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Sometimes the contradictions are easy to spot. Dr. Curry says to think of the following examples:A straight politician who sponsors anti-LGBTQ legislations has an affair with someone of the same sexAn outwardly loving and capable caregiver abuses her own children at homeA professional engages in a porn addiction all while serving in a strict religious role Other times, it’s less severe, but distressing nonetheless. For example, say you’re committed to living a healthy life, but you slack off and sub in your usual 45-minute workout for a Netflix binge and a pint of ice cream. When the dissonance sets in, you may feel conflicted, guilty, and like you’ve failed on your healthy-living goals. RELATED: How to Talk With Your Kids About Sex It’s human nature to want to reduce the dissonance. In the Netflix and ice cream example, you may decide to change your behavior — by committing to a more regular exercise schedule or by cleaning up your diet — or you may change your belief system and become a bit more lax about what you think it means to be healthy, explains Corrine Leikam, PsyD, an associate director at Sober College in Los Angeles. Learn More About Cognitive Dissonance in Real Life
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Cognitive Dissonance The Theory Real-Life Examples and How It Affects Your Day-to-Day Life
By Moira LawlerMedically Reviewed by Samuel Mackenzie, MD, PhDReviewed: March 6, 2018Medically ReviewedHave you experienced unease when walking by someone who is homeless and not opening up your wallet — even though you feel like they do deserve help? Have you regretted cheating on a partner — even though you always swore you’d never do that? Or maybe you’ve felt a bit unsure why you find yourself supporting a conservative politician even though you’re strongly pro-choice. Life can be messy. And sometimes we find ourselves doing things or thinking things that are completely contradictory to our values — or what we thought we always believed.Mental Health Matters...Why Taking Care of Your Emotional Health Is So Important
Recognizing the contradiction can be uncomfortable, and sometimes even anxiety-inducing, depending on how severe the contradiction is or how significant those contradicted thoughts or values are to you. The discomfort or tension you experience as a result of that contradiction is called cognitive dissonance. And even though it can be uncomfortable, it's not necessarily something that you can avoid, explains Paraskevi Noulas, PsyD, a clinical assistant professor at NYU Langone Health in New York City. "Cognitive dissonance is part of everyday life." It's also not necessarily something that you should want to avoid, she adds. "It’s important to understand and know about this theory. [It helps us] be more insightful and self-aware." It explains a lot of common human tendencies, such as rationalization, justification, and why we shift our beliefs over time. And not dealing with the dissonance you do feel can affect your mental health and well-being.Most Recent in Neurology
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You’ve likely experienced cognitive dissonance many, many times before. What you may not have known is that psychologists have in fact named the unease you were feeling — and have spent a lot of time and energy studying it. The theory of cognitive dissonance was developed in 1957 by a social psychologist named Leon Festinger. (1) It’s since become one of the most influential theories in the field of psychology, though it describes a super basic experience that humans deal with regularly. (2) Festinger based the theory on the belief that humans want all of their actions and beliefs to be consistent. When that’s not the case — which happens very often, whenever you hold two contradictory beliefs or you think one thing but act in a way that’s completely counter to that belief — a discomfort arises. That “dissonance” can lead to all sorts of nasty feelings, including:StressAnxietyEmbarrassmentShameRegretNegative self-worth Essentially, the internal conflict that results when you recognize the contradiction throws your mental balance (that feeling of “everything’s going well”) out of whack. You’ll naturally want to reduce the tension to return to — or close to, anyway — a happy place where things align in harmony. Learn More About the Theory of Cognitive DissonanceWhat' s Getting in the Way of Women' s Wellness and Happiness
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Alauna Curry, MD, a psychiatrist with The Rowe Network in Houston, says cognitive dissonance is widespread in the real world — and it’s problematic. “Not necessarily because it is ‘wrong’ in and of itself, but because it is counterproductive to us being who we say we are, or who we desire ourselves to be,” she says. Most of us would like to say: “These are my beliefs, and I act according to them.” But that’s not what happens in the real world, and why cognitive dissonance happens so often.Sometimes the contradictions are easy to spot. Dr. Curry says to think of the following examples:A straight politician who sponsors anti-LGBTQ legislations has an affair with someone of the same sexAn outwardly loving and capable caregiver abuses her own children at homeA professional engages in a porn addiction all while serving in a strict religious role Other times, it’s less severe, but distressing nonetheless. For example, say you’re committed to living a healthy life, but you slack off and sub in your usual 45-minute workout for a Netflix binge and a pint of ice cream. When the dissonance sets in, you may feel conflicted, guilty, and like you’ve failed on your healthy-living goals. RELATED: How to Talk With Your Kids About Sex It’s human nature to want to reduce the dissonance. In the Netflix and ice cream example, you may decide to change your behavior — by committing to a more regular exercise schedule or by cleaning up your diet — or you may change your belief system and become a bit more lax about what you think it means to be healthy, explains Corrine Leikam, PsyD, an associate director at Sober College in Los Angeles. Learn More About Cognitive Dissonance in Real Life
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Not only do you have to deal with cognitive dissonance that comes up due to your own thoughts or actions, but you may also experience cognitive dissonance as a result of strategic advertising. RELATED: Is Your Social Media Habit Harming Your Self-Image? “It happens all the time, to the point where we’re often not even conscious of it,” says Dr. Noulas. Think of the many advertisements that suggest you’ll only be cool or beautiful if you buy the product they’re selling. These ads stir up cognitive dissonance within you and force you to either:Absorb the negativity into your self-esteem, as in, “I don’t own that product, so I guess I’m not cool or beautiful”Buy the product, which of course is what the advertisers want you to do These advertisements are all around us, and there’s no way to avoid them entirely. “It takes conscious effort on our part to be aware of the advertising lures and to separate the urge and desire from the practical and wise choice one should usually make,” Noulas says. Encountering these types of advertisements frequently can lead to stress if you do take the messages at face value. But it can also lead to more self-awareness. Matt Johnson, PhD, professor and associate dean at Hult International Business School in San Francisco, says it’s important to recognize when you’re experiencing cognitive dissonance so you can take the healthiest approach to resolving the tension, which is to stand your ground and reject the advertiser’s message. Learn More About Cognitive Dissonance in Advertising, PR, and CommunicationsIs Social Media Busting or Boosting Your Stress
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Cognitive dissonance can affect our relationships, too, Leikam says. “It can play a big part in relationships, from friendships to marriage.” Even though cognitive dissonance by definition is tension, it doesn’t always lead to big fights with your friends or partner. Let’s say your usually thoughtful husband forgets about Valentine’s Day and doesn’t plan anything. He doesn’t even get you a card. You may decide to confront him about it and tell him your feelings were hurt. Or maybe you’ll work through the contradiction you feel on your own. You can alter your beliefs — by deciding that perhaps he isn’t all that thoughtful after all — or rationalize his behavior to downplay the importance in your mind, by saying, “Oh, he had a really busy week at work. He probably just forgot. No big deal.”More on Mental Health and RelationshipsStress s Link to Metabolism Marriage and Caregiving
“While this can be helpful sometimes, it can also lead us to compromise important values or beliefs we may not want to change and can cause internal conflict,” Leikam says. Maybe you decide you’re okay with your husband being less romantic, even though those small, loving gestures were once important to you. Maybe that’s okay with you. But if deep down you still resent that behavior, that tension can lead to more problems over time. A more severe example is when a person in an abusive relationship rationalizes, justifies, or make excuses to make the behavior of an abusive partner seem okay, Leikam says. The victim, motivated by a desire to make the relationship work, might say, “Everything will be okay once he learns to manage his emotions better,” or “I deserved it for talking to him that way.” The victim is resolving the dissonance he or she may feel in a way that enables the abuser to keep up the abusive behavior. “Another common occurrence is that the relationship starts out strong and the abuser often plays the part of a caring, loving partner or spouse before the abuse begins,” Leikam says. So the victim has a set of beliefs about their partner and may view the abuse as an exception rather than a reflection of the abuser’s personality. (3) Learn More About How Cognitive Dissonance Plays a Role in Friendships, Dating, Marriages, and All RelationshipsCognitive Dissonance Is Part of Decision-making
Cognitive dissonance is part of decision-making, too. The last decision you made — no matter how big or small it was — caused you to experience some cognitive dissonance. That’s because you experience cognitive dissonance any time you’re faced with choosing between two alternatives. psychologists all it the “free-choice paradigm.” (4)More on Decision-MakingDo You Fear Uncertainty What We Can Learn From Risk-Takers
There’s rarely a perfect option in any decision. (5) Each option has some positive and some negative attributes. The more good options you have or the more alike the options are, the more cognitive dissonance you’ll experience. In an attempt to reduce the dissonance — which happens in your mind, by the way, usually without you even realizing it — you may rationalize your decision. You’ll support the decision you made by making the one you chose seem more attractive and the one (or ones) you didn’t choose seem less attractive. After all, no one wants to admit they’re wrong, right? The result is that our minds support whatever decision we made to make us feel satisfied that it was the right one. For example, maybe you’re deciding between two restaurants for dinner on Friday night. Just because you choose the Mexican place doesn’t mean the Italian place is awful. But you might find yourself saying, “I don’t like their pasta anyway” or “the Mexican place is a much better value” in order to convince yourself that you made the right choice. Justifying that way might seem like a way of being dishonest with yourself, but it’s perfectly natural, says Michele Leno, PhD, a psychologist and the founder of DML Psychological Services in Farmington Hills, Michigan. And it can be a good thing if you recognize the dissonance, take the time to really think through your options, and make better decisions. That’ll result in less dissonance, and there will be less of a need to rationalize later.Learn More About Cognitive Dissonance in Decision-making (and How You Can Use It to Make Better Choices)