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Every marriage goes through ups and downs, highs and lows, and plenty of mundane in-betweens. Because living with another person and meshing your lives together is no walk in the park, no matter how much you love each other. All coupledoms encounter the occasional bumps in the road, after all. But when you throw problems in your physical relationship into the mix, it's a whole new level of complicated. This is what happened to Redditor redditthrowaway121, who reached out to the AITA community asking if he had been too harsh to his wife after she started showcasing detachment in their marriage. As the man detailed in his confession, she seemed to slip into a pattern of letting the physical part of their marriage fall by the wayside. Feeling hurt and frustrated by the loss of intimacy in their relationship, the man finally snapped, threatening to "get it somewhere else". The story caused an immediate backlash from people who jumped at the chance to deem a verdict. Scroll down to find the story in full and see some of the replies from readers. Then be sure to decide where you land on the matter, and feel free to let us know your thoughts down below as well.
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Image credits: redditthrowaway121 The story caused quite a commotion in the AITA community. Readers immediately took the chance to share their opinions about the matter, with some siding with the user and others deeming his actions completely inappropriate. However, in the end, the vast majority determined that both sides are at fault here, as the wife could show at least some effort in untangling the issues in their relationship, and the man should reconsider making threats and ultimatums like that. We've all been long told that a successful and healthy marriage takes hard work. But when one partner is completely uninvolved in the physical part of your relationship, it may be hard to know how to cope. This can certainly lead to heated arguments, irrational behaviors, and hurtful words that can harm a relationship to the point of irreparable damage. However, conflicts like this one are more common than you may imagine. Research from the sociology department at Georgia State University in the US found that 15% of married couples have not had sex with their spouse within the past six to 12 months. Lack of intimacy in relationships is real, whether it already started this way or the passion faded somewhere along the way. To gain some insight from an expert, we reached out to John Kenny, a relationship empowerment coach, host of The Relationship Guy podcast, and author of The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme: How to Overcome Your Blocks to Success. According to him, there are many reasons why the physical part of a relationship can face issues. "It could be that someone has low self-worth or esteem, that they have experienced abuse or that they feel uncomfortable with that part of a relationship." Even if there were no problems at the beginning, people might allow affection to leave the relationship during the years they spend together. "When we first meet someone, we have a rush of hormones and are in the 'in lust' phase of the relationship. These hormones are intended to create connections so that we can get together and have babies," Kenny told Bored Panda. "These lessen over time and so the physical urges slow down." "As you spend more time with someone, the excitement can fade and things become mundane and familiar, the effort to impress wears off, and therefore, so can the passion." But the relationship coach pointed out that intimacy is a crucial part of a relationship and can cause problems for one or both parties whenever it wanes. "The person withdrawing can be struggling internally and this will have wider implications," Kenny explained. "The other party could feel rejected, unloved or unwanted, triggering this and other issues that will put a strain on the relationship." Moreover, experiencing problems in your physical bond can make one partner feel undesired. It can also impact their self-worth and self-confidence, "which can lead to issues elsewhere in their lives. Resentments can build and so things that weren't a problem can get blown out of proportion leading to regular tensions and fallouts." Thankfully, it's possible to rekindle intimacy back in the relationship, but it does take effort from both partners. "Communication is key to getting the passion back," Kenny told us. "Understanding what each other needs and what is going on for them is imperative." Begin with a lengthy and honest conversation about your partner's needs, desires, expectations, and fears. "Are they stressed, overwhelmed or distracted by other things? Start making time for each other and increase the levels of intimacy," coach Kenny suggested. "This rebuilds the physical familiarity you have lost and closer bonds start to reconnect." "Talk about fantasies and things that will turn each other on. Where possible, put them into practice," he added. "If there is a hormonal issue, such as lack of testosterone, then seek medical assistance as in most cases this can be remedied." While communicating with your partner about the issues in your relationship is crucial, you also need to have a genuine chat with yourself. "Understand what is going on within you that means you may have backed off. Are there unresolved issues within you that need addressing?" "Once you have discussed how you are both feeling, what you want and need, and your own personal blocks are removed, then move forward together. Passion usually dies, but a deeper feeling of connection makes the whole experience so much better anyway," Kenny said. We'd love to hear your thoughts about the whole incident in the comments below. Do you think the wife should step up and show more interest in her marriage? Or should the husband find healthier ways to communicate his wishes in their relationship? Feel free to share your takes, stories from your personal lives, and any tips on how you would handle this scenario in the comments below.
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I wonder what kind. Certain ones can cause low sex drive (Mirena for example). 31 31points reply Nizumi Nizumi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago Just what I was thinking. I remember being on the Pill and I couldn't stand the thought of being touched. Dropped that prescription right quick! 15 15points reply Load More Replies... Amy S Amy S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago My first thought was birth control or perimenopause, they can both tank a person's sex drive. 3 3points reply Anna B. Anna B. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago This! This! This!!!! you could have put me in a monastery when i was on birth control... .put it down aaaaand: booom! 3 3points reply DuchessDegu DuchessDegu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 3 weeks ago And that's how I accepted I'm asexual. It's not easy, everyone would say all sorts of things (back then, that's about 15 years ago) and I genuinely thought I was somehow broken. It's just what it is. I find people attractive, beautiful etc but in the same way I find a painting attractive. I want it in my house, but I don't want to f**k it! I think both should seek help together AND separately. 30 30points reply AxleMunshine001 AxleMunshine001 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago And then, once you know and accept yourself, you should be honest with potential partners and look for someone with similar asexuality. 14 14points reply Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago Nope, you're not broken. Human concepts of what is acceptable are broken! 6 6points reply Kaylyn Kernan Kaylyn Kernan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago I too, am asexual. Grey Ace actually. So I have very little desire and/ or infrequent attraction. I want sex maybe once a year but mostly once every other year. It's been 4 years since I've had sex and I'm perfectly fine with no desire to get laid. 1 1point reply rehanne garvey rehanne garvey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago I don't see, just because she doesn't want sex that often it means shes some how "broken" and needs fixing. And thats coming from a woman with a high sex drive. If the relationship is not compatible and by the sounds of things. Some what toxic, it might of came to its natural end, and thats okay too. 22 22points reply JanaK JanaK Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago "That often" is once a month. It's not often AT ALL! 1 1point reply Load More Replies... rehanne garvey rehanne garvey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago To YOU 3 3points reply MrTir MrTir Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago She owes this to him to sit and explain and figure out what has changed over time and what can be done. That is nurturing a relationship and all the sex parts covers up the real story about the responsibility. His despair is also taking over him and driving him to dark places. 0 0points reply rehanne garvey rehanne garvey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago No they owe it to eachother to speak it through together, this is not solely her responsibility. And do you know him personally? To comment on his despair? Or dark place? Theres no excuse for that type of behaviour, hes a grown man. 4 4points reply Evelyn Haskins Evelyn Haskins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You are right, There's nothing like going to bed tired and having the bloke moan on about how HE needs intercourse NOW, and how mean you are to him for not letting him f**k you. 0 0points reply Load More Comments POST Lily bloom Lily bloom Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago OP says his wife is on birth control. I wonder what kind. Certain ones can cause low sex drive (Mirena for example). 31 31points reply Nizumi Nizumi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago Just what I was thinking. I remember being on the Pill and I couldn't stand the thought of being touched. Dropped that prescription right quick! 15 15points reply Load More Replies... Amy S Amy S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago My first thought was birth control or perimenopause, they can both tank a person's sex drive. 3 3points reply Anna B. Anna B. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago This! This! This!!!! you could have put me in a monastery when i was on birth control... .put it down aaaaand: booom! 3 3points reply DuchessDegu DuchessDegu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 3 weeks ago And that's how I accepted I'm asexual. It's not easy, everyone would say all sorts of things (back then, that's about 15 years ago) and I genuinely thought I was somehow broken. It's just what it is. I find people attractive, beautiful etc but in the same way I find a painting attractive. I want it in my house, but I don't want to f**k it! I think both should seek help together AND separately. 30 30points reply AxleMunshine001 AxleMunshine001 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago And then, once you know and accept yourself, you should be honest with potential partners and look for someone with similar asexuality. 14 14points reply Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago Nope, you're not broken. Human concepts of what is acceptable are broken! 6 6points reply Kaylyn Kernan Kaylyn Kernan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago I too, am asexual. Grey Ace actually. So I have very little desire and/ or infrequent attraction. I want sex maybe once a year but mostly once every other year. It's been 4 years since I've had sex and I'm perfectly fine with no desire to get laid. 1 1point reply rehanne garvey rehanne garvey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago I don't see, just because she doesn't want sex that often it means shes some how "broken" and needs fixing. And thats coming from a woman with a high sex drive. If the relationship is not compatible and by the sounds of things. Some what toxic, it might of came to its natural end, and thats okay too. 22 22points reply JanaK JanaK Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago "That often" is once a month. It's not often AT ALL! 1 1point reply Load More Replies... rehanne garvey rehanne garvey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago To YOU 3 3points reply MrTir MrTir Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago She owes this to him to sit and explain and figure out what has changed over time and what can be done. That is nurturing a relationship and all the sex parts covers up the real story about the responsibility. His despair is also taking over him and driving him to dark places. 0 0points reply rehanne garvey rehanne garvey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago No they owe it to eachother to speak it through together, this is not solely her responsibility. And do you know him personally? To comment on his despair? Or dark place? Theres no excuse for that type of behaviour, hes a grown man. 4 4points reply Evelyn Haskins Evelyn Haskins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You are right, There's nothing like going to bed tired and having the bloke moan on about how HE needs intercourse NOW, and how mean you are to him for not letting him f**k you. 0 0points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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“ Wife Will Not Put Out At All” Husband Wonders If He’ s A Jerk For Telling Wife He’ ll ‘ Get Some’ Elsewhere
Ieva Gailiūtė andViktorija Ošikaitė
Every marriage goes through ups and downs, highs and lows, and plenty of mundane in-betweens. Because living with another person and meshing your lives together is no walk in the park, no matter how much you love each other. All coupledoms encounter the occasional bumps in the road, after all. But when you throw problems in your physical relationship into the mix, it's a whole new level of complicated. This is what happened to Redditor redditthrowaway121, who reached out to the AITA community asking if he had been too harsh to his wife after she started showcasing detachment in their marriage. As the man detailed in his confession, she seemed to slip into a pattern of letting the physical part of their marriage fall by the wayside. Feeling hurt and frustrated by the loss of intimacy in their relationship, the man finally snapped, threatening to "get it somewhere else". The story caused an immediate backlash from people who jumped at the chance to deem a verdict. Scroll down to find the story in full and see some of the replies from readers. Then be sure to decide where you land on the matter, and feel free to let us know your thoughts down below as well.
After his wife consistently refused to show intimacy in their marriage this husband finally snapped and threatened to get it somewhere else
Image credits: Kampus Production (not the actual photo)Unsure of how he handled the situation he reached out to the internet for advice
Image credits: Alena Darmel (not the actual photo)
Later on the user clarified a few details about the situation
Image credits: redditthrowaway121 The story caused quite a commotion in the AITA community. Readers immediately took the chance to share their opinions about the matter, with some siding with the user and others deeming his actions completely inappropriate. However, in the end, the vast majority determined that both sides are at fault here, as the wife could show at least some effort in untangling the issues in their relationship, and the man should reconsider making threats and ultimatums like that. We've all been long told that a successful and healthy marriage takes hard work. But when one partner is completely uninvolved in the physical part of your relationship, it may be hard to know how to cope. This can certainly lead to heated arguments, irrational behaviors, and hurtful words that can harm a relationship to the point of irreparable damage. However, conflicts like this one are more common than you may imagine. Research from the sociology department at Georgia State University in the US found that 15% of married couples have not had sex with their spouse within the past six to 12 months. Lack of intimacy in relationships is real, whether it already started this way or the passion faded somewhere along the way. To gain some insight from an expert, we reached out to John Kenny, a relationship empowerment coach, host of The Relationship Guy podcast, and author of The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme: How to Overcome Your Blocks to Success. According to him, there are many reasons why the physical part of a relationship can face issues. "It could be that someone has low self-worth or esteem, that they have experienced abuse or that they feel uncomfortable with that part of a relationship." Even if there were no problems at the beginning, people might allow affection to leave the relationship during the years they spend together. "When we first meet someone, we have a rush of hormones and are in the 'in lust' phase of the relationship. These hormones are intended to create connections so that we can get together and have babies," Kenny told Bored Panda. "These lessen over time and so the physical urges slow down." "As you spend more time with someone, the excitement can fade and things become mundane and familiar, the effort to impress wears off, and therefore, so can the passion." But the relationship coach pointed out that intimacy is a crucial part of a relationship and can cause problems for one or both parties whenever it wanes. "The person withdrawing can be struggling internally and this will have wider implications," Kenny explained. "The other party could feel rejected, unloved or unwanted, triggering this and other issues that will put a strain on the relationship." Moreover, experiencing problems in your physical bond can make one partner feel undesired. It can also impact their self-worth and self-confidence, "which can lead to issues elsewhere in their lives. Resentments can build and so things that weren't a problem can get blown out of proportion leading to regular tensions and fallouts." Thankfully, it's possible to rekindle intimacy back in the relationship, but it does take effort from both partners. "Communication is key to getting the passion back," Kenny told us. "Understanding what each other needs and what is going on for them is imperative." Begin with a lengthy and honest conversation about your partner's needs, desires, expectations, and fears. "Are they stressed, overwhelmed or distracted by other things? Start making time for each other and increase the levels of intimacy," coach Kenny suggested. "This rebuilds the physical familiarity you have lost and closer bonds start to reconnect." "Talk about fantasies and things that will turn each other on. Where possible, put them into practice," he added. "If there is a hormonal issue, such as lack of testosterone, then seek medical assistance as in most cases this can be remedied." While communicating with your partner about the issues in your relationship is crucial, you also need to have a genuine chat with yourself. "Understand what is going on within you that means you may have backed off. Are there unresolved issues within you that need addressing?" "Once you have discussed how you are both feeling, what you want and need, and your own personal blocks are removed, then move forward together. Passion usually dies, but a deeper feeling of connection makes the whole experience so much better anyway," Kenny said. We'd love to hear your thoughts about the whole incident in the comments below. Do you think the wife should step up and show more interest in her marriage? Or should the husband find healthier ways to communicate his wishes in their relationship? Feel free to share your takes, stories from your personal lives, and any tips on how you would handle this scenario in the comments below.
The story caused a stir online as people jumped to the comments to share a mix of reactions here s what they had to say
Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Ieva Gailiūtė Ieva Gailiūtė Writer, BoredPanda staff Ieva is a writer at Bored Panda who graduated in Scandinavian studies from Vilnius University. After learning the Swedish language and getting completely lost in the world of Scandinavian mythology, she figured out that translating and writing is what she's passionate about. When not writing, Ieva enjoys making jewelry, going on hikes, reading and drinking coffee. Read more » Viktorija Ošikaitė Viktorija Ošikaitė Author, BoredPanda staff Viktorija is a photo editor at Bored Panda with BA in Fine Arts and Printmaking. Before joining Bored Panda she worked as a freelance illustrator and kids summer camp counselor. In her spare time, she enjoys film photography and playing hide and seek with her cat. Read more » Show All Contributors Get the latest inspiring stories via our awesome iOS app! 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I wonder what kind. Certain ones can cause low sex drive (Mirena for example). 31 31points reply Nizumi Nizumi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago Just what I was thinking. I remember being on the Pill and I couldn't stand the thought of being touched. Dropped that prescription right quick! 15 15points reply Load More Replies... Amy S Amy S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago My first thought was birth control or perimenopause, they can both tank a person's sex drive. 3 3points reply Anna B. Anna B. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago This! This! This!!!! you could have put me in a monastery when i was on birth control... .put it down aaaaand: booom! 3 3points reply DuchessDegu DuchessDegu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 3 weeks ago And that's how I accepted I'm asexual. It's not easy, everyone would say all sorts of things (back then, that's about 15 years ago) and I genuinely thought I was somehow broken. It's just what it is. I find people attractive, beautiful etc but in the same way I find a painting attractive. I want it in my house, but I don't want to f**k it! I think both should seek help together AND separately. 30 30points reply AxleMunshine001 AxleMunshine001 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago And then, once you know and accept yourself, you should be honest with potential partners and look for someone with similar asexuality. 14 14points reply Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago Nope, you're not broken. Human concepts of what is acceptable are broken! 6 6points reply Kaylyn Kernan Kaylyn Kernan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago I too, am asexual. Grey Ace actually. So I have very little desire and/ or infrequent attraction. I want sex maybe once a year but mostly once every other year. It's been 4 years since I've had sex and I'm perfectly fine with no desire to get laid. 1 1point reply rehanne garvey rehanne garvey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago I don't see, just because she doesn't want sex that often it means shes some how "broken" and needs fixing. And thats coming from a woman with a high sex drive. If the relationship is not compatible and by the sounds of things. Some what toxic, it might of came to its natural end, and thats okay too. 22 22points reply JanaK JanaK Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago "That often" is once a month. It's not often AT ALL! 1 1point reply Load More Replies... rehanne garvey rehanne garvey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago To YOU 3 3points reply MrTir MrTir Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago She owes this to him to sit and explain and figure out what has changed over time and what can be done. That is nurturing a relationship and all the sex parts covers up the real story about the responsibility. His despair is also taking over him and driving him to dark places. 0 0points reply rehanne garvey rehanne garvey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago No they owe it to eachother to speak it through together, this is not solely her responsibility. And do you know him personally? To comment on his despair? Or dark place? Theres no excuse for that type of behaviour, hes a grown man. 4 4points reply Evelyn Haskins Evelyn Haskins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You are right, There's nothing like going to bed tired and having the bloke moan on about how HE needs intercourse NOW, and how mean you are to him for not letting him f**k you. 0 0points reply Load More Comments POST Lily bloom Lily bloom Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago OP says his wife is on birth control. I wonder what kind. Certain ones can cause low sex drive (Mirena for example). 31 31points reply Nizumi Nizumi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago Just what I was thinking. I remember being on the Pill and I couldn't stand the thought of being touched. Dropped that prescription right quick! 15 15points reply Load More Replies... Amy S Amy S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago My first thought was birth control or perimenopause, they can both tank a person's sex drive. 3 3points reply Anna B. Anna B. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago This! This! This!!!! you could have put me in a monastery when i was on birth control... .put it down aaaaand: booom! 3 3points reply DuchessDegu DuchessDegu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 3 weeks ago And that's how I accepted I'm asexual. It's not easy, everyone would say all sorts of things (back then, that's about 15 years ago) and I genuinely thought I was somehow broken. It's just what it is. I find people attractive, beautiful etc but in the same way I find a painting attractive. I want it in my house, but I don't want to f**k it! I think both should seek help together AND separately. 30 30points reply AxleMunshine001 AxleMunshine001 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago And then, once you know and accept yourself, you should be honest with potential partners and look for someone with similar asexuality. 14 14points reply Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix Leo Domitrix Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago Nope, you're not broken. Human concepts of what is acceptable are broken! 6 6points reply Kaylyn Kernan Kaylyn Kernan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago I too, am asexual. Grey Ace actually. So I have very little desire and/ or infrequent attraction. I want sex maybe once a year but mostly once every other year. It's been 4 years since I've had sex and I'm perfectly fine with no desire to get laid. 1 1point reply rehanne garvey rehanne garvey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago I don't see, just because she doesn't want sex that often it means shes some how "broken" and needs fixing. And thats coming from a woman with a high sex drive. If the relationship is not compatible and by the sounds of things. Some what toxic, it might of came to its natural end, and thats okay too. 22 22points reply JanaK JanaK Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago "That often" is once a month. It's not often AT ALL! 1 1point reply Load More Replies... rehanne garvey rehanne garvey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago To YOU 3 3points reply MrTir MrTir Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago She owes this to him to sit and explain and figure out what has changed over time and what can be done. That is nurturing a relationship and all the sex parts covers up the real story about the responsibility. His despair is also taking over him and driving him to dark places. 0 0points reply rehanne garvey rehanne garvey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 weeks ago No they owe it to eachother to speak it through together, this is not solely her responsibility. And do you know him personally? To comment on his despair? Or dark place? Theres no excuse for that type of behaviour, hes a grown man. 4 4points reply Evelyn Haskins Evelyn Haskins Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You are right, There's nothing like going to bed tired and having the bloke moan on about how HE needs intercourse NOW, and how mean you are to him for not letting him f**k you. 0 0points reply Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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