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Bride-To-Be Asks If She’ s Wrong To Be Angry With Parents For Going On Vacation Instead Of Attending Her Wedding

Jonas Grinevičius and
Indrė Lukošiūtė
When we think about the perfect wedding, we focus not so much on all the aesthetic details, but on the people whom we'd like to witness the celebration of love. If you get along with your family members, it's only natural to expect your parents and siblings to show up, alongside your nearest and dearest friends. Yes, the aisle and table decor is important, but it's not the priority. If you realize that your parents have decided not to attend your wedding, it can be absolutely devastating. So much so that any other compromise on the table seems like a pale shadow in comparison when all you want is to have your loved ones with you on the Big Day. Redditor u/Designer-Pay8281 opened up about an upsetting situation going on in her family. She's planning on getting married this year, but her parents have made it clear that they won't be attending the ceremony. They'll be going on a 2-year vacation instead. Read on for the full story, in the bride-to-be's own words. You can share your thoughts about the situation in the comments, dear Pandas. Bored Panda got in touch with Suzanne Degges-White, a Licensed Counselor, Professor, and Chair at the Department of Counseling and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University to hear her thoughts about sibling rivalries, jealousy, familial favoritism, and how to reconcile with someone if they're remorseful, even though we might initially not want to. "The best revenge on those who have hurt us in the past is a life well lived. Our parents do the best they can-but their best may not be what we most wanted. Learning to accept the shortcomings of others is sometimes the best thing we can do for our own mental health. This person's parents will miss an important day in their daughter's life, and the best thing the daughter can do is to make the day as memorable for herself and her new partner as she can," she explained to us. "You'll find our full interview with the professor below, dear Readers.

Many people who are close to their parents expect that they ll show up to their wedding

Image credits: Nathan Dumalo (not the actual photo)

One bride-to-be shared how frustrated she felt when she realized her parents prioritized their vacation over her ceremony

Image credits: Vidar Nordli-Mathisen (not the actual photo) "Sadly, sibling rivalry tends to begin early in life and can outlast a parent's lifetime. Sibling rivalry is natural as kids learn at a young age that parents have a limited capacity to give their kids the attention they crave and when it feels like a sibling is getting more than their fair share, that can give rise to resentment, jealousy, and rivalry for the parents' attention." Professor Degges-White, from Northern Illinois University, explained to Bored Panda that some parents actually do actively one child over another. As such, this can give rise to a "deeply ingrained sense of injustice" in some siblings that can last a lifetme. It's important to recognize that our parents aren't 'perfect,' they're flawed just like any other human being on this planet. "As adults, we need to recognize that we need to feel that we are 'enough' regardless of how we feel others see us. If we continue to fall back into childhood rivalries, we are doing a disservice to ourselves and allowing the past to color our present. While we may never be able to right the wrongs, real or imagined, that we experienced in our childhood, we do have the choice to consciously move on from the past and just accept that our parents are human and, by nature, flawed-and we cannot 'fix' anyone else but ourselves," the Licensed Counselor said. "When we continue to feel 'less than' a sibling-and evidence seems to affirm that feeling-we have the choice to carry the negative feelings that are engendered or let them go and rejoice in the presence in our lives of people who care about us and want to spend time in our company." We were also curious about how to proceed when our loved ones try to reconcile with us, yet we might still be greatly upset at them for what they did or didn't do. "It's a hard situation when someone is genuinely remorseful about prior bad behavior and admits their mistake and offers apologies to the one they hurt but their efforts at reconciliation are rejected. Some people take a long time to let go of past injustices and some folks live by a creed of 'never forget, never forgive,'" Professor Degges-White said. She highlighted the fact that we're all human, and as such, we all make mistakes. "If we cannot make room for another's attempts at reconciliation in our lives, we are setting ourselves up for a lifetime of needless losses and a shrinking support network. Seldom do the people who care about us intentionally harm us-and we should be able to step back and recognize that when someone puts themselves out there with a heartfelt apology, that they are putting another 'investment' into the relationship. Screwing up is easy, admitting and making attempts at atonement is not." According to Professor Degges-White, from Northern Illinois University, it can help to take a long view of the relationship you have with someone in order to accept someone's remorse. Here are some questions that you might ask yourself: "Has the person been there for you when you've needed them? Have they been loyal to you even when you might not have deserved it? Is this the first time they've done something that has hurt you? If not, maybe letting the relationship go is the best option. If it is the first time, remind yourself that everyone deserves a second chance." The expert said that while we can't ever undo the past, we can make different choices going forward. "Trust is hard to rebuild, but if it's a longtime relationship, it might be harder to replace that person in your life than you realize." As a compromise, the idea of an intimate wedding reception just for the family was floated to see where the redditor bride-to-be might be interested. However, the OP was so upset about not having her parents at her wedding that she refused the idea time and time again. That's actually what made her ask the AITA community for their opinion in the first place. She wanted to know if she was wrong to be so stubborn. The majority of Reddit users thought that the OP did nothing wrong. However, the verdicts weren't unanimous. Quite a few members of the AITA community were a tad confused by the entire situation, including why the bride-to-be's parents' vacation was supposed to last for 2 years, and whether they knew the specific date of the wedding. Some also thought that the OP should have communicated her feelings more clearly so that her family knew where she stood better.

The author of the post shared some more information about what happened with her family in the comments

A while back, we had a chat about communication within families with parenting blogger Samantha Scroggin. "I think when establishing boundaries with family members, being clear and using good communication are the best routes," the founder of 'Walking Outside in Slippers' told Bored Panda that clarity helps avoid situations where someone can misinterpret your actions for rudeness or for a lack of appreciation. The blogger pointed out that all families are different: some are very close, others are more distant. Though in both cases, good communication can help set the ground rules for how everyone interacts, and what expectations they have. This way, everyone can feel comfortable in a familial setting. Meanwhile, childhood independence expert Lenore Skenazy, the mastermind behind the Let Grow project and the Free-Range Kids movement, told Bored Panda during an earlier interview that parents have to "keep the lines of communication open" with their kids as they grow. While some parents might be far too detached from their children, others are far too controlling, which also isn't healthy. "Gradually give them more freedom as they get older and earn it by being responsible," she said, adding that love requires trust. "Taking all independence away for their 'safety' is a way to teach them that you don't think they can handle anything on their own- how deflating!-and that you don't trust them. Would you appreciate a spouse who tracked your every move? Would you feel trusted?"

Here s what other internet users thought Some people s opinions were very divided on the story

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Libstak Libstak Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Then how can they afford to be away for 2 years? Maybe cut their time away to 18 months and include flights to the wedding and back instead. 15 15points reply Jason Melvil Jason Melvil Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago They would be staying with the sister presumably, not a hotel or something. 10 10points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Or maybe the entire little twat could actually think about somebody besides herself for a change.. She knew when they were going, it's not like they've set their travel plans after she's set for wedding date. She knew beforehand. -12 -12points reply Zoe Duddle Zoe Duddle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Are you the bride’s mother or something? You seem weirdly invested and way angrier than a bystander would be. 5 5points reply Jihana Jihana Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Did you actually read everything she said? The parents started planning the vacation before she got engaged, and if everything had worked out as planned the parents would have been back before the wedding. But things got delayed. You should work on your reading skills as well as your anger management. 3 3points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Why does that matter? She knew their plans and PURPOSELY chose to plan to ruin those plans. -15 -15points reply Johnny Johnny Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago The bride could offer to pay for their flights. 1 1point reply Phil Vaive Phil Vaive Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I don't understand why the bride had to plan a wedding for when her parents are overseas. She could easily plan it for when they move back. 3 3points reply Cas NA Cas NA Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Judging by the dates and the talk of delays, looks like the parent vacation got moved again after the wedding was adjusted 2 2points reply Helen X Helen X Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago (edited) My thoughts exactly. But I read things that she tried to do that and the parents didn’t cooperate. Or smt. But if it were my wedding and my parents were that important to me, I’d postpone the wedding. 0 0points reply Nevaeh Bitzer Nevaeh Bitzer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago (edited) Postponing the wedding by 2 years is insane. She originally booked the wedding for a date that they would be present. They pushed back their vacation of two years into her wedding date. She adjusted the wedding once to accommodate her parents, it's not fair for her to be the one that has to do it again. 0 0points reply Alice Teasdale Alice Teasdale Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I remember my Mum racing my early labour to get home to Adelaide from Fiji (where she lived) to see her first grandchild. She talked the Fijian ladies at Nadi airport into letting her use the airline's phone to ring me (pre mobiles working internationally). She'd stood at Suva airport until they let her on a plane to Nadi and was now making her presence felt in Nadi to let her on a plane to Australia! She can be very persuasive and probably made a whole lot of new friends sharing her excitement and joy as she made the epic journey! She made it when baby was a few hours old and came straight to the hospital from her all night flight. The joy on her face as she picked him up! That's how parents should be. 21 21points reply Lonely Tentacle Lonely Tentacle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Guys, don't downvote just because you disagree... Downvoting here isn't a dislike, it can actually get people banned. -1 -1point reply Load More Replies... Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Children should not PLAN a wedding intentionally to ruin parents vacation. Birth of a grandchild and wedding are totally different things. You're comparing apples to Irish setters. -12 -12points reply Atlasheld Atlasheld Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. I completely agree. She seems manipulative on top of that. Blocking an intimate reception that she doesn't have to pay for is an intentional further infliction on her parents. Ungrateful. -6 -6points reply Hoodoo Hoodoo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Gratuitous drama? Martyr Complex? OP knew prior to setting her wedding date that her parents would be on an extended vacation. She then expected they'd change long-standing plans to accommodate her...They didn't. I think OP's expectations came back & bit her in the butt- expectations can do that. Makes me wonder if OP didn't purposefully do this 13 13points reply KiT KiT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago She moved her wedding date twice to accommodate her parents but they chose to leave before the event anyway. The OP doesn't seem entitled and full of herself. At least not to me. 43 43points reply Load More Replies... Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago But she didn't move it to a time before their PLANNED AND ANNOUNCED travel date. Sorry...but little girl KNEW their plans. Contrary to what she seems to think, parents don't owe their ENTIRE lives to their kids until they die. How many times did parents change plans at the last minute for her? Nope. She KNEW their plans. -3 -3points reply KiT KiT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago She only got engaged to her bf a while after the parents announced their travel plans. And then she kept moving the wedding date to accommodate the parents' plans. 12 12points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. But she DIDN'T change for them. She's bitching because they won't change..... -11 -11points reply Baby&Booby Baby&Booby Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Good answer good answer 0 0points reply Jen Jen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago She initially planned it for after they would return, then they changed thier plans so they would be gone over that date, so she moved it to accomodate them AGAIN, and they delayed travel again to be gone over the new date. She planned around them and THEY KNEW when the wedding was when they rescheduled thier travel. 5 5points reply Tris Hunt Tris Hunt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago She did say that she never asked for anything from her family, even though being the youngest. I agree with KiT, she had to change her plans for the wedding for her parents because they all assumed the Visa's were going to be approved fast but, as usual, there were complications. The sister abroad and the moon should've known better honestly since they were the ones to continue with the plans instead of helping and going, for the mom, to the wedding. 4 4points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. "Never asked for anything"... malarkey. Not asking for money is nit the same as expecting someone to change MAJOR plans at your whim. -11 -11points reply Cas NA Cas NA Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I fail to see how asking them to fly back for a wedding is asking them to change plans? A lot of people live long distance from their family and they still do their best to accommodate travel. If they were able to save up to leave their home for two years, they can find a way to pay for flight tickets for their daughters wedding 5 5points reply Jen Jen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago OP clearly stated that she planned her wedding for AFTER they returned home and then her parents changed thier travel plans TWICE - the second time after she already moved her wedding to accomodate them. They are the ones purposely causing the drama. 4 4points reply Powerful Katrinka Powerful Katrinka Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I agree with you. Some people (my sister, for one) really relish playing the martyr. It doesn't really feel as though she's interested in any compromises or other solutions that aren't just what she wants. I found her to be intensely irritating. -2 -2points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. The fact that she made an effort to point out how unfamiliar she is with her sister... I think she's jealous that they're going, thus taking attention from her. She's the a*****e in this situation. -13 -13points reply Load More Comments POST Johnny Johnny Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I don't understand why the parents wouldn't just fly back for the wedding - they are moving overseas, not going to prison. 31 31points reply MoMcB MoMcB Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Maybe they can't afford to. 9 9points reply Load More Replies... Libstak Libstak Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Then how can they afford to be away for 2 years? Maybe cut their time away to 18 months and include flights to the wedding and back instead. 15 15points reply Jason Melvil Jason Melvil Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago They would be staying with the sister presumably, not a hotel or something. 10 10points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Or maybe the entire little twat could actually think about somebody besides herself for a change.. She knew when they were going, it's not like they've set their travel plans after she's set for wedding date. She knew beforehand. -12 -12points reply Zoe Duddle Zoe Duddle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Are you the bride’s mother or something? You seem weirdly invested and way angrier than a bystander would be. 5 5points reply Jihana Jihana Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Did you actually read everything she said? The parents started planning the vacation before she got engaged, and if everything had worked out as planned the parents would have been back before the wedding. But things got delayed. You should work on your reading skills as well as your anger management. 3 3points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Why does that matter? She knew their plans and PURPOSELY chose to plan to ruin those plans. -15 -15points reply Johnny Johnny Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago The bride could offer to pay for their flights. 1 1point reply Phil Vaive Phil Vaive Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I don't understand why the bride had to plan a wedding for when her parents are overseas. She could easily plan it for when they move back. 3 3points reply Cas NA Cas NA Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Judging by the dates and the talk of delays, looks like the parent vacation got moved again after the wedding was adjusted 2 2points reply Helen X Helen X Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago (edited) My thoughts exactly. But I read things that she tried to do that and the parents didn’t cooperate. Or smt. But if it were my wedding and my parents were that important to me, I’d postpone the wedding. 0 0points reply Nevaeh Bitzer Nevaeh Bitzer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago (edited) Postponing the wedding by 2 years is insane. She originally booked the wedding for a date that they would be present. They pushed back their vacation of two years into her wedding date. She adjusted the wedding once to accommodate her parents, it's not fair for her to be the one that has to do it again. 0 0points reply Alice Teasdale Alice Teasdale Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I remember my Mum racing my early labour to get home to Adelaide from Fiji (where she lived) to see her first grandchild. She talked the Fijian ladies at Nadi airport into letting her use the airline's phone to ring me (pre mobiles working internationally). She'd stood at Suva airport until they let her on a plane to Nadi and was now making her presence felt in Nadi to let her on a plane to Australia! She can be very persuasive and probably made a whole lot of new friends sharing her excitement and joy as she made the epic journey! She made it when baby was a few hours old and came straight to the hospital from her all night flight. The joy on her face as she picked him up! That's how parents should be. 21 21points reply Lonely Tentacle Lonely Tentacle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Guys, don't downvote just because you disagree... Downvoting here isn't a dislike, it can actually get people banned. -1 -1point reply Load More Replies... Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Children should not PLAN a wedding intentionally to ruin parents vacation. Birth of a grandchild and wedding are totally different things. You're comparing apples to Irish setters. -12 -12points reply Atlasheld Atlasheld Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. I completely agree. She seems manipulative on top of that. Blocking an intimate reception that she doesn't have to pay for is an intentional further infliction on her parents. Ungrateful. -6 -6points reply Hoodoo Hoodoo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Gratuitous drama? Martyr Complex? OP knew prior to setting her wedding date that her parents would be on an extended vacation. She then expected they'd change long-standing plans to accommodate her...They didn't. I think OP's expectations came back & bit her in the butt- expectations can do that. Makes me wonder if OP didn't purposefully do this 13 13points reply KiT KiT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago She moved her wedding date twice to accommodate her parents but they chose to leave before the event anyway. The OP doesn't seem entitled and full of herself. At least not to me. 43 43points reply Load More Replies... Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago But she didn't move it to a time before their PLANNED AND ANNOUNCED travel date. Sorry...but little girl KNEW their plans. Contrary to what she seems to think, parents don't owe their ENTIRE lives to their kids until they die. How many times did parents change plans at the last minute for her? Nope. She KNEW their plans. -3 -3points reply KiT KiT Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago She only got engaged to her bf a while after the parents announced their travel plans. And then she kept moving the wedding date to accommodate the parents' plans. 12 12points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. But she DIDN'T change for them. She's bitching because they won't change..... -11 -11points reply Baby&Booby Baby&Booby Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago Good answer good answer 0 0points reply Jen Jen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago She initially planned it for after they would return, then they changed thier plans so they would be gone over that date, so she moved it to accomodate them AGAIN, and they delayed travel again to be gone over the new date. She planned around them and THEY KNEW when the wedding was when they rescheduled thier travel. 5 5points reply Tris Hunt Tris Hunt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago She did say that she never asked for anything from her family, even though being the youngest. I agree with KiT, she had to change her plans for the wedding for her parents because they all assumed the Visa's were going to be approved fast but, as usual, there were complications. The sister abroad and the moon should've known better honestly since they were the ones to continue with the plans instead of helping and going, for the mom, to the wedding. 4 4points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. "Never asked for anything"... malarkey. Not asking for money is nit the same as expecting someone to change MAJOR plans at your whim. -11 -11points reply Cas NA Cas NA Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I fail to see how asking them to fly back for a wedding is asking them to change plans? A lot of people live long distance from their family and they still do their best to accommodate travel. If they were able to save up to leave their home for two years, they can find a way to pay for flight tickets for their daughters wedding 5 5points reply Jen Jen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago OP clearly stated that she planned her wedding for AFTER they returned home and then her parents changed thier travel plans TWICE - the second time after she already moved her wedding to accomodate them. They are the ones purposely causing the drama. 4 4points reply Powerful Katrinka Powerful Katrinka Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago I agree with you. Some people (my sister, for one) really relish playing the martyr. It doesn't really feel as though she's interested in any compromises or other solutions that aren't just what she wants. I found her to be intensely irritating. -2 -2points reply Not_Tellin Not_Tellin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 months ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. The fact that she made an effort to point out how unfamiliar she is with her sister... I think she's jealous that they're going, thus taking attention from her. She's the a*****e in this situation. -13 -13points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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