Tip: Build Yourself Up, Don't Tear Others Down Search Skip to content Menu Menu follow us Store Articles Community Loyal-T Club Loyal-T Points Rewards Subscribe to Save Search Search The World s Trusted Source & Community for Elite Fitness Alpha LifePowerful Words Tip Build Yourself Up Don t Tear Others Down Here' s an easy way to spot a real jerk in the gym or out and avoid becoming one yourself by Dave Tate June 5, 2016January 31, 2022 Tags Opinion, Powerful Words, Strong Words, Tips Nice guys don't feel inadequate. Jerks do. Want to appear as inadequate as you're feeling? Act like a jerk. Most jerks (online and in real life) have done nothing of value going on in their own lives. They're cowards who hide behind fake confidence. All they can do is find fault in others because they have no direction or courage to do hard things. It's always easier to tear others down than it is to build yourself up. It's easier to demand respect than to earn it. Of course, the easy way isn't always the best way. A Story Years ago I made a trip to a powerlifting meet where I was going to help some great lifters and world record holders. During one of the breaks I had lunch with a small group of people, one of whom just didn't fit in. He had an opinion on everything, but nothing to show for it in the way he looked, his lifts, or who he coached. Later, I discovered he couldn't cut it in three well-known powerlifting groups in his area. He got no respect from all the local lifters because of his big mouth, his inconsistency, and his inability to train hard and be helpful. About a year later, I saw the same guy mouthing off about everyone on a powerlifting forum with an "I'm the man" attitude. I have no idea what happened to this guy, but I bet he's the same crappy lifter he always was. Get The T Nation Newsletters Don' t Miss Out Expert Insights To Get Stronger, Gain Muscle Faster, And Take Your Lifting To The Next Level related posts Alpha Life Tip The Vitamin Problem That Kills Your Boner Erectile dysfunction has many causes, but here's one that you don't hear much about. Sorry, vegans, this is especially bad news for you. Diet Strategy, Health & Longevity, Living Better, Tips Chris Shugart November 4 Training The 4 Most Abused Words in Fitness You hear these words all the time, but do you even know what they really mean? It's time to stop it with the nerdy buzzwords and go back to basics. Start here. It Hurts Fix It, Mobility, Opinion, Training Dr John Rusin August 27 Alpha Life Popped Doing Time in a Tijuana Jail It started out innocently enough. He wanted to get bigger. He lived near the Mexican border so he crossed over and brought back some steroids for his personal use. No harm, no foul. Living Better, Pharma, TRT Chris Shugart June 13 Alpha Life The Two Faces of Juarez - Part 1 This is part one of an article about Chris Shugart and Cy Willson's trip into Mexico to check out the steroid scene and bordertown culture. Living Better, Pharma, TRT Chris Shugart July 27