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Man Returns His Fiancée s Wedding Dress To Respect His Mom s Vision Gets Screamed At

Ieva Gailiūtė and
Ilona Baliūnaitė
It's no secret that weddings are synonymous with stress as the pressure and expectations the happy couple feels to live up to are often off the charts. And among the many important decisions brides go through when planning one of the happiest days in their lives, the dress usually falls right at the top of the list. Finding the perfect gown that matches your personality and makes you feel and look beautiful is no easy task. But when you finally spot one and then discover your fiancé had the audacity to return it without your permission, well, you can only imagine this woman's fury. "I hate to admit that wedding planning has been an absolute nightmare," recently wrote a 28-year-old bride-to-be in the popular AITA subreddit. The woman reached out to the community to ask if she was wrong to blow up at her fiancé for refusing to find common ground (read: yield to ridiculous requests) with his mom. Turns out, the lady had a specific "vision" for the big day, and she wouldn't settle for anything less. Below, you can read the full story featuring the intrusive mother-in-law as well as the verdict readers were quick to deem. Then decide for yourself if the situation was handled appropriately, and be sure to weigh in on the discussion in the comments!

One bride recently shared how she blew up at her fiancé for returning the wedding dress without her permission

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Unsure of how to handle the situation the woman asked the internet for perspective

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Later on she added an update to clarify some details about the incident

After reading the woman's story, the community members were more than ready to express overwhelming support for the bride-to-be and sound the alarm about her relationship dynamics. The vast majority deemed that the mother-in-law and her son are in the wrong in this situation, with some even saying it's a good thing they showed their true colors right before tying the knot. It's easy to see why the whole incident deeply resonated with readers - everyone knows that getting along with in-laws and even tolerating them can be a difficult, if not impossible, task. As these strangers become a part of your family together with your other half, finding common ground can be hard. Previously, we reached out to Dr. Nathalie Martinek, Ph. D., a narcissism hacker and relationship coach, to gain more insight on difficult in-law relationships. According to her, there may be many reasons why getting along with your partner's parents can seem tricky. "Often, the partner is seen as an inadequate match for their son or daughter due to their personality, their profession, education level, upbringing or culture," she told Bored Panda. The expert also pointed out it can especially be challenging for women when their mother-in-law sees them as a competitor for their attention. "Mother-in-laws who are possessive over their son feel insecure about her son's degree of loyalty and want to be the most important woman in her son's life by continually having an influence over his feelings and choices." In these cases, the mother may seek to control her son's decisions once he creates a relationship by "using emotional manipulation tactics to keep her son close and dependent on his mother's approval because he still needs this to feel secure and stable." Dr. Martinek argued that sadly, men are often oblivious to their mother's attempts to drive a wedge between the couple "by using methods to undermine the daughter-in-law/partner, like criticizing her character, appearance, housekeeping, parenting or profession to cause tension in the couple's relationship so that the son runs back to his mother every time her tactics cause conflict." She noted that some mothers-in-law consistently try to ruin the relationship, whether consciously or not, until they can restore the parent-child dynamic they once had with their sons. The interesting part is that the mother may not even realize she's behaving this way. Moreover, her son may have difficulties acknowledging these harmful patterns, even if his partner who notices them points them out. "Relationships are hard enough between two people without the interference of parents or anyone else. While some parents want their children to believe that meddling or offers of advice mean they care, it can often mean that the parents haven't been able to let go of their adult child and still want to be seen as the most important person in that adult child's life," Dr. Martinek concluded. Bored Panda would love to hear your thoughts about this situation. Feel free to share your opinions about the fiancé's actions and the way the bride-to-be handled the whole incident in the comments below!

Readers unanimously sided with the bride with many suggesting that her fiancé s behavior was a huge red flag

Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Ieva Gailiūtė Ieva Gailiūtė Writer, BoredPanda staff Ieva is a writer at Bored Panda who graduated in Scandinavian studies from Vilnius University. After learning the Swedish language and getting completely lost in the world of Scandinavian mythology, she figured out that translating and writing is what she's passionate about. When not writing, Ieva enjoys making jewelry, going on hikes, reading and drinking coffee. Read more » Ilona Baliūnaitė Ilona Baliūnaitė Author, BoredPanda staff Ilona is a photo editor at Bored Panda with an MA in Communication Of Creative Society. Before Bored Panda, she worked as a social media manager and freelance graphic designer. When she is not photoshopping or searching for the most interesting photos for stories, she is usually watching good movies and says that The Godfather is the best. Read more » Show All Contributors Get the latest inspiring stories via our awesome iOS app! Download Bored Panda app! You May Like MIL Is Left Sobbing On The Floor After She Showed Up To Wedding Wearing A White Dress And One Bridesmaid "Fixed" It With Some Red Wine Mantas Kačerauskas "Am I The Jerk For Asking My MIL To Leave Our Wedding Because Her Perfume Was Bothering Me?" Mantas Kačerauskas "AITA For Kicking A Server Out Of My Wedding?" 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This would only get worse and worse. 82 82points reply Allison B Allison B Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Agreed. I mean I often think the aita posts where commenter tell OP to leave their SO are too quick to do so but in this case she should definitely leave. This is a bad and creepy situation. 29 29points reply Load More Replies... Phoebe Bean Phoebe Bean Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Does anyone know the outcome of this story? 7 7points reply madbakes madbakes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago There haven't been any updates. I checked reddit since badger's comment was so helpful /s 4 4points reply badger badger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago did you want me to read it for you? let me hurry off & do that now. /s 1 1point reply Stacey Rae Stacey Rae Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Wow, chill badger 0 0points reply badger badger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago the reddit thread is linked in the article 2 2points reply Metaniel Metaniel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago But it's closed and it's throwaway account, so I don't think we will get an update 2 2points reply v v Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I doubt she did. A number of people mentioned it and she even replied to a few of them without even acknowledging the part where they told her to leave. 2 2points reply Dre Mosley Dre Mosley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago NTA. Run. Don't marry this Mama's Boy. Your future MIL clearly is controlling and won't respect boundaries. Take his ring off and throw it at him 41 41points reply Alan Jarvis Alan Jarvis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago In the words of a famous celebrity serial bride throw the ring at him darling but keep the stone. Zsa Zsa Gabor 24 24points reply Load More Replies... joanne lewis joanne lewis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Oh my God, yes! I agree. This is just the tip of the iceberg. A man who doesn't set a line in the sand for you and put you above his immediate family, isn't worth your time. If you end up getting married, he will never defend you against his mom. You will forever be a floor mat to them both and eventually this will drive a wedge anyways. Save yourself the pain and heartache and move on. They are REAL men out there that will respect you and put you first. Good luck, I hope you see this as a wake up call. 2 2points reply S S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago If you marry him you're an idiot. Full blown moron. 40 40points reply Elizabeth Rose Elizabeth Rose Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I mean, that's harsh & I know you're just trying not to mince words but who among us hasn't made a couple of unsavory choices when it comes to love? She's still young too. I hope she splits faster than bananas, but I know love can really cloud your judgement & make you second guess yourself like "is it me or is this pretty messed up?" Been there. Prefer cats. 7 7points reply Load More Replies... Kathy Grimm Kathy Grimm Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago She's telling the truth, if she marries this momma's boy, her life will be a living Hell. He should marry mommy. 2 2points reply K B K B Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Not me! It takes more than love for a relationship to be healthy. It was drilled in me by my wonderful parents that respect should be foremost when choosing a mate. However, in order for respect to be foremost, you must have standards and boundaries that are clear and firmly upheld. There are times for compromise, but never your standards and boundaries. Clearly, this young woman has ignored multiple incidents of disrespect. That's why the fiance was emboldened to return the dress. In any failed relationship, both parties share blame. Although, the fiance of this lady carries more blame, she bears some too. And yes, this relationship is a failure. Because the fiance will always put mom first, this relationship can't be saved. 0 0points reply Load More Comments POST Kensi Kensi Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I really hope this lady run and called off the wedding. This would only get worse and worse. 82 82points reply Allison B Allison B Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Agreed. I mean I often think the aita posts where commenter tell OP to leave their SO are too quick to do so but in this case she should definitely leave. This is a bad and creepy situation. 29 29points reply Load More Replies... Phoebe Bean Phoebe Bean Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Does anyone know the outcome of this story? 7 7points reply madbakes madbakes Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago There haven't been any updates. I checked reddit since badger's comment was so helpful /s 4 4points reply badger badger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago did you want me to read it for you? let me hurry off & do that now. /s 1 1point reply Stacey Rae Stacey Rae Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Wow, chill badger 0 0points reply badger badger Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago the reddit thread is linked in the article 2 2points reply Metaniel Metaniel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago But it's closed and it's throwaway account, so I don't think we will get an update 2 2points reply v v Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I doubt she did. A number of people mentioned it and she even replied to a few of them without even acknowledging the part where they told her to leave. 2 2points reply Dre Mosley Dre Mosley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago NTA. Run. Don't marry this Mama's Boy. Your future MIL clearly is controlling and won't respect boundaries. Take his ring off and throw it at him 41 41points reply Alan Jarvis Alan Jarvis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago In the words of a famous celebrity serial bride throw the ring at him darling but keep the stone. Zsa Zsa Gabor 24 24points reply Load More Replies... joanne lewis joanne lewis Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Oh my God, yes! I agree. This is just the tip of the iceberg. A man who doesn't set a line in the sand for you and put you above his immediate family, isn't worth your time. If you end up getting married, he will never defend you against his mom. You will forever be a floor mat to them both and eventually this will drive a wedge anyways. Save yourself the pain and heartache and move on. They are REAL men out there that will respect you and put you first. Good luck, I hope you see this as a wake up call. 2 2points reply S S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago If you marry him you're an idiot. Full blown moron. 40 40points reply Elizabeth Rose Elizabeth Rose Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I mean, that's harsh & I know you're just trying not to mince words but who among us hasn't made a couple of unsavory choices when it comes to love? She's still young too. I hope she splits faster than bananas, but I know love can really cloud your judgement & make you second guess yourself like "is it me or is this pretty messed up?" Been there. Prefer cats. 7 7points reply Load More Replies... Kathy Grimm Kathy Grimm Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago She's telling the truth, if she marries this momma's boy, her life will be a living Hell. He should marry mommy. 2 2points reply K B K B Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Not me! It takes more than love for a relationship to be healthy. It was drilled in me by my wonderful parents that respect should be foremost when choosing a mate. However, in order for respect to be foremost, you must have standards and boundaries that are clear and firmly upheld. There are times for compromise, but never your standards and boundaries. Clearly, this young woman has ignored multiple incidents of disrespect. That's why the fiance was emboldened to return the dress. In any failed relationship, both parties share blame. Although, the fiance of this lady carries more blame, she bears some too. 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