Ask Pepper How to Avoid STDs Dating Advice for Singles 50 and Older
Ask Pepper: How to Avoid STDs — Dating Advice for Singles 50 and Older... Love & Sex
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A: An important question. I was shocked to see a that found only 12 percent of men and 33 percent of women always or regularly use condoms. This is crazy because there are rates, although not high, of sexually transmitted infections in our age group. Still, who wants to risk a disease, even if the risk is low? So, I think an adult conversation is in order. and make sure you know how to use it safely. When things get hot and heavy, take the condom out and use it. You can make a nice remark such as, "I was hoping this would happen, so I got a condom." If she is at all insulted, tell her that you believe in safe sex for her and for you, and this is nothing but respect for each other's health.
After awhile, if you feel that this is a steady relationship, you can have that, "are we going to be monogamous" discussion and decide to get tested together for any infections. If you both have none, which is likely, you can discontinue using condoms if you trust your partner — and yourself — enough to have sex only with one another. That is a leap of faith, however, and some people like to continue using condoms, no matter what. Cancel You are leaving AARP.org and going to the website of our trusted provider. The provider’s terms, conditions and policies apply. Please return to AARP.org to learn more about other benefits. Your email address is now confirmed. You'll start receiving the latest news, benefits, events, and programs related to AARP's mission to empower people to choose how they live as they age. You can also by updating your account at anytime. You will be asked to register or log in. Cancel Offer Details Disclosures
Dating Again Don' t Forget the Condom
Singles 50 and over still at risk for STDS
Q: I'm getting back into dating after the loss of a spouse of many years, and I'm concerned about STDs. How do I handle the situation?See also:
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A: An important question. I was shocked to see a that found only 12 percent of men and 33 percent of women always or regularly use condoms. This is crazy because there are rates, although not high, of sexually transmitted infections in our age group. Still, who wants to risk a disease, even if the risk is low? So, I think an adult conversation is in order. and make sure you know how to use it safely. When things get hot and heavy, take the condom out and use it. You can make a nice remark such as, "I was hoping this would happen, so I got a condom." If she is at all insulted, tell her that you believe in safe sex for her and for you, and this is nothing but respect for each other's health.
After awhile, if you feel that this is a steady relationship, you can have that, "are we going to be monogamous" discussion and decide to get tested together for any infections. If you both have none, which is likely, you can discontinue using condoms if you trust your partner — and yourself — enough to have sex only with one another. That is a leap of faith, however, and some people like to continue using condoms, no matter what. Cancel You are leaving AARP.org and going to the website of our trusted provider. The provider’s terms, conditions and policies apply. Please return to AARP.org to learn more about other benefits. Your email address is now confirmed. You'll start receiving the latest news, benefits, events, and programs related to AARP's mission to empower people to choose how they live as they age. You can also by updating your account at anytime. You will be asked to register or log in. Cancel Offer Details Disclosures