quot This Was An Instant No From Me quot Bride Denies Stepson s Request To Do Powerpoint Display Honoring His Late Mom At Wedding Family Drama Ensues
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Finding yourself in a family with a step relative has become a reality for many - 1,300 new step and blended households are formed every day in the United States, showing it is one of the fastest-growing family types in the country. However, 75% say they are not getting the resources needed to properly understand their new domestic situation. So when Redditor Throwaquickadvice faced a family dilemma with her fiancé and his son, she decided to seek advice from the "Am I The A-Hole" (AITA) community. The woman and her partner decided to tie the knot before the end of this year but the joys of planning one of the biggest days of their life got clouded by a troubling conflict that divided the family. You see, her 17-year-old stepson wondered if he could do a slideshow honoring his late mom at the wedding. "He is the most sensitive and emotional kid I've ever met," the user wrote. However, the woman firmly believes her big day has nothing to do with the teenager's mom. Feeling unsure of how she handled the situation, she asked people on the internet to help her find a way out of this dispute. Read on for the whole story and let us know what you think of it in the comments.
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Image credits: Throwaquickadvice Seeing a new woman come into your family after losing your mom is anything but easy. At the same time, it's also daunting to navigate the minefield of parenting and deal with the grieving process of the people you care about. While becoming a stepparent is difficult for almost everyone, it's impossible to fill the void left by a biological mom. You want to be respectful and avoid trying to take the child's parent's place, but you still want to be there for them and show support along the way. Statista reports that as of 2019, there were nearly 2.4 million children under the age of 18 who were considered stepchildren based on their relationship with the householder in the United States. Finding yourself in a new blended family comes with challenges that vary greatly depending on the type of domestic situation you find yourself in. To learn more about the difficulties in creating relationships with new family members, we reached out to Dr. Lisa Doodson, a psychologist and author of How to be a Happy Stepmum. She is also the founder of Happy Steps, the UK's only research-based stepfamily resource center that aims to help families and individuals strengthen their relationships. "Stepfamilies take a long time to form - much longer than people expect or want, and one of the reasons is role confusion," Dr. Doodson told Bored Panda. "We know what a mum or dad's role is, but stepparents and stepchildren is far less clear. The best way to approach this is to talk to your partner about your expectations and understand theirs. If there are differences, then try and find compromises," she said and added that you might need more time to adapt and feel more confident. When it comes to grief, everyone handles it differently. Many people online sympathized with the stepson's and his father's sorrow but also sided with the woman who found herself in the middle of this transition. "Becoming a stepparent in any situation is hard as there is always a loss (either through separation or death) and family members are grieving for their loss. It also depends on the ages of the children and the time they have had to adjust to their loss," the psychologist said. "For someone trying to enter this family dynamic, I'd recommend taking things slowly and finding a place for the parent who died - such as photos or reminders in a specific area of the home (rather than everywhere) and not trying to replace them but slowly finding your own place," Dr. Doodson suggested. On top of that, trying to find a way out of a family dispute can make stepparents feel overwhelmed. The psychologist noted we should remember there are always two sides to every disagreement and it's important to understand why people are behaving the way they are. "In this situation, I suspect the stepson feels guilty that everyone is moving on without his mum and he wants to find a way of remembering her and reminding everyone how much she was loved." Dr. Doodson suggested it would be a good idea for the couple to talk to him to explain they recognize his feelings and try to find another way. "Maybe a separate family celebration, inviting close family and friends to celebrate her before their wedding." "Disputes are common and normal and everyone finds a way to adapt and change. If you remember to look for the positives rather than focusing on the issues then you should be able to work through the challenges." "Stepfamilies are full of complex relationships and emotions. There is often no quick fix but with patience and kindness, you will find the right way for your new family to work and flourish," Dr. Doodson concluded.
Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Ieva Gailiūtė Ieva Gailiūtė Writer, BoredPanda staff Ieva is a writer at Bored Panda who graduated in Scandinavian studies from Vilnius University. After learning the Swedish language and getting completely lost in the world of Scandinavian mythology, she figured out that translating and writing is what she's passionate about. When not writing, Ieva enjoys making jewelry, going on hikes, reading and drinking coffee. Read more » Mantas Kačerauskas Mantas Kačerauskas Author, BoredPanda staff Mantas is a photo editor at Bored Panda. Also he is a student of Digital Contents, who was studying is South Korea and right now is taking a break from studies so he could get more experience and polish his craft.
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It's been 6 years and this young adult has not processed any of his emotions or been dealing with the loss of his mother. It was three years before his dad met the lady that he is engaged to marry now, and there should have been progress made during this time period. It seems like dad just let him fall through the cracks and it's not been healthy for either one of them that nothing was addressed during that time. Instead his son has been withdrawn, doesn't interact with family or friends, doesn't celebrate any holiday or special occasions, and it seems as though time has stood still for him since his mother passed away. It's really disturbing that he is frozen in time. He absolutely needs help and should have had it years ago. I do agree that approaching him with the idea for a special memorial service for his mother before the wedding (if they insist it proceeds) would be the best thing to offer. Cont below. 14 14points reply Load More Replies... Cold Contagious Cold Contagious Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago To try to convince him that the occasion is too important to share with another celebration and that they should arrange something just for her would be better. To let him make plans for it and be able to organize his ceremony for his power point and other items he may want to include may help him have some closure. I think this would be the best option for the son to get the most out of what he wants without it taking over someone else's special occasion. He may only be trying to utilize the time in their wedding for it because he wouldn't feel appropriate trying to take time during a different holiday celebration or he may just want it done at that time because he still feels uncomfortable about the relationship because he hasn't processed any part of his mother's dêâth. I hope it works out for the best for all three of them. 4 4points reply LH25 LH25 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago It really sounds like at stepson needs grief counseling, it's been 6 years and he doesn't seem to be living his life. And the dad needs to stop taking the path of least resistance and get him help, wanted or not. I agree with the comments that this family is not ready to include the OP. 39 39points reply Pinkpunk143 Pinkpunk143 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago EXACTLY what I was thinking. He NEEDS therapy because he isn't living his life. It's not her wedding anymore it's another woman's memorial 4 4points reply Load More Replies... J. Normal J. Normal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago Imho cancel wedding and FORCE them into greif counseling. Holding on to greif for years is very damaging (know from experience). 24 24points reply Load More Comments POST Candia Lee Candia Lee Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago I like the suggestion of bride watching slideshow w son and planning the memorial together, but I'm more inclined to the red flag warnings - the boy obviously has issues his father refuses to acknowledge and deal with, indicating the father doesn't have his act together either. 56 56points reply Cold Contagious Cold Contagious Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago You're absolutely correct, as well as LH25 below also. It's been 6 years and this young adult has not processed any of his emotions or been dealing with the loss of his mother. It was three years before his dad met the lady that he is engaged to marry now, and there should have been progress made during this time period. It seems like dad just let him fall through the cracks and it's not been healthy for either one of them that nothing was addressed during that time. Instead his son has been withdrawn, doesn't interact with family or friends, doesn't celebrate any holiday or special occasions, and it seems as though time has stood still for him since his mother passed away. It's really disturbing that he is frozen in time. He absolutely needs help and should have had it years ago. I do agree that approaching him with the idea for a special memorial service for his mother before the wedding (if they insist it proceeds) would be the best thing to offer. Cont below. 14 14points reply Load More Replies... Cold Contagious Cold Contagious Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago To try to convince him that the occasion is too important to share with another celebration and that they should arrange something just for her would be better. To let him make plans for it and be able to organize his ceremony for his power point and other items he may want to include may help him have some closure. I think this would be the best option for the son to get the most out of what he wants without it taking over someone else's special occasion. He may only be trying to utilize the time in their wedding for it because he wouldn't feel appropriate trying to take time during a different holiday celebration or he may just want it done at that time because he still feels uncomfortable about the relationship because he hasn't processed any part of his mother's dêâth. I hope it works out for the best for all three of them. 4 4points reply LH25 LH25 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago It really sounds like at stepson needs grief counseling, it's been 6 years and he doesn't seem to be living his life. And the dad needs to stop taking the path of least resistance and get him help, wanted or not. I agree with the comments that this family is not ready to include the OP. 39 39points reply Pinkpunk143 Pinkpunk143 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago EXACTLY what I was thinking. He NEEDS therapy because he isn't living his life. It's not her wedding anymore it's another woman's memorial 4 4points reply Load More Replies... J. Normal J. Normal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago Imho cancel wedding and FORCE them into greif counseling. Holding on to greif for years is very damaging (know from experience). 24 24points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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“ This Was An Instant No From Me” Bride Denies Stepson s Request To Do Powerpoint Display Honoring His Late Mom At Wedding Family Drama Ensues
Ieva Gailiūtė andMantas Kačerauskas
Finding yourself in a family with a step relative has become a reality for many - 1,300 new step and blended households are formed every day in the United States, showing it is one of the fastest-growing family types in the country. However, 75% say they are not getting the resources needed to properly understand their new domestic situation. So when Redditor Throwaquickadvice faced a family dilemma with her fiancé and his son, she decided to seek advice from the "Am I The A-Hole" (AITA) community. The woman and her partner decided to tie the knot before the end of this year but the joys of planning one of the biggest days of their life got clouded by a troubling conflict that divided the family. You see, her 17-year-old stepson wondered if he could do a slideshow honoring his late mom at the wedding. "He is the most sensitive and emotional kid I've ever met," the user wrote. However, the woman firmly believes her big day has nothing to do with the teenager's mom. Feeling unsure of how she handled the situation, she asked people on the internet to help her find a way out of this dispute. Read on for the whole story and let us know what you think of it in the comments.
Navigating your new stepfamily situation is far from an easy task especially when you re faced with a void left by a biological mother
Image credits: Asad Photo Maldives (not the actual photo)So when this woman s stepson asked if he could do a slideshow honoring his late mom at her wedding she turned to the internet to ask whether she was wrong to refuse
Image credits: Polina Zimmerman (not the actual photo)
Image credits: Leah Kelley (not the actual photo)
Later on she added some more information to the story
Image credits: Throwaquickadvice Seeing a new woman come into your family after losing your mom is anything but easy. At the same time, it's also daunting to navigate the minefield of parenting and deal with the grieving process of the people you care about. While becoming a stepparent is difficult for almost everyone, it's impossible to fill the void left by a biological mom. You want to be respectful and avoid trying to take the child's parent's place, but you still want to be there for them and show support along the way. Statista reports that as of 2019, there were nearly 2.4 million children under the age of 18 who were considered stepchildren based on their relationship with the householder in the United States. Finding yourself in a new blended family comes with challenges that vary greatly depending on the type of domestic situation you find yourself in. To learn more about the difficulties in creating relationships with new family members, we reached out to Dr. Lisa Doodson, a psychologist and author of How to be a Happy Stepmum. She is also the founder of Happy Steps, the UK's only research-based stepfamily resource center that aims to help families and individuals strengthen their relationships. "Stepfamilies take a long time to form - much longer than people expect or want, and one of the reasons is role confusion," Dr. Doodson told Bored Panda. "We know what a mum or dad's role is, but stepparents and stepchildren is far less clear. The best way to approach this is to talk to your partner about your expectations and understand theirs. If there are differences, then try and find compromises," she said and added that you might need more time to adapt and feel more confident. When it comes to grief, everyone handles it differently. Many people online sympathized with the stepson's and his father's sorrow but also sided with the woman who found herself in the middle of this transition. "Becoming a stepparent in any situation is hard as there is always a loss (either through separation or death) and family members are grieving for their loss. It also depends on the ages of the children and the time they have had to adjust to their loss," the psychologist said. "For someone trying to enter this family dynamic, I'd recommend taking things slowly and finding a place for the parent who died - such as photos or reminders in a specific area of the home (rather than everywhere) and not trying to replace them but slowly finding your own place," Dr. Doodson suggested. On top of that, trying to find a way out of a family dispute can make stepparents feel overwhelmed. The psychologist noted we should remember there are always two sides to every disagreement and it's important to understand why people are behaving the way they are. "In this situation, I suspect the stepson feels guilty that everyone is moving on without his mum and he wants to find a way of remembering her and reminding everyone how much she was loved." Dr. Doodson suggested it would be a good idea for the couple to talk to him to explain they recognize his feelings and try to find another way. "Maybe a separate family celebration, inviting close family and friends to celebrate her before their wedding." "Disputes are common and normal and everyone finds a way to adapt and change. If you remember to look for the positives rather than focusing on the issues then you should be able to work through the challenges." "Stepfamilies are full of complex relationships and emotions. There is often no quick fix but with patience and kindness, you will find the right way for your new family to work and flourish," Dr. Doodson concluded.
The vast majority of Redditors deemed the user was NTA - Not The A-Hole - here s what they had to say
Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Ieva Gailiūtė Ieva Gailiūtė Writer, BoredPanda staff Ieva is a writer at Bored Panda who graduated in Scandinavian studies from Vilnius University. After learning the Swedish language and getting completely lost in the world of Scandinavian mythology, she figured out that translating and writing is what she's passionate about. When not writing, Ieva enjoys making jewelry, going on hikes, reading and drinking coffee. Read more » Mantas Kačerauskas Mantas Kačerauskas Author, BoredPanda staff Mantas is a photo editor at Bored Panda. Also he is a student of Digital Contents, who was studying is South Korea and right now is taking a break from studies so he could get more experience and polish his craft.
He likes to get carried away by his own imagination and create something interesting, mostly in a visual form via drawing in Photoshop or on paper. Read more » Show All Contributors Get the latest inspiring stories via our awesome iOS app! Download Bored Panda app! You May Like “The Police Arrived, Saw The Scale Of The Brawl And Called For Backup”: 30 Of The Most Shocking And Inappropriate Things People Witnessed At Weddings Indrė Lukošiūtė 40 Times Weddings Were So Bad, They Deserved To Be Shamed On This Facebook Page Viktorija Ošikaitė 50 Times People Surprised Family Members In Funny And Ridiculous Ways They Didn't See Coming Simona Kinderytė Popular on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective Overworked Employee Quits Because He Wasn't Getting A Fair Wage, Costs The Company $40 Million 40 Embarrassing Moments People Didn't Know Who They Were Talking To And Made A Fool Of Themselves 30 Of The Most Hectic Homes As Shared On 'The Broke Agent' Instagram Account Bride Doesn't Include Wedding Dinner Price In Her Wedding Invites, Is Surprised To See Many Guests Canceling On Her After They Find Out Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective Overworked Employee Quits Because He Wasn't Getting A Fair Wage, Costs The Company $40 Million Write comments POST Candia Lee Candia Lee Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago I like the suggestion of bride watching slideshow w son and planning the memorial together, but I'm more inclined to the red flag warnings - the boy obviously has issues his father refuses to acknowledge and deal with, indicating the father doesn't have his act together either. 56 56points reply Cold Contagious Cold Contagious Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago You're absolutely correct, as well as LH25 below also. It's been 6 years and this young adult has not processed any of his emotions or been dealing with the loss of his mother. It was three years before his dad met the lady that he is engaged to marry now, and there should have been progress made during this time period. It seems like dad just let him fall through the cracks and it's not been healthy for either one of them that nothing was addressed during that time. Instead his son has been withdrawn, doesn't interact with family or friends, doesn't celebrate any holiday or special occasions, and it seems as though time has stood still for him since his mother passed away. It's really disturbing that he is frozen in time. He absolutely needs help and should have had it years ago. I do agree that approaching him with the idea for a special memorial service for his mother before the wedding (if they insist it proceeds) would be the best thing to offer. Cont below. 14 14points reply Load More Replies... Cold Contagious Cold Contagious Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago To try to convince him that the occasion is too important to share with another celebration and that they should arrange something just for her would be better. To let him make plans for it and be able to organize his ceremony for his power point and other items he may want to include may help him have some closure. I think this would be the best option for the son to get the most out of what he wants without it taking over someone else's special occasion. He may only be trying to utilize the time in their wedding for it because he wouldn't feel appropriate trying to take time during a different holiday celebration or he may just want it done at that time because he still feels uncomfortable about the relationship because he hasn't processed any part of his mother's dêâth. I hope it works out for the best for all three of them. 4 4points reply LH25 LH25 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago It really sounds like at stepson needs grief counseling, it's been 6 years and he doesn't seem to be living his life. And the dad needs to stop taking the path of least resistance and get him help, wanted or not. I agree with the comments that this family is not ready to include the OP. 39 39points reply Pinkpunk143 Pinkpunk143 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago EXACTLY what I was thinking. He NEEDS therapy because he isn't living his life. It's not her wedding anymore it's another woman's memorial 4 4points reply Load More Replies... J. Normal J. Normal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago Imho cancel wedding and FORCE them into greif counseling. Holding on to greif for years is very damaging (know from experience). 24 24points reply Load More Comments POST Candia Lee Candia Lee Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago I like the suggestion of bride watching slideshow w son and planning the memorial together, but I'm more inclined to the red flag warnings - the boy obviously has issues his father refuses to acknowledge and deal with, indicating the father doesn't have his act together either. 56 56points reply Cold Contagious Cold Contagious Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago You're absolutely correct, as well as LH25 below also. It's been 6 years and this young adult has not processed any of his emotions or been dealing with the loss of his mother. It was three years before his dad met the lady that he is engaged to marry now, and there should have been progress made during this time period. It seems like dad just let him fall through the cracks and it's not been healthy for either one of them that nothing was addressed during that time. Instead his son has been withdrawn, doesn't interact with family or friends, doesn't celebrate any holiday or special occasions, and it seems as though time has stood still for him since his mother passed away. It's really disturbing that he is frozen in time. He absolutely needs help and should have had it years ago. I do agree that approaching him with the idea for a special memorial service for his mother before the wedding (if they insist it proceeds) would be the best thing to offer. Cont below. 14 14points reply Load More Replies... Cold Contagious Cold Contagious Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago To try to convince him that the occasion is too important to share with another celebration and that they should arrange something just for her would be better. To let him make plans for it and be able to organize his ceremony for his power point and other items he may want to include may help him have some closure. I think this would be the best option for the son to get the most out of what he wants without it taking over someone else's special occasion. He may only be trying to utilize the time in their wedding for it because he wouldn't feel appropriate trying to take time during a different holiday celebration or he may just want it done at that time because he still feels uncomfortable about the relationship because he hasn't processed any part of his mother's dêâth. I hope it works out for the best for all three of them. 4 4points reply LH25 LH25 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago It really sounds like at stepson needs grief counseling, it's been 6 years and he doesn't seem to be living his life. And the dad needs to stop taking the path of least resistance and get him help, wanted or not. I agree with the comments that this family is not ready to include the OP. 39 39points reply Pinkpunk143 Pinkpunk143 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago EXACTLY what I was thinking. He NEEDS therapy because he isn't living his life. It's not her wedding anymore it's another woman's memorial 4 4points reply Load More Replies... J. Normal J. Normal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 months ago Imho cancel wedding and FORCE them into greif counseling. Holding on to greif for years is very damaging (know from experience). 24 24points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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