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Bride-To-Be Sets Out Requirements For Her Guests That Are So Ridiculous Her Brother Decided Not To Attend

Jonas Grinevičius and
Ieva Pečiulytė
Weddings are celebrations of love, life, and laughter. They can also be incredibly expensive to host, so it's only natural that some happy couples want everything to go perfectly. If you're spending tens (and possibly even hundreds) of thousands of dollars on something, you want a proper event that's going to leave a lasting impression. But the material things-though important-pale in comparison to the soft stuff that really matters: family, friends, and delicious cake. However, not everyone's able to embrace the idea that something might go awry during their wedding. They need everything, absolutely everything, to be P-E-R-F-E-C-T. So much so that they go a bit off the rails. Case in point, one man told the AITA community how he decided not to attend his sister's wedding at all due to how ridiculous the 'requirements' for her guests were. Check out the redditor's story below, Pandas. Let us know what you think of the whole family/wedding/materialism drama. Oh, and we'd love to hear all about your recent wedding experiences, too. Have you been to any celebrations of love this year? What did you love and loathe the most about them? Drop by the comment section and let us get you a slice of cake and a glass of whatever you enjoy the most. Anna and Sarah, Team Leaders at The Wedding Society, shared their thoughts on the dynamic between couples and their guests with Bored Panda. Scroll down to read what they had to say.

Some brides want to control every tiny little thing and even go as far as micromanaging their guests

Image credits: JudahArt (not the actual photo)

One man shared how he reacted when he realized his sister the bride-to-be made a massive list of requirements for everyone attending

Image credits: Mikhail Nilov (not the actual photo) Can we just take a moment and acknowledge how on-point the OP's throwaway account username, u/MoneyMoneyMoney300, is considering how hyperfocused his sister is on the superficial and the material? Ok, good. Though the story is a few years old, the discussion itself is timeless. The post touches upon some of the most important wedding-related issues. How we can't expect to be able to control everything that happens during the celebration (though we might want to and, heck, we might even try!). How we can't see the forest for the trees because minor details irk us so much. And how we sometimes ask too much from people without realizing it because we care far too much about what we want and our appearances. Relaxing a bit, learning to go with the flow, showing flexibility, and finding fun and even joy in the unexpected are all things that make life special. Trying to control every aspect of a wedding is akin to trying to tame Nature and her forces. You can't dictate how others will react or feel during the ceremony and reception. You can't prohibit people from taking photos of your special day. And you certainly can't demand that all the guys will shave off their beards and that the women can't have hair longer than their shoulders (unless they wear them in ponytails). That's the kind of soulless micromanagement you'd expect in a semi-dystopian corporation, not an event celebrating the union of two souls. Don't get us wrong, some structure is fine. Heck, you can even have a dress code and ask the guests to wear a certain range of colors or materials. But you cannot expect that everyone will adhere to these rules (there's bound to be at least one maverick at every wedding) or that each individual is willing to put in the time, energy, and money to match your expectations. Anna and Sarah, from The Wedding Society, were kind enough to answer our questions about what couples can do to ensure they're not asking too much of their guests, as well, how they can focus less on the superficial details of the wedding, and how much money guests 'should' bring the happy couple. "Couples can ask trusted close friends and family whether they're being reasonable with their request. Be prepared to take on honest feedback and adjust your expectations to be guided by what you hear from those you rely on," Anna, from The Wedding Society, explained to us. "It's hard not to get caught up in the details of the day but it's important to remember that when it's all happening, it's really not going to matter very much to you. After it's all over, you'll remember the feel of the day and not the minute details," they shared. According to Anna and Sarah, there's "no real formula" for the right amount of money that guests ought to gift a marrying couple. "The best etiquette is to try and cover your own expenses for the event as well as a little extra if your budget allows," the wedding industry experts said. "At the end of the day, gifts should be meaningful and authentic rather than meeting the expectations of the couple. If the couple are disappointed, it may not actually be your fault." A study conducted by The Knot found that the average cost of attending a wedding as a guest in 2021 was $460. That's around $30 more than in 2019. Local weddings cost less (~$270) because guests saved on transportation and lodgings. However, going to out-of-town events cost $660 on average. If you had to fly, you'd spend an average of $1,270. Wedding gifts cost around $160 and they're all a part of this number. So with prices like these, adding more and more requirements for the guests can end up making them realize that it might just not be worth attending the wedding at all. And things are only getting more expensive in 2022 as inflation soars. The AITA crowd mostly thought that the OP didn't do anything wrong by skipping out on his sister's wedding. After all, it was pretty clear that the woman valued money far more than the company of her family and friends. Though who knows, maybe in the three years since the wedding, the sister has become a totally different person and has learned what to prioritize. We like to be optimistic.

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Christos Arvanitis Christos Arvanitis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We eloped on a beach in Hawaii with only the photographer and officiant. Had a party in my sister's backyard 6 months later. 22 22points reply Colleen Hennessy Colleen Hennessy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We did the same! Beach in Hawaii with photographer and officiant. 7 7points reply Nitka Tsar Nitka Tsar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Is it cheap for Americans to go to Hawaii? I never thought about it but it makes sense. In my head Hawaii was always this expensive place only rich people can go to 2 2points reply Kathleen R. Kathleen R. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago (edited) Nitka --- It's NOT cheap for MOST Americans to go to Hawaii. But I think, if you live in Southern California, the flight is infinitely cheaper than from anywhere else in the United States. 1 1point reply Amy Taylor Amy Taylor Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We had 20 people including us on a beach in Kauai! It was glorious!! It was like a group vacation with a wedding as a backdrop, lol. 8 8points reply Christos Arvanitis Christos Arvanitis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We did this in Kauai as well... just four of us total. Anahola Beach. Did it at 7:30 in the morning at the suggestion of the photographer so that we would have good light! 1 1point reply Carol Emory Carol Emory Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Mine was spur of the moment with me, my sister, my aunt, the groom, his best friend and the priest. Can't get more intimate than that. Why go through all the hassle. What matters is two people that love each other and are devoted to each other. 2 2points reply LillyFlower LillyFlower Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We had 11 people at ours and only 6 at the ceremony... it was more than perfect. No Drama, just Love. 19 19points reply Whitefox Whitefox Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We had less than 15 people at ours. It was perfect for us! 16 16points reply BadCat BadCat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I'm planning to keep mine lowkey, and perhaps just getting the license and everything without many people. I know my folks will be sad. Maybe I'll plan a small party. But since I might not even be living in the same country and my folks don't like to travel, and are cheap but expect luxury, I can just see so many issues with trying to keep everyone happy. No thank you. 13 13points reply LoudMansLover LoudMansLover Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We just had dinner at a restaurant with friends and family! And a cake bought from a supermarket (was allowed). LoL. Love your name, btw. I'm bipolar and it made me giggle. 7 7points reply Judes Judes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I had two officials, two witnesses (our flatmates) and my sister at my wedding. Oh, and the four strangers who walked pass the room and asked if they could sit up the back (my husband and I were two white people getting married in Taiwan, so I guess we were a bit of a curiosity). We had a 'wedding' party with about 30 friends and family about a year later. 6 6points reply Angela Kelley Angela Kelley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I have been a professional wedding officiant for well over a decade, I’ve seen a lot of weddings. I am happy to say, the small intimate weddings are trending and the idea is getting bigger by the year. It has opened up a whole other niche for wedding vendors. Love, love. 5 5points reply Helderder Helderder Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Yes! I would just go for max 50 people a band and maybe like 2 food trucks and good cocktails. And really don't care if people dress up to be honest. It's a celebration of love. 5 5points reply Bi-Polar Express Bi-Polar Express Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We had my parents and 3 of my sisters and my kids. My husband had his brother and sister. We had lunch at a winery. One of my sisters did a barter with her friend to take some pictures and they look nice. My other sister is a pastry chef who made us a nice and simple little naked cake since we hate frosting. The winery knew what we were doing and gave us a free tasting in their private barrel room before our lunch. My children were old enough to sign as witnesses and my sister got ordained a little while ago to sign for friends and family. No vows but my stepmom insisted on a kiss and we tried to make her crazy by shaking hands first. It was fun. 4 4points reply Dave Hinckley Dave Hinckley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I got married in our backyard with about 75 people. I was the only one wearing a tie. Our dog kind of snuck down the stairs and inserted herself into the ceremony. We had a catered bbq with chicken anf beautiful whole rounds of beef slow cooked. At 3 I changed and jumped in the pool. 20 years ago on Wednesday. I would do it again in a heartbeat. 3 3points reply Saralina DeVoe Saralina DeVoe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I got legally married in a courthouse with a 3 year old on my hip. My actual wedding, 6 months later, had maybe 12 people. Was held in my late husband's aunt's living room (she had an amazing house with a gorgeous fireplace). My dress was hand made by a close friend. Hobby Lobby fake flower arrangements. And the reception was potluck, with a Sam's Club sheet cake. It was absolutely perfect and under $500. 2 2points reply Bobbi McGough Robert Bobbi McGough Robert Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago You dismiss all invitations with these stupid stipulations! 2 2points reply TCW Sam Vimes TCW Sam Vimes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We had a very small wedding, no stress for us and a wonderful wedding night ;) 5*****, would recommend 1 1point reply LazyKittyLovesSleeping LazyKittyLovesSleeping Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Just me and my husband plus the officiant in Vegas. Broadcasted live for family and friends who wished to be a part of our day. No drama. No stress. 1 1point reply Lorraine Isaac Lorraine Isaac Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I got married for less than a thousand Australian dollars. Borrowed a dress, paid for the dry cleaning. We paid for a three course meal for 15 people. My dad paid for drinks. I was 6 months pregnant. I just wanted to be married, not have a big wedding. 0 0points reply Mia D Mia D Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Well, some requirements aren't that crazy. For example no photos allowed (especially during the ceremony) is a good one. Let me explain why. You see now everyone from age of 10 have a phone with a camera, also tablets and ipads and so on have cameras, and guests love bringing them to the weddings. However if the bride paid 5K+ and in some cases 10k+ for a pro photographers and videographers, she does want to get really good pictures, however in a lot of cases it is impossible because 100+people are taking photos too: they stand up, get in front of pro photographers, they use flashes and so on. Let's face it there are thousands stories out there where photos of the ceremony were ruined by guests with their phones! 44 44points reply Randolph Croft Randolph Croft Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago A simple photo-guide would work wonders. I've encountered them many times, as I'm a travel photographer and have sometimes gotten the 'money shot' at parades, ceremonies, etc. But a guide would tell me what's safe and what's not. And as you mention, everyone has a camera. Most annoying is someone with a phone in the frame of the happy couple. That needs to stop. 18 18points reply Load More Replies... Yssa Stewart-Severson Yssa Stewart-Severson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago My cousin had a videographer at her wedding who was crouched about halfway down the aisle capturing the vows and the kiss. At the last moment a lady in one of the front rows jumped into the aisle with her cell out to get a clip for her FB. She ruined the shot. The videographer didnt capture the kiss and the shot she got (cousin asked for a copy) was poop. Shakey, grainy, and zoomed in way to close to their faces. It shouldn't even need to be a spoken rule. Common sense should tell you not to take photos during a ceremony unless they ask you to. Another cousin (before cell times) put several disposable cameras on each table and asked people to take pictures. She ended up with some amazing shots. If they don't ask you to.. don't do it. 19 19points reply Randolph Croft Randolph Croft Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I've seen the exact same scene more than once. Luckily for me, I'm just a guest there and not the 'grapher who's getting screwed over. 3 3points reply Phryne Phryne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Photo guides work on the premise that the guests (i.e. hostages in this case) will follow it. My sister had a very small wedding - family and close friends only - and asked that no one take pictures during the ceremony. Several people still did...and blocked the official photographer so she doesn't have pictures of s lot of the ceremony. People are just rude (this bride wins the prize, though, imo). 0 0points reply Lori w Lori w Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Yes, every bride is different. My friend insisted on no pics at hers, but I loved the pics guests took at my wedding. I had a professional, but it took 3 months to get any pictures back. So I was able to use guest pics to make a nice Xmas card. So definitely spread the word if yes or no or just no flash. Your person doing the ceremony or your dj can often help to remind guest either way. Honestly I hated my professional pics- I was in hundreds of them and my husband and guests were in very few. I wish I encouraged people to take more pics as some of my guests passed on a couple years later. 10 10points reply BadCat BadCat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago It's absolutely futile to control what everyone does. Too many people have phones with cameras and they can take pictures on the sly. Flashes don't have to be turned on and people can take photos on the side without getting in the photographer's way. Some couples are more concerned about ignorant people getting in the photographer's way or doing something to ruin the professional shots. Just a simple reminder to guests that "a professional photographer will be present, and that all guests, if they choose to, can be included in the professional wedding photos. We will be happy to send everyone copies. We kindly request all guests to leave their phones and personal camera tucked away during the ceremony and mind the hired photographers space." would suffice. 5 5points reply Rasheeda Shaheen Rasheeda Shaheen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago (edited) it's easy to inform people at the wedding about photo taking. Or getting up in front of the pro photography. Let them know there will be plenty times available for them to take some photos. A lot of pro photography offers the pictures on a drive. Which you can offer to print some prints out for those at a decent price. Even offer to do video as well. If you are having it recorded you can always transfer them to more disks for those who want it. I just feel like there is a nicer way to put things so everyone can feel appreciated for attending the wedding. My godmother put it that she doesn't want people to take pictures and videos since she is hiring someone because she believes that you won't be able to truly enjoyed the moment if you are focus more on getting the right picture or video. 2 2points reply Rod Rod Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This is ridiculous. Just make it clear that the pro photographer has absolute priority , noone should be in the way and they have the right to go wherever to have the right angle but that's it. 2 2points reply Deanna Willson Rounds Deanna Willson Rounds Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago My former sister in law was a photographer (not a professional but really good normally and agreed to do the pics for her sister. Day came everything went well until sister in law went to develop the pics and there were none that were salvageable - some camera problem. If we all had not taken pictures there would have been no pics at all. As it was they went to a professional and got pictures of the two of them. 0 0points reply Pius Xulu Pius Xulu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This is why there's an MC at the wedding. Announcements need to be made regarding the taking of photos, not that people shouldn't take them. It's a joyous day for everyone. Let people capture the moments. MC needs to announce which areas and when people shouldn't take photos. 0 0points reply Rabbit-Of-ill-Portent️ Rabbit-Of-ill-Portent️ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This is not going to last. Holy mother of god this is indeed a horrible way to start your life with someone. 29 29points reply Lillukka79 Lillukka79 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This was my thought too. He can attend her next wedding, maby she'll calmed down by then. 17 17points reply Load More Replies... Mr. J (LSama) Mr. J (LSama) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago The reddit post is 3 years old so-- 0 0points reply Load More Comments POST Bi-Polar Express Bi-Polar Express Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago How do we make small, intimate weddings start trending? 91 91points reply Yssa Stewart-Severson Yssa Stewart-Severson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I eloped on a beach in oregon with three people there. 10/10 recommend. 82 82points reply Load More Replies... Christos Arvanitis Christos Arvanitis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We eloped on a beach in Hawaii with only the photographer and officiant. Had a party in my sister's backyard 6 months later. 22 22points reply Colleen Hennessy Colleen Hennessy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We did the same! Beach in Hawaii with photographer and officiant. 7 7points reply Nitka Tsar Nitka Tsar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Is it cheap for Americans to go to Hawaii? I never thought about it but it makes sense. In my head Hawaii was always this expensive place only rich people can go to 2 2points reply Kathleen R. Kathleen R. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago (edited) Nitka --- It's NOT cheap for MOST Americans to go to Hawaii. But I think, if you live in Southern California, the flight is infinitely cheaper than from anywhere else in the United States. 1 1point reply Amy Taylor Amy Taylor Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We had 20 people including us on a beach in Kauai! It was glorious!! It was like a group vacation with a wedding as a backdrop, lol. 8 8points reply Christos Arvanitis Christos Arvanitis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We did this in Kauai as well... just four of us total. Anahola Beach. Did it at 7:30 in the morning at the suggestion of the photographer so that we would have good light! 1 1point reply Carol Emory Carol Emory Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Mine was spur of the moment with me, my sister, my aunt, the groom, his best friend and the priest. Can't get more intimate than that. Why go through all the hassle. What matters is two people that love each other and are devoted to each other. 2 2points reply LillyFlower LillyFlower Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We had 11 people at ours and only 6 at the ceremony... it was more than perfect. No Drama, just Love. 19 19points reply Whitefox Whitefox Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We had less than 15 people at ours. It was perfect for us! 16 16points reply BadCat BadCat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I'm planning to keep mine lowkey, and perhaps just getting the license and everything without many people. I know my folks will be sad. Maybe I'll plan a small party. But since I might not even be living in the same country and my folks don't like to travel, and are cheap but expect luxury, I can just see so many issues with trying to keep everyone happy. No thank you. 13 13points reply LoudMansLover LoudMansLover Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We just had dinner at a restaurant with friends and family! And a cake bought from a supermarket (was allowed). LoL. Love your name, btw. I'm bipolar and it made me giggle. 7 7points reply Judes Judes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I had two officials, two witnesses (our flatmates) and my sister at my wedding. Oh, and the four strangers who walked pass the room and asked if they could sit up the back (my husband and I were two white people getting married in Taiwan, so I guess we were a bit of a curiosity). We had a 'wedding' party with about 30 friends and family about a year later. 6 6points reply Angela Kelley Angela Kelley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I have been a professional wedding officiant for well over a decade, I’ve seen a lot of weddings. I am happy to say, the small intimate weddings are trending and the idea is getting bigger by the year. It has opened up a whole other niche for wedding vendors. Love, love. 5 5points reply Helderder Helderder Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Yes! I would just go for max 50 people a band and maybe like 2 food trucks and good cocktails. And really don't care if people dress up to be honest. It's a celebration of love. 5 5points reply Bi-Polar Express Bi-Polar Express Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We had my parents and 3 of my sisters and my kids. My husband had his brother and sister. We had lunch at a winery. One of my sisters did a barter with her friend to take some pictures and they look nice. My other sister is a pastry chef who made us a nice and simple little naked cake since we hate frosting. The winery knew what we were doing and gave us a free tasting in their private barrel room before our lunch. My children were old enough to sign as witnesses and my sister got ordained a little while ago to sign for friends and family. No vows but my stepmom insisted on a kiss and we tried to make her crazy by shaking hands first. It was fun. 4 4points reply Dave Hinckley Dave Hinckley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I got married in our backyard with about 75 people. I was the only one wearing a tie. Our dog kind of snuck down the stairs and inserted herself into the ceremony. We had a catered bbq with chicken anf beautiful whole rounds of beef slow cooked. At 3 I changed and jumped in the pool. 20 years ago on Wednesday. I would do it again in a heartbeat. 3 3points reply Saralina DeVoe Saralina DeVoe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I got legally married in a courthouse with a 3 year old on my hip. My actual wedding, 6 months later, had maybe 12 people. Was held in my late husband's aunt's living room (she had an amazing house with a gorgeous fireplace). My dress was hand made by a close friend. Hobby Lobby fake flower arrangements. And the reception was potluck, with a Sam's Club sheet cake. It was absolutely perfect and under $500. 2 2points reply Bobbi McGough Robert Bobbi McGough Robert Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago You dismiss all invitations with these stupid stipulations! 2 2points reply TCW Sam Vimes TCW Sam Vimes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago We had a very small wedding, no stress for us and a wonderful wedding night ;) 5*****, would recommend 1 1point reply LazyKittyLovesSleeping LazyKittyLovesSleeping Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Just me and my husband plus the officiant in Vegas. Broadcasted live for family and friends who wished to be a part of our day. No drama. No stress. 1 1point reply Lorraine Isaac Lorraine Isaac Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I got married for less than a thousand Australian dollars. Borrowed a dress, paid for the dry cleaning. We paid for a three course meal for 15 people. My dad paid for drinks. I was 6 months pregnant. I just wanted to be married, not have a big wedding. 0 0points reply Mia D Mia D Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Well, some requirements aren't that crazy. For example no photos allowed (especially during the ceremony) is a good one. Let me explain why. You see now everyone from age of 10 have a phone with a camera, also tablets and ipads and so on have cameras, and guests love bringing them to the weddings. However if the bride paid 5K+ and in some cases 10k+ for a pro photographers and videographers, she does want to get really good pictures, however in a lot of cases it is impossible because 100+people are taking photos too: they stand up, get in front of pro photographers, they use flashes and so on. Let's face it there are thousands stories out there where photos of the ceremony were ruined by guests with their phones! 44 44points reply Randolph Croft Randolph Croft Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago A simple photo-guide would work wonders. I've encountered them many times, as I'm a travel photographer and have sometimes gotten the 'money shot' at parades, ceremonies, etc. But a guide would tell me what's safe and what's not. And as you mention, everyone has a camera. Most annoying is someone with a phone in the frame of the happy couple. That needs to stop. 18 18points reply Load More Replies... Yssa Stewart-Severson Yssa Stewart-Severson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago My cousin had a videographer at her wedding who was crouched about halfway down the aisle capturing the vows and the kiss. At the last moment a lady in one of the front rows jumped into the aisle with her cell out to get a clip for her FB. She ruined the shot. The videographer didnt capture the kiss and the shot she got (cousin asked for a copy) was poop. Shakey, grainy, and zoomed in way to close to their faces. It shouldn't even need to be a spoken rule. Common sense should tell you not to take photos during a ceremony unless they ask you to. Another cousin (before cell times) put several disposable cameras on each table and asked people to take pictures. She ended up with some amazing shots. If they don't ask you to.. don't do it. 19 19points reply Randolph Croft Randolph Croft Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I've seen the exact same scene more than once. Luckily for me, I'm just a guest there and not the 'grapher who's getting screwed over. 3 3points reply Phryne Phryne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Photo guides work on the premise that the guests (i.e. hostages in this case) will follow it. My sister had a very small wedding - family and close friends only - and asked that no one take pictures during the ceremony. Several people still did...and blocked the official photographer so she doesn't have pictures of s lot of the ceremony. People are just rude (this bride wins the prize, though, imo). 0 0points reply Lori w Lori w Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Yes, every bride is different. My friend insisted on no pics at hers, but I loved the pics guests took at my wedding. I had a professional, but it took 3 months to get any pictures back. So I was able to use guest pics to make a nice Xmas card. So definitely spread the word if yes or no or just no flash. Your person doing the ceremony or your dj can often help to remind guest either way. Honestly I hated my professional pics- I was in hundreds of them and my husband and guests were in very few. I wish I encouraged people to take more pics as some of my guests passed on a couple years later. 10 10points reply BadCat BadCat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago It's absolutely futile to control what everyone does. Too many people have phones with cameras and they can take pictures on the sly. Flashes don't have to be turned on and people can take photos on the side without getting in the photographer's way. Some couples are more concerned about ignorant people getting in the photographer's way or doing something to ruin the professional shots. Just a simple reminder to guests that "a professional photographer will be present, and that all guests, if they choose to, can be included in the professional wedding photos. We will be happy to send everyone copies. We kindly request all guests to leave their phones and personal camera tucked away during the ceremony and mind the hired photographers space." would suffice. 5 5points reply Rasheeda Shaheen Rasheeda Shaheen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago (edited) it's easy to inform people at the wedding about photo taking. Or getting up in front of the pro photography. Let them know there will be plenty times available for them to take some photos. A lot of pro photography offers the pictures on a drive. Which you can offer to print some prints out for those at a decent price. Even offer to do video as well. If you are having it recorded you can always transfer them to more disks for those who want it. I just feel like there is a nicer way to put things so everyone can feel appreciated for attending the wedding. My godmother put it that she doesn't want people to take pictures and videos since she is hiring someone because she believes that you won't be able to truly enjoyed the moment if you are focus more on getting the right picture or video. 2 2points reply Rod Rod Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This is ridiculous. Just make it clear that the pro photographer has absolute priority , noone should be in the way and they have the right to go wherever to have the right angle but that's it. 2 2points reply Deanna Willson Rounds Deanna Willson Rounds Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago My former sister in law was a photographer (not a professional but really good normally and agreed to do the pics for her sister. Day came everything went well until sister in law went to develop the pics and there were none that were salvageable - some camera problem. If we all had not taken pictures there would have been no pics at all. As it was they went to a professional and got pictures of the two of them. 0 0points reply Pius Xulu Pius Xulu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This is why there's an MC at the wedding. Announcements need to be made regarding the taking of photos, not that people shouldn't take them. It's a joyous day for everyone. Let people capture the moments. MC needs to announce which areas and when people shouldn't take photos. 0 0points reply Rabbit-Of-ill-Portent️ Rabbit-Of-ill-Portent️ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This is not going to last. Holy mother of god this is indeed a horrible way to start your life with someone. 29 29points reply Lillukka79 Lillukka79 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This was my thought too. He can attend her next wedding, maby she'll calmed down by then. 17 17points reply Load More Replies... Mr. J (LSama) Mr. J (LSama) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago The reddit post is 3 years old so-- 0 0points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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