50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents
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Publish Not your original work? Add source It's not unusual to have a more or less complicated relationship with your parents. After all, they're human just like you, navigating the same complex feelings and emotions. However, there's a line between familial disagreement and toxic behavior. And Reddit user snoofle-science wanted to find it. So they made a post on the platform, asking its users to share what signs have they noticed indicate that their moms and dads were lousy caregivers. From not being able to show affection to desperate attention cravings, here are some of the most popular problems that people attribute to their upbringing. This post may include affiliate links. #1 You feel intimidated by everyone around you, you feel like you're never good enough for anyone, no matter how much they tell you that you don't need to try so hard, and you generally have low self-worth.
Edit: Wow. I don't know whether to feel encouraged that so many people know where I’m coming from with this, or heartbroken about it. Either way, thank you, everyone. mR-gray42 , Anubhav Saxena Report 499points POST a fruity dream of delusion a fruity dream of delusion Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago ah. okay. i’m.. a little concerned for myself now, as i relate to all of these. 113 113points reply View More Replies... View more comments #2 A second chance to do it better when you have kids. Every time I got angry or upset with my own children, I would take a breath and think about what my mom would do—and then do the exact opposite. Lots of laughter and forgiveness in our house and zero violence. My mantra has always been “there is value in a bad example.” Slow-Distribution119 , Ilya Pavlov Report 469points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Well done!!!! I admire and respect your courage and sanity. 142 142points reply View more comments #3 Never believing a compliment. Always being anxious that people are mad at you/ignoring you if they're being quiet/not responding. Not being able to deal with confrontation/conflict in a constructive/healthy way.
Basically you get shitty people skills and emotional damage. nisharfa , Joice Kelly Report 446points POST Rylosalex Rylosalex Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Same here. Whenever someone told me that I did a good job on something I would instantly think "Did I really do a good job? or is she/he just feeling sorry for me?" 94 94points reply View More Replies... View more comments #4 Doing everything yourself, not asking for help, because you knew no help was coming.
nch1307 , frank mckenna Report 446points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Was shocked reading a re-imagined story about Cinderella " other kids knew they could ask any adult for help - and get it, not Rella ". My sister and I were both kind of Cinderella. 62 62points reply View More Replies... View more comments #5 Over-explain the tiniest issues because of a compulsive need to justify every thought, action or inaction darermave Report 413points POST Jeffery Jeffery Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago As well as an ability to lie wonderuflly... 133 133points reply View More Replies... View more comments #6 You can't identify your own emotions immediately, or sometimes at all, but can identify others without them having to say a word. Don't know how to react to things in the moment, and are extremely mature for your age. Mature kids often aren't a result of great parenting. Louminous19 , Arwan Sutanto Report 369points POST a fruity dream of delusion a fruity dream of delusion Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago i cannot say enough how true this is. i’ve wondered why i am always so uncomfortable if i am unable to read someone, and this really explains it. 85 85points reply View More Replies... View more comments #7 The panicked rush to jump and start “doing something” when you hear someone come in the house. Lest you be subjected to a barrage of insults and commands. sadhandjobs , Volha Flaxeco Report 361points POST Kristi Savage Cook Kristi Savage Cook Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago OMG this! Heaven forbid I'd be resting while nobody was home to see or comment.... 102 102points reply View more comments #8 I had to sneak out of the house through my bedroom window to go to school and take my finals because my mom locked my room from the outside. This was punishment because I wouldn’t do the dishes because I was cramming for my exams. To top it off after she locked me in my room she went to the breaker and turned off the lights to my bedroom so I wouldn’t have any lighting to study and I had to spend the whole night studying with a flashlight.
I aced all my exams. And instead of my mother being proud of me she locked me up in my room for a week for sneaking out.
I ended up going to college and grad school in STEM and made something of myself. And now she brags to people that I am successful because of her. When she says that I tell her and everyone “absolutely not! I’m successful DESPITE her”. Witty_Goose_7724 Report 361points POST weewoo weewoo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago oh i am so happy for this person. they managd to get good grades with bad parents? now thats a great achievment 152 152points reply View More Replies... View more comments #9 Why is nobody mentioning the silent foot steps?
When you grow up with parents that will yell at you for existing you develop the ability to hide your presence as much as possible and always try to keep your noise and visibility to a minimum. xaxiwan102 , Jake Hills Report 355points POST weewoo weewoo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago and you also leanr whos steps are whos when they are walking up and down the stairs. 179 179points reply View More Replies... View more comments #10 Emotional numbness especially in the face of bad things. Once you've seen enough shit certain things just don't faze you anymore UnhappyField102 , - - Report 319points POST SparkleFarts SparkleFarts Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago And not knowing how to comfort someone. Like I know I should feel something, but I just don't. 126 126points reply View More Replies... View more comments #11 Okay lets do it -
self doubt, self esteem issues and overall not feeling good enough or feeling like you have an intense obligation or expectation to fulfil to keep your parents happy.
The inability to know what you want or not knowing how to say no when someone asks something of you in fear they will react poorly.
Inability to be assertive and telling people what you are/aren't ok with.
Not having high values of yourself and putting everyone else before you.
Feeling guilt the minute you 'let someone down.'
TRIGGER WORDS - example 'I'm disappointed'
Having a habit of toxic and repetitive relationships with friends and partners. Also switching around friend groups often or having little to none.
Feeling emotionally inept or being extremely emotional and feeling like you cannot express it.
Difficulty with maintaining life skills, self care, hygiene, finances ect
feeling like a child stuck in an adults body anon Report 299points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yes all of these are too familiar. 79 79points reply View More Replies... View more comments #12 You apologize for everything you do, good or bad. JBLBEBthree , Arif Riyanto Report 260points POST a fruity dream of delusion a fruity dream of delusion Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago i apologize because i’m just worried that i might mess something up. 70 70points reply View More Replies... View more comments #13 Paranoia when people are just being nice. Like why are you being friendly? What do I have that you want from me? chilifavela , Fernando @cferdophotography Report 260points POST Zara (she/they) Zara (she/they) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago i understand this but idk why!!! 42 42points reply View More Replies... View more comments #14 Being a people-pleaser to the point of it being detrimental to yourself Wips_and_Chains , Ryoji Iwata Report 253points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Oh yes! 35 35points reply View More Replies... View more comments #15 being really good at hiding things (physical or mental). being able to sneak something to my room, being able to look like i haven't cried even though i was five minutes ago. soggy-sleeves , bady abbas Report 241points POST Agent 8433599 Agent 8433599 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I relate to this the most. 43 43points reply View More Replies... View more comments #16 Being afraid that you'll continue the cycle and treat your kids terribly EnialisHolimion , Kelli McClintock Report 240points POST a fruity dream of delusion a fruity dream of delusion Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago i don’t want kids. mostly because i know there is no way i would be able to handle them. 97 97points reply View More Replies... View more comments #17 You are in your 40s and still crave attention and validation from anyone at all because you were ignored all the time. JBLBEBthree , Alex Blăjan Report 231points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) ::raises hand:: I'm 40 right now and I still have "the class clown" personality because at least if people are laughing at me, they're paying attention to me, right? Right?! 113 113points reply View More Replies... View more comments #18 When i tell stories of my childhood that i think are funny but my friends stare in horror probablykelz , Daiga Ellaby Report 228points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago "Haha, omg guys, so once when I was 6, my dad was about to leave on a business trip and my mom grabbed me, pressed the revolver she'd gotten from my grandpa into my throat under my chin, and told my dad that if he left on one more business trip, she'd kill us kids and then herself! Isn't that hilarious?" (that is a true story from my childhood, sadly) 219 219points reply View More Replies... View more comments #19 Being surprised people will apologize and want to talk out and deal with an issue instead of screaming and pretending everything is fine and never mentioning why there was a fight or argument at all. ToastedMaple , kevin laminto Report 220points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I was always terrified of my mother as a young child, because one moment she would be screaming at me, beating me, and throwing me across the room, and then 5 minutes later she'd come into the room smiling with a plate of cookies she'd just baked all "Do you want a cookie, Cryssie?" I was off-balance all the time because I had NO idea what I'd done to make her angry, nor why she suddenly wasn't angry AT ALL any more, and I was terrified that I'd do whatever I'd done to p**s her off again and she'd go nuclear again in the next 30 seconds. I had no idea that that wasn't normal. 114 114points reply View More Replies... View more comments #20 When you really don’t remember any good times you spent with them. AverageLegoGameFan , Juliane Liebermann Report 207points POST Lisa H Lisa H Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago There were some good times in my childhood, but I was constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop because it always, always did. Every day, good or bad, would end with my dad being in a bad mood for some stupid reason. 91 91points reply View More Replies... View more comments #21 Not reacting appropriately to ordinary situations. Usually an overreaction to a normal situation or underreacting to very messed up situations. ESQBOJaguar , Justin Snyder Photo Report 200points POST Alexia Alexia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yeah. This is when survival instincts kick in, based on previous experience with your parents. I overreacted so many times in normal situations, because I felt in danger - and obviously this affected my relationships. 40 40points reply View more comments #22 My dad was yelling at me once and I couldn't take it so I made a snappy comment back. Instinctively I threw my hands up to block the blow I knew was coming. But then they both tried to convince me that my dad has never hit me before and why would I act like that.....so physically abusive and mentally abusive with gas lighting DV_Police10 , Caleb Woods Report 195points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago My older sister gets pissed when I talk about how abusive my mother was towards me. She'll say "Mom never HIT you!" Uh, mom used to cut me with the kitchen knives, not just hit me/throw me across the room. But my sister is my parents' biological child, and I'm adopted. My sister is just like my mother and is/was "the perfect child", so she was never yelled at or hit while we were growing up. 82 82points reply View More Replies... View more comments #23 Someone raises their voice- doesn't even have to be in anger; they could just have a deep voice but suddenly its *loud* - and your first reaction is to either shrink in on yourself or focus on anything but their face and wait for your throat to stop feeling so tight or for your eyes to stop watering. Coffee_Addict019 Report 183points POST a fruity dream of delusion a fruity dream of delusion Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago this!!! i have never been able to describe the feeling i get when someone becomes loud- it has always terrified me. 67 67points reply View More Replies... View more comments #24 Can’t explain myself without crying iiJojo Report 182points POST Brazen Brazen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Frustration tears, angry tears, sad tears, and tears from laughing too hard...basically all the crying. I'd give anything for this to not be a knee jerk reaction from my body. 91 91points reply View More Replies... View more comments #25 When, as an adult, you witness an example of good parenting - and experience a sense of shock, and get dizzy. Journeyman-Joe , Sarah Medina Report 169points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago THIS. Spent a weekend at a friend's home. Was shocked how nice her parents were. Was shocked how she could joke *with* them. 68 68points reply View More Replies... View more comments #26 You remember being severely neglected yet you were told “you are spoiled.” Embarrassed-Swan3568 , Kelly Sikkema Report 164points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm apparently "spoiled" because I was adopted! My biological mother was an unmarried alcoholic/drug addict who already had two other children (from unknown fathers) and she didn't even have working utilities in her trailer. I was told from a very early age (5ish or so) that I needed to be grateful because I had been taken away from such a HORRIBLE situation and brought to have a "normal" life. Apparently that = me being spoiled. 59 59points reply View More Replies... View more comments #27 Unable to form or desire romantic attachments and not to forget the numerous mental illnesses you have no control over because your parent doesn’t believe in poor mental health so allowed you to go undiagnosed your whole life :) ooopsadestructy , Dương Hữu Report 156points POST alex cosgrove alex cosgrove Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Mine treated me like I was slow. My twin was very book smart. Took a therapist when I was 16 to test my math skills (first diagnosis) and at 23 I got the full testing to find out, nope not slow.. lots of mental disabilities.. I cried hysterically because I finally had a name to the learning disabilities that plagued my life. Best day of my life. 89 89points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective #28 A fantastic sense of humor bombaderogato , Priscilla Du Preez Report 154points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Making jokes hides the pain! If you can make others laugh, even if they're laughing AT you, then you are a-o-kay. I'm a master "class clown"/comedian and most of my jokes are self-deprecating. 78 78points reply View More Replies... View more comments #29 Not being able to recognize affection or how to show it healthily. TwoLaysea Report 152points POST Brazen Brazen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Wanting it and not getting healthy affection is equally as painful. 64 64points reply View More Replies... View more comments #30 - Thinking you do everything wrong, even small daily tasks, and at a certain moment you hear other people compliment you about doing it well or asking why I am a perfectionist.
- Always apologizing for everything, multiple times
- When people say something, you suspect that they mean something else, something you did wrong, buy they won't tell you until they get so mad they burst.
- Extremely nauseous feelings when someone gets irritated or angry Ananoriel Report 150points POST Kristi Savage Cook Kristi Savage Cook Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I've tried to explain to my husband what it's like to ALWAYS feel that things are my fault. If anyone is ever unhappy in my circle, it's my fault and it's my responsibility to fix what's wrong. I think it It must be amazing not to feel this way. 53 53points reply View More Replies... View more comments #31 I can never open up to them. No matter how big or small my problems are, because they'll just tell me I'm being dramatic. notcindymae Report 149points POST SparkleFarts SparkleFarts Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yep. There have been a lot of days lately when I really needed to "talk to my mom" but that's just not an option 47 47points reply View More Replies... View more comments #32 You don't talk to them anymore or want them in your life otherwise as an adult (e.g., not inviting them to your wedding, or want them around any potential children you may have). Cuish Report 132points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Cutting off all contact was one of the sanest things I have ever done for myself. And telling social services that my nephews must a NEVER be left alone with either grandparent was also. edit:Life is a bit complicated for them. 59 59points reply View more comments #33 Lot of anger problems Samuelwankenobi_ Report 130points POST SparkleFarts SparkleFarts Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Because anger was the only acceptable emotion 56 56points reply View More Replies... View more comments #34 They don’t want you to have any better of a life than they did tunaball25 , Luemen Rutkowski Report 117points POST Hatred Pony Hatred Pony Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 week ago So much this. I had several opportunities as a teen that were never even discussed but shot down immediately. A trip to Greece for $400 with my class (better believe I would try to scrape that money together for my kids), an invitation to study abroad and the big one, admittance into art school my junior year of highschool. My mom never wanted me to succeed or have anything better than she ever had and she pulled opportunities out from under me any chance she had. I even won "sweetheart" at a Valentine's dance at church as a kid, I was so thrilled then because I never won a thing. In the car on the way home she told me about a lady who said I was very rude to her when she said I looked pretty. I couldn't then recall anything close to this situation , she called me a liar and made me feel awful. It wasn't until much later in life that I realized she was the liar. 64 64points reply View More Replies... View more comments #35 My mother treats me like her personal therapist and I'm only 17. She asks me where she went wrong in raising my brother and I and I don't want to tell her because I'm scared of her when she yells. Extension_Payment525 Report 116points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Oh yes. Recognize this one. 25 25points reply View more comments #36 Apologizing constantly Stopsign09 , Jack Lucas Smith Report 112points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I still apologize to the wall when I bump into it. 47 47points reply View More Replies... View more comments #37 Even at 31 feeling like if I get close to anyone they'll find a way to take advantage of me NoticeWhenUAreHappy Report 111points POST Kristi Savage Cook Kristi Savage Cook Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Or they'll find out who you are 54 54points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Overworked Employee Quits Because He Wasn't Getting A Fair Wage, Costs The Company $40 Million 40 Embarrassing Moments People Didn't Know Who They Were Talking To And Made A Fool Of Themselves #38 Feeling weird when people tell you that they love you, recieving hugs, feeling weirded out when you have to give hugs, and my personal favorite, being at the end of the favorite's list jaynvius Report 110points POST a fruity dream of delusion a fruity dream of delusion Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago i like hugs. but one of my friends constantly calls me her favorite, and is very affectionate, and i get very confused. like, why me?? 28 28points reply View More Replies... View more comments #39 You're raised by people who can barely function, people who are basically at subsistence level. So you have no tools to be successful in the real world. There's no support other than vague crappy advice to just keep plugging along. You know that everything you get in life can disappear in a moment, and no one will be there to provide for you. Worse, your parents are expecting that you'll somehow magically provide for them in their old age. They send you out into the world with worse-than-s**t life skills, and they expect you to support them. paxinfernum Report 110points POST T'Mar of Vulcan T'Mar of Vulcan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago When your valid feelings are dismissed with the words, "You've got to be better than that." 26 26points reply View More Replies... View more comments #40 Not knowing a lot of things that are "common sense" and not realizing til you're an adult yourself maggyta10 Report 96points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yes as a student nurse there were some really basic things I didn't know. Like where adults use talc powder. *arm pits and groin. 19 19points reply View More Replies... View more comments #41 If you're the eldest, an extreme urge to help and "save" your younger siblings, even to the detriment of your own mental health. monster3381 , Juliane Liebermann Report 94points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm the youngest and I constantly tried to save my older sister. From her drug addictions, from the poverty, from her abusive husband.....and so on. It was *all* my fault. 31 31points reply View More Replies... View more comments #42 When you are telling a story which you think is a funny story from your childhood, only for someone to turn around and tell you "That's not normal".
If you've grown up in a very dysfunctional household, then not only is your norm set at a very messed up bar, but things that would be horrifying to others might be funny to you because of where your norm was set at. Examples of this can include "funny stories" that actually featured a lot of violent or neglect. Creative_Recover , https://unsplash.com/photos/VTE4SN2I9s0 Report 90points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Yep. I've told my friends "funny stories" of times when my mom cut me with kitchen knives, or times when she'd hit me only below the neck so that "no one would see the bruises", or how funny it was that when I was small and light, she'd throw me across the room and into the walls. My friends would be all O_O; and then hug me. 38 38points reply View More Replies... View more comments #43 Parents that lean more on you in rough times when it should be 100% the other way around WeLoveYouJoshua Report 88points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I was 18 and planning to move out, when my dad had an accident that resulted in a catastrophic brain injury. He had such extensive brain damage that he was bedridden, could not speak/communicate or understand, had to wear diapers, and had to have a feeding tube installed. My mother refused to hire professional caregivers for him, so I was his primary caregiver for the next 21 years (he died last year). I never moved out. My dad was a wonderful person and a great father, so I willingly cared for him because I loved him, but it was pretty awful that my mother assumed that well OF COURSE I'd stay living at home and take care of him so that she could go to the casinos/on vacation whenever she wanted. 55 55points reply View More Replies... View more comments #44 You can’t stick to your boundaries Jaded_Research_2099 Report 83points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago What are boundaries? Had to learn about them from a psychologist. 45 45points reply View More Replies... View more comments #45 Uncomfortably into Disney stuff well into old age. I've noticed that a lot of hardcore Disney fans AS ADULTS (I'm talking people who buy the plates, cups, figures, cookie jars, plush characters, etc) often have had bad parents or experiences as a kid. They probably are trying to hold on to some child like feeling that's still in them. Idk.
There's nothing wrong with being into Disney, but, at a certain point, I have to question what exactly went down in your household as a kid. josiahcruz__ , PAN XIAOZHEN Report 80points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm not into Disney specifically, but I'm 40 and I still buy stuffed animals for myself quite often. 55 55points reply View More Replies... View more comments #46 Self-harm such as cutting SuvenPan Report 78points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago And taking far too many pills and alcohol just to stop thinking about it all. 30 30points reply View More Replies... View more comments #47 Always screaming. Always angry. Never showed any physical affection. Completely out of tune with their children's lives. dryintentions Report 75points POST Alana Voeks Alana Voeks Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Heyyyyyy. This is me 100%. Also never giving any life lessons, like don't lose your virginity to someone who shows you romantic affection for the first time! (Or ever teaching me about sex. Still yet to be taught, they still think I'm a virgin.) 12 12points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda 30 Of The Most Hectic Homes As Shared On 'The Broke Agent' Instagram Account Bride Doesn't Include Wedding Dinner Price In Her Wedding Invites, Is Surprised To See Many Guests Canceling On Her After They Find Out #48 I knew how to open a beer and pour it with minimal foam for my mom while she was driving. RedFlare15 Report 71points POST Nancy Tate-Leach Nancy Tate-Leach Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Oh boy 32 32points reply View more comments #49 You call them for advice and they give you literally the worst advice ever. So you have been doing the opposite haha youareverygood8 Report 69points POST Ronald Cookson Ronald Cookson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Hearing the phrase " when life hands you lemons,make lemonade" is the most repeated and worthless platitude I've ever heard.makes me want to choke the ever loving s**t out of the person who says it. 27 27points reply View More Replies... View more comments #50 They told me the wrong date was my birthday. Didnt find out until my sixteenth birthday going for my drivers licence. Couldnt be bothered with getting it right, real nice of them. Argybargyass Report 67points POST Alana Voeks Alana Voeks Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Mine is just always forgotten. 10/23. Not hard to remember, yet no one ever can. It's literally 0123 with the 0 and 1 flipped. It's not that hard. And I've never been anywhere even out of the city for my birthday because "education" was so "important" here. But since my brother's birthday was during the summer, we've celebrated his every time we went on vacation. 20 20points reply View More Replies... View more comments Note: this post originally had 56 images. It’s been shortened to the top 50 images based on user votes. Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Add Your Answer! Not your original work? Add source Publish Change image Upload Photo Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Upload Upload Edit Image Error occurred when generating embed. Please check link and try again. Render conversation
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Woman Takes DNA Test For Fun Only To Discover Her Long-Term Boyfriend Is Her Full Sibling "I Just Said Thank You And Left": Man’s Nice Gesture Is Praised After Pizza Hut Driver Got A $20 Tip On A $938 Order Leave a comment POST Joseph Moore Joseph Moore Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Welp, this was totally a great idea to read. 33 33points reply Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago ::gives a hug:: :( 20 20points reply Load More Replies... Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I know this was a difficult read. But for me, a survivor, it was sort of comforting, knowing I am not alone in feeling this weird. - and yes feeling guilty for feeling weird also. And if it is ok, a safe socially distanced e-hug. Always ok to say no, perhaps just a friendly supportive hand wave. 9 9points reply T5n T5n Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I regretted reading this too. Each one referred to things caused by either one or both of my parents onto my sisters and I . On the plus side, I, and I assume you as well, are conscious of the impact/detriment they made on you or me, and are less likely to continue the chain that they were part of. I’m sorry that anyone had to go though having toxic parents. 5 5points reply David Force David Force Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Like watching a true crime show when you can’t look away. Thankfully I couldn’t relate but I hope it gives me more empathy for those suffering from emotional and mental issues which are clearly not their fault. It helps me understand why so many people seek mental health care and are on medication. It also makes me appreciate my parents who I clearly took for granted because I assumed a happy home was everyone’s normal. I was wrong. 3 3points reply Beth S Beth S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Same! I feel you 100%. Hugs! 1 1point reply Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm posting this comment before I even read the article with the prediction that I have probably experienced 80%-90% of the "signs" listed. I was adopted at birth because my mother didn't want my older sister (my parents' biological child) to "be an only child". I was told continually by my mother that I ought to be "grateful" that I was adopted and that I "owe her" for adopting me, especially since my bio mom was a "junkie alcoholic". This year I found out from my uncle (dad's brother) that my mom adopted ME specifically because she wanted a "blonde, blue-eyed" child (my mom is Mexican). I'm fortunate that my dad was a great guy and a wonderful dad, but he wasn't a strong person, so my mother often abused him as well. (Physically and verbally/emotionally/mentally.) 22 22points reply Zara (she/they) Zara (she/they) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I’m so sorry you had to go through that. You don’t owe her anything! 9 9points reply Load More Replies... Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Thank you! 8 8points reply EeveeExpertShadow EeveeExpertShadow Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 days ago I'm so sorry Lakota Wolf, I have something similar, look for a comment on this "what do you think" from EeveeExpertShadow. 0 0points reply Skylar Jaxx Skylar Jaxx Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago That lady isn't ur mom. She is someone who thought she was doing good with bad intentions. 2 2points reply Annie Bieber Annie Bieber Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm really glad you had your father. My adopted. Gramma was my Angel, a more Beautiful Soul never lived. Were it not for that woman's uncondition love I would not be here, 3 of my siblings didn't make it. Stay Stong my friend...You ARE Valued. 1 1point reply Beth S Beth S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Hugs to you Lakota! 1 1point reply Cracked Justin Cracked Justin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I can imagine that words aren’t enough to describe that “mom” 0 0points reply Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Not understanding the concept of feeling safe. Having to learn that from a Psychologist. Having to practice feeling that. Always trying to make other people feel happy. - and/or solve their problems. Saying "thank you" over and over for the simplest help someone gave me. 19 19points reply Load More Comments POST Joseph Moore Joseph Moore Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Welp, this was totally a great idea to read. 33 33points reply Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago ::gives a hug:: :( 20 20points reply Load More Replies... Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I know this was a difficult read. But for me, a survivor, it was sort of comforting, knowing I am not alone in feeling this weird. - and yes feeling guilty for feeling weird also. And if it is ok, a safe socially distanced e-hug. Always ok to say no, perhaps just a friendly supportive hand wave. 9 9points reply T5n T5n Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I regretted reading this too. Each one referred to things caused by either one or both of my parents onto my sisters and I . On the plus side, I, and I assume you as well, are conscious of the impact/detriment they made on you or me, and are less likely to continue the chain that they were part of. I’m sorry that anyone had to go though having toxic parents. 5 5points reply David Force David Force Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Like watching a true crime show when you can’t look away. Thankfully I couldn’t relate but I hope it gives me more empathy for those suffering from emotional and mental issues which are clearly not their fault. It helps me understand why so many people seek mental health care and are on medication. It also makes me appreciate my parents who I clearly took for granted because I assumed a happy home was everyone’s normal. I was wrong. 3 3points reply Beth S Beth S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Same! I feel you 100%. Hugs! 1 1point reply Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm posting this comment before I even read the article with the prediction that I have probably experienced 80%-90% of the "signs" listed. I was adopted at birth because my mother didn't want my older sister (my parents' biological child) to "be an only child". I was told continually by my mother that I ought to be "grateful" that I was adopted and that I "owe her" for adopting me, especially since my bio mom was a "junkie alcoholic". This year I found out from my uncle (dad's brother) that my mom adopted ME specifically because she wanted a "blonde, blue-eyed" child (my mom is Mexican). I'm fortunate that my dad was a great guy and a wonderful dad, but he wasn't a strong person, so my mother often abused him as well. (Physically and verbally/emotionally/mentally.) 22 22points reply Zara (she/they) Zara (she/they) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I’m so sorry you had to go through that. You don’t owe her anything! 9 9points reply Load More Replies... Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Thank you! 8 8points reply EeveeExpertShadow EeveeExpertShadow Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 days ago I'm so sorry Lakota Wolf, I have something similar, look for a comment on this "what do you think" from EeveeExpertShadow. 0 0points reply Skylar Jaxx Skylar Jaxx Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago That lady isn't ur mom. She is someone who thought she was doing good with bad intentions. 2 2points reply Annie Bieber Annie Bieber Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm really glad you had your father. My adopted. Gramma was my Angel, a more Beautiful Soul never lived. Were it not for that woman's uncondition love I would not be here, 3 of my siblings didn't make it. Stay Stong my friend...You ARE Valued. 1 1point reply Beth S Beth S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Hugs to you Lakota! 1 1point reply Cracked Justin Cracked Justin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I can imagine that words aren’t enough to describe that “mom” 0 0points reply Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Not understanding the concept of feeling safe. Having to learn that from a Psychologist. Having to practice feeling that. 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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents
Rokas Laurinavičius andVėja Elkimavičiūtė
Publish Not your original work? Add source It's not unusual to have a more or less complicated relationship with your parents. After all, they're human just like you, navigating the same complex feelings and emotions. However, there's a line between familial disagreement and toxic behavior. And Reddit user snoofle-science wanted to find it. So they made a post on the platform, asking its users to share what signs have they noticed indicate that their moms and dads were lousy caregivers. From not being able to show affection to desperate attention cravings, here are some of the most popular problems that people attribute to their upbringing. This post may include affiliate links. #1 You feel intimidated by everyone around you, you feel like you're never good enough for anyone, no matter how much they tell you that you don't need to try so hard, and you generally have low self-worth.
Edit: Wow. I don't know whether to feel encouraged that so many people know where I’m coming from with this, or heartbroken about it. Either way, thank you, everyone. mR-gray42 , Anubhav Saxena Report 499points POST a fruity dream of delusion a fruity dream of delusion Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago ah. okay. i’m.. a little concerned for myself now, as i relate to all of these. 113 113points reply View More Replies... View more comments #2 A second chance to do it better when you have kids. Every time I got angry or upset with my own children, I would take a breath and think about what my mom would do—and then do the exact opposite. Lots of laughter and forgiveness in our house and zero violence. My mantra has always been “there is value in a bad example.” Slow-Distribution119 , Ilya Pavlov Report 469points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Well done!!!! I admire and respect your courage and sanity. 142 142points reply View more comments #3 Never believing a compliment. Always being anxious that people are mad at you/ignoring you if they're being quiet/not responding. Not being able to deal with confrontation/conflict in a constructive/healthy way.
Basically you get shitty people skills and emotional damage. nisharfa , Joice Kelly Report 446points POST Rylosalex Rylosalex Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Same here. Whenever someone told me that I did a good job on something I would instantly think "Did I really do a good job? or is she/he just feeling sorry for me?" 94 94points reply View More Replies... View more comments #4 Doing everything yourself, not asking for help, because you knew no help was coming.
nch1307 , frank mckenna Report 446points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Was shocked reading a re-imagined story about Cinderella " other kids knew they could ask any adult for help - and get it, not Rella ". My sister and I were both kind of Cinderella. 62 62points reply View More Replies... View more comments #5 Over-explain the tiniest issues because of a compulsive need to justify every thought, action or inaction darermave Report 413points POST Jeffery Jeffery Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago As well as an ability to lie wonderuflly... 133 133points reply View More Replies... View more comments #6 You can't identify your own emotions immediately, or sometimes at all, but can identify others without them having to say a word. Don't know how to react to things in the moment, and are extremely mature for your age. Mature kids often aren't a result of great parenting. Louminous19 , Arwan Sutanto Report 369points POST a fruity dream of delusion a fruity dream of delusion Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago i cannot say enough how true this is. i’ve wondered why i am always so uncomfortable if i am unable to read someone, and this really explains it. 85 85points reply View More Replies... View more comments #7 The panicked rush to jump and start “doing something” when you hear someone come in the house. Lest you be subjected to a barrage of insults and commands. sadhandjobs , Volha Flaxeco Report 361points POST Kristi Savage Cook Kristi Savage Cook Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago OMG this! Heaven forbid I'd be resting while nobody was home to see or comment.... 102 102points reply View more comments #8 I had to sneak out of the house through my bedroom window to go to school and take my finals because my mom locked my room from the outside. This was punishment because I wouldn’t do the dishes because I was cramming for my exams. To top it off after she locked me in my room she went to the breaker and turned off the lights to my bedroom so I wouldn’t have any lighting to study and I had to spend the whole night studying with a flashlight.
I aced all my exams. And instead of my mother being proud of me she locked me up in my room for a week for sneaking out.
I ended up going to college and grad school in STEM and made something of myself. And now she brags to people that I am successful because of her. When she says that I tell her and everyone “absolutely not! I’m successful DESPITE her”. Witty_Goose_7724 Report 361points POST weewoo weewoo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago oh i am so happy for this person. they managd to get good grades with bad parents? now thats a great achievment 152 152points reply View More Replies... View more comments #9 Why is nobody mentioning the silent foot steps?
When you grow up with parents that will yell at you for existing you develop the ability to hide your presence as much as possible and always try to keep your noise and visibility to a minimum. xaxiwan102 , Jake Hills Report 355points POST weewoo weewoo Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago and you also leanr whos steps are whos when they are walking up and down the stairs. 179 179points reply View More Replies... View more comments #10 Emotional numbness especially in the face of bad things. Once you've seen enough shit certain things just don't faze you anymore UnhappyField102 , - - Report 319points POST SparkleFarts SparkleFarts Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago And not knowing how to comfort someone. Like I know I should feel something, but I just don't. 126 126points reply View More Replies... View more comments #11 Okay lets do it -
self doubt, self esteem issues and overall not feeling good enough or feeling like you have an intense obligation or expectation to fulfil to keep your parents happy.
The inability to know what you want or not knowing how to say no when someone asks something of you in fear they will react poorly.
Inability to be assertive and telling people what you are/aren't ok with.
Not having high values of yourself and putting everyone else before you.
Feeling guilt the minute you 'let someone down.'
TRIGGER WORDS - example 'I'm disappointed'
Having a habit of toxic and repetitive relationships with friends and partners. Also switching around friend groups often or having little to none.
Feeling emotionally inept or being extremely emotional and feeling like you cannot express it.
Difficulty with maintaining life skills, self care, hygiene, finances ect
feeling like a child stuck in an adults body anon Report 299points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yes all of these are too familiar. 79 79points reply View More Replies... View more comments #12 You apologize for everything you do, good or bad. JBLBEBthree , Arif Riyanto Report 260points POST a fruity dream of delusion a fruity dream of delusion Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago i apologize because i’m just worried that i might mess something up. 70 70points reply View More Replies... View more comments #13 Paranoia when people are just being nice. Like why are you being friendly? What do I have that you want from me? chilifavela , Fernando @cferdophotography Report 260points POST Zara (she/they) Zara (she/they) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago i understand this but idk why!!! 42 42points reply View More Replies... View more comments #14 Being a people-pleaser to the point of it being detrimental to yourself Wips_and_Chains , Ryoji Iwata Report 253points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Oh yes! 35 35points reply View More Replies... View more comments #15 being really good at hiding things (physical or mental). being able to sneak something to my room, being able to look like i haven't cried even though i was five minutes ago. soggy-sleeves , bady abbas Report 241points POST Agent 8433599 Agent 8433599 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I relate to this the most. 43 43points reply View More Replies... View more comments #16 Being afraid that you'll continue the cycle and treat your kids terribly EnialisHolimion , Kelli McClintock Report 240points POST a fruity dream of delusion a fruity dream of delusion Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago i don’t want kids. mostly because i know there is no way i would be able to handle them. 97 97points reply View More Replies... View more comments #17 You are in your 40s and still crave attention and validation from anyone at all because you were ignored all the time. JBLBEBthree , Alex Blăjan Report 231points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) ::raises hand:: I'm 40 right now and I still have "the class clown" personality because at least if people are laughing at me, they're paying attention to me, right? Right?! 113 113points reply View More Replies... View more comments #18 When i tell stories of my childhood that i think are funny but my friends stare in horror probablykelz , Daiga Ellaby Report 228points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago "Haha, omg guys, so once when I was 6, my dad was about to leave on a business trip and my mom grabbed me, pressed the revolver she'd gotten from my grandpa into my throat under my chin, and told my dad that if he left on one more business trip, she'd kill us kids and then herself! Isn't that hilarious?" (that is a true story from my childhood, sadly) 219 219points reply View More Replies... View more comments #19 Being surprised people will apologize and want to talk out and deal with an issue instead of screaming and pretending everything is fine and never mentioning why there was a fight or argument at all. ToastedMaple , kevin laminto Report 220points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I was always terrified of my mother as a young child, because one moment she would be screaming at me, beating me, and throwing me across the room, and then 5 minutes later she'd come into the room smiling with a plate of cookies she'd just baked all "Do you want a cookie, Cryssie?" I was off-balance all the time because I had NO idea what I'd done to make her angry, nor why she suddenly wasn't angry AT ALL any more, and I was terrified that I'd do whatever I'd done to p**s her off again and she'd go nuclear again in the next 30 seconds. I had no idea that that wasn't normal. 114 114points reply View More Replies... View more comments #20 When you really don’t remember any good times you spent with them. AverageLegoGameFan , Juliane Liebermann Report 207points POST Lisa H Lisa H Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago There were some good times in my childhood, but I was constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop because it always, always did. Every day, good or bad, would end with my dad being in a bad mood for some stupid reason. 91 91points reply View More Replies... View more comments #21 Not reacting appropriately to ordinary situations. Usually an overreaction to a normal situation or underreacting to very messed up situations. ESQBOJaguar , Justin Snyder Photo Report 200points POST Alexia Alexia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yeah. This is when survival instincts kick in, based on previous experience with your parents. I overreacted so many times in normal situations, because I felt in danger - and obviously this affected my relationships. 40 40points reply View more comments #22 My dad was yelling at me once and I couldn't take it so I made a snappy comment back. Instinctively I threw my hands up to block the blow I knew was coming. But then they both tried to convince me that my dad has never hit me before and why would I act like that.....so physically abusive and mentally abusive with gas lighting DV_Police10 , Caleb Woods Report 195points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago My older sister gets pissed when I talk about how abusive my mother was towards me. She'll say "Mom never HIT you!" Uh, mom used to cut me with the kitchen knives, not just hit me/throw me across the room. But my sister is my parents' biological child, and I'm adopted. My sister is just like my mother and is/was "the perfect child", so she was never yelled at or hit while we were growing up. 82 82points reply View More Replies... View more comments #23 Someone raises their voice- doesn't even have to be in anger; they could just have a deep voice but suddenly its *loud* - and your first reaction is to either shrink in on yourself or focus on anything but their face and wait for your throat to stop feeling so tight or for your eyes to stop watering. Coffee_Addict019 Report 183points POST a fruity dream of delusion a fruity dream of delusion Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago this!!! i have never been able to describe the feeling i get when someone becomes loud- it has always terrified me. 67 67points reply View More Replies... View more comments #24 Can’t explain myself without crying iiJojo Report 182points POST Brazen Brazen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Frustration tears, angry tears, sad tears, and tears from laughing too hard...basically all the crying. I'd give anything for this to not be a knee jerk reaction from my body. 91 91points reply View More Replies... View more comments #25 When, as an adult, you witness an example of good parenting - and experience a sense of shock, and get dizzy. Journeyman-Joe , Sarah Medina Report 169points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago THIS. Spent a weekend at a friend's home. Was shocked how nice her parents were. Was shocked how she could joke *with* them. 68 68points reply View More Replies... View more comments #26 You remember being severely neglected yet you were told “you are spoiled.” Embarrassed-Swan3568 , Kelly Sikkema Report 164points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm apparently "spoiled" because I was adopted! My biological mother was an unmarried alcoholic/drug addict who already had two other children (from unknown fathers) and she didn't even have working utilities in her trailer. I was told from a very early age (5ish or so) that I needed to be grateful because I had been taken away from such a HORRIBLE situation and brought to have a "normal" life. Apparently that = me being spoiled. 59 59points reply View More Replies... View more comments #27 Unable to form or desire romantic attachments and not to forget the numerous mental illnesses you have no control over because your parent doesn’t believe in poor mental health so allowed you to go undiagnosed your whole life :) ooopsadestructy , Dương Hữu Report 156points POST alex cosgrove alex cosgrove Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Mine treated me like I was slow. My twin was very book smart. Took a therapist when I was 16 to test my math skills (first diagnosis) and at 23 I got the full testing to find out, nope not slow.. lots of mental disabilities.. I cried hysterically because I finally had a name to the learning disabilities that plagued my life. Best day of my life. 89 89points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Woman Shows How "Harry Potter" Characters Were Supposed To Look According To Book Descriptions (35 Pics) 50 ‘Weird Facts’ About The World That Might Give You A Fresh Perspective #28 A fantastic sense of humor bombaderogato , Priscilla Du Preez Report 154points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Making jokes hides the pain! If you can make others laugh, even if they're laughing AT you, then you are a-o-kay. I'm a master "class clown"/comedian and most of my jokes are self-deprecating. 78 78points reply View More Replies... View more comments #29 Not being able to recognize affection or how to show it healthily. TwoLaysea Report 152points POST Brazen Brazen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Wanting it and not getting healthy affection is equally as painful. 64 64points reply View More Replies... View more comments #30 - Thinking you do everything wrong, even small daily tasks, and at a certain moment you hear other people compliment you about doing it well or asking why I am a perfectionist.
- Always apologizing for everything, multiple times
- When people say something, you suspect that they mean something else, something you did wrong, buy they won't tell you until they get so mad they burst.
- Extremely nauseous feelings when someone gets irritated or angry Ananoriel Report 150points POST Kristi Savage Cook Kristi Savage Cook Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I've tried to explain to my husband what it's like to ALWAYS feel that things are my fault. If anyone is ever unhappy in my circle, it's my fault and it's my responsibility to fix what's wrong. I think it It must be amazing not to feel this way. 53 53points reply View More Replies... View more comments #31 I can never open up to them. No matter how big or small my problems are, because they'll just tell me I'm being dramatic. notcindymae Report 149points POST SparkleFarts SparkleFarts Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yep. There have been a lot of days lately when I really needed to "talk to my mom" but that's just not an option 47 47points reply View More Replies... View more comments #32 You don't talk to them anymore or want them in your life otherwise as an adult (e.g., not inviting them to your wedding, or want them around any potential children you may have). Cuish Report 132points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Cutting off all contact was one of the sanest things I have ever done for myself. And telling social services that my nephews must a NEVER be left alone with either grandparent was also. edit:Life is a bit complicated for them. 59 59points reply View more comments #33 Lot of anger problems Samuelwankenobi_ Report 130points POST SparkleFarts SparkleFarts Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Because anger was the only acceptable emotion 56 56points reply View More Replies... View more comments #34 They don’t want you to have any better of a life than they did tunaball25 , Luemen Rutkowski Report 117points POST Hatred Pony Hatred Pony Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 week ago So much this. I had several opportunities as a teen that were never even discussed but shot down immediately. A trip to Greece for $400 with my class (better believe I would try to scrape that money together for my kids), an invitation to study abroad and the big one, admittance into art school my junior year of highschool. My mom never wanted me to succeed or have anything better than she ever had and she pulled opportunities out from under me any chance she had. I even won "sweetheart" at a Valentine's dance at church as a kid, I was so thrilled then because I never won a thing. In the car on the way home she told me about a lady who said I was very rude to her when she said I looked pretty. I couldn't then recall anything close to this situation , she called me a liar and made me feel awful. It wasn't until much later in life that I realized she was the liar. 64 64points reply View More Replies... View more comments #35 My mother treats me like her personal therapist and I'm only 17. She asks me where she went wrong in raising my brother and I and I don't want to tell her because I'm scared of her when she yells. Extension_Payment525 Report 116points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Oh yes. Recognize this one. 25 25points reply View more comments #36 Apologizing constantly Stopsign09 , Jack Lucas Smith Report 112points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I still apologize to the wall when I bump into it. 47 47points reply View More Replies... View more comments #37 Even at 31 feeling like if I get close to anyone they'll find a way to take advantage of me NoticeWhenUAreHappy Report 111points POST Kristi Savage Cook Kristi Savage Cook Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Or they'll find out who you are 54 54points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda Overworked Employee Quits Because He Wasn't Getting A Fair Wage, Costs The Company $40 Million 40 Embarrassing Moments People Didn't Know Who They Were Talking To And Made A Fool Of Themselves #38 Feeling weird when people tell you that they love you, recieving hugs, feeling weirded out when you have to give hugs, and my personal favorite, being at the end of the favorite's list jaynvius Report 110points POST a fruity dream of delusion a fruity dream of delusion Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago i like hugs. but one of my friends constantly calls me her favorite, and is very affectionate, and i get very confused. like, why me?? 28 28points reply View More Replies... View more comments #39 You're raised by people who can barely function, people who are basically at subsistence level. So you have no tools to be successful in the real world. There's no support other than vague crappy advice to just keep plugging along. You know that everything you get in life can disappear in a moment, and no one will be there to provide for you. Worse, your parents are expecting that you'll somehow magically provide for them in their old age. They send you out into the world with worse-than-s**t life skills, and they expect you to support them. paxinfernum Report 110points POST T'Mar of Vulcan T'Mar of Vulcan Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago When your valid feelings are dismissed with the words, "You've got to be better than that." 26 26points reply View More Replies... View more comments #40 Not knowing a lot of things that are "common sense" and not realizing til you're an adult yourself maggyta10 Report 96points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yes as a student nurse there were some really basic things I didn't know. Like where adults use talc powder. *arm pits and groin. 19 19points reply View More Replies... View more comments #41 If you're the eldest, an extreme urge to help and "save" your younger siblings, even to the detriment of your own mental health. monster3381 , Juliane Liebermann Report 94points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm the youngest and I constantly tried to save my older sister. From her drug addictions, from the poverty, from her abusive husband.....and so on. It was *all* my fault. 31 31points reply View More Replies... View more comments #42 When you are telling a story which you think is a funny story from your childhood, only for someone to turn around and tell you "That's not normal".
If you've grown up in a very dysfunctional household, then not only is your norm set at a very messed up bar, but things that would be horrifying to others might be funny to you because of where your norm was set at. Examples of this can include "funny stories" that actually featured a lot of violent or neglect. Creative_Recover , https://unsplash.com/photos/VTE4SN2I9s0 Report 90points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Yep. I've told my friends "funny stories" of times when my mom cut me with kitchen knives, or times when she'd hit me only below the neck so that "no one would see the bruises", or how funny it was that when I was small and light, she'd throw me across the room and into the walls. My friends would be all O_O; and then hug me. 38 38points reply View More Replies... View more comments #43 Parents that lean more on you in rough times when it should be 100% the other way around WeLoveYouJoshua Report 88points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I was 18 and planning to move out, when my dad had an accident that resulted in a catastrophic brain injury. He had such extensive brain damage that he was bedridden, could not speak/communicate or understand, had to wear diapers, and had to have a feeding tube installed. My mother refused to hire professional caregivers for him, so I was his primary caregiver for the next 21 years (he died last year). I never moved out. My dad was a wonderful person and a great father, so I willingly cared for him because I loved him, but it was pretty awful that my mother assumed that well OF COURSE I'd stay living at home and take care of him so that she could go to the casinos/on vacation whenever she wanted. 55 55points reply View More Replies... View more comments #44 You can’t stick to your boundaries Jaded_Research_2099 Report 83points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago What are boundaries? Had to learn about them from a psychologist. 45 45points reply View More Replies... View more comments #45 Uncomfortably into Disney stuff well into old age. I've noticed that a lot of hardcore Disney fans AS ADULTS (I'm talking people who buy the plates, cups, figures, cookie jars, plush characters, etc) often have had bad parents or experiences as a kid. They probably are trying to hold on to some child like feeling that's still in them. Idk.
There's nothing wrong with being into Disney, but, at a certain point, I have to question what exactly went down in your household as a kid. josiahcruz__ , PAN XIAOZHEN Report 80points POST Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm not into Disney specifically, but I'm 40 and I still buy stuffed animals for myself quite often. 55 55points reply View More Replies... View more comments #46 Self-harm such as cutting SuvenPan Report 78points POST Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago And taking far too many pills and alcohol just to stop thinking about it all. 30 30points reply View More Replies... View more comments #47 Always screaming. Always angry. Never showed any physical affection. Completely out of tune with their children's lives. dryintentions Report 75points POST Alana Voeks Alana Voeks Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Heyyyyyy. This is me 100%. Also never giving any life lessons, like don't lose your virginity to someone who shows you romantic affection for the first time! (Or ever teaching me about sex. Still yet to be taught, they still think I'm a virgin.) 12 12points reply View More Replies... View more comments See Also on Bored Panda 30 Of The Most Hectic Homes As Shared On 'The Broke Agent' Instagram Account Bride Doesn't Include Wedding Dinner Price In Her Wedding Invites, Is Surprised To See Many Guests Canceling On Her After They Find Out #48 I knew how to open a beer and pour it with minimal foam for my mom while she was driving. RedFlare15 Report 71points POST Nancy Tate-Leach Nancy Tate-Leach Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Oh boy 32 32points reply View more comments #49 You call them for advice and they give you literally the worst advice ever. So you have been doing the opposite haha youareverygood8 Report 69points POST Ronald Cookson Ronald Cookson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Hearing the phrase " when life hands you lemons,make lemonade" is the most repeated and worthless platitude I've ever heard.makes me want to choke the ever loving s**t out of the person who says it. 27 27points reply View More Replies... View more comments #50 They told me the wrong date was my birthday. Didnt find out until my sixteenth birthday going for my drivers licence. Couldnt be bothered with getting it right, real nice of them. Argybargyass Report 67points POST Alana Voeks Alana Voeks Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Mine is just always forgotten. 10/23. Not hard to remember, yet no one ever can. It's literally 0123 with the 0 and 1 flipped. It's not that hard. And I've never been anywhere even out of the city for my birthday because "education" was so "important" here. But since my brother's birthday was during the summer, we've celebrated his every time we went on vacation. 20 20points reply View More Replies... View more comments Note: this post originally had 56 images. It’s been shortened to the top 50 images based on user votes. Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing! Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Add Your Answer! Not your original work? Add source Publish Change image Upload Photo Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Upload Upload Edit Image Error occurred when generating embed. Please check link and try again. Render conversation
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Always ok to say no, perhaps just a friendly supportive hand wave. 9 9points reply T5n T5n Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I regretted reading this too. Each one referred to things caused by either one or both of my parents onto my sisters and I . On the plus side, I, and I assume you as well, are conscious of the impact/detriment they made on you or me, and are less likely to continue the chain that they were part of. I’m sorry that anyone had to go though having toxic parents. 5 5points reply David Force David Force Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Like watching a true crime show when you can’t look away. Thankfully I couldn’t relate but I hope it gives me more empathy for those suffering from emotional and mental issues which are clearly not their fault. It helps me understand why so many people seek mental health care and are on medication. It also makes me appreciate my parents who I clearly took for granted because I assumed a happy home was everyone’s normal. I was wrong. 3 3points reply Beth S Beth S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Same! I feel you 100%. Hugs! 1 1point reply Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm posting this comment before I even read the article with the prediction that I have probably experienced 80%-90% of the "signs" listed. I was adopted at birth because my mother didn't want my older sister (my parents' biological child) to "be an only child". I was told continually by my mother that I ought to be "grateful" that I was adopted and that I "owe her" for adopting me, especially since my bio mom was a "junkie alcoholic". This year I found out from my uncle (dad's brother) that my mom adopted ME specifically because she wanted a "blonde, blue-eyed" child (my mom is Mexican). I'm fortunate that my dad was a great guy and a wonderful dad, but he wasn't a strong person, so my mother often abused him as well. (Physically and verbally/emotionally/mentally.) 22 22points reply Zara (she/they) Zara (she/they) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I’m so sorry you had to go through that. You don’t owe her anything! 9 9points reply Load More Replies... Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Thank you! 8 8points reply EeveeExpertShadow EeveeExpertShadow Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 days ago I'm so sorry Lakota Wolf, I have something similar, look for a comment on this "what do you think" from EeveeExpertShadow. 0 0points reply Skylar Jaxx Skylar Jaxx Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago That lady isn't ur mom. She is someone who thought she was doing good with bad intentions. 2 2points reply Annie Bieber Annie Bieber Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm really glad you had your father. My adopted. Gramma was my Angel, a more Beautiful Soul never lived. Were it not for that woman's uncondition love I would not be here, 3 of my siblings didn't make it. Stay Stong my friend...You ARE Valued. 1 1point reply Beth S Beth S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Hugs to you Lakota! 1 1point reply Cracked Justin Cracked Justin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I can imagine that words aren’t enough to describe that “mom” 0 0points reply Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Not understanding the concept of feeling safe. Having to learn that from a Psychologist. Having to practice feeling that. Always trying to make other people feel happy. - and/or solve their problems. Saying "thank you" over and over for the simplest help someone gave me. 19 19points reply Load More Comments POST Joseph Moore Joseph Moore Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Welp, this was totally a great idea to read. 33 33points reply Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago ::gives a hug:: :( 20 20points reply Load More Replies... Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I know this was a difficult read. But for me, a survivor, it was sort of comforting, knowing I am not alone in feeling this weird. - and yes feeling guilty for feeling weird also. And if it is ok, a safe socially distanced e-hug. Always ok to say no, perhaps just a friendly supportive hand wave. 9 9points reply T5n T5n Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I regretted reading this too. Each one referred to things caused by either one or both of my parents onto my sisters and I . On the plus side, I, and I assume you as well, are conscious of the impact/detriment they made on you or me, and are less likely to continue the chain that they were part of. I’m sorry that anyone had to go though having toxic parents. 5 5points reply David Force David Force Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Like watching a true crime show when you can’t look away. Thankfully I couldn’t relate but I hope it gives me more empathy for those suffering from emotional and mental issues which are clearly not their fault. It helps me understand why so many people seek mental health care and are on medication. It also makes me appreciate my parents who I clearly took for granted because I assumed a happy home was everyone’s normal. I was wrong. 3 3points reply Beth S Beth S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Same! I feel you 100%. Hugs! 1 1point reply Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm posting this comment before I even read the article with the prediction that I have probably experienced 80%-90% of the "signs" listed. I was adopted at birth because my mother didn't want my older sister (my parents' biological child) to "be an only child". I was told continually by my mother that I ought to be "grateful" that I was adopted and that I "owe her" for adopting me, especially since my bio mom was a "junkie alcoholic". This year I found out from my uncle (dad's brother) that my mom adopted ME specifically because she wanted a "blonde, blue-eyed" child (my mom is Mexican). I'm fortunate that my dad was a great guy and a wonderful dad, but he wasn't a strong person, so my mother often abused him as well. (Physically and verbally/emotionally/mentally.) 22 22points reply Zara (she/they) Zara (she/they) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I’m so sorry you had to go through that. You don’t owe her anything! 9 9points reply Load More Replies... Lakota Wolf Lakota Wolf Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Thank you! 8 8points reply EeveeExpertShadow EeveeExpertShadow Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 days ago I'm so sorry Lakota Wolf, I have something similar, look for a comment on this "what do you think" from EeveeExpertShadow. 0 0points reply Skylar Jaxx Skylar Jaxx Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago That lady isn't ur mom. She is someone who thought she was doing good with bad intentions. 2 2points reply Annie Bieber Annie Bieber Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm really glad you had your father. My adopted. Gramma was my Angel, a more Beautiful Soul never lived. Were it not for that woman's uncondition love I would not be here, 3 of my siblings didn't make it. Stay Stong my friend...You ARE Valued. 1 1point reply Beth S Beth S Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Hugs to you Lakota! 1 1point reply Cracked Justin Cracked Justin Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I can imagine that words aren’t enough to describe that “mom” 0 0points reply Magpie Magpie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Not understanding the concept of feeling safe. Having to learn that from a Psychologist. Having to practice feeling that. 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