Ask Pepper: When to Expect More Than a Kiss on a Date — Relationship ... Love & Sex

Ready for More Than a Kiss

After several months of dating a healthy relationship should progress to greater intimacy

Q: I'm 50 and have been seeing a 59-year-old man for almost 4 months. We kiss at the end of the evening — and it's very nice kissing — but never go any further. I'm ready and willing for , but he doesn't make a move — and doesn't give any signals that indicate he'd like me to initiate things. How should I handle this? See also:

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A: You need to talk to him. It is unusual for a grown man to only want to kiss you after four months of going out. There should at least be a little more passion going on before the end of the evening! So you need to see what he wants out of this relationship. My own guess is its one of three things: 1. He just thinks of you as a . 2. He thinks of you as a date, but he doesn't want to get beyond that level of a relationship. 3. He is very attracted but extremely cautious because of past experience or because he is — even if they are not attached to him. Obviously whichever explanation is true makes a big difference in how you should put him in your emotions and in your life. But you can't just guess at it. You need to take the issue on and talk to him now. Cancel You are leaving AARP.org and going to the website of our trusted provider. The provider’s terms, conditions and policies apply. Please return to AARP.org to learn more about other benefits. Your email address is now confirmed. You'll start receiving the latest news, benefits, events, and programs related to AARP's mission to empower people to choose how they live as they age. You can also by updating your account at anytime. You will be asked to register or log in. Cancel Offer Details Disclosures

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