"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk Bored Panda Bored Panda works better on our iPhone app Continue in app Continue in browser Like what you're reading? Subscribe to our top stories Please enter email address By submitting email you agree to get Bored Panda newsletter. We respect your privacy. We will not publish or share your email address in any way. Almost finished... To complete the subscription process, please click the link in the email we just sent you. Almost finished... To complete the subscription process, please click the link in the email we just sent you. Are you leaving already? Are you sure you want to post this? We're asking people to rethink comments that seem similar to others that have been reported or downvoted this warning is a mistake x x Let's fight boredom together! Continue with Facebook Continue with Google or Log In Don't have an account? Sign Up Forgot your password? Creating an account means you agree with Bored Panda's Terms of Service 0, text: error()"> Become a member Sign Up Have an account? Login Forgot your password? Creating an account means you agree with Bored Panda's Terms of Service 0, text: error(), css: errorCssClass"> Password reminder Please provide your email address and we will send your password shortly. Send Have an account? Login Don't have an account? Sign Up Get our top 10 stories in your inbox: Finish 0, text: error(), css: errorCssClass"> Please enter your email to complete registration Finish 0, text: error(), css: errorCssClass"> Activate to continue Your account is not active. We have sent an email to the address you provided with an activation link. Check your inbox, and click on the link to activate your account. I have already activated my account Resend activation link We and our trusted partners use technology such as cookies on our site to personalize content and ads, provide social media features, and analyze our traffic. You can read more about it and change your preferences here. Agree Bored Panda iOS App Available on App Store Continue in App Bored Panda Android App Available on Google Play Continue in App By using our services you agree to our use of cookies to improve your visit. You can change your preferences here. Agree BoredPanda Login Add Post Search ArtPhotographyAnimalsFunnyTravelIllustrationComicsDIYGood NewsParentingChallengeAsk Pandas More Featured Trending Latest Newsletter The Bored Panda iOS app is live! Fight boredom with iPhones and iPads here. Bored Panda “ People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish” New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday Wonders If She’ s A Jerk Home Partnership Advertise Success stories Jobs About us Contact 80points 3.1K Parenting, People2 months ago
“ People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish” New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday Wonders If She’ s A Jerk
Rokas Laurinavičius and
Austėja Akavickaitė
Personality traits, abilities, likes and dislikes, our belief system and moral code as well as the things that motivate us, all these things contribute to our unique identity. But one woman, who recently became a mother, feels that, unfortunately, other people see her solely as a parent. Reddit user Ihatemyburthday was upset when her thirtieth came around and she was greeted only with gifts for her baby. Even worse, those that she didn't even need. However, after the party guests noticed her sadness, they accused the new mom of being ungrateful and selfish. The woman couldn't make sense of the whole situation, so she turned to the 'Am I the [Jerk]?' subreddit, asking its members to share their impartial opinions. This new mom was really excited about her 30th birthday but it turned into a huge disappointment
Image credits: Matilda Wormwood (not the actual photo) When she unpacked her presents and saw just a bunch of baby clothes
Image credits: rawpixel (not the actual photo) Some people make it pretty far in life without giving their identity too much thought, so the question 'does a strong sense of self really make a difference' seems reasonable. But according to Erika Myers, a licensed professional counselor in Bend, Oregon, it absolutely does. "Having a well-developed sense of self is hugely beneficial in helping us make choices in life," Myers said. "From something as small as favorite foods to larger concerns like personal values, knowing what comes from our own self versus what comes from others allows us to live authentically." Self-knowledge helps to accept your entire self, both the traits you're proud of and those you'd like to get rid of. If you do feel dissatisfied with certain aspects of yourself, you'll have an easier time addressing those areas when you have an accurate understanding of your nature and abilities. But if your attempts at self-expression earn criticism or punishment from parents, friends, or someone else, you might start ignoring your internal sense of self-it may seem safer and more beneficial to reshape yourself into someone more easily accepted. And while there's nothing wrong with accommodating others from time to time, your decisions should, for the most part, primarily benefit your health and well-being. People think the mom had every reason to be upset
Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Rokas Laurinavičius Rokas Laurinavičius Writer, BoredPanda staff Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 235 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to. Read more » Austėja Akavickaitė Follow Unfollow Austėja Akavickaitė Author, BoredPanda staff Austėja is a Photo Editor at Bored Panda with a BA in Photography. They have a diverse set of creative skills and a wide portfolio which ranges from photography to digital editing and traditional art. After graduating from Nottingham Trent University in 2018 they have worked as a freelance photographer until Bored Panda. 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JuniorCJ82 JuniorCJ82 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago GD right!!! THIS!!! 1 1point reply Lady Lava Lady Lava Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Yeah! I remember once getting a wellness day including babysitting by the giver. Now that was a great birthday gift! 0 0points reply Casey McAlister Casey McAlister Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Yeah, anybody would be offended. The most important part of the present is personalization - so, it doesn't have to be expensive, or extraordinary, or even very useful, but it should show that you thought about that person while choosing a gift for them. And treating this woman like a free addition to her child just because she's a new mom is absolutely appalling. People don't lose their identities when they become parents. Babies have their own birthdays and that's time when you bring presents for them. 17 17points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I absolutely agree. Anybody that called her her ungrateful is an a*****e. She has every right to expect birthday presents for herself on her birthday or 1st day. If you're not going to buy me a gift for me on my birthday commy birthday, don't buy a gift at all.. That's just what people who don't think or care do . She's still a separate person. 10 10points reply Load More Replies... butt soup butt soup Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago (edited) exactly! & honestly, babies genuinely don't care what people get for them. so that makes the gifts EXTRA insensitive; getting something for someone who couldn't care less instead of something for the person whose actual birthday it is, whose feelings can actually be hurt by shitty gifts? appalling. 1 1point reply Emma Emma Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I agree with the others. Why do people think women lose their identities once they have kids? They're not JUST moms. They are their own person as well! 15 15points reply LolaBrio LolaBrio Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 2 months ago You would never guess based on how some of them talk about their kids constantly and every SM post is kid this mommy that. -3 -3points reply Load More Replies... Gozer LeGozerian Gozer LeGozerian Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago You aren't wrong 0 0points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Bitterness, thy name is lolabrio..... -2 -2points reply Load More Comments POST just me just me Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago The only thing I would get for a kid on their parent's birthday is a babysitter. 55 55points reply S S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago THIS RIGHT HERE 12 12points reply Load More Replies... JuniorCJ82 JuniorCJ82 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago GD right!!! THIS!!! 1 1point reply Lady Lava Lady Lava Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Yeah! I remember once getting a wellness day including babysitting by the giver. Now that was a great birthday gift! 0 0points reply Casey McAlister Casey McAlister Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Yeah, anybody would be offended. The most important part of the present is personalization - so, it doesn't have to be expensive, or extraordinary, or even very useful, but it should show that you thought about that person while choosing a gift for them. And treating this woman like a free addition to her child just because she's a new mom is absolutely appalling. People don't lose their identities when they become parents. Babies have their own birthdays and that's time when you bring presents for them. 17 17points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I absolutely agree. Anybody that called her her ungrateful is an a*****e. She has every right to expect birthday presents for herself on her birthday or 1st day. If you're not going to buy me a gift for me on my birthday commy birthday, don't buy a gift at all.. That's just what people who don't think or care do . She's still a separate person. 10 10points reply Load More Replies... butt soup butt soup Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago (edited) exactly! & honestly, babies genuinely don't care what people get for them. so that makes the gifts EXTRA insensitive; getting something for someone who couldn't care less instead of something for the person whose actual birthday it is, whose feelings can actually be hurt by shitty gifts? appalling. 1 1point reply Emma Emma Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I agree with the others. Why do people think women lose their identities once they have kids? They're not JUST moms. They are their own person as well! 15 15points reply LolaBrio LolaBrio Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 2 months ago You would never guess based on how some of them talk about their kids constantly and every SM post is kid this mommy that. -3 -3points reply Load More Replies... Gozer LeGozerian Gozer LeGozerian Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago You aren't wrong 0 0points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Bitterness, thy name is lolabrio..... -2 -2points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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