Editor's letter: Forgive and forget? Not me - YOU Magazine Fashion Beauty Celebrity Health Life Relationships Horoscopes Food Interiors Travel Sign in Welcome!Log into your account Forgot your password? Password recovery Recover your password Search Sign in Welcome! Log into your account Forgot your password? Get help Password recovery Recover your password A password will be e-mailed to you. YOU Magazine Fashion Beauty Celebrity Health Life Relationships Horoscopes Food Interiors Travel Home Life Editor’ s letter Forgive and forget Not me By Jo Elvin - March 20, 2022 It was the sort of incident that other people might forget minutes after it happened. We were enjoying a long weekend lunch with a group of friends and assorted children and dogs. At some point, one of the little kids accidentally ran a tricycle over my baby daughter’s tiny fingers. I think it was probably the first time she’d had any sort of painful accident and, no surprises, she started screaming her head off. As I tried to calm her down, a woman I didn’t know very well started muttering something about how annoying it is when babies cry. My daughter is nearly 17 and I’m getting angry thinking about this right now. I don’t know why, after all these years, the memory can still get my blood boiling. But I suppose it takes my breath away when someone can be so happily, shamelessly, blatantly rude. There are also a few people walking this earth who are oblivious to the fact that I am no longer speaking to them. Like the man who asked to meet me for help and advice, only to be a total no-show for the first appointment and then 40 minutes late for the rescheduled. He still occasionally pops up in my emails asking for further favours, seemingly not embarrassed or indignant about the fact that I never reply. And the more he persists, the more I actively enjoy ignoring them. It has got to be one of the most useless attempts to hold a grudge, but what can I tell you: I think of it as a pleasurable way to serve revenge with none of the nasty confrontation of actually venting my rage. Yes, this is probably a level of pettiness for which there is currently no known scientific measurement. I know there will be those among you thinking I should just grow up, and I won’t disagree with you. But I can’t. And, thankfully, as Laura Craik discovers in our feature here, rare is the human being who doesn’t harbour any grudges. In fact, I feel as though this particular feature has cracked open my head and peered into my soul. Like Laura, I’m something of a world-title contender in this sport. I’m not proud of it, but to be honest I’m not particularly ashamed either. Like peeling sunburn, or popping a zit, you know you shouldn’t, you know no good will come of it – but damn, sometimes it just feels good. Am I alone in being able to conjure up memories of times I’ve been angered, offended or betrayed by someone who can still enrage me as much as they did in the moment? If this is you too, tell me about the grudges you hold dear in your heart – the pettier the better. You know where I am and you know I love hearing from you. Editor s picks A few things I’m coveting this week Endlessly useful and the perfect length. Skirt, £79, cosstores.com This sustainable brand is a great discovery. Sweatshirt, £52, elevenloves.co.uk A good excuse for a double piercing. Earring, £40, helixandconch.com RELATED ARTICLESMORE FROM AUTHOR Everything we know about The Crown season 5 Aldi s exercise equipment is on sale with up to 50% off The best Halloween events for 2022 across the UK Popular in Life The You magazine team reveal their New Year s resolutions December 31, 2021 Susannah Taylor The TLC tools your body will love January 23, 2022 How to stop living in fear February 6, 2022 Susannah Taylor My pick of the fittest leggings February 27, 2022 Women’ s Prize for Fiction 2022 winner announced June 17, 2022 These BBC dramas are returning for a second series June 30, 2022 Susannah Taylor gives the lowdown on nature s little helper – CBD April 17, 2022 The baby names that are banned across the world April 27, 2022 The Queen has released her own emojis May 26, 2022 Sally Brompton horoscopes 27th June-3rd July 2022 June 26, 2022 Popular CategoriesFood2704Life2496Fashion2240Beauty1738Celebrity1261Interiors684 Sign up for YOUMail Thanks for subscribing Please check your email to confirm (If you don't see the email, check the spam box) Fashion Beauty Celebrity Life Food Privacy & Cookies T&C Copyright 2022 - YOU Magazine. All Rights Reserved