How to get turned on: Tips, tricks, and remedies Health ConditionsHealth ConditionsAlzheimer's & DementiaAnxietyArthritisAsthma & AllergiesBreast CancerCancerCardiovascular HealthCOVID-19Dermatology & SkincareDiabetesEnvironment & SustainabilityExercise & FitnessEye HealthHeadache & MigraineHealth EquityHIV & AIDSHuman BiologyInflammatory Bowel DiseaseLeukemiaLGBTQIA+Men's HealthMental HealthMultiple Sclerosis (MS)NutritionParkinson's DiseasePsoriasisSexual HealthWomen's HealthDiscoverNewsLatest NewsOriginal SeriesMedical MythsHonest NutritionThrough My EyesNew Normal HealthPodcastsHow to understand chronic painWhat is behind vaccine hesitancy?The amazing story of hepatitis C, from discovery to cureNew directions in dementia researchCan psychedelics rewire a depressed, anxious brain?Why climate change matters for human healthToolsGeneral HealthDrugs A-ZHealth HubsHealth ToolsBMI Calculators and ChartsBlood Pressure Chart: Ranges and GuideBreast Cancer: Self-Examination GuideSleep CalculatorHealth ProductsAffordable Therapy OptionsBlood Pressure MonitorsDiabetic SuppliesFitness TrackersHome GymsGreen Cleaning ProductsHow to Shop for CBDQuizzesRA Myths vs FactsType 2 Diabetes: Managing Blood SugarAnkylosing Spondylitis Pain: Fact or FictionConnectAbout Medical News TodayWho We AreOur Editorial ProcessContent IntegrityConscious LanguageNewslettersSign UpFollow UsMedical News TodayHealth ConditionsDiscoverToolsConnectSubscribe Tips and remedies for getting turned on Medically reviewed by Lori Lawrenz, PsyD — By Zawn Villines — Updated on May 11, 2022Sexual arousal includes both psychological arousal, which causes a person to want sex, and physical arousal, which causes physical changes that make it easier for a person to have sex. Although these two factors often go hand in hand, some people may have challenges with one or both aspects of arousal. It is worth noting that issues with arousal are likely to be multifactorial. For example, any of the following could have an impact on a person’s ability to become aroused:cardiovascular conditionsmental health concernsrelationship issuessexual beliefs However, there are several things that a person can try to increase arousal levels. Read on for tips and remedies for getting turned on. Sex and gender exist on spectrums. This article will use the terms “male,” “female,” or both to refer to sex assigned at birth. Click here to learn more. Tips and remedies for males Males who experience arousal problems may have difficulties with their sexual desire, getting or maintaining an erection, or ejaculation. Issues with arousal Males with arousal challenges may find that making simple lifestyle changes, such as communicating more openly with a partner or sharing sexual desires, can help. Another option is asking a doctor about checking testosterone levels. Males with low testosterone levels may have difficulty with arousal. Testosterone replacement may help. However, it is important to note that testosterone levels fluctuate throughout the day. This may mean that checking these levels may not be a reliable indicator. Alternatively, males could consider masturbating, fantasizing, or engaging in other forms of stimulation before participating in partnered sex. As males age, it can take longer for them to feel aroused enough to get an erection. Beginning the process before engaging in partnered sex may help. Erectile dysfunction ED ED is the most common reason that males seek help with sexual issues. Several treatments may work. For example: Be mindful of the role that mental health plays in ED: Stress and relationship problems can sometimes affect arousal. If a doctor has confirmed this as the cause of a person’s difficulties, they may wish to consult a sex therapist, who can help them explore any mental barriers to arousal before they start taking medications.Ask a doctor about ED medications: These may help with ED of unknown origin or when lifestyle remedies do not work. Weigh up the benefits of other remedies if ED drugs do not work: Trying penis pumps, undergoing surgery to place a penile implant, and seeking similar procedures may help when there is a challenging medical condition causing ED. A person should always speak with a doctor before trying any home remedies. Ejaculation issues Many males experience problems with ejaculation. Although premature ejaculation is the most common issue, some males also have difficulty reaching orgasm and ejaculating. These males may wish to try the following tips: If premature ejaculation is an issue, try the “squeeze method.” This technique involves squeezing where the head of the penis meets that shaft to prevent ejaculation. Experiment with different sexual positions and new fantasies. Some males simply need more stimulation to ejaculate. Get a prostate exam. Sometimes, prostate health issues can cause ejaculation problems such as painful ejaculation. Tips and remedies for females Female arousal issues typically fall into one or more of three categories: difficulty feeling interested in sexdifficulty getting sufficiently lubricated for sexdifficulty reaching orgasm Remedies that work for one problem, such as low arousal, often work for another. So, a female may wish to consider the following tips: Focus on clitoral stimulation: Stereotypical presentations of sex often focus on male pleasure and penis-in-vagina intercourse. However, many females need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. When a female routinely does not get clitoral stimulation or orgasm, they may lose interest in sex.Use a sexual lubricant: Some females experience vaginal dryness, even when they feel aroused. Others feel less interested in sex because they fear that dryness will cause pain. Although this can happen at any age, it is more common after menopause.Add in more foreplay: As females tend to take longer than males to orgasm, females who have sex with males may need more foreplay to feel aroused.Enjoy getting to know one’s own body: Over time, this can increase arousal. Try exploring one’s sexual interests, and be sure to communicate this to a sexual partner. Make sure all parties fully consent whenever trying new things.Ask a doctor about medications: Females with a very low sex drive may find that taking a medication specifically approved for increasing libido helps. However, these drugs remain controversial, as research suggests that they only modestly increase sexual desire. Interventions such as more foreplay may work better. Ask a doctor about hormone therapy: Females who experience vaginal dryness or low libido may find relief from hormone therapy. After menopause, hormone replacement therapy with estrogen may help improve arousal. A note on consent It is important to note that enthusiastic consent is a requirement regarding sexual interaction. Consent is voluntary, unambiguous, ongoing, and not just assumed, no matter the circumstances. People incapacitated by sleep, drugs, or alcohol are unable to consent. If all participants do not give clear consent throughout the encounter, it is sexual assault. Home remedies and lifestyle changes Although there are physiological differences between males and females that may affect how they become aroused and the ways that arousal manifests, arousal begins in the brain for all sexes and genders. Some strategies that may help most people feel more aroused include: Watching pornography, either alone or with a partner: Although research into the long-term effects of pornography use produces inconclusive and controversial results, short-term porn use may help people become aroused. A 2016 interview-based study of couples found that people who watched porn felt more comfortable talking about sex. Spending time thinking about sex: This can help a person identify their sexual desires and preferences. Considering the role of mental health: Anxiety, depression, trauma, and the way a person feels about their relationship may all affect arousal. Trying relaxation exercises, self-care, medication changes, and therapy may help. Masturbating: Masturbating before having sex with a partner may make it easier to become and stay aroused. Masturbation may also help a person identify their sexual interests, and it may increase sex drive. A 2015 study of middle-aged women found that masturbation increased testosterone levels. Testosterone may help increase libido, though more research is needed. Practicing open communication about desires and needs with a sexual partner: Talking about sex outside the bedroom may help increase interest in sex. It may also make sex more pleasurable and arousing for each partner. Couples who find it challenging to discuss sex may find that sex therapy helps. Talking with a doctor: A wide range of medical conditions, especially those that affect the endocrine system, may cause arousal problems. Menopause, age-related hormone changes, and certain medications may also play a role. A doctor may be able to recommend treatment, switch a person’s medications, or diagnose an underlying health issue. Exercising, eating a nutritious diet, and maintaining a moderate weight: Cardiovascular disease and diabetes can both cause sexual dysfunction. Adopting a healthy lifestyle reduces the risk of cardiovascular disease. Considering changing birth control methods: For some people, contraceptives affect sexual desire. For example, certain types of condoms may reduce sensation, while hormonal birth control methods may affect libido. Using sex toys: Vibrators, dildos, and other sex toys may offer additional stimulation and improve arousal for both partners. When to speak with a doctor A person may wish to consult a doctor if they:have a sudden change in their sexual experience, libido, or orgasm patternhave tried home remedies or lifestyle changes, but they have not workedexperience side effects following the use of a new medicationhave a chronic illness and begin experiencing sexual side effectshave other symptoms, such as painful urination or ejaculationhave significant emotional distress that is affecting their functioning Summary Many different factors can affect sexual arousal. For many people, the issue is multifaceted, with psychological, lifestyle, and physical factors all playing a role. Taking a sensitive approach and seeking medical intervention for chronic health concerns can both help. Sexual health matters. People who experience arousal issues should speak with a doctor and ask for help until their sexual health issues improve. It is also important to speak with a doctor for arousal issues as they can sometimes signal an underlying health issue. It may also help for a person to speak with a mental health professional, as emotional and mental health issues can often be contributing factors. Last medically reviewed on May 10, 2022Men's HealthErectile Dysfunction / Premature EjaculationSexual Health / STDsWomen's Health / Gynecology 19 sourcescollapsedMedical News Today has strict sourcing guidelines and draws only from peer-reviewed studies, academic research institutions, and medical journals and associations. We avoid using tertiary references. We link primary sources — including studies, scientific references, and statistics — within each article and also list them in the resources section at the bottom of our articles. You can learn more about how we ensure our content is accurate and current by reading our editorial policy.Abdel-Hamid, I. A., et al. (2018). Delayed ejaculation: Pathophysiology, diagnosis, and treatment.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5756804Baid, R., et al. (2018). Flibanserin: A controversial drug for female hypoactive sexual desire disorder.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6198608Boozalis, A., et al. (2016). Sexual desire and hormonal contraception.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4764410Calabrò, R. S., et al. (2019). Neuroanatomy and function of human sexual behavior: A neglected or unknown issue?https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6908863/Cappelletti, M., et al. (2016). Increasing women's sexual desire: The comparative effectiveness of estrogens and androgens.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4720522Carcedo, R. J., et al. (2020). Association between sexual satisfaction and depression and anxiety in adolescents and young adults.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7036876Chung, E. (2019). Sexuality in aging male: Review of pathophysiology and treatment strategies for various male sexual dysfunctions.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6835548de Castro Coelho, F., et al. (2019). The potential of hormonal contraception to influence female sexuality.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6421036Herbenick, D., et al. (2017). Women's experiences with genital touching, sexual pleasure, and orgasm: results from a u.s. probability sample of women ages 18 to 94.https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/0092623X.2017.1346530Kohut, T., et al. (2016). Perceived effects of pornography on the couple relationship: Initial findings of open-ended, participant-informed, "bottom-up" research [Abstract].https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-016-0783-6Parnham, A., et al. (2016). Retrograde ejaculation, painful ejaculation, and hematospermia.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5002007Patel, C. K., et al. (2016). Advances in the treatment of erectile dysfunction: What's new and upcoming?https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4979545Randolph, J. F., Jr., et al. (2015). Masturbation frequency and sexual function domains are associated with serum reproductive hormone levels across the menopausal transition.https://academic.oup.com/jcem/article/100/1/258/2812808Rowland, D. L., et al. (2018). Orgasmic latency and related parameters in women during partnered and masturbatory sex [Abstract].https://www.jsm.jsexmed.org/article/S1743-6095(18)31108-1/fulltextTaylor, H. S., et al. (2017). Effects of oral vs. transdermal estrogen therapy on sexual function in early postmenopause: Ancillary study of the Kronos Early Estrogen Prevention Study (KEEPS).https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamainternalmedicine/fullarticle/2652573Thakurdesai, A., et al. (2018). A prospective study on sexual dysfunctions in depressed males and the response to treatment.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6278224The menopause years. (2020).https://www.acog.org/patient-resources/faqs/womens-health/the-menopause-yearsWaetjen, L. E., et al. (2018). Factors associated with developing vaginal dryness symptoms in women transitioning through menopause: A longitudinal study.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6136974Zethraeus, N., et al. (2016). Combined oral contraceptives and sexual function in women - a double-blind, randomized, placebo-controlled trial.https://academic.oup.com/jcem/article/101/11/4046/2764940FEEDBACK:Medically reviewed by Lori Lawrenz, PsyD — By Zawn Villines — Updated on May 11, 2022 Latest newsWhat sets 'SuperAgers' apart? Their unusually large neuronsOmega-3 may provide a brain boost for people in midlifeSeasonal affective disorder (SAD): How to beat it this fall and winterCDC: Monkeypox in the US 'unlikely to be eliminated in the near future'Why are more women prone to Alzheimer's? New clues arise Related CoverageHow men can improve their sexual performanceMedically reviewed by Janet Brito, Ph.D., LCSW, CST Many men want to know how to enhance their own and their partners’ sexual satisfaction. However, placing too much emphasis on performance can lead to…READ MORE10 ways to boost libidoMedically reviewed by Janet Brito, Ph.D., LCSW, CST A person can boost their libido through lifestyle changes, therapy, and various natural remedies. Learn more here.READ MOREWhat are the risks of anal sex?Medically reviewed by Janet Brito, Ph.D., LCSW, CST Having anal sex can increase the risk of bacterial infection, pregnancy, and sexually transmitted infections, and it can worsen hemorrhoids. Taking…READ MORESex and gender: What is the difference?Medically reviewed by Emelia Arquilla, DO Sex and gender are different. Sex is assigned at birth, while gender is how a person identifies. Gender encompasses a broad spectrum. Learn more here.READ MORE