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5 Ways to Get Closer to Your Friends

How to make relationships a priority

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Make Your Friendships a Priority

Want to get more out of your friendships? Then make your friendships a bigger part of your life. Well, duh, as your kids might say. Yet too often, we put friends behind marriage, children, work, exercise and sorting the recycling. When life gets busy, the first thing we offload is time with friends — ironic, since seeing friends is a key to relieving stress. How to make friendships more of a priority? One tack: Build regular time with friends into your calendar, whether it's an every-Wednesday lunch with your best friend or a Saturday morning hike no matter what the weather. Trusting your friendships to routine, rather than impulse, makes it more likely you'll actually get together and reap the rewards of friendship on a consistent basis.

Don t Just Sit There Do Something

We don't need research (though there's plenty of it) to tell us that women bond over talking. But you can get more out of your friendships if you pause the conversation and do something together, whether it's sign up for tennis lessons, go on a weekend antiquing trip or simply . Sharing activities is positive for all kinds of relationships, research shows, including marriages and adult parent-child relationships as well as friendships. The reason: Doing something fun and novel together expands your repertoire of common experiences, lets you see each other in new ways, plus adds another dimension to the relationship. What if it turns out you both hate tennis? Then you can bond over that. Entertainment $3 off popcorn and soft drink combos See more Entertainment offers >

Accept That Friendships Change Over Time

Friendships tend to depend on being in the same stage of life, and once that shifts — you are widowed but your friend is married; she retires but you're still running a business — the relationship can change too. One recent study claimed people of every age . The lesson: Rather than clinging to relationships you've outgrown, you'll get more out of your friendships if you look for new friends with whom you share more similarities.

Risk the Fight

The longer you're friends with someone and the closer you get, the more likely it is you'll hit the kind of road bumps that can trip up any relationship. Rather than pretending the problem doesn't exist or running away, you'll need to confront the issue if you want to get more out of what is otherwise a valuable friendship. "Sometimes it's more difficult to have these emotional discussions than not to have them," says Irene S. Levine, a professor of psychiatry at the New York University School of Medicine and creator of . "But if you bury hard feelings, they can seep out in toxic ways and damage the friendship." Dr. Levine's advice for approaching a difficult discussion with a friend: Choose a relaxed time, and talk in person rather than on the phone or via e-mail. Be sensitive, don't blame or attack, but don't mask your feelings either. And know that any discussion may just be the first in an ongoing conversation, one that will ultimately lead you to a deeper, stronger friendship that can offer even more in terms of honesty and intimacy. AARP NEWSLETTERS %{ newsLetterPromoText }% %{ description }% Subscribe AARP VALUE & MEMBER BENEFITS See more Health & Wellness offers > See more Flights & Vacation Packages offers > See more Finances offers > See more Health & Wellness offers > SAVE MONEY WITH THESE LIMITED-TIME OFFERS