Mom Thinks Her Daughter Should Support Her Financially As She Did For Her As A Child The Internet Disagrees
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Monika Pašukonytė
Having a close and strong bond with your family is something that a person should cherish as sadly this is not given to everybody. Being loved and taken care of by parents during childhood and maintaining a healthy and affectionate relationship once grown-up is something that every person should be happy to have. By having such a relationship with their kids, very often parents feel safe knowing that they raised their children to be good people who will take care of them when needed later in life. While some parents would be thankful and happy for their kids' input when days become tough, there are some parents who expect full care from their offspring, believing that this is the time when they pay back for being taken care of back in the day when they were still helpless little kids. For many, this has been a topic of heated discussion. The same discussion was started when Reddit user @u/Sea-Giraffe-8040 shared what her mom thinks about caregiving for elderly parents and what she expects from her daughter. More Info: Reddit
Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Konstancija Gasaitytė Konstancija Gasaitytė Writer, BoredPanda staff Konstancija is a Content Creator at Bored Panda. She has a bachelor’s degree in Translation and Interpreting and a master’s degree in Future Media and Journalism. She is very interested in sustainable fashion and is a perfect companion to go to second-hand shops and antiques for nearly anything: clothes, books or furniture. Her interests also include photography, literature and hiking. Read more » Monika Pašukonytė Monika Pašukonytė Author, BoredPanda staff Hey! I'm a photo editor. In my free time, I love going to art galleries, exhibitions, concerts or just hanging out in nature with my friends. My dream is to get an RV and travel around the world with my dog. Read more » Show All Contributors Get the latest inspiring stories via our awesome iOS app! Download Bored Panda app! 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This is a bane and a blessing of belonging to an Asian family. Yes, I do send money to my parents because we are raised as retirement funds as kids. As much as I have love for them, I do resent it because of the guilt trip and abuse of this cultural moral obligation. I vowed that with my kids I will break this cycle and I work hard not only to provide for them but also so I will have enough to support myself when I grow older and not to depend on them. I will appreciate their help but it does not always have to be monetary. Just because I have been through it does not mean they have to. 29 29points reply butt soup butt soup Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) THANK YOU! i absolutely loathe the comments saying "well it's a cultural difference so they're not AHs." um, regardless of the reason, it's still not right to raise a child & guilt-trip them into taking care of you just because you took care of them, which is what parents are REQUIRED to do if they choose to have a kid! regardless of "cultural explainations" for the behavior, it still has negative impacts on the kid so there's no excuse for that part of the culture to continue. thank you for breaking the cycle of abuse disguised as cultural differences. 15 15points reply Load More Replies... Carrie Laughs Carrie Laughs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This is lovely. I've always felt that people didn't have to be the sum of their upbringing. We can make different choices. Your children are lucky they have you. 4 4points reply Mia Black Mia Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. -1 -1point reply Mia Black Mia Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. -1 -1point reply Mia Black Mia Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Deleted my comments because it was a to long Story. I am glad you want to break the cycle :-) 1 1point reply Keith O Keith O Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago NTA. When you choose to have kids it's YOUR responsibility to raise them. Kids aren't a stock investment you're hoping to cash in on. Your mom is delusional. 21 21points reply shiny shinx shiny shinx Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago exactly - "hmm lets go f so we get an easy source of income, sounds like a great plan" 3 3points reply Load More Replies... BookBanda BookBanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. So easy for u to say that. Having no idea what it's like to bring a human to this world,ro raise them,to look after them.Your lonely a*s be raising itself in a 50x80m innit -5 -5points reply Potato Potato Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago So then don't bring another human into this world. Children aren't investments OR "build a friend". 0 0points reply F C F C Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago For many people it is, not that they ever seem grateful 0 0points reply BookBanda BookBanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. What if you don't chose to have them? Oh right abort? What if you're too late for that.Having kids is definitely not a case of "sounds like a great investment" plan that is so stupid and such a Western thing to say.Do u realise the sacrifices a mother makes to have and to raise a child? The career dies,her body goes,her social life.That doesn't sound like an investment. She doesn't want u to look after her,she actually hopes she won't burden you,but sometimes in life things happen,bodies break,money runs out.You going to watch your mom suffer? The one who fed u,clothed u?wiped your butt? Gave up life as she knew it,to raise you?Don't you see there's something wrong in the Western mindset? Look around you.Now look towards yourself.Its you.Its your mindset.Goodbye. -6 -6points reply Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Your adult kid refuses to financially support you, right? 2 2points reply Joy Deva Joy Deva Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You sound very upset lol. Even if having a child wasn't her choice, she can't just guilt trip them into providing for her just because she did? And I'm so sick of hearing "Western thing"...it's f*****g abuse? Just because your culture is different from of western culture doesn't justify abuse. You might be okay with it(abuse), but I'm not. 2 2points reply Potato Potato Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago It's one thing to CHOOSE to take care of your parents, and another for your parents to procreate for the sole purpose of having someone to take care of them in their old age. I'll tell you what I told my mom: I didn't ask to be here. 0 0points reply MagNat MagNat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago "I wasted all the money spent on raising you" - no, peach, you had an obligation to put money to raise your kids, that's what comes from not using protection. 16 16points reply Julian Scherner Julian Scherner Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Well said. But I did like the "peach" part best. 4 4points reply Load More Replies... Load More Comments POST May light defeat the darkness May light defeat the darkness Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I am Asian. This is a bane and a blessing of belonging to an Asian family. Yes, I do send money to my parents because we are raised as retirement funds as kids. As much as I have love for them, I do resent it because of the guilt trip and abuse of this cultural moral obligation. I vowed that with my kids I will break this cycle and I work hard not only to provide for them but also so I will have enough to support myself when I grow older and not to depend on them. I will appreciate their help but it does not always have to be monetary. Just because I have been through it does not mean they have to. 29 29points reply butt soup butt soup Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) THANK YOU! i absolutely loathe the comments saying "well it's a cultural difference so they're not AHs." um, regardless of the reason, it's still not right to raise a child & guilt-trip them into taking care of you just because you took care of them, which is what parents are REQUIRED to do if they choose to have a kid! regardless of "cultural explainations" for the behavior, it still has negative impacts on the kid so there's no excuse for that part of the culture to continue. thank you for breaking the cycle of abuse disguised as cultural differences. 15 15points reply Load More Replies... Carrie Laughs Carrie Laughs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This is lovely. I've always felt that people didn't have to be the sum of their upbringing. We can make different choices. Your children are lucky they have you. 4 4points reply Mia Black Mia Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. -1 -1point reply Mia Black Mia Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. -1 -1point reply Mia Black Mia Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Deleted my comments because it was a to long Story. I am glad you want to break the cycle :-) 1 1point reply Keith O Keith O Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago NTA. When you choose to have kids it's YOUR responsibility to raise them. Kids aren't a stock investment you're hoping to cash in on. Your mom is delusional. 21 21points reply shiny shinx shiny shinx Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago exactly - "hmm lets go f so we get an easy source of income, sounds like a great plan" 3 3points reply Load More Replies... BookBanda BookBanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. So easy for u to say that. Having no idea what it's like to bring a human to this world,ro raise them,to look after them.Your lonely a*s be raising itself in a 50x80m innit -5 -5points reply Potato Potato Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago So then don't bring another human into this world. Children aren't investments OR "build a friend". 0 0points reply F C F C Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago For many people it is, not that they ever seem grateful 0 0points reply BookBanda BookBanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. What if you don't chose to have them? Oh right abort? What if you're too late for that.Having kids is definitely not a case of "sounds like a great investment" plan that is so stupid and such a Western thing to say.Do u realise the sacrifices a mother makes to have and to raise a child? The career dies,her body goes,her social life.That doesn't sound like an investment. She doesn't want u to look after her,she actually hopes she won't burden you,but sometimes in life things happen,bodies break,money runs out.You going to watch your mom suffer? The one who fed u,clothed u?wiped your butt? Gave up life as she knew it,to raise you?Don't you see there's something wrong in the Western mindset? Look around you.Now look towards yourself.Its you.Its your mindset.Goodbye. -6 -6points reply Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Your adult kid refuses to financially support you, right? 2 2points reply Joy Deva Joy Deva Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You sound very upset lol. Even if having a child wasn't her choice, she can't just guilt trip them into providing for her just because she did? And I'm so sick of hearing "Western thing"...it's f*****g abuse? Just because your culture is different from of western culture doesn't justify abuse. You might be okay with it(abuse), but I'm not. 2 2points reply Potato Potato Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago It's one thing to CHOOSE to take care of your parents, and another for your parents to procreate for the sole purpose of having someone to take care of them in their old age. I'll tell you what I told my mom: I didn't ask to be here. 0 0points reply MagNat MagNat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago "I wasted all the money spent on raising you" - no, peach, you had an obligation to put money to raise your kids, that's what comes from not using protection. 16 16points reply Julian Scherner Julian Scherner Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Well said. But I did like the "peach" part best. 4 4points reply Load More Replies... Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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Mom Thinks Her Daughter Should Support Her Financially As She Did For Her As A Child The Internet Disagrees
Konstancija Gasaitytė andMonika Pašukonytė
Having a close and strong bond with your family is something that a person should cherish as sadly this is not given to everybody. Being loved and taken care of by parents during childhood and maintaining a healthy and affectionate relationship once grown-up is something that every person should be happy to have. By having such a relationship with their kids, very often parents feel safe knowing that they raised their children to be good people who will take care of them when needed later in life. While some parents would be thankful and happy for their kids' input when days become tough, there are some parents who expect full care from their offspring, believing that this is the time when they pay back for being taken care of back in the day when they were still helpless little kids. For many, this has been a topic of heated discussion. The same discussion was started when Reddit user @u/Sea-Giraffe-8040 shared what her mom thinks about caregiving for elderly parents and what she expects from her daughter. More Info: Reddit
It s a great feeling knowing that your parents are always there for you no matter what even after you are a grown-up perhaps with a family of your own
Image credits: Paul Wan (not the actual image) The author of the post started her story by sharing that she had a talk with her mom, who revealed that kids should take all of the financial responsibility from their parents once they start making money. The woman believes that regardless of whether the parents have the resources to provide for themselves, their children should be the ones stepping up and paying for everything. However, her daughter didn't agree with this, stating that parents shouldn't look at kids as their "retirement plans," expecting them to return everything that they spent on their offspring years later. OP agreed that kids should provide for their parents when they struggle, but being expected to be bound this way is not the correct way of thinking.But can parents always count on the fact that when the time comes their kids will take care of them
Image credits: u/Sea-Giraffe-8040 What started as a discussion soon developed into an argument as the daughter told her mom that while it's nice to help out your parents, it shouldn't be something forced. This is when the mother got mad, stating that her daughter is spoiled and ungrateful, and even admitting that she "wasted" all this money while raising her. This conversation led the young woman to think about whether she really was selfish for not wanting to take all this responsibility and wanting to live her life focusing on herself. This story encouraged others online to share their views on the matter. Some admitted that very often this point of view comes from culture and traditions. However, this starts to clash with the reality of simply not being able to afford to take care of yourself and your parents because of factors such as changing economy, pay, prices, and needs. Someone online was curious as to whether the woman's mother provided the same kind of support to her own parents. From what OP, who lives in Bangladesh, shared, it seemed that the mother hasn't had that kind of responsibility to carry because of certain circumstances. But the author of the post found herself lost between following the traditions of her culture and family and wanting a life of her own.After this Reddit user got into an argument with her mom disagreeing with her that kids should take full financial responsibility for their parents she went to ask people online for their opinions
Image credits: daves_archive1 (not the actual image) A lot of users online agreed with the woman, stating that it should be a son's or daughter's wish to take care of their parents and not something forced. Some even advised the daughter to cut ties with the mom, but she confessed not wanting to do so, just to receive some understanding from her mom. What is your take on this situation? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments down below!The mom got offended by her daughter s words and even admitted to wasting all this money on her for nothing
Image credits: u/Sea-Giraffe-8040 Image credits: zonacsreen (not the actual image) According to an article by Stowell Associates, care management and caregiving services, it's important to sit down and talk with your parents about the future for both reasons: to avoid an unpleasant argument and to prepare yourself for what is to come next. Talking about your finances might be uncomfortable, but it's foolish to think that someone will take care of you without knowing the whole financial situation. So it's recommended to talk with your parents about it and find out what are some of the obstacles such as loans and debts that can do some monetary harm in the future. It's also important to assess the present living situation of your parents. Do they live alone in a big house that takes a lot of money and time to take care of and your parents can't do these things by themselves? Maybe it's time to sell the place and choose a smaller but more convenient replacement. It's also crucial to not forget that you are not alone in this and think of other close family members, friends, or even professionals who could help you by sharing their knowledge and experience.People online were quick to agree with the daughter and share their own opinion on the matter also finding out some more information from the author of the post
Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Konstancija Gasaitytė Konstancija Gasaitytė Writer, BoredPanda staff Konstancija is a Content Creator at Bored Panda. She has a bachelor’s degree in Translation and Interpreting and a master’s degree in Future Media and Journalism. She is very interested in sustainable fashion and is a perfect companion to go to second-hand shops and antiques for nearly anything: clothes, books or furniture. Her interests also include photography, literature and hiking. Read more » Monika Pašukonytė Monika Pašukonytė Author, BoredPanda staff Hey! I'm a photo editor. In my free time, I love going to art galleries, exhibitions, concerts or just hanging out in nature with my friends. My dream is to get an RV and travel around the world with my dog. Read more » Show All Contributors Get the latest inspiring stories via our awesome iOS app! Download Bored Panda app! 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This is a bane and a blessing of belonging to an Asian family. Yes, I do send money to my parents because we are raised as retirement funds as kids. As much as I have love for them, I do resent it because of the guilt trip and abuse of this cultural moral obligation. I vowed that with my kids I will break this cycle and I work hard not only to provide for them but also so I will have enough to support myself when I grow older and not to depend on them. I will appreciate their help but it does not always have to be monetary. Just because I have been through it does not mean they have to. 29 29points reply butt soup butt soup Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) THANK YOU! i absolutely loathe the comments saying "well it's a cultural difference so they're not AHs." um, regardless of the reason, it's still not right to raise a child & guilt-trip them into taking care of you just because you took care of them, which is what parents are REQUIRED to do if they choose to have a kid! regardless of "cultural explainations" for the behavior, it still has negative impacts on the kid so there's no excuse for that part of the culture to continue. thank you for breaking the cycle of abuse disguised as cultural differences. 15 15points reply Load More Replies... Carrie Laughs Carrie Laughs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This is lovely. I've always felt that people didn't have to be the sum of their upbringing. We can make different choices. Your children are lucky they have you. 4 4points reply Mia Black Mia Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. -1 -1point reply Mia Black Mia Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. -1 -1point reply Mia Black Mia Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Deleted my comments because it was a to long Story. I am glad you want to break the cycle :-) 1 1point reply Keith O Keith O Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago NTA. When you choose to have kids it's YOUR responsibility to raise them. Kids aren't a stock investment you're hoping to cash in on. Your mom is delusional. 21 21points reply shiny shinx shiny shinx Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago exactly - "hmm lets go f so we get an easy source of income, sounds like a great plan" 3 3points reply Load More Replies... BookBanda BookBanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. So easy for u to say that. Having no idea what it's like to bring a human to this world,ro raise them,to look after them.Your lonely a*s be raising itself in a 50x80m innit -5 -5points reply Potato Potato Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago So then don't bring another human into this world. Children aren't investments OR "build a friend". 0 0points reply F C F C Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago For many people it is, not that they ever seem grateful 0 0points reply BookBanda BookBanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. What if you don't chose to have them? Oh right abort? What if you're too late for that.Having kids is definitely not a case of "sounds like a great investment" plan that is so stupid and such a Western thing to say.Do u realise the sacrifices a mother makes to have and to raise a child? The career dies,her body goes,her social life.That doesn't sound like an investment. She doesn't want u to look after her,she actually hopes she won't burden you,but sometimes in life things happen,bodies break,money runs out.You going to watch your mom suffer? The one who fed u,clothed u?wiped your butt? Gave up life as she knew it,to raise you?Don't you see there's something wrong in the Western mindset? Look around you.Now look towards yourself.Its you.Its your mindset.Goodbye. -6 -6points reply Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Your adult kid refuses to financially support you, right? 2 2points reply Joy Deva Joy Deva Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You sound very upset lol. Even if having a child wasn't her choice, she can't just guilt trip them into providing for her just because she did? And I'm so sick of hearing "Western thing"...it's f*****g abuse? Just because your culture is different from of western culture doesn't justify abuse. You might be okay with it(abuse), but I'm not. 2 2points reply Potato Potato Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago It's one thing to CHOOSE to take care of your parents, and another for your parents to procreate for the sole purpose of having someone to take care of them in their old age. I'll tell you what I told my mom: I didn't ask to be here. 0 0points reply MagNat MagNat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago "I wasted all the money spent on raising you" - no, peach, you had an obligation to put money to raise your kids, that's what comes from not using protection. 16 16points reply Julian Scherner Julian Scherner Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Well said. But I did like the "peach" part best. 4 4points reply Load More Replies... Load More Comments POST May light defeat the darkness May light defeat the darkness Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I am Asian. This is a bane and a blessing of belonging to an Asian family. Yes, I do send money to my parents because we are raised as retirement funds as kids. As much as I have love for them, I do resent it because of the guilt trip and abuse of this cultural moral obligation. I vowed that with my kids I will break this cycle and I work hard not only to provide for them but also so I will have enough to support myself when I grow older and not to depend on them. I will appreciate their help but it does not always have to be monetary. Just because I have been through it does not mean they have to. 29 29points reply butt soup butt soup Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) THANK YOU! i absolutely loathe the comments saying "well it's a cultural difference so they're not AHs." um, regardless of the reason, it's still not right to raise a child & guilt-trip them into taking care of you just because you took care of them, which is what parents are REQUIRED to do if they choose to have a kid! regardless of "cultural explainations" for the behavior, it still has negative impacts on the kid so there's no excuse for that part of the culture to continue. thank you for breaking the cycle of abuse disguised as cultural differences. 15 15points reply Load More Replies... Carrie Laughs Carrie Laughs Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This is lovely. I've always felt that people didn't have to be the sum of their upbringing. We can make different choices. Your children are lucky they have you. 4 4points reply Mia Black Mia Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. -1 -1point reply Mia Black Mia Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. -1 -1point reply Mia Black Mia Black Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Deleted my comments because it was a to long Story. I am glad you want to break the cycle :-) 1 1point reply Keith O Keith O Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago NTA. When you choose to have kids it's YOUR responsibility to raise them. Kids aren't a stock investment you're hoping to cash in on. Your mom is delusional. 21 21points reply shiny shinx shiny shinx Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago exactly - "hmm lets go f so we get an easy source of income, sounds like a great plan" 3 3points reply Load More Replies... BookBanda BookBanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. So easy for u to say that. Having no idea what it's like to bring a human to this world,ro raise them,to look after them.Your lonely a*s be raising itself in a 50x80m innit -5 -5points reply Potato Potato Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago So then don't bring another human into this world. Children aren't investments OR "build a friend". 0 0points reply F C F C Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago For many people it is, not that they ever seem grateful 0 0points reply BookBanda BookBanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. What if you don't chose to have them? Oh right abort? What if you're too late for that.Having kids is definitely not a case of "sounds like a great investment" plan that is so stupid and such a Western thing to say.Do u realise the sacrifices a mother makes to have and to raise a child? The career dies,her body goes,her social life.That doesn't sound like an investment. She doesn't want u to look after her,she actually hopes she won't burden you,but sometimes in life things happen,bodies break,money runs out.You going to watch your mom suffer? The one who fed u,clothed u?wiped your butt? Gave up life as she knew it,to raise you?Don't you see there's something wrong in the Western mindset? Look around you.Now look towards yourself.Its you.Its your mindset.Goodbye. -6 -6points reply Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Your adult kid refuses to financially support you, right? 2 2points reply Joy Deva Joy Deva Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You sound very upset lol. Even if having a child wasn't her choice, she can't just guilt trip them into providing for her just because she did? And I'm so sick of hearing "Western thing"...it's f*****g abuse? Just because your culture is different from of western culture doesn't justify abuse. You might be okay with it(abuse), but I'm not. 2 2points reply Potato Potato Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago It's one thing to CHOOSE to take care of your parents, and another for your parents to procreate for the sole purpose of having someone to take care of them in their old age. I'll tell you what I told my mom: I didn't ask to be here. 0 0points reply MagNat MagNat Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago "I wasted all the money spent on raising you" - no, peach, you had an obligation to put money to raise your kids, that's what comes from not using protection. 16 16points reply Julian Scherner Julian Scherner Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Well said. But I did like the "peach" part best. 4 4points reply Load More Replies... Load More Comments Popular on Bored Panda I Used AI To See What These 23 Popular Cartoon Characters Would Look Like In Real Life 30 Y.O. 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