17 Quotes For Women Who Want To Find Real Love | SELF Skip to main content Open Navigation Menu Menu 17 Inspiring Quotes For Badass Women Who Want To Find Real Love MoreChevron FitnessWorkoutsShape UpRunningYogaFoodHealthy EatingNutritionWeight LossRecipesCookingHealthMental HealthSexual & Reproductive HealthPregnancy & MotherhoodSleepLoveSexRelationshipsWeddingsSingle LifeBreakupsBeautyMakeupHairFashionNailsSkinCultureCareerMoneyTravelEntertainmentTechnologyFamilySportsPoliticsConditionally VideoSpring ChallengeWorkoutsColumnistsNewsletter Signup Single Life 17 Inspiring Quotes For Badass Women Who Want To Find Real Love Yes, it's possible. By YourTangoApril 27, 2016 Facebook Twitter Pinterest Photo Credit: Brooke Cagle / Unsplash Facebook Twitter Pinterest YourTango shows that even though finding love can be difficult, there's always hope. Those of us who have been in the dating game for a while know it how bleak it can be. Nowadays it seems like a quick Tinder hookup is more plausible than a real, sustainable relationship. So while you're in the middle of a dating app deleting spree and vowing to swear off love all together (and trust me, I get it), you might want to pump the brakes and pat yourself on the back. You've already gotten through the toughest part—realizing that you're not getting what you want out of dating is the first step to finding love. You've been on enough bad dates to grasp exactly what you don't want (i.e. a photographer with long fingernails who asks you to "get out of the way so he can get a better shot"). So now it's time to focus on creating what you do want. Try shifting your mindset with the following quotes, all gathered from dating, relationship, and personal growth experts participating in the Love Without Settling Summit, a free online event. "Sexiness is really a state of mind." —Summer Innanen "That's the beauty of the shadow. We need our dark just like we need our light." —Chrissy Brady Smith "Players are only attractive to you when you're not ready for a relationship." —Lorna Poole "If I say hi to someone and they don't say hi back, I just say hi to the next person." —​Tracy Steinberg "Relationships are a reflection of what's going on inside of you." —​Nicole Dirocco "In the moment of experiencing your baggage, that's not the time to rationalize it, that's not the time to internalize it, that's the time to just experience it." —Dr. Matt James "You have to make love a priority in your life. You have to believe it's possible for you. And the more you believe it's possible, the more likely it will actually happen. All you have to do is bridge the gap between where [you are] today and where [you] want to be." —Lorna Poole "If you are feeling miserable as a single person, you are going to be miserable in a relationship." —Erin Tillman "Often the thing we fear most is the thing we want most." —Dr. Matt James "In order for [you] to feel another's love and devotion, you first have to feel love and devotion for yourself. It's the ultimate secret for attracting and creating relationships."​ —Nicole Dirocco "We often attract the unavailable because we ourselves are unavailable." —Lorna Poole "Start to be the woman you want to be now." —Summer Innanen "Unspoken expectations lead to one place, and that's resentment." —Charles J. Orlando "They're beautiful not because they're fashion queens, they're beautiful because they know who they are and they like themselves." —​Nicole Dirocco "When you have a vision of what your life looks like with a partner, you should be already living it." —Jaki Sabourn "A lot of drama comes from you trying to control something." —Erin Tillman "Love is a verb. It requires ongoing effort and evolves with time." —Samantha Burns Originally written by Emily Blackwood, YourTango More From YourTango:15 LOL Quotes About Sex From Our Favorite Funny WomenCheck Out These Accurate (And Fun!) Horoscopes50 Love Quotes We Simply Adore (And You Will Too) Photo Credit: Brooke Cagle / Unsplash SELF does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Any information published on this website or by this brand is not intended as a substitute for medical advice, and you should not take any action before consulting with a healthcare professional. 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