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People Get Raw And Honest About Whether They Regret Not Having Kids Now That They’ re Over 40 Interview

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Publish Not your original work? Add source Some people have known that they were meant to be parents since they were small children themselves, carrying around baby dolls everywhere they went and picking out the names of their future kids before they even turned 18. On the other hand, some people know that they just aren't meant to be parents, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Whether it's due to financial reasons, physical limitations, wanting to put all of their energy into their career instead, or simply lacking any desire to be a parent, there are infinite valid reasons for not having children. And although being childfree is becoming more common all the time, there are still some people out there who believe that we're all meant to have kids and that anyone who doesn't will regret it. To set the record straight, we consulted this Reddit thread, where a curious user asked childfree people over the age of 40 how they feel about their decision not to have kids, and gathered some of the most compelling responses down below. Be sure to upvote the replies that resonate with you or that you'd like your fellow pandas to see, and if you're childfree, we'd love to hear how you feel about that decision in the comments down below. Keep reading to also find interviews with the woman who sparked this conversation on Reddit in the first place and Wilmarie and Ryan of the childfree blog Life Without Kids. Then, if you're interested in checking out another Bored Panda article highlighting why being a parent is not for everyone, look no further than right here. This post may include affiliate links. #1 48 F and had a tubal ligation done at 21. I never wanted kids, and I'm so glad I never had kids. I spent 20 years struggling just to take care of myself, with unmedicated, ADHD, anxiety, and depression. There is no way in hell I could have taken care of kids. And with my history of relationships, it definitely wouldn't have been a healthy, two-parent home. So I have absolutely no regrets. It's better to want kids and not have them, then not want kids and have them. JuracichPark , Anthony Tran Report Final score: 266points POST BetterBitterButter BetterBitterButter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago The last line is so true. It's better to regret not having kids than regret having them. Every child deserves a parent but same cannot be said about every parent. 100 100points reply View More Replies... View more comments To gain more insight into how this conversation began in the first place, we reached out to the woman who posed this question on Reddit. The woman, who we will refer to as the post's author to respect her privacy, told Bored Panda, "I'm 24 and childfree. I have known for quite a while that I don't want kids, at least not my own biological ones. But with everyone around you telling you that you'll want them sooner or later/with the right partner/etc., I was looking for some assurance (or proof that those people are right) from older folks." We also asked the author if the replies to this post changed her opinions on being childfree at all. "They didn't change them at all, if anything I was overwhelmed by the ratio of people regretting or not regretting it," she shared. "There were some who, looking back, would've wanted children. But most stuck to their decision. Even though one couple took care of a baby from a relative for a couple months, raised it like their own apparently, and developed parental feelings, they didn't want to have their own." #2 It makes the downfall of civilization easier to watch. T-Trainset , Ryoji Iwata Report Final score: 190points POST Jessica J. Jessica J. Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago 39yo single, childless female. Was just talking to a coworker about all the horrible possibilities facing the future...I said "we are in so much trouble." Inside, I was so thankful I don't have human children to worry about. I worry enough about my dog, already 87 87points reply View More Replies... View more comments We were also curious what the author thinks are the pros and cons of being childfree. "The pros would be silence, money and time for yourself, being able to focus on your own life," she shared. "Also not bringing another life into this world that seems to have such a dystopian future ahead. Not having to worry about what changes your body and mind has to go through during and after pregnancy, or having to live with having had a miscarriage if that happens." "The cons would be missing out on that experience I guess? Some people also mentioned they were scared of being lonely when they get old since they have no kids to look after them," the author noted. "But in order for your kids to want to support and see you when you're older, you have to have done a good job at raising them, and their life has to have been a rather stable one. And I know I'd probably not be a good parent, plus I would never get a child just so it can care for me when I'm old. That doesn't seem fair." #3 43 here. Every single day I know I made the right decision for me. The risk of passing on depression and anxiety to a new person never felt like a nice thing to do. tom957 , Nik Shuliahin Report Final score: 172points POST Alexia Alexia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I feel you. 42 and I'm still struggling with anxiety and depression, although I moved away from my toxic family many years ago. I always said that I'd be alone my whole life, rather than having children and abusing them the same way my parents abused me. Someday I might consider adopting a child, but only if I manage to overcome emotional triggers and toxic beliefs I "inherited". 37 37points reply View More Replies... View more comments We also asked the author what she would say to anyone who doesn't understand why she has no desire to have kids. "It's okay you don't understand, but don't judge me for my decision," she shared. "Another thing that stuck to me was women wishing me luck should I ever want to get sterilized," the author noted. "It's so hard, especially as a young woman, to have that done. Most doctors try to talk you out of it, and/or just straight up won't do it. Once again, women are not allowed to choose and decide what they want for their bodies and themselves. And that's just so wrong." #4 Had a vasectomy at 29 (unmarried and no children at the time; it took a LOT of talking).

Just turned 60 and am well aware that if I die after I fully retire, it's entirely likely no one will notice until the mailbox starts to overflow. So yeah, I have moments of regret every so often.

I don't think that's enough reason to have brought additional humans into this world, though. DirtyNakedHippie Report Final score: 170points POST Mixed Reality Portal Mixed Reality Portal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Having kids is no guarantee they'll actually care about you ... Sometimes the parents are at fault and sometimes it's the kids. Either way it's the wrong reason to have kids. 78 78points reply View More Replies... View more comments #5 Morally sound. Look at this planet - it's bad form to invite someone to a party that's not only already over, but left the house on fire to boot. Cowy_the_Cow , Matt Palmer Report Final score: 169points POST jpaul jpaul Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago yep this is sadly true. been watching a TV documentary recently where they were interviewing teens who were suffering eco-anxiety. the world had become such a weird place recently. can you imagine, kids nowadays are stressing for the future. this is so f..ed up man 27 27points reply View More Replies... View more comments To gain some more insight on the topic of being childfree, we also reached out to Wilmarie and Ryan of the childfree blog Life Without Kids. Wilmarie and Ryan share their adventures traveling the world online, on their Instagram, blog Serious Travel Couple and YouTube channel. And while they live a very exciting life, kids are not part of the equation. So we at Bored Panda were curious what being childfree means to them. "For us, being childfree means having the freedom to choose how to live our lives, what to do with our time and money, and what life purpose we want to follow," Wilmarie and Ryan shared. "It's just being us since we've never wanted kids." #6 I'm 49 my husband is 53.

We're both more than happy with how things are.

I never wanted kids. I was the eldest in a family of 4 and was defacto childminder from the age of 8. I was 16 when my youngest sister was born and my mum relied on me heavily with her. I did night feeds. Looked after her when the rest went on holiday and when I left home at 18, regularly had both her and my middle sister staying with me for weekends and weeks during the summers.

Don't get me wrong. I loved every moment and I'm really close with my youngest sister but between watching my mum deal with us and the experiences I had myself, knew I didn't want to devote my life to kids.

I couldn't face the idea of mornings, getting them up, washed, dressed, fed, sent to school... I wasn't interested in being a taxi ferrying them to after school stuff, friends houses etc etc. I wasn't interested in worrying about money.

I also realised, that if I had kids in my early 20's I would be in my late 40's before my life was my own again (at best) and never have my own life again if I didn't have them till I was in my late 30's.

My husband was never bothered one way or the other.

Our life is good. We're not rich by any means between us we earn about £40k a year. But we we aren't tied to our jobs, if we wanted to change it up we can without worrying about putting food on the table. And we do low stress jobs. We work to live not live to work.

We own our own home, we can go on holiday, we indulge our hobbies and take on new ones (getting ourselves some Occulas Quests in the new year). We don't miss having kids.

My baby sister now 33 is also child free and I know she and her husband are pretty content with their lives too.

I feel I should also say. I don't hate kids. I'm happy to spend time in their company and enjoy time with friends and families kids. But I'm VERY glad I don't have to take them home with me lol LaraH39 , Soroush Karimi Report Final score: 137points POST Bienlunée Bienlunée Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I’m a teacher and I just told my students yesterday why at 47 I don’t have kids, and what was written above expresses the same sentiment, yet far more eloquently than my version. Students, I love you here at school, but don’t come to my house. I am a better teacher because I don’t have children of my own. I cannot imagine having to be the responsible adult 24/7 because that kid needs you. All the time. Everyday. Sounds suffocating and extremely soul-sucking. But, I do love my students. At school. Sometimes Starbucks. 49 49points reply View More Replies... View more comments We also asked Wilmarie and Ryan if there were any misconceptions about being childfree they wanted to dispel. "There are many misconceptions about being childfree," they shared. "We do not hate kids just because we don't want to have our own. Ryan loves teaching kids (he has worked as a teacher), and we have nieces and nephews we adore. Also, being childfree does not mean we're selfish. Childfree individuals also contribute to society in many ways, and for the most part, are people that care to make conscious decisions about their lives (i.e. not having kids.)" So what's the best part of being childfree for them? "The time and financial freedom to pursue career, dreams, hobbies (traveling is our favorite) and ways to contribute to our families, community and the world," Wilmarie and Ryan shared. #7 So, so good. My husband and I high-five each other at least weekly when we encounter ragged parents trying to manage unruly kids. Then we go home to our Labrador Retriever, do whatever we want, and get a good night’s sleep. I can’t imagine life any other way. Courbet72 , Angel Luciano Report Final score: 119points POST Tree P Tree P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Same here. We are so happy we didn't have kids, especially when we see someone else's being brats. 16 16points reply View more comments "We would like to live in a world where being childfree is looked at as normal as having kids," they continued. "A family without kids is still a family. Through our childfree community @life.without.kids we aim to educate, celebrate and normalize being childfree by choice." If you'd like to keep up with Wilmarie and Ryan's adventures online, you can find their Instagram account right here and their travel blog right here. #8 I've never been comfortable with being responsible for another human being. Nothing has changed. To all good parents: Keep it up. It's a very difficult job but you are appreciated. SpinachPure483 , Artem Kovalev Report Final score: 111points POST Sunny Days Sunny Days Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Same. I love sleeping in and spending all my money & free time on myself. It's my choice and many parents are simply jealous they can no longer do the same. 15 15points reply View More Replies... View more comments #9 It’s a strange one, I know I made the right decision I would have made a terrible parent so I’ve got no regrets about not having kids.

However I’m at the point in life where all my friends have settled down and are raising families … and I no longer have much in common with them. We still meet up and I understand their time constraints, but as the years go by there’s less to talk about. Bangkokbeats10 , Tyler Nix Report Final score: 109points POST Rachel Smith Rachel Smith Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Keep at it with your friendships, it's rough when the kids are little but you're friends are still the same people with the same interests, they just don't have much time to explore them right now. One of my good friends has 2 kids and we still have plenty of things to talk about even though I'm child free. We talk about games, TV, movies and sometimes about his kids. 40 40points reply View More Replies... View more comments #10 46F. I will speak up and be the minority here. I regret not having children. It wasn't a conscious decision, but I'm a pretty traditional person and never found someone to settle down and have a family with.

I've recently had to come to terms with the fact that I won't have kids and what that means for the rest of my life. I might choose to adopt or foster in the future but now I really have to weigh if it's worth being a parent now when all my friends kids are grown and they are even starting to have grand kids. Do I really wanna be that far behind? I've always been a late bloomer, but wow...that's just too late I think!

On the flip side, my child free status has allowed me to cultivate fantastic relationships with my best friends kids and to offer support to her family in ways that I wouldn't have been able to do if I'd had a family of my own. They are my family and I love each of them so much. We have a pretty special bond.

I would say to consider all your options and search your heart for what you want and can do in plenty of time to act before time runs out. Being child free isn't always a conscious decision. For some of us Life just happens that way. ExaminationFun8639 , Eric Ward Report Final score: 105points POST Soozie Poozie Soozie Poozie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I am 100% with you. However, I've also come to the realization that this is the path I am meant to walk and I can still have a really amazing life with love and joy and meaning and accomplishment and adventure. So I will hold my head high as I walk my path. Also, too often people have kids for the wrong reason. It can be a miserable situation. I am grateful for the peace and contentment I have in my life. Not everyone can say that. Gratitude goes a long way. 32 32points reply View more comments #11 I couldn't be happier. I can't imagine having to live my whole life around a child. I have a cat for love, she's the best and I don't have to send her to college. ChaserNeverRests , Mikhail Vasilyev Report Final score: 102points POST Ed Gomaz Ed Gomaz Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You cat must have been disappointed to learn she wouldn’t be going to college. 90 90points reply View More Replies... View more comments #12 I barely have enough energy to take care of myself, and if I try real hard maybe a casual girlfriend. No f*****g way could I handle a kid. Ahhmyface , Christian Erfurt Report Final score: 81points POST erinmophila_gibsonii erinmophila_gibsonii Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I never thought trying to decide what to have for dinner every night would be so exhausting ?‍ 24 24points reply View More Replies... View more comments #13 None. I'd be doing a kid a disservice. I'm selfish and lazy.

I like sleeping in on the days I'm not working and being able to get up and go as I please. My work hours are weird and I'd never be able to do that with a kid. I don't want to be responsible for anything more than the one cat I have.

I have no nieces or nephews. I don't buy many Christmas gifts. I don't go to loud children's parties. It's an introvert's dream. AscoyneDAscoyne Report Final score: 77points POST Tenacious Squirrel Tenacious Squirrel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You’re not selfish. Sleeping in isn’t “selfish”. It’s just a normal life. No one calls 18 year olds who sleep in selfish, but once you’re of “child bearing” age it becomes ‘selfish’ to lie in, have holidays, go out, basically anything involving enjoying your life. Very distorted thinking peddled by miserable people with kids (who usually have them for *only* selfish reasons). 34 34points reply View more comments #14 No regrets on not having kids. I never could have given them the life they deserved.

As I age (I'm 57) I do wish I had a life partner, I'm a bit scared about being elderly and alone but I'm always glad I didn't have kids. BlueCatLaughing Report Final score: 69points POST Lace Neil Lace Neil Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago There are a zillion old people in nursing homes who have kids who never visit. 38 38points reply View More Replies... View more comments #15 Still feeling great about that decision with no regrets at all. It has allowed us to be present in the lives of our friend's kids in a wonderful way. We're like the weird aunt and uncle who have always been there to a pack of kids. It's good when kids have adults to talk to, bounce ideas and thoughts off of that aren't their parents. To be able to be there for them in this way has been really great! uncertaincucumbers , Kelly Sikkema Report Final score: 67points POST Paddling Panda Paddling Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 2 weeks ago I feel this. I love being an auntie to my niece and nephews. It's one of the best non-jobs in the world and I wouldn't have it any other way. 22 22points reply View more comments #16 The older I get, the more sure I am of my decision.

Someone else commented it on here so I second this line of reasoning: certain unhealthy/toxic behaviors are cyclical/generational, including hereditary on a biological level, and I’m more concerned with ending all this with me than I am with seeking validation via a child.

On top of that my emotional issues make me unable to properly connect or care for a child in the way they deserve. I am very empathetic to pain in that sense, but I also have issues with not inevitably becoming a SOURCE of that pain (I.e. I have serious commitment/investment issues and frequently check out when it’s all too much.)

Lastly, I’m very conscious of how much life changes when you have a kid, which some people remain bafflingly obtuse on until they’re in the thick of it. Like yes, kids are EXPENSIVE, they’re loud, their logic makes no sense in a lot of situations and they literally can’t help that so yeah you’re gonna be spending extraordinary amounts of time/energy on just keeping them alive, oh and they have serious emotional needs that you are definitely f*****g up if you don’t give them what they need. I have zero interest in all of it and no issues with admitting to that.

So ultimately I don’t have any desire for a child, and I will not continue the cycle of having them cause we don’t know what else to do. Occasionally I feel a biological pang when I see cute baby clothes, but then I remember really quick everything that goes into and I’m over it. failedattemptnumber4 , Stefan Spassov Report Final score: 67points POST Seth Seth Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Some people I knew in high school had kids young, thinking that would "fix" their own broken childhoods. Imagine my shock and surprise when they ended up subjecting their child to the exact same trauma triggers. 32 32points reply View More Replies... View more comments #17 My wife and I are both good with it. We were able to go on a lot of cool vacations, save a lot of money, have a lot of time to ourselves, etc. I feel bad that for about 15 years of her life my wife as shamed because she didn't want a child. "So you just don't want children?".

With that said, we were forced into a situation where we had to take care of our niece, who was 9 months, for 6 months. It did make us appreciate some things about children. I now better understand the love for a child, we will now do anything for our niece for the rest of our lives. I thought having a child around would make me more understanding of parents but it really hasn't. I still think a lot of them do a sh**ty job and are setting them up for failure in the future. buzzzzz1 , Toa Heftiba Report Final score: 65points POST Ursula Johnson Ursula Johnson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago No one should be forced to care for a kid. 19 19points reply View More Replies... View more comments #18 Turns out selfishness, irresponsibility and hedonism is fun. FindTheRemnant Report Final score: 64points POST Sarah SH Sarah SH Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Who knew? 21 21points reply View more comments #19 I go back and fourth on this topic. I'm usually ok with it but if I see a friend or family member with their kid(s) it makes me second guess my decision. That feeling usually passes once I get into my sports car and drive back to my clean quiet home. Quegyboe , Florian Schneider Report Final score: 64points POST David Force David Force Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I’m a Dad who’s always had convertible sports cars and my best memories are of taking my daughter for rides in them. Now she is an adult and drives a convertible sports car herself. We always kept a clean house and we liked cleaning it together. When I visit her house I still clean it while she takes a nap with her newborn. Maybe we are the oddballs but we are very close and have a lot of fun together still. 26 26points reply View More Replies... View more comments #20 52 yo. Excellent.

So far there have been only few downsides:

- Once I had a nice girlfriend. She wanted kids, I did not. Broke up over that. I have no regrets, though. Kids did not make her as happy as she expected. And I have the best GF ever now.

- The only moment I felt I was not continuing the family tree, was when my sister mentioned in her speech at the funeral of our mother, that see can see our mother in her kids. I can see that too. Briefly, that felt like a gap. But after that speech, it never felt like a gap again.

- Stupid people have more children, and earlier in their lives than smart people. Evolutionary, we are dumbing down as a species.

On the bright side:

**√** Easier life choices: The divorce I once needed, was easy. Also, no stress with child when I got in a relationship with the best GF ever.

***√*** More time on my hands: I could start an art career next to my work career.

***√*** Less stress: I do not have stress over kids derailing, or problems at their schools. No homeschooling while working during lockdown. No screaming kids in my home. No kids of other people here either.

***√*** I'm not dropping kids off in a world with a grim future. Far lower CO2 footprint too, so making it a tiny less grim.

**√** No hijacking of my life by a kid in need for constant help, which is a risk you need to be willing to take if you plan having kids. I did not want to take that risk.

**√** Most importantly, I did not have to experience losing a child like my parents had to. This was my most important reason. It broke my parents completely. I did not want to inflict that damage on me. d-a-v-e- , Everton Vila Report Final score: 59points POST Bienlunée Bienlunée Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Last reason hit home. 16 16points reply View more comments #21 I am 51 and my husband and I did not have kids. He ended up leaving me after 20+ years together and now has a child. I regret not having children and I unfortunately have no family left in the world. Ok_Understanding4136 , Ivan Aleksic Report Final score: 54points POST Paddling Panda Paddling Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 2 weeks ago I'm sorry you're going through this period of pain. I hope you find your family through your friendships. Oftentimes, our chosen family is more nurturing than our biological family. Also, you have us, your Bored Panda Family. **hugs** 36 36points reply View More Replies... View more comments #22 I wish things could have been different. I’m F/mid-40’s, and decided to not have a child mostly due to health issues since 31. I’ve also had odd relationship timing or problems, as well as financial set backs. I’m heartbroken, and try not to think about it too much. I just keep moving forward. jjmccollough Report Final score: 51points POST Btsquestrian Btsquestrian Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago the world needs more foster and adoptive parents 13 13points reply View More Replies... View more comments #23 You know what's *still* amazing about being 40+ and no kids? I can quit my job for a couple months and not be thousands of dollars in the hole, because I don't have a black hole where food, water, and clothes go, that won't be able to pay its fair share for at least 16 years. I can just stop. Surprise_Corgi , Marten Bjork Report Final score: 49points POST Sunny Days Sunny Days Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Very good point. No kids = freedom and not having to stay in a job you despise. Life's too short. 15 15points reply View More Replies... View more comments #24 I’m ambivalent.

On the one hand, I feel like I’ve missed out on an experience that is central to being human. I will never know the joy and heartache and deep love of parenthood.

On the other hand, I’m deeply pessimistic about the future of global governance and the environment. I would worry for my child in this world. Also, I have a lot more free time and disposable income without human parasites in my home.

So, you know…. I’m ok with my decision. ShexyBaish6351 Report Final score: 46points POST zeroaid zeroaid Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I laughed at Human Parasites, I don't hate kids though. Go figure. 11 11points reply View More Replies... View more comments #25 I know I've done the right thing. Based on my parents I always darkly joke that I have a "bad built-in parenting instruction manual". I can barely navigate my own complicated mental health most days, it wouldn't be fair to bring a child into it. My nightmare would be to have a child and then treat it with disdain, which is basically what my mom did to me. I grew up around a mother who didn't want to be a mother and took it out on me. crucial_velocity Report Final score: 46points POST Karl Baxter Karl Baxter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago My old man would get drunk and tell me “Never get married! Never have kids!”. I think he regretted our whole family. 24 24points reply View more comments #26 I'm almost 48 and about to enter menopause. I don't regret not having children. I never really liked children very much and that probably wouldn't have made me a very good parent.

I love the fact that I can do whatever I want, whenever I want.

Maybe I'll regret it when I'm very old or something, but so far, I still feel like I made the best decision possible. saktii23 Report Final score: 45points POST Bienlunée Bienlunée Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Ditto 9 9points reply View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective #27 I absolutely love it! We’re DINKS, travel often, do fun things, and will retire at 55 and 50 with 20+ amazing years left living off our investments. Jah_Man_Mulcahey , Cody Black Report Final score: 43points POST Lisa Samuelson Lisa Samuelson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I’m sorry, but what is a D**K? 7 7points reply View More Replies... View more comments #28 Turned 40 this year, been snipped for almost 2 years now. A million times over absolutely zero regrets among me and the wife. (Been together for over 8 years, married a few months ago.)

The weeknight and weekend schedules of my friends with kids sound absolutely awful to me. Running from one practice to another, this rehearsal to that birthday party to this kindergarten graduation. Having to get a babysitter for things that in my world are the most trivial get-togethers... It all seems so exhausting and a complete drain on their own existence.

Plus, as D***s we were able to easily save the cash for this house we bought, its full top-to-bottom renovation, and turning a dirt wasteland into beautiful landscaping.

Come to think of it, other than deciding to pursue dating who would later become my wife, it's the single best decision I've ever made. ___Art_Vandelay___ , Bob Oh Report Final score: 38points POST Bienlunée Bienlunée Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Are they seriously censoring “D***S”?? “Double Income. No Kids” 30 30points reply View More Replies... View more comments #29 I'm 56, and I had a vasectomy when I was 27.

I'm great with it!

...mostly because I sort of cheated. I ended up marrying a woman 10 years older than I am who already had two grown (18 & 21 when we married 22 years ago) children. So now I have 3 granddaughters who are AWESOME but I had none of the headaches of child-rearing. dramboxf Report Final score: 35points POST Patty Kate Patty Kate Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Lol sneaky cheat. 7 7points reply View more comments #30 I feel great! The maternal instinct is *strong*. It was tough going through my thirties, but I realized that unless I had a partner who was willing to split the work, it was not going to happen. And I didn't. So it didn't. I love kids, and luckily I have several kids in my life, but not for a second do I regret not having kids. PrettyTogether108 Report Final score: 33points POST N Miller N Miller Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This one. This is the one that resonates most strongly with me 9 9points reply #31 44 years old. All I've ever wanted in life was to have kids. I remember first making that decision when I was 6 years old. I vacillated on it until I was about 14, but once I stopped suffering from suicidal depression around then, I've been 100% dedicated to having kids - and trying to be the best parent I could ever be - since then.

I still have zero kids. That bums me out every day. laioren Report Final score: 33points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Adopt? Foster? Volunteer with kids? Be a Big Brother/Big Sister? I'm adopted myself; maybe that's why I never could understand why people "MUST" have their own biological children. (This only applies to people who end up like OP and say they "wish they had had children" and that they're super sad/unhappy that they ended up not having kids.) And no, not every adoption costs tens of thousands of dollars, and no, not every adopted/fostered child ends up Satan. Y'all are taking a risk on your own bio kids in that regard when you have them, too ;p 10 10points reply View more comments #32 Nearly 50, never regretted it. I knew from a very young age that I never wanted kids, and that hasn't changed. My wife is also happy with that fortunately. hurston Report Final score: 32points POST Ursula Johnson Ursula Johnson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Same here! Happily Childfree 9 9points reply View more comments #33 I literally don't know what to do with the unspent money at the end of the month. It is not like I earn a lot of money, but I don't have expensive tastes and my hobbies are pretty affordable.

I feel pretty good with my life. leto78 Report Final score: 32points POST Mrs Irish Mom Mrs Irish Mom Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Myself and husband has a 12 yo daughter, only wanted 1 so we could have freedom to pack up anytime and head off on holidays, daughter is like a lil best friend.. 4 4points reply View More Replies... View more comments #34 Honestly really good. When I was younger I had no idea how f****d up my childhood had left me (I was raised in a cult). Years of depression, poorly regulated emotions, twisted self-image, self harm - all stemming from undiagnosed complex PTSD. The one thing I knew was that I should not bring a child into my world and I was absolutely right. I would have been a terrible father. After years of therapy I am in a much better place and at peace with the fact I'll never have kids. Sometimes the best you can do is to parent yourself, be there for the other kids in your life and put a stop to the cycle of neglect sprucethemost Report Final score: 32points POST #35 I am 36 and my wife and I have pretty much settled on not having kids. We have discussed the idea a lot more recently since I just cannot see myself having a kid at 40 years old. I am nearing the last year or two when I would be comfortable raising a child. We are heavily leaning towards "no" for a few reasons. We really do enjoy our free time and comfortable financial situation. Both would be heavily impacted by a child. We also both have struggled with mental health issues through out our lives and have found a very comfortable, familiar lifestyle that helps to keep our depression at bay most of the time. We are both worried that our mental health would take a substantial dip while raising a child.

With that said, I constantly get this feeling that mid-30's me is making a decision that mid-60's me is going to heavily regret. I really love my family and can see how happy my parents are to have their children around in their lives at their age. I want that when I get older. I really do. I feel like I am going to be very starved for connections outside of my wife when I am in my 50s or older. JollyGreenGelatin Report Final score: 31points POST David Force David Force Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I hear you and can relate. My wife and I debated it too for the first ten years of our marriage. We went on great vacations, have excellent careers but something was missing. At age 40 my daughter was born and it was the best thing that ever happened to us. I can’t adequately explain the amount of pure love you give and get from your child, it’s deeper than the love you have for your parents, your siblings or even your wife. People without children will never be able to fully appreciate this. It’s nothing at all like watching anyone else’s children. There is a spiritual bond that just happens the first time the doctor lays that baby in your arms, at least it was that way for me. But you have to know your limitations too, and if mentally that is too big a bridge to cross then that’s perfectly understandable too. Good luck to you and your wife. 15 15points reply View More Replies... View more comments #36 Husband is 44 and I'm 38, we have zero regrets. You know what I didn't have to do last night? Argue with my kid about doing their homework. I only feel more and more confident in our decision as time goes on. You want kids? Have at it! But we are solidly in the Not Wanting Kids Camp. JustGenericName Report Final score: 31points POST See Also on Bored Panda Overworked Employee Quits Because He Wasn't Getting A Fair Wage, Costs The Company $40 Million 40 Embarrassing Moments People Didn't Know Who They Were Talking To And Made A Fool Of Themselves #37 I'm feeling smug as f**k to be honest. All those tantrums I never have to deal with. All those things I can just do spontaneously. All that money I'm not spending on b******t (except that b******t I like). All that worry and stress I don't have. All that time I have to do exactly what I want to do.



When I was a kid I couldn't wait to grow up and live by my own rules. Not that I planned anything wild. But simply having the freedom. I can't believe how readily people give that up! Mozambique_Sauce Report Final score: 30points POST Sarah SH Sarah SH Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Why do I hear this in my head with a frat boy voice? 10 10points reply View More Replies... View more comments #38 I'm 42.

When I was younger, I was sort of open to having kids, as in if someone gets pregnant, then so be it. But deep down I didn't actually want them, and never did.

I even had a pretty serious pregnancy scare with a gf when I was 30. Thank goodness we didn't have a kid. I can't imagine how bad that would have turned out.

Anyway, past 35, I became less open to the idea for a variety of reasons. Now, I absolutely know I don't want kids. I can't stand kids. Luckily my long term girlfriend also does not want kids. We are very firm in this stance. And at this point, what would I do, be 60+ when my kid graduates highschool? I had old parents, no thanks. dinnerwdr13 Report Final score: 30points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) My uncle got divorced from my aunt long long ago and ended up remarrying when he was in his late 60s, to a MUCH younger woman. He ended up having a son with her. My uncle is going to be 80 when my cousin graduates high school, IF my uncle lives that long. It's just my opinion, but to me it seemed extremely selfish of my uncle to have a child so late in life, and pretty unfair to his son. 9 9points reply View More Replies... View more comments #39 I’m in my 60s now and I regretted it for about 5 minutes when I was 38. That’s when my first niece was born and I thought I might be missing out Mysterious-Region640 , Thomas de LUZE Report Final score: 26points POST Aunt Riarch Aunt Riarch Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This is me, except that I was 46 when my first niece arrived. 1 1point reply View more comments #40 So, I may be the odd one out here, but hear me out. I always wanted kids (and a little part of me probably still does a teeny, tiny little bit). Husband was not so sure, after many discussions, decided to try for kids. Found out that both of us have reproductive issues. 2 tries at IVF with very poor results that meant we didn’t get far with the process. We decided that we could spend a fortune and maybe lose sanity over it, or just get on with our lives - we chose the latter.

I’m now 37 and although I think it would have been nice if we had kids when we were younger, I don’t really want them now. I have been able to care for my Grandmother until her death, also do a lot of caring for my mother in law until her death without the restrictions that children would have brought. My husband and I are on the cusp of realising our dream (which is costly and we may not have got there with the expense of kids) and can spend our free time on this dream. Plus I have developed a condition that gives me vertigo at a moments notice and can last for hours at a time and makes me quite tired - this would be so much harder to manage with kids in the picture.

My husband has many hobbies that he enjoys - he would be an amazing father, but to be that amazing father he feels that he would have to give it all up. I enjoy seeing him indulge in these hobbies. He works hard and it’s wonderful to have no resentment for him spending a lot of his free time how he wants.

I love kids, I get a lot of joy from spending time with my nieces, nephews, friends children and godchildren. I’m sure that I’m missing out on experiences that parents have, but I’m getting other experiences that they can’t have. And I’ve got a lot less grey hairs and wrinkles than my friends with children!!! Overall, it’s worked out for the best. I think that the main thing I want is to have a positive influence on a young persons life, and I like to think that I’m doing that anyway. mrsc_52 Report Final score: 25points POST #41 I'm in my 50s, I've come to realise to that I'm probably somewhere on the spectrum, I have my life together now but it's taken me this long to be comfortable with myself and get to a good place. I feel honestly it wouldn't have been fair to have had a family. I wouldn't have been a good partner or mother. I do have a good rapport with kids now. I'm a good aunt and really enjoy helping with youth groups but I value my own time too much. So no regrets at all. Some people just aren't parent material. New-Outlandishness28 Report Final score: 24points POST #42 58
I was always on the fence about it and in the end it wasn’t all my decision as an ectopic destroyed my tubes, but loving it so far. a4dONCA Report Final score: 23points POST #43 60F here. Not one moment of regret. My tubal ligation was actually my "wedding present" from my (now ex) husband. This was back when you practically HAD to be married, and even then it was a hassle for me since I had not had any children. (I know it's like this and so much worse now, but we had a few years of old white men NOT telling us what to do with our bodies in there).

I have many nieces and nephews, and Grand-niblets too. I enjoy them, but in very small doses. No_Cricket808 Report Final score: 23points POST Mora Chilis Mora Chilis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Grand-niblets 4 4points reply View More Replies... View more comments #44 I'm 38. I've been with my husband for 13 years. Neither one of us regrets not reproducing. Several of my friends have kids and it hasn't made me want them. I'm always glad I can return to a quiet house that doesn't have plastic kid toys strewn around everywhere. aninamouse Report Final score: 22points POST Adam Zad Adam Zad Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago You don't miss having Legos embedded in your sole? 1 1point reply #45 I feel good about it. I like children, but I like not having children better. My friends have kids and I love being an honorary aunt. keesouth Report Final score: 20points POST Ru Bee Ru Bee Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Yes... This! My two younger sisters are CF too.... We just don't want them. 2 2points reply #46 41 here and sooo thankful I never had kids. I am an immature gamer with autism who also doesn’t make a butt load of money so I feel like I made the right call. MosyFurBoy Report Final score: 20points POST See Also on Bored Panda 30 Of The Most Hectic Homes As Shared On 'The Broke Agent' Instagram Account Bride Doesn't Include Wedding Dinner Price In Her Wedding Invites, Is Surprised To See Many Guests Canceling On Her After They Find Out #47 It led to an uncomplicated life with less than usual financial difficulties. Now that I am 62 I can see some lonely times ahead. Especially if anything happens to my wife. Bork60 Report Final score: 19points POST Mae Grein Mae Grein Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Consider an active senior community when you start winding down. Lots of people your age many singles, planned activities and if something happens to you or your wife plenty of support (almost like family). 6 6points reply View more comments #48 I’m 41F and have zero regrets over having no children. My free time is mine to do with as I wish and I’m able to save aggressively towards retirement. I’m even more thankful that I never had children after going through a divorce, as there is nothing tying me to my ex-husband. It is much easier to heal and move forward with life when you can go no contact.

Edited to add that being in an aunt role is the best! I get to be fun and silly and get in touch with my inner child, but don’t have all the responsibility of a parent. MathematicianNo4633 , Mollie Sivaram Report Final score: 19points POST Tree P Tree P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I agree! I have five nieces, and I enjoy being an aunt to them. I do not hate kids, just never felt the desire to have them. My nieces are all I need. 0 0points reply #49 Best decision I ever made was my tubal ligation at age 23. Now just a couple years shy of 40.

No regrets whatsoever. Life has been dreamy, full of travel, great times, being there for people I love. Accomplished effectively everything I set out to do, just making new goals to meet. Student loans paid in full. 8+ hours of sleep every night helps too. SilverCityStreet Report Final score: 18points POST #50 My wife and I had no desire to have kids when we got together, later decided to give it a try but it didn't work out. Fast forward and her dad needs care. Dementia / physical stuff. Zero regrets now. Neither of us enjoyed taking care of him. Not the same thing but we both enjoy our independence.

Looking at things from a cost perspective, we are both successful in our careers and are on track to retire in our late 50s to early 60s and house should be paid off by then too (if we move I dunno).

Do I feel like I'm missing out? Sometimes. I have nieces and nephews though so eventually we will likely spoil them. oldfatdrunk Report Final score: 15points POST JM JM Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I physically could not have children and my husband was totally okay with that. I’ve know since I was a teenager that I did not want children. At menopause, for about a minute and a half I thought we might be missing out, but that feeling quickly passed. We’ve been together for 25 years and have zero regrets about not having children. Our life is full and happy with few complications and we like it like that. We have nieces we dearly love, but we have zero desire and zero regret regarding trying to create/adopt our own children. 3 3points reply Note: this post originally had 90 images. It’s been shortened to the top 50 images based on user votes. Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Add Your Answer! Not your original work? Add source Publish Change image Upload Photo Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Upload Upload Edit Image Error occurred when generating embed. Please check link and try again. Render conversation
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No justification to others needed. 3 3points reply Anna Anna Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Dear BP, I am sooo over the posts about not wanting children and the regretting having children, and the AITA because I chose to not procreate and I don't want to babysit my sister's kids. How about throwing in there something about the amazing things you get from life when you do have children? I guess that wouldn't be popular? It's fine that people don't want to have kids, but stop selling children as if it's the worst possible thing that can happen to you, and stop portraying parents as horrible people who never get a break. It isn't like that for everyone. It's quite the opposite for a lot of us. Thank you, Sincerely Mother (43) of a 16 month old (aka best decision I ever made!) 22 22points reply Kate Kate Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You're right, we definitely don't get "having kids is the BEST!" anywhere else, do we? 20 20points reply Load More Replies... Lily Mae Kitty Lily Mae Kitty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. you people with kids have facebook to post all your photos and brag about your kids and grandkids. That's all so many parents seem to do. Like there is nothing else in their lives. "Share if you have an awesome daughter!" -4 -4points reply bob van wijk bob van wijk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago This comment has been deleted. 0 0points reply Tams21 Tams21 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I'm with you on this. Yes, there are lots positive stories elsewhere but there are also lots of negative ones. I don't think it's unreasonable to want a balance of positive and negative and that's absolutely not the case with BP. I'm glad someone said it. 13 13points reply Mrs.Pugh Mrs.Pugh Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) I feel like a positive one came out these past few days. 0 0points reply Tenacious Squirrel Tenacious Squirrel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Sounds so much like the majorities saying stuff like “why don’t we have straight pride?”. You don’t understand that society prioritises and perpetuates the majority’s view point/expectations/prejudices. It’s saturated everywhere, not just in what people say and how they treat others but in the media, in societal “norms”, the workplace, families, upbringings, etc etc. People in a minority (such as those who are child free) are fed up of it. That includes procreation and everything that goes along with it. 10 10points reply Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago People choosing not to have kids are not a minority group the way you are portraying it. 12 12points reply Willow2 Willow2 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) I see what you're saying, but these type of posts feel like they're shaming people for wanting/having kids. Lgbtq+ posts are not shaming straight people. 7 7points reply Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago No. No one is being shamed for wanting kids or not wanting kids. As you said its a feeling. 4 4points reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Uhhh childfree people aren't treated badly in the media or in general. I don't know with whom you socialize but I never encountered anything of the sort -- and I hang out with all sorts of people from different social groups. You have a very skewed perspective to suggest that we are an oppressed minority like lgbtq. 4 4points reply Lily Mae Kitty Lily Mae Kitty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago PREACH! Exactly this. we're so sick and tired of being treated like we're somehow unnatural. -2 -2points reply Kristal Kristal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago They probably have these articles because everywhere else is "kids are so great". It's nice to have support for those of us that choose not to have children. There are plenty more magazines, blogs, FB groups that support having children, go read one of those instead. 8 8points reply My O My My O My Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Yes! 8 8points reply Little Wonder Little Wonder Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Anyone can write for Bored Panda, so go write one! Be the change you want to see in the world. 8 8points reply Claire Claire Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago So true! I see so many of such posts with people bitching about having to look after kids or seeing parents with kids or how great it is to not have kids, but they never have any posts from the perspective of happy parents who wanted to have kids and now are raising amazing families. I find all of these childfree posts rather negative since many paint the world to be a horrible place as if there are no happy families or proud parents. 8 8points reply Anna Anna Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I see the attacks here and I prove my point. They are just seeking validation for their choices through bashing people who've made a different decision. The entire point is to be negative and awful. Yuck. 2 2points reply Little Wonder Little Wonder Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago People stating an opposing opinion is not an attack. Look at it this way - having children is seen as the default state, so those of us who choose not to face some pretty nasty comments. I've even had a doctor try to refer me to a psychologist to "fix" my way of thinking as I was clearly "damaged". As I stated in an earlier reply - you can create posts here, so you should feel free to either have a look on reddit/twitter for pro-parent content, or create a "Hey pandas" style post so that parents can share what they love about parenting. 9 9points reply XenoMurph XenoMurph Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Yes, you have to respect the choices of people, and if they chose not to have children, that's fine. It's the "I high five my husband when we see someone else's brats" or "I totally have a great life of drink and holidays and hate that spoiled when a kid cries on the plane" It's the hate for anyone who disagrees, but that's just the world these days. 6 6points reply Tree P Tree P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. 1 1point reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) I don't think is it fair to tell them that. I am childfree and I visit family with children posts to comment. Some of these were harsh, not all like Claire said, but some were. I just read some of the comments made by kids reading these and they felt bad afterwards. I don't want to have kids but I don't hate them. I don't think bringing them down and making them feel bad is the right way. Plus, I already commented this before but BoredPanda has more childfree people -- there are much fewer posts about families with kids. Telling Claire to go make posts isn't fair either. Websites should be balanced I think. 4 4points reply Tree P Tree P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) There is a whole topic on parenting on BP. Isn't that enough? Maybe not. I don't go there because I am childless. Maybe there are no good posts for parents. 0 0points reply Joroches Joroches Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Oh be quiet. There are so many more posts about parents and the joys of parenthood than there are about people who made a choice not to have kids. You are ridiculous. 0 0points reply Claire Claire Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) Not the ones I have seen on this site. Every other day it is about how great it is being childfree or AITA posts which hate children. I guess that is the sort of crowd BP caters to. I don't actively search for posts or websites that talk about raising families I just read whatever pops up in my feed, but considering that this is the only thing that pops up in my feed about families, it gets tiring. Sure I can go make my own post about it, but as I said I guess the crowd on BP isn't going to like it. And for those who say that I have to respect other people's choices -- I do. My comment was about the negative ones that b***h about other people's kids or how one sided BP is about children/families. 10 10points reply LuckyDucky LuckyDucky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago True dat. I think it's fair to want to balance things out. I am a kid myself and these posts make me feel depressed about even existing. That one post about kids being a black hole that only eat or whatever did not make me feel good at all. I have a great family and I think we have done a lot of fun things together. 10 10points reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I am sorry you felt that way! There was another kid in the comments who also felt bad after reading these. Please don't think badly about yourself. 7 7points reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) Claire, as a childfree person myself, I do think that BoredPanda is more for childfree people but I admit some of these were rather negative about kids. I have nothing against kids myself and I understand the annoyance of always having childfree posts in your feed -- I haven't seen many family with kids posts lately either. There should be some at least. 7 7points reply Aisling Raye Aisling Raye Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago What is going on with your algorithm? You know it's based on what you look at right? I'm child free and I go months without seeing child free posts on BP. I see best parenting tweets or cute things kids say pretty often here though. I also know that I see that kind of content because I enjoy and interact with those types of posts. This all feels like people so bothered by those who don't want kids are looking for reasons to complain. I'm just saying that you don't need to hate scroll a site looking to be offended. It's very detrimental to your mental health to get stuck in a never ending cycle of hating everyone who sees the world even slightly different than you do. It's a silly site to kill time on. No one forces you to read these. It is very easy to skip what you don't feel like looking at. I do that almost every day on here. 1 1point reply Claire Claire Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago lol I commented on ONE childfree post after seeing and skipping so many on my feed, and you say that I am looking at childfree posts to be offended. I commented because I am annoyed that this is the only thing that pops up in my feed. It is tiring. I don't know what is going on with my algorithm because I don't actively look for childfree or with kids posts. I just open BP and see what the feed gives me. 4 4points reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) Joroches, there aren't many family-oriented posts on BoredPanda. I don't think they are being ridiculous over noticing that. BoredPanda (at least to me) always felt to be more of a childfree website, but because it isn't official, they do have a right to complain about the lack of balance in these posts. 6 6points reply Tree P Tree P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago This comment has been deleted. 0 0points reply Ladytron Ladytron Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Yeah but we all have different takes on this. I have 3 kids and am currently pregnant. I have nothing against wanting to have kids and enjoying parenthood (even if its not all rainbows and butterflies - let's be realistic). Bored panda is great in many ways but it IS mainly a childfree space. I think that needs to be respected as well. I mean there are lots of forums that are more about the positive parts of parenthood. Sometimes these types of posts bring out important subjects to discuss regardless (love that) or sometimes it's just venting (like this one). My recommendation would be to just scroll past the ones that you don't agree with. 7 7points reply Aaricia Aaricia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) The thing is, anywhere else are always 'children are so great! Or I think she's ready for a kid.' posts, I am sooo over those as well. Let people be. It also helps to only interact with the posts you LIKE, so the algorithm knows what you want to see and read. 5 5points reply 2picklesinabun 2picklesinabun Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I think all sides are f*****g annoying and people should stop comparing their lives and just LIVE it. Fuxsck 3 3points reply Joroches Joroches Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Social media is full of posts about how "great" it is to have children, it makes a change to read the other side. You obviously read the title of this post and thought "I know, why don't I let myself be offended because someone thinks differently to me". Grow up and get over yourself. I've spent my life being looked down on by smug people like you who feel superior just because they managed to procreate. These posts are refreshing but if you don't like the idea don't read them. Idiot. 3 3points reply madbakes madbakes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago There are parenting threads all the time 2 2points reply Deanna Crichley Deanna Crichley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago BS. We are treated weekly to the best parenting tweets, and crazy s@#t my toddler said. Spooky kids, and genius kids. 2 2points reply Little Wonder Little Wonder Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Anna, it's me again. I really do take your point, so I went ahead and created an Ask Pandas post https://www.boredpanda.com/?p=4413105 1 1point reply Tree P Tree P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. 0 0points reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) That goes both ways and I am childfree myself! I think most of people complaining are about really mean posts which bring people with kids or kids themselves down. I don't want to have kids, but I don't like it when people are mean to them like some of the comments/posts were. 8 8points reply Lily Mae Kitty Lily Mae Kitty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago then stick to FB and everywhere else in the whole freaking world, Anna. Sheesh. Us childless people are so sick and tired of people thinking we're somehow flawed b/c we can't have kids or don't want to have kids. I got married at 48 and was still pestered by so many people asking if we were going to try for kids or adopt. The whole world is geared towards you moms. Leave one place for the rest of us childless folk where we aren't made to feel bad for our choices or health issues. We're constantly made to feel like we are not woman enough or we're somehow unnatural. Or c**p like it wasn't god's will. -1 -1point reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Chill... I am childfree and I have never been put down for not having children by people who do have kids. I feel if you have an already preconceived, negative view about the world you will see an attack anywhere. You should work on yourself first. Although I always thought there were more childfree people on BoredPanda, it isn't for us officially so people with kids are allowed to be on here and complain that it isn't balanced -- which it isn't. I see a lot more childfree posts than any else on here and some are rather mean. Even I who isn't a kid anymore and do not have children feel bad after reading some of these. Telling them to leave is rude and segregates people rather than bring them together which is what we need to strive for. You acting like this only worsens the situation and doesn't make you any better. 6 6points reply Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) Holy c**p Lily Mae. Why do want to be labelled? No one has ever put c**p on me for not wanting kids. I am starting to think half these flame wars are just made up to divide people and 'pick a side'. Be bigger. I am trying. Its hard though. People are not black and white in their thinking the way these things are made out to be. Saying that, its time for me to bail again for a month or two. 5 5points reply Tigger Tigger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Why do these post's allways make people without kids sound like they're better and above people with kids. Some people like children and dont like cat's or dog's. 10 10points reply Anna Anna Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago That's my point exactly! It's like the have to validate their choices by attacking people who've chosen the opposite. I'm in my 40s and just had a child, guess what? I still travel a lot, I'm financially stable, house is paid, I'm not struggling at all and I'm thriving. Added bonus, my anxiety levels have gone down exponentially, it's ridiculous how worried I was about everything prior to having my child. I'm much more relaxed. 3 3points reply Load More Replies... Felisae Moon Felisae Moon Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I don't understand how can you feel "attacked" by that post, all of the bad things they mention about having children are true. Good for you that you enjoy being a parent, but you are actually lucky to still have the opportunity to do all of those things. 0 0points reply Joroches Joroches Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Okay Tigger, why did you even bother to read this article. Did you wake up this morning and decide to be offended by something that does not concern you or effect you. 1 1point reply Tigger Tigger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Joroches What a rude comment how TF do you know what does or doesn't effect me. It's probably something that doesn't concern you either, due to the fact that you're probably a lonely key board warrior. 4 4points reply Joroches Joroches Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Are you seriously calling me rude then immediately resorting to infantile name calling. You absurd hypocrite. 0 0points reply Tigger Tigger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) You need to calm down. And keep your rude angry comments to yourself. 2 2points reply Tigger Tigger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. 2 2points reply Teebteeb Teebteeb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Why did you bother reading his comment? Works both ways you egocentric maniac. -4 -4points reply bob van wijk bob van wijk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I like them all and rabbits. Don't forget rabbits. 0 0points reply Load More Comments POST Lisa T Lisa T Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I hate that society expects people to justify their reasons for not having kids. I’m 51 with three (adult) kids. I have a few friends my age who don’t have kids, and I have never asked them why. Like who cares, you do you. It’s nobody’s business but your own. 27 27points reply Michael Largey Michael Largey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago It should be the reverse. It's those who choose to have children who should have good reasons. 8 8points reply Load More Replies... A girl A girl Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You voiced my thoughts. A person/couple makes choices. No justification to others needed. 3 3points reply Anna Anna Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Dear BP, I am sooo over the posts about not wanting children and the regretting having children, and the AITA because I chose to not procreate and I don't want to babysit my sister's kids. How about throwing in there something about the amazing things you get from life when you do have children? I guess that wouldn't be popular? It's fine that people don't want to have kids, but stop selling children as if it's the worst possible thing that can happen to you, and stop portraying parents as horrible people who never get a break. It isn't like that for everyone. It's quite the opposite for a lot of us. Thank you, Sincerely Mother (43) of a 16 month old (aka best decision I ever made!) 22 22points reply Kate Kate Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago You're right, we definitely don't get "having kids is the BEST!" anywhere else, do we? 20 20points reply Load More Replies... Lily Mae Kitty Lily Mae Kitty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. you people with kids have facebook to post all your photos and brag about your kids and grandkids. That's all so many parents seem to do. Like there is nothing else in their lives. "Share if you have an awesome daughter!" -4 -4points reply bob van wijk bob van wijk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago This comment has been deleted. 0 0points reply Tams21 Tams21 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I'm with you on this. Yes, there are lots positive stories elsewhere but there are also lots of negative ones. I don't think it's unreasonable to want a balance of positive and negative and that's absolutely not the case with BP. I'm glad someone said it. 13 13points reply Mrs.Pugh Mrs.Pugh Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) I feel like a positive one came out these past few days. 0 0points reply Tenacious Squirrel Tenacious Squirrel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Sounds so much like the majorities saying stuff like “why don’t we have straight pride?”. You don’t understand that society prioritises and perpetuates the majority’s view point/expectations/prejudices. It’s saturated everywhere, not just in what people say and how they treat others but in the media, in societal “norms”, the workplace, families, upbringings, etc etc. People in a minority (such as those who are child free) are fed up of it. That includes procreation and everything that goes along with it. 10 10points reply Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago People choosing not to have kids are not a minority group the way you are portraying it. 12 12points reply Willow2 Willow2 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) I see what you're saying, but these type of posts feel like they're shaming people for wanting/having kids. Lgbtq+ posts are not shaming straight people. 7 7points reply Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago No. No one is being shamed for wanting kids or not wanting kids. As you said its a feeling. 4 4points reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Uhhh childfree people aren't treated badly in the media or in general. I don't know with whom you socialize but I never encountered anything of the sort -- and I hang out with all sorts of people from different social groups. You have a very skewed perspective to suggest that we are an oppressed minority like lgbtq. 4 4points reply Lily Mae Kitty Lily Mae Kitty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago PREACH! Exactly this. we're so sick and tired of being treated like we're somehow unnatural. -2 -2points reply Kristal Kristal Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago They probably have these articles because everywhere else is "kids are so great". It's nice to have support for those of us that choose not to have children. There are plenty more magazines, blogs, FB groups that support having children, go read one of those instead. 8 8points reply My O My My O My Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Yes! 8 8points reply Little Wonder Little Wonder Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Anyone can write for Bored Panda, so go write one! Be the change you want to see in the world. 8 8points reply Claire Claire Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago So true! I see so many of such posts with people bitching about having to look after kids or seeing parents with kids or how great it is to not have kids, but they never have any posts from the perspective of happy parents who wanted to have kids and now are raising amazing families. I find all of these childfree posts rather negative since many paint the world to be a horrible place as if there are no happy families or proud parents. 8 8points reply Anna Anna Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I see the attacks here and I prove my point. They are just seeking validation for their choices through bashing people who've made a different decision. The entire point is to be negative and awful. Yuck. 2 2points reply Little Wonder Little Wonder Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago People stating an opposing opinion is not an attack. Look at it this way - having children is seen as the default state, so those of us who choose not to face some pretty nasty comments. I've even had a doctor try to refer me to a psychologist to "fix" my way of thinking as I was clearly "damaged". As I stated in an earlier reply - you can create posts here, so you should feel free to either have a look on reddit/twitter for pro-parent content, or create a "Hey pandas" style post so that parents can share what they love about parenting. 9 9points reply XenoMurph XenoMurph Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Yes, you have to respect the choices of people, and if they chose not to have children, that's fine. It's the "I high five my husband when we see someone else's brats" or "I totally have a great life of drink and holidays and hate that spoiled when a kid cries on the plane" It's the hate for anyone who disagrees, but that's just the world these days. 6 6points reply Tree P Tree P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. 1 1point reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) I don't think is it fair to tell them that. I am childfree and I visit family with children posts to comment. Some of these were harsh, not all like Claire said, but some were. I just read some of the comments made by kids reading these and they felt bad afterwards. I don't want to have kids but I don't hate them. I don't think bringing them down and making them feel bad is the right way. Plus, I already commented this before but BoredPanda has more childfree people -- there are much fewer posts about families with kids. Telling Claire to go make posts isn't fair either. Websites should be balanced I think. 4 4points reply Tree P Tree P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) There is a whole topic on parenting on BP. Isn't that enough? Maybe not. I don't go there because I am childless. Maybe there are no good posts for parents. 0 0points reply Joroches Joroches Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Oh be quiet. There are so many more posts about parents and the joys of parenthood than there are about people who made a choice not to have kids. You are ridiculous. 0 0points reply Claire Claire Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) Not the ones I have seen on this site. Every other day it is about how great it is being childfree or AITA posts which hate children. I guess that is the sort of crowd BP caters to. I don't actively search for posts or websites that talk about raising families I just read whatever pops up in my feed, but considering that this is the only thing that pops up in my feed about families, it gets tiring. Sure I can go make my own post about it, but as I said I guess the crowd on BP isn't going to like it. And for those who say that I have to respect other people's choices -- I do. My comment was about the negative ones that b***h about other people's kids or how one sided BP is about children/families. 10 10points reply LuckyDucky LuckyDucky Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago True dat. I think it's fair to want to balance things out. I am a kid myself and these posts make me feel depressed about even existing. That one post about kids being a black hole that only eat or whatever did not make me feel good at all. I have a great family and I think we have done a lot of fun things together. 10 10points reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago I am sorry you felt that way! There was another kid in the comments who also felt bad after reading these. Please don't think badly about yourself. 7 7points reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) Claire, as a childfree person myself, I do think that BoredPanda is more for childfree people but I admit some of these were rather negative about kids. I have nothing against kids myself and I understand the annoyance of always having childfree posts in your feed -- I haven't seen many family with kids posts lately either. There should be some at least. 7 7points reply Aisling Raye Aisling Raye Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago What is going on with your algorithm? You know it's based on what you look at right? I'm child free and I go months without seeing child free posts on BP. I see best parenting tweets or cute things kids say pretty often here though. I also know that I see that kind of content because I enjoy and interact with those types of posts. This all feels like people so bothered by those who don't want kids are looking for reasons to complain. I'm just saying that you don't need to hate scroll a site looking to be offended. It's very detrimental to your mental health to get stuck in a never ending cycle of hating everyone who sees the world even slightly different than you do. It's a silly site to kill time on. No one forces you to read these. It is very easy to skip what you don't feel like looking at. I do that almost every day on here. 1 1point reply Claire Claire Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago lol I commented on ONE childfree post after seeing and skipping so many on my feed, and you say that I am looking at childfree posts to be offended. I commented because I am annoyed that this is the only thing that pops up in my feed. It is tiring. I don't know what is going on with my algorithm because I don't actively look for childfree or with kids posts. I just open BP and see what the feed gives me. 4 4points reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) Joroches, there aren't many family-oriented posts on BoredPanda. I don't think they are being ridiculous over noticing that. BoredPanda (at least to me) always felt to be more of a childfree website, but because it isn't official, they do have a right to complain about the lack of balance in these posts. 6 6points reply Tree P Tree P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago This comment has been deleted. 0 0points reply Ladytron Ladytron Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Yeah but we all have different takes on this. I have 3 kids and am currently pregnant. I have nothing against wanting to have kids and enjoying parenthood (even if its not all rainbows and butterflies - let's be realistic). Bored panda is great in many ways but it IS mainly a childfree space. I think that needs to be respected as well. I mean there are lots of forums that are more about the positive parts of parenthood. Sometimes these types of posts bring out important subjects to discuss regardless (love that) or sometimes it's just venting (like this one). My recommendation would be to just scroll past the ones that you don't agree with. 7 7points reply Aaricia Aaricia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) The thing is, anywhere else are always 'children are so great! Or I think she's ready for a kid.' posts, I am sooo over those as well. Let people be. It also helps to only interact with the posts you LIKE, so the algorithm knows what you want to see and read. 5 5points reply 2picklesinabun 2picklesinabun Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I think all sides are f*****g annoying and people should stop comparing their lives and just LIVE it. Fuxsck 3 3points reply Joroches Joroches Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Social media is full of posts about how "great" it is to have children, it makes a change to read the other side. You obviously read the title of this post and thought "I know, why don't I let myself be offended because someone thinks differently to me". Grow up and get over yourself. I've spent my life being looked down on by smug people like you who feel superior just because they managed to procreate. These posts are refreshing but if you don't like the idea don't read them. Idiot. 3 3points reply madbakes madbakes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago There are parenting threads all the time 2 2points reply Deanna Crichley Deanna Crichley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago BS. We are treated weekly to the best parenting tweets, and crazy s@#t my toddler said. Spooky kids, and genius kids. 2 2points reply Little Wonder Little Wonder Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Anna, it's me again. I really do take your point, so I went ahead and created an Ask Pandas post https://www.boredpanda.com/?p=4413105 1 1point reply Tree P Tree P Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. 0 0points reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) That goes both ways and I am childfree myself! I think most of people complaining are about really mean posts which bring people with kids or kids themselves down. I don't want to have kids, but I don't like it when people are mean to them like some of the comments/posts were. 8 8points reply Lily Mae Kitty Lily Mae Kitty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago then stick to FB and everywhere else in the whole freaking world, Anna. Sheesh. Us childless people are so sick and tired of people thinking we're somehow flawed b/c we can't have kids or don't want to have kids. I got married at 48 and was still pestered by so many people asking if we were going to try for kids or adopt. The whole world is geared towards you moms. Leave one place for the rest of us childless folk where we aren't made to feel bad for our choices or health issues. We're constantly made to feel like we are not woman enough or we're somehow unnatural. Or c**p like it wasn't god's will. -1 -1point reply What's in a name What's in a name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Chill... I am childfree and I have never been put down for not having children by people who do have kids. I feel if you have an already preconceived, negative view about the world you will see an attack anywhere. You should work on yourself first. Although I always thought there were more childfree people on BoredPanda, it isn't for us officially so people with kids are allowed to be on here and complain that it isn't balanced -- which it isn't. I see a lot more childfree posts than any else on here and some are rather mean. Even I who isn't a kid anymore and do not have children feel bad after reading some of these. Telling them to leave is rude and segregates people rather than bring them together which is what we need to strive for. You acting like this only worsens the situation and doesn't make you any better. 6 6points reply Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago (edited) Holy c**p Lily Mae. Why do want to be labelled? No one has ever put c**p on me for not wanting kids. I am starting to think half these flame wars are just made up to divide people and 'pick a side'. Be bigger. I am trying. Its hard though. People are not black and white in their thinking the way these things are made out to be. Saying that, its time for me to bail again for a month or two. 5 5points reply Tigger Tigger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Why do these post's allways make people without kids sound like they're better and above people with kids. Some people like children and dont like cat's or dog's. 10 10points reply Anna Anna Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago That's my point exactly! It's like the have to validate their choices by attacking people who've chosen the opposite. I'm in my 40s and just had a child, guess what? I still travel a lot, I'm financially stable, house is paid, I'm not struggling at all and I'm thriving. Added bonus, my anxiety levels have gone down exponentially, it's ridiculous how worried I was about everything prior to having my child. I'm much more relaxed. 3 3points reply Load More Replies... Felisae Moon Felisae Moon Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I don't understand how can you feel "attacked" by that post, all of the bad things they mention about having children are true. Good for you that you enjoy being a parent, but you are actually lucky to still have the opportunity to do all of those things. 0 0points reply Joroches Joroches Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Okay Tigger, why did you even bother to read this article. Did you wake up this morning and decide to be offended by something that does not concern you or effect you. 1 1point reply Tigger Tigger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Joroches What a rude comment how TF do you know what does or doesn't effect me. It's probably something that doesn't concern you either, due to the fact that you're probably a lonely key board warrior. 4 4points reply Joroches Joroches Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago Are you seriously calling me rude then immediately resorting to infantile name calling. You absurd hypocrite. 0 0points reply Tigger Tigger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) You need to calm down. And keep your rude angry comments to yourself. 2 2points reply Tigger Tigger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment has been deleted. 2 2points reply Teebteeb Teebteeb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 2 weeks ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. Why did you bother reading his comment? 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