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What Women Want

Kristen Bell Jamie Lee Curtis and Betty White on sex love and staying hot

— ever comfortable in her own skin — winces when remembering high school. At 52, the actress and author of eight children's books recalls walking into a residential hall at the la-di-da Choate boarding school in Connecticut on the first day of her senior year. She was a Hollywood wild child ( her parents were movie stars Janet Leigh and Tony Curtis) wearing "bell-bottom jeans, a little French T-shirt, and sunglasses, with my hair frosted." She was greeted, she says, by the "quintessential blond preppy girl" in straight-legged corduroys and a crewneck sweater, defiantly dragging on a Marlboro. "'You Tony Curtis's daughter?'" mimics Curtis, pretend-puffing a cigarette. "'We heard you were coming.'" "It wasn't pretty," says Curtis. "I ended up with just two friends, one of them an exchange student. It was them and me, this Hollywood weirdo. High school was a nightmare for me." Get instant access to members-only products and hundreds of discounts, a free second membership, and a subscription to AARP the Magazine. On a sunny day in Los Angeles, Curtis is with Kristen Bell and Betty White, who play mother, daughter, and grandmother, respectively, in the new fall comedy . The film tells the story of a former geek (Bell) who learns her brother is engaged to her high-school mean-girl nemesis — and sets out to derail the wedding. Now the three women have gathered for a quasi high-school reunion of their own. Like their on-screen characters, the ladies can each recount life-altering anecdotes from high school as if they occurred yesterday. Bell, 30, who starred in the TV series Veronica Mars as well as films such as Forgetting Sarah Marshall and When in Rome, spent her junior year on the outs with her two best friends — they were angry with her for reasons they wouldn't divulge. "I thought maybe I wasn't cool enough to hang out with," she says. "I couldn't understand what I had done, but I was such a needy kid, I just wanted to fix it. I was so scared that people wouldn't like me that I would change my personality." Betty White, 88, the iconic Golden Girls actress who is now a costar of the hit sitcom , escaped high school relatively unscathed, partly because she didn't care about being popular. "I just wasn't that interested in getting in with my peer group," says White, who in August picked up an Emmy for her turn earlier in the year as host of Saturday Night Live. "The social life was a pain in the ass. I enjoyed being with guys more than girls." Curtis, Bell, and White chatted with about everything from growing older to bad plastic surgery — and about what they would change if life handed them one do-over. Friends — They Come and Go White: I'm still bleeding over losing Ruesy [the late actress and Golden Girls costar Rue McClanahan], who was my dear friend. But as much as I love my friends, I wouldn't think of going out to lunch with a woman. I can't think of anything less interesting, except hen parties and showers — and I avoid them like the plague. Curtis: I love my husband [director and comedic actor Christopher Guest], and I've been married a very long time [26 years], but I would feel completely inadequate without a good group of girlfriends. Still, I'm also learning that relationships with my girlfriends have to be fluid. I have friends whom I was closer with in my 20s or 30s than I am now. It's not that I don't love them, but the common links have unlinked a little. It's important for me to create new relationships, and that's hard. I'm wondering if I should even say this, because I don't want friends to read this and go, "Oh, I'm one of the friends she's let go of!" Bell: I have a lot of "pick up and put down" friends whom I haven't talked to in months, but I can pick up the phone and it's as though we've spoken every day for the last 10 years. Maybe this is my generation's thing. Many of my friends are career driven and don't have the hours in the day for the consistency that friendships deserve. Flowers & Gifts 25% off sitewide and 30% off select items See more Flowers & Gifts offers > Bell: I'm in a peculiar position because I believe I'm the only woman in Hollywood trying to age up. I've always been small, and I have a high-pitched voice and youthful face. Personally, I feel that life is like cheese: It just gets better with age. Some of the greatest women I know, two of whom are present, have aged so gracefully and have the smartest things to say. White: The less you worry about it, the less you think about it. There was a period when you were considered over the hill if you were older than 14. Everybody says to me, "We're so glad you're back." But I've been working for 63 years! Many of the fans grew up with me, and their moms and dads — and in some cases their grandmothers and grandfathers — grew up with me, so I'm sort of a fixture. Good Genes and Bad Plastic Surgery Curtis: There's a reason why there is only one Betty White. [Speaking to Betty] You've navigated this magnificently and had good health and fantastic opportunities, and you've knocked them out of the ballpark. There are people who, when you see them on the screen, there's an audible gasp of "Oh my God." They look terrible — or they've done something to themselves and now look like freaks. Then there are people who age beautifully. There is one Meryl Streep and one Sigourney Weaver. But I could name 30 other actresses in their [age] groups who aren't working today. Me, I'm getting my ass out of this business in a few years because genetically it's not going to work for me. And I'm not saying this so you guys say, "Oh, you're so pretty." I'm talking about aging and genetics. White: I wish you would take your shirt off. This one [ pointing to Curtis] has arms. Bell: You have a hot body and everybody knows it. Curtis: [Pointing to White] She's 88 and hotter in Hollywood than anyone I know except maybe Justin Bieber! Bell: Why are we all playing this gigantic game trying to be who we were five years ago? Curtis: Because everybody is saying that to get jobs you have to dye your hair and get injectables. It's a conspiracy, a complete catastrophe, a surgical-industrial complex. Somehow we are being fed this belief that to continue on we have to do this. Yet people are being disfigured. It's shocking what people are doing to their faces. 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