca J. Rosen pointed out in The Atlantic, marriage is the union not merely of two spouses but of two families-each with its own beliefs and ways of being in the world. The resulting relationships can be some of the most rewarding, but, for a lot of people, just like u/HaKyunga29, they can also be some of the most challenging. Communicating between two people is complicated enough on its own, but in-law relationships happen through someone else. By their very nature. Any conflict touches everyone, and every person brings their own feelings to it. The widow's sister-in-law can put an end to their disagreement at any point by apologizing, but some people view it as an admission that they are inadequate-that, rather than having made a mistake, there is something inherently wrong with them. Of course, we don't know the newlywed and have limited information. She might, on the other hand, believe that offering the first apology is virtually accepting guilt and responsibility for the entirety of a conflict that involved wrongs on the part of both parties. However, a well-delivered, honest apology will generally solve a whole lot and, on the contrary, restore positive feelings. Researchers and psychologists say apologizing when you've broken a rule of social conduct re-establishes that you know what the "rules" are, and you agree that they must be followed But if you can't even see that your behavior is hurtful… That's, sadly, a completely different story.

People were very sorry for the woman s loss and said she s absolutely NTA &ndash not the a***ole

Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Rokas Laurinavičius Rokas Laurinavičius Writer, BoredPanda staff Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 235 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to. Read more » Kotryna Brašiškytė Kotryna Brašiškytė Author, BoredPanda staff Kotryna is a Photo Editor at Bored Panda with a BA in Graphic Design. Before Bored Panda, she worked as a freelance graphic designer and illiustrator. When not editing, she enjoys working with clay, drawing, playing board games and drinking good tea. Read more » Show All Contributors Get the latest inspiring stories via our awesome iOS app! 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Period. There is no logical reason not to defend yourself. I don't care where you were or what was going on. That's your HUSBAND and legally you come before his parents at this point. Forget saving face, stand up for yourself. 74 74points reply Night Owl Night Owl Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago She should have had Bea repeat to the in-laws right then and there what she had said. And then throw her out 33 33points reply Load More Replies... Karina Carr Karina Carr Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Exactly. Everyone in the comments saying they can't believe the in-laws don't have a problem with Bea are ignoring the fact that the in-laws don't know what Bea did. OP is causing herself to be pushed out of the family by allowing Bea to hide the truth. 11 11points reply Jennifer Crompton Jennifer Crompton Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago In the full reddit post, Andres and the in laws were later told what Bea said. I can't believe any of them still speak to her 2 2points reply Mo O'Connell Mo O'Connell Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Go to the next family function. When everyone is together, say to Bea " You haven't apologized for what you said to me at my husband's wake. However I'm forgiving you because it is good for my health to shed negative feelings.". Then say nothing. She will not be able to help her stand it'll all come out. Andres and in-laws will be horrified, and the consequences will be out of your control. You will be vindicated 100%. 53 53points reply Aleks Aleks Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago ^THIS 19 19points reply Load More Replies... Schumann Yu-Sandstrom Schumann Yu-Sandstrom Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Great idea, you're like a grandmaster at EQ chess 4 4points reply mm65851 mm65851 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago I don't agree. You can't pick your relatives, and this jerk is not even a blood relative. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of forgiving her. Just keep the good vibes with the rest of the family, but don't waste any more energy on her. It's not necessary to keep someone in your life because you 'should'. You can still shed the negative feelings, and move forward in your life without her. 3 3points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago At my sister's funeral on the Friday, my cousin bit*hed about how her wedding the next day was ruined. Even her father, the family's known Biggest A-hole, took her aside and yelled at her for being TA. This was over 30 years ago, so.... Yeah, I don't talk to them. AITA?... 31 31points reply EEF? EEF? Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Nope. That level of a*****e, you don't want them in your life. 19 19points reply Load More Replies... Karina Carr Karina Carr Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago My aunt told my (adult) cousins they could skip my mom's (their aunt) funeral because it was one of their birthdays and that would "be a bummer," plus they would be uncomfortable because they wouldn't know anyone. She told me and my father this at the funeral. "A + J aren't here because it's A's birthday......" I don't speak to any of them either. My aunt doesn't understand why, despite the fact that I told her. 2 2points reply XenoMurph XenoMurph Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Do you think you have changed at ALL after 30 years? Well, they will have changed too. I am a different person to the one I was 30 years ago. Sometimes you have to give them a chance. 0 0points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Give them a chance. OK, XenoMurph. Just as soon as she gets out of prison for vehicular manslaughter while driving drunk. Oh wait! It was her third strike, she's not getting out. (Previous two were: attempted homicide with assault & battery tacked on, what with the whole attempted homicide thing.) 1 1point reply XenoMurph XenoMurph Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago (edited) The way I read your comment I assumed you had no contact with them, and that you were treating them like the people they WERE. People TEND to grow and become more stable over time. I'm sorry your relatives did not, Like I said, sometimes you have to give them a chance. If they are still the same people they were, then fair enough. It's one of the reasons I divorced, she never grew up, never changed not even after 25 years of marriage. But after hating my dad for decades we met up again just before he died, and I realised neither of us were the people who had hated each other back then. It's one of the biggest regrets of my life that we never gave each other a chance until it was too late. Sometimes the chance you give them works out, sometimes not. I'd rather wish I hadn't than wish I had but it became too late. -1 -1point reply Steffi Rose Steffi Rose Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Nah, the cousin needs to apologize and then *maybe* they can have a chance 0 0points reply Load More Comments POST S S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago You should have told your in-laws what she said the second she said it. Period. There is no logical reason not to defend yourself. I don't care where you were or what was going on. That's your HUSBAND and legally you come before his parents at this point. Forget saving face, stand up for yourself. 74 74points reply Night Owl Night Owl Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago She should have had Bea repeat to the in-laws right then and there what she had said. And then throw her out 33 33points reply Load More Replies... Karina Carr Karina Carr Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Exactly. Everyone in the comments saying they can't believe the in-laws don't have a problem with Bea are ignoring the fact that the in-laws don't know what Bea did. OP is causing herself to be pushed out of the family by allowing Bea to hide the truth. 11 11points reply Jennifer Crompton Jennifer Crompton Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago In the full reddit post, Andres and the in laws were later told what Bea said. I can't believe any of them still speak to her 2 2points reply Mo O'Connell Mo O'Connell Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Go to the next family function. When everyone is together, say to Bea " You haven't apologized for what you said to me at my husband's wake. However I'm forgiving you because it is good for my health to shed negative feelings.". Then say nothing. She will not be able to help her stand it'll all come out. Andres and in-laws will be horrified, and the consequences will be out of your control. You will be vindicated 100%. 53 53points reply Aleks Aleks Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago ^THIS 19 19points reply Load More Replies... Schumann Yu-Sandstrom Schumann Yu-Sandstrom Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Great idea, you're like a grandmaster at EQ chess 4 4points reply mm65851 mm65851 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago I don't agree. You can't pick your relatives, and this jerk is not even a blood relative. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of forgiving her. Just keep the good vibes with the rest of the family, but don't waste any more energy on her. It's not necessary to keep someone in your life because you 'should'. You can still shed the negative feelings, and move forward in your life without her. 3 3points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago At my sister's funeral on the Friday, my cousin bit*hed about how her wedding the next day was ruined. Even her father, the family's known Biggest A-hole, took her aside and yelled at her for being TA. This was over 30 years ago, so.... Yeah, I don't talk to them. AITA?... 31 31points reply EEF? EEF? Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Nope. That level of a*****e, you don't want them in your life. 19 19points reply Load More Replies... Karina Carr Karina Carr Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago My aunt told my (adult) cousins they could skip my mom's (their aunt) funeral because it was one of their birthdays and that would "be a bummer," plus they would be uncomfortable because they wouldn't know anyone. She told me and my father this at the funeral. "A + J aren't here because it's A's birthday......" I don't speak to any of them either. My aunt doesn't understand why, despite the fact that I told her. 2 2points reply XenoMurph XenoMurph Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Do you think you have changed at ALL after 30 years? Well, they will have changed too. I am a different person to the one I was 30 years ago. Sometimes you have to give them a chance. 0 0points reply Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Give them a chance. OK, XenoMurph. Just as soon as she gets out of prison for vehicular manslaughter while driving drunk. Oh wait! It was her third strike, she's not getting out. (Previous two were: attempted homicide with assault & battery tacked on, what with the whole attempted homicide thing.) 1 1point reply XenoMurph XenoMurph Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago (edited) The way I read your comment I assumed you had no contact with them, and that you were treating them like the people they WERE. People TEND to grow and become more stable over time. I'm sorry your relatives did not, Like I said, sometimes you have to give them a chance. If they are still the same people they were, then fair enough. It's one of the reasons I divorced, she never grew up, never changed not even after 25 years of marriage. But after hating my dad for decades we met up again just before he died, and I realised neither of us were the people who had hated each other back then. It's one of the biggest regrets of my life that we never gave each other a chance until it was too late. Sometimes the chance you give them works out, sometimes not. I'd rather wish I hadn't than wish I had but it became too late. -1 -1point reply Steffi Rose Steffi Rose Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 months ago Nah, the cousin needs to apologize and then *maybe* they can have a chance 0 0points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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